Ready? Then let’s get to it!<\/p>\n
O que \u00e9 uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n
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Here’s one simple situationship definition: A situationship is the space between a committed relationship and something that is more than a friendship. It is an uncommitted or undefined romantic relationship.<\/p>\n
O Urban Dictionary define-o como o seguinte: \u201cA relationship that has <\/i>sem r\u00f3tulo<\/i> on it\u2026 like a friendship but more than a friendship but not quite a relationship.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n
If you want an even simpler definition: It’s when you’re neither HERE nor THERE.<\/b><\/p>\n
You’ve been seeing each other regularly for a couple of weeks, months (or even years?), and you both know that it’s not just about sex.<\/p>\n
You have so much fun together, meaningful conversations are a part of your hangout routine, but you still haven’t (or you have no idea how to) define all that.<\/p>\n
\u00c9 necess\u00e1rio evitar o DTR (definir a rela\u00e7\u00e3o)<\/a> conversa a todo o custo porque n\u00e3o faz ideia de como a abordar. Tamb\u00e9m quer evitar estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o unilateral<\/a>.<\/p>\n It’s when you know that the struggle (situationship vs. relationship) is real.<\/p>\n Ver tamb\u00e9m: Porque \u00e9 que os homens gostam de situa\u00e7\u00f5es? 10 raz\u00f5es reveladas<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n If one partner wants to define things and (secretly) desires to be in a committed relationship while the other partner doesn’t want the same thing, then their situationship is a bad thing.<\/p>\n Se ambos os parceiros est\u00e3o na mesma p\u00e1gina, mas precisam de mais tempo para sair de uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o de <\/b>situa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b> and define things, then it’s not that bad.<\/b><\/p>\n It all depends on both people’s expectations of the thing they currently have. Being in such a relationship doesn’t need to be bad if it’s only a transitional phase toward something defined.<\/p>\n But if we’re talking about potential amor n\u00e3o correspondido<\/a>problemas de compromisso, etc., este tipo de rela\u00e7\u00e3o pode ter os seus efeitos negativos. Portanto, ser honesto consigo pr\u00f3prio<\/a>. O que \u00e9 que realmente quer?<\/p>\n Este tipo de rela\u00e7\u00e3o pode ser uma fase de transi\u00e7\u00e3o para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o comprometida e definida, ou nunca ir\u00e1 avan\u00e7ar.<\/b><\/p>\n One (or both partners) will initiate the DTR (define the relationship) conversation, or one or both partners will decide to move on. There’s no grey area here. Wait, there is. It’s staying in a situationship.<\/p>\n If you’re feeling anxious about being on the same page as your partner, you know you’re in an undefined relationship or <\/b>uma quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n Also, if you’re having trouble sleeping, eating, etc., then you secretly wish to be in a committed relationship with your partner but are afraid that they don’t. Therefore, you’re in a situationship.<\/p>\n That’s what happened to me recently. I refused to initiate DTR because I didn’t want to pressure the guy I was dating, so I waited for him to take the first step.<\/p>\n Well, he didn’t, and we continued being in an undefined relationship until I decided that it was time to move on. Here’s how you’ll know if this is happening to you:<\/p>\n There are multiple reasons for this “phenomenon.” Perhaps you’re dealing with um homem emocionalmente indispon\u00edvel<\/a> or woman, or they’re not interested in anything serious at the moment.<\/p>\n You don’t make plans in advance, but you’re fazer amor<\/a> and not just having sex. This is probably one of the most complicated sentences in the universe, but that’s just how this type of relationship works.<\/p>\n Last-minute or short-term plans have become routine. You know it’s less than a relationship, but still, it’s more than a casual encounter or booty call.<\/p>\n Every official and healthy relationship is based on a strong emotional connection. If you’re having surface-level conversations, this is a telltale sign that there is no connection or exclusivity.<\/p>\n Learning about the other person’s life, dreams, goals, etc., helps partners connect on a deeper level. If they don’t, then they get stuck in a situationship.<\/p>\n Christie Tcharkhoutian, PhD, LMFT, uma casamenteira s\u00e9nior da Three Day Rule em Los Angeles, descreve esta coisa de encontros online seguida de fobia de compromisso como o seguinte:<\/p>\n “Online <\/i><\/b>aplica\u00e7\u00f5es de encontros<\/i><\/b> have created this paradox of choice. We have so many options, and it\u2019s hard to commit to that person in front of us because when they go to the bathroom, we can just swipe.”<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n And that’s how you end up in an undefined relationship. You might secretly prioritize them, but they might be seeing other people because you haven’t defined anything.