{"id":13241,"date":"2020-07-15T08:17:52","date_gmt":"2020-07-15T08:17:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=13241"},"modified":"2022-02-26T22:39:48","modified_gmt":"2022-02-26T22:39:48","slug":"o-homem-da-carta-fez-com-que-se-sentisse-um-ser-nao-amavel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-homem-da-carta-fez-com-que-se-sentisse-um-ser-nao-amavel\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma carta para o homem que me fez sentir como se eu fosse a pessoa inam\u00e1vel"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Neste mundo, tudo o que eu sempre quis foi amar e ser amada. Sou uma rapariga teimosa e sempre soube que era capaz de fazer qualquer coisa quando me empenhava nisso.<\/p>\n<p>Tudo o que consegui na vida foi merecido pelo meu esfor\u00e7o e pela minha dedica\u00e7\u00e3o. Nunca nada me foi servido numa bandeja de prata.<\/p>\n<p>Penso que esta \u00e9 uma das principais raz\u00f5es pelas quais <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/desejo-lutou-muito-ainda-ha-hipoteses\/\">Lutei tanto por ti<\/a>. Because life showed me that I can\u2019t get anything I want that easily and that I have to walk a mile longer than anyone else does for it, so I figured I\u2019d have to do the same in love too.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You were everything I ever looked for or could possibly ask for and once you were in my life, I knew I couldn\u2019t let you go. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>I told myself it wasn\u2019t gonna be easy, but I believed that it would be worth it in the end. But what I thought would be worth it actually cost me way too much.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sempre fui um lutador. Nunca me conformei at\u00e9 ter o que achava que merecia.<\/p>\n<p>And I knew that here and there I\u2019d have to receive a few punches along my life\u2019s road, but what you gave me wasn\u2019t just a punch, it was a knockout I barely recovered from.<\/p>\n<p>Trataste-me miseravelmente e eu permiti. Destru\u00edste completamente a minha confian\u00e7a, esmagaste-a com a face da terra.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91318\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Upset-couple-finding-out-results-of-a-pregnancy-test-in-the-bedroom.jpg\" alt=\"Casal perturbado que descobre os resultados de um teste de gravidez no quarto\" width=\"800\" height=\"540\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Upset-couple-finding-out-results-of-a-pregnancy-test-in-the-bedroom.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Upset-couple-finding-out-results-of-a-pregnancy-test-in-the-bedroom-300x203.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Upset-couple-finding-out-results-of-a-pregnancy-test-in-the-bedroom-768x518.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/> Now that I look back, I can\u2019t believe I\u2019d ever let that happen to me. I was one of those who knew her worth. But somewhere down the road, I obviously forgot that.<\/p>\n<p>O que mais me impressiona \u00e9 que nada do que eu fiz foi suficientemente bom para ti.<\/p>\n<p>You kept comparing me to others and you kept asking me why I couldn\u2019t be like them. My efforts were useless, my battles were meaningless to you.<\/p>\n<p>But you\u2019re one hell of an actor, you know? You convinced me that there wasn\u2019t anything about me to be love, that I only had bad sides and how I was this person who was extremely hard to love.<\/p>\n<p>Fizeste-me sentir como se eu n\u00e3o fosse am\u00e1vel e que devia ter sido aben\u00e7oada por ter algu\u00e9m como tu a amar-me.<\/p>\n<p>Demorei algum tempo a perceber que<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/screw-making-think-shes-unlovable-one\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> it wasn\u2019t me who was unlovable<\/a>eras tu. E porque eras como eras, precisavas de me p\u00f4r constantemente para baixo para que eu ficasse ao teu lado.<\/p>\n<p>You needed me to see you as this God-given creature and how I was blessed to have you next to me. But you weren\u2019t a blessing, you were a curse.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91319\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-living-room-1.jpg\" alt=\"casal de idosos sentado na sala de estar\" width=\"800\" height=\"540\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-living-room-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-living-room-1-300x203.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-living-room-1-768x518.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Porque te sentiste mal contigo mesmo, fizeste-me sentir mal comigo tamb\u00e9m. Porque deixaste que algu\u00e9m te convencesse de que eras dif\u00edcil de amar, fizeste-me sentir como se eu tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o fosse am\u00e1vel. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Deixaste que algu\u00e9m te destru\u00edsse a confian\u00e7a e a autoestima e depois fizeste o mesmo comigo. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>You projected your insecurities onto me because they had convinced you of everything you\u2019d been trying to convince me.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You shouldn\u2019t have done that. You shouldn\u2019t have made it a chain reaction. Regardless of how bad you felt, instead of stopping the chain, you continued it.<\/p>\n<p>Sabias o quanto te do\u00eda e, no entanto, eras capaz de o fazer a outra pessoa tamb\u00e9m. Eras capaz de fazer essas mesmas coisas a mim, \u00e0 pessoa que teria feito qualquer coisa por ti.