{"id":133767,"date":"2021-08-25T12:01:03","date_gmt":"2021-08-25T12:01:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=133767"},"modified":"2022-05-11T11:11:28","modified_gmt":"2022-05-11T11:11:28","slug":"odeio-o-meu-marido","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/odeio-o-meu-marido\/","title":{"rendered":"Odeio o meu marido: 15 poss\u00edveis raz\u00f5es para isso e o que fazer"},"content":{"rendered":"

“I hate my husband.”<\/em> Se cada mulher recebesse um c\u00eantimo por cada vez que pronunciasse esta frase, j\u00e1 seria mais rica do que a Oprah.<\/p>\n

Let’s be honest with ourselves. Marriage is tough. At first, everything seems like a fairytale, and then, “all of a sudden,” you wake up in the middle of a pesadelo chamado casamento<\/em>.<\/a><\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 bem, talvez tenha exagerado, mas percebem a ideia. (Bem, espero que percebas. ?)<\/p>\n

Come\u00e7amos a perguntar-nos: Why don\u2019t happy marriages come with instructions? Why do you suddenly hate your spouse when you’re supposed to be madly in love with them?<\/em><\/p>\n

Here’s the harsh reality: It’s impossible to live with someone without occasionally hating them. Period.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O problema surge quando odeia o seu c\u00f4njuge <\/a>every single day of your life and have no idea why or what to do about it. If that’s what’s happening to you at the moment, I’m glad that you “landed” here.<\/p>\n

Hoje \u00e9 o vosso dia de sorte! (N\u00e3o, isto n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma daquelas t\u00e1cticas comerciais para o persuadir a comprar algo).<\/p>\n

Today you’ll learn about all the possible reasons why you hate your husband, signs of a bad husband (I’m really excited about this one), and what to do about it. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Also, we’ll go through some signs that will help you realize whether your marriage is over (or not).<\/strong><\/p>\n

Have an imaginary drink on me (I’m sure you need one), and let’s get started!<\/p>\n

Odiar o seu marido \u00e9 normal?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Yes, it’s completely normal to hate your husband from time to time (or all the time). Here’s why.<\/p>\n

We often tend to misinterpret the word “hate” and use it incorrectly. Whenever something bad happens to us, we immediately think, OMG, odeio esta mulher\/homem. Odeio esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o. Odeio este tempo. Odeio esta cidade. Odeio este bolo.<\/em><\/p>\n

As you’ve probably noticed, we tend to overuse the word “hate” for the sake of expressing our annoyance and other negative feelings.<\/strong> So, when you say that you hate your husband, this doesn’t mean that you don’t love him<\/a> mais ou que he doesn’t love you<\/a>. Bem, se reparar noutros signs he doesn’t you anymore<\/a>, ent\u00e3o pode come\u00e7ar a suspeitar que \u00e9 verdade. <\/p>\n

Otherwise, when you say that you hate your husband it means that, for some reason, you find him annoying. So, there’s no reason to blame yourself when you start feeling like this.<\/p>\n

Estes sentimentos de aborrecimento passam normalmente com o tempo, quando o seu marido muda ou quando voc\u00ea muda a sua mentalidade.<\/p>\n

Well, sometimes these feelings of hatred last for longer, and that’s a red flag that something in your marriage needs a serious makeover or has come to an end.<\/p>\n

Odeio o meu marido: 15 raz\u00f5es poss\u00edveis para o odiar<\/h2>\n

O seu casamento est\u00e1 num impasse<\/h3>\n

\"Uma<\/p>\n

J\u00e1 n\u00e3o se surpreendem um ao outro com pequenas coisas, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 gestos rom\u00e2nticos<\/a>, and you can’t remember the last time you said something nice to each other.<\/p>\n

You know your marriage is in a rut when the biggest romantic gesture you make for each other is bringing toilet paper in case of emergency, aka “no toilet paper in the house.” ?\u200d\u2640\ufe0f<\/p>\n

Be honest with yourself. When was the last time you went on a trip or did something new like joining a new class? If you can’t remember, then you know o seu casamento est\u00e1 num impasse<\/a>.<\/p>\n

“Surprisingly,” this is one of the most common reasons why spouses start hating each other. You don’t really start hating your husband, but you start hating your boring marriage.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Perhaps your husband is totally okay with all this, and he\u2019s happy to only watch movies with you for the rest of his life (or do nothing), and that’s why you hate him even more.<\/p>\n