<\/p>\n If your “new relationship” consists of Netflix and random hookups, then you know you’re not in a real relationship.<\/p>\n The same thing applies if they haven’t introduced you to their friends and\/or family. Ladies, being too busy is just one of the many desculpas que os homens usam para fugir ao compromisso<\/a>.<\/p>\n This type of undefined relationship can greatly influence a person’s mental health and quality of life (speaking from experience). Don’t be ashamed to ask for help from psychotherapists and relationship experts.<\/p>\n There’s no discussion about the future, caracter\u00edsticas de uma boa namorada<\/a> ou namorado, ou qualquer outra coisa ligada a rela\u00e7\u00f5es reais.<\/p>\n A \u00fanica discuss\u00e3o que tem (consigo pr\u00f3prio) \u00e9 quando pensa nas bandeiras vermelhas desta coisa indefinida que tem.<\/p>\n A honestidade \u00e9 a <\/b>melhor pol\u00edtica<\/b>. Diga-lhes que quer ser o seu legado <\/b>namorado\/namorada<\/b>. Tell them you’re interested in a <\/b>rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura<\/b> e n\u00e3o <\/b>relacionamentos situacionais<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n If you’re both on the same page, then you’ll easily make a transition to an official relationship. Before having a conversation with them, think about whether you’re sabotar inconscientemente a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> (ou, devo dizer, a rela\u00e7\u00e3o indefinida).<\/p>\n If you’re interested in defining your relationship, but they aren’t, then walking away from a situationship and cutting off all communication is the best option (and probably the only option).<\/p>\nUma situa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 m\u00e1?<\/h2>\n
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A situationship is not necessarily bad, and it all depends on both partner’s expectations of their relationship (or the thing they have at the moment). Look at it this way:<\/p>\nQuanto tempo duram as situa\u00e7\u00f5es?<\/h2>\n
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Acredite ou n\u00e3o, estas rela\u00e7\u00f5es podem durar meses (ou mesmo anos), e normalmente h\u00e1 dois resultados poss\u00edveis:<\/p>\n\n
Como \u00e9 que se sabe se se est\u00e1 numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n
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If you haven’t defined the thing you have yet, then you’re in a situationship. Wait, I have better examples.<\/p>\nSigns You’re DEFINITELY In A Situationship<\/h2>\n
You haven’t put a label on your relationship (yet)<\/h3>\n
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If you haven’t defined the relationship, then you know you’re in a situationship. Talking about the meaning of real situationship…<\/p>\nYou don’t make plans in advance<\/h3>\n
Frequ\u00eancia irregular das reuni\u00f5es<\/h3>\n
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Em tempos de aplica\u00e7\u00f5es de encontros, a falta de consist\u00eancia tem sido uma tend\u00eancia. Isto \u00e9 especialmente verdade para os millennials que se encontram frequentemente em rela\u00e7\u00f5es indefinidas.<\/p>\nFalta de liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/h3>\n
Podem estar a sair com outras pessoas<\/h3>\n
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Quando estava presa numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o indefinida com um homem, perguntava-me constantemente: \u00c9 um jogador<\/i><\/a>?<\/i> Estava \u00e0 procura de pistas nas redes sociais de que isso poderia ser verdade, e tinha raz\u00e3o.<\/p>\nThey haven’t introduced you to their friends and family<\/h3>\n
Sente-se ansioso e confuso<\/h3>\n
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Are you okay with being someone’s meia-namorada<\/a> or half-boyfriend? If not, then, of course, you’ll feel anxious and confused.<\/p>\nThere’s no discussion about future plans<\/h3>\n
What To Do If You’re In A Situationship<\/h2>\n
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If you’re okay with being in such a relationship, then continue doing what you\u2019re doing. If you’re not okay with being in an undefined relationship but want something more, then don’t follow situationship rules.<\/p>\nCita\u00e7\u00f5es de situa\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h2>\n
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Regardless of if you’re in a <\/i>situa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/i> ou n\u00e3o, estas cita\u00e7\u00f5es ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e3o a compreender melhor o conceito subjacente a uma ![\"uma](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/a-brown-haired-woman-sitting-by-the-window.jpg\")
Situationships don’t have to be complex or frustrating if both partners know what they want. With that being said, conversation is key when it comes to taking things to the next level and entering the realm of real relationships.<\/p>\n