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Well, unfortunately for you, I came to my senses. I realized it wasn\u2019t me and that it had nothing to do with me.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Demorei algum tempo, mas sabe o que se diz, mais vale tarde do que nunca.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I realized I didn\u2019t have to be your punching bag. And that I shouldn\u2019t let you treat me bad just because you felt bad about yourself. I wasn\u2019t gonna let you break me just because I loved you.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91320\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-bedroom.jpg\" alt=\"casal perturbado sentado no quarto\" width=\"800\" height=\"531\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-bedroom.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-bedroom-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-bedroom-768x510.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I wasn\u2019t gonna let you turn me into a doormat that anyone could walk over, just so you\u2019d be able to keep your head on the surface.<\/p>\n<p>No woman should ever feel the way you made me feel. No woman should ever feel like she\u2019s the unlovable one, like she\u2019s hard to love or that she only has this one shot in life for love and no matter how bad her love treats her, that she\u2019s supposed to put up with it.<\/p>\n<p>Because if you treat me poorly, it\u2019s not love, it\u2019s poison and I don\u2019t have to settle for it.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m a fighter, but I learned that sometimes you need to stop fighting and walk away if what you\u2019re fighting for isn\u2019t worth it.<\/p>\n<p>I bent over backwards to make things work and in the end, it didn\u2019t work out.<\/p>\n<p>No final, em vez de sentir que me tinha afastado de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o, senti-me como se tivesse rastejado para debaixo de um edif\u00edcio demolido por um terramoto. Mas, pelo menos, consegui ser <a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/raymmar-tirado\/stuck-in-love-the-one-tha_b_4843496.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">aquele que fugiu.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Decidi ser eu a parar a corrente, sabes. Decidi que n\u00e3o ia fazer o mesmo que me fizeram a mim ou o mesmo que vos fizeram a voc\u00eas.<\/p>\n<p>I decided to be strong enough when you couldn\u2019t, I decided to be the man when you couldn&#8217;t and I decided not to hurt others just because I was hurt.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91321\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/close-up-of-beautiful-blonde-woman.jpg\" alt=\"grande plano de uma bela mulher loira\" width=\"800\" height=\"535\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/close-up-of-beautiful-blonde-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/close-up-of-beautiful-blonde-woman-300x201.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/close-up-of-beautiful-blonde-woman-768x514.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/ano-finalmente-saber-o-suficiente\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">I know I\u2019m good enough.<\/a> Talvez me tenhas visto como a pessoa que n\u00e3o \u00e9 am\u00e1vel, mas sei que n\u00e3o posso acreditar que sou como me viste.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>The way you painted me is the exact portrait of how you see yourself. I don\u2019t want to do those things to myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t want to fight anymore for you. I don\u2019t want to fight for someone who made me feel the way you did, like I\u2019m the unlovable one.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re not someone I should give my heart to. You\u2019re someone who would have destroyed me if I\u2019d continued fighting for you, so I stopped.<\/p>\n<p>Telling myself I deserved more wasn\u2019t selfish. It was the best thing I could do. It was what I needed in order to keep myself on the surface.<\/p>\n<p>My conscience is clear. What you did to me doesn\u2019t have to define me. But it will definitely serve as a hard-learned lesson in life that sometimes I need to fight for myself as hard as I do for others.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-91316 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Uma carta para o homem que me fez sentir como se eu fosse a pessoa inam\u00e1vel\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest-768x1086.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest-1086x1536.jpg 1086w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest-1448x2048.jpg 1448w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest.jpg 1587w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In this world, all I ever wanted was to love and be loved. I am a stubborn girl and I always knew that I could do something once I put my mind to it. Everything in life that I got was earned by my efforts and my dedication. Nothing was ever served to me on&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":91315,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13241","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One.jpeg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13241","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13241"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13241\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/91315"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13241"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13241"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13241"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}