Guess what? You’re totally right about it!<\/p>\n

Now that you know where the problem lies, it’s time to do something about it. Fale com o seu marido sobre isso, sugira que fa\u00e7a coisas novas e trazer a velha fa\u00edsca de volta \u00e0 vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There’s no reciprocity<\/h3>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Whenever he needs support, you’re there. When he needs help with something, you stop what you’re doing only to assist him. You’re the only one who still says Eu amo-te<\/a> de tempos a tempos.<\/em><\/p>\n

You know a marriage lacks reciprocity when one person feels like they\u2019re doing everything in a relationship without getting anything in return.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Once frustration and resentment build up, hating your husband seems logical. If your husband thinks that he’s always right and is not willing to even consider your opinions, then you know your marriage is not equal.<\/p>\n

What you need to do is show him that you’re not happy with that. Stop doing things for him until he starts appreciating it and reciprocating.<\/p>\n

O compromisso \u00e9 uma arte h\u00e1 muito perdida<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Before, you would consider each other’s feelings and ideas, but today, you fight over every single thing only to avoid compromising. Perhaps you’re the one who is disposto a comprometer-se<\/a>, but he’s not cooperating.<\/p>\n

E depois perguntamo-nos: Porque \u00e9 que eu odeio o meu marido?<\/strong><\/em> Obviously, you hate him because he’s not even trying to let you know that your opinion matters too.<\/p>\n

If one spouse thinks and behaves like they’re always right, you can forget about equality in a relationship. Constant fights over trivial things are not a solution either.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, o que \u00e9 que se pode fazer?<\/strong><\/p>\n

I suggest baby steps and starting with small things. For example, if you don’t know how to arrange pictures on the wall, find a solution that will result in compromising. Then switch to bigger things and apply the same method.<\/p>\n

Falta de respeito<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Ainda me lembro de um dos melhores conselhos sobre rela\u00e7\u00f5es que me foi dado pelo meu melhor amigo: Sem respeito, n\u00e3o se tem nada.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se me perguntarem, respeito \u00e9 sin\u00f3nimo de amor. When partners don’t respect each other, they allow themselves to behave how they want without taking responsibility for their actions.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lack of respect is one of the biggest marriage destroyers for a reason. It’s when a partner (or both partners) don’t express gratitude for little things and when they don’t care about each other’s feelings.<\/p>\n

If you’re sentir-se desrespeitado<\/span><\/a> num casamento, tem de dizer ao seu marido que algo tem de mudar. Ou pode desencadear o instinto de her\u00f3i<\/a> que o motivar\u00e1 a ser o seu her\u00f3i quotidiano!<\/p>\n

O seu marido deixou de cuidar de si pr\u00f3prio<\/h3>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

They say that if you’re not in love with yourself, you cannot love others either. When one spouse stops taking care of themself, this reflects on their marriage as well.<\/p>\n

Atra\u00e7\u00e3o f\u00edsica<\/a> is also one of the important aspects of every relationship. When your partner stops taking care of themself, it means they\u2019ve stopped taking care of your marriage as well.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If he’s not doing anything about his physical appearance even though he should, then this is a sign of laziness and disrespect (unless it’s linked to mental health).<\/p>\n

So, don’t be afraid to let him know how you feel about all this. Help him establish a healthy diet and an exercise routine. Inspire him to start loving himself again.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 grandes diferen\u00e7as entre voc\u00eas os dois (que nunca abordaram)<\/h3>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Cada pessoa tem os seus pr\u00f3prios valores fundamentais, que podem ser culturais, espirituais e morais. Estes valores s\u00e3o uma parte de quem somos e do que queremos da nossa vida, agora e num futuro pr\u00f3ximo.<\/p>\n

Have you ever noticed a huge gap between you and your husband’s valores fundamentais<\/a>? Alguma vez os abordou?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Perhaps you desire to have kids one day, and your partner doesn’t. Or he wants you to split finances while you want it to be shared.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 muitas outras coisas que podem transformar-se em grandes problemas (se n\u00e3o forem resolvidas a tempo). Portanto, h\u00e1 tr\u00eas coisas que pode fazer aqui:<\/p>\n