{"id":13442,"date":"2020-08-30T09:37:20","date_gmt":"2020-08-30T09:37:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=13442"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:08:07","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:08:07","slug":"obter-um-amor-toxico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/obter-um-amor-toxico\/","title":{"rendered":"Sobre a supera\u00e7\u00e3o de um amor t\u00f3xico"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sempre pensei que iria encontrar um homem por quem me iria apaixonar e que viver\u00edamos felizes para sempre. Pensava que quando encontrasse algu\u00e9m especial, ele seria a minha pessoa, a minha alma g\u00e9mea e o meu verdadeiro par.<\/p>\n

But unfortunately, that didn\u2019t happen. Instead, I met a person who was anything but good. And the worst part was that I could see signs screaming that he was bad from miles away but I still decided to give him a chance.<\/p>\n

Eu era ing\u00e9nua e pensava que o amor podia mudar qualquer pessoa, mesmo ele, que estava t\u00e3o lixado.<\/p>\n

So, our story began\u2014the one where I suffered, and he got all that he had ever wanted. It was so easy to control me because I fell in love with him, thinking that after some time passed, he would fall in love with me too.<\/p>\n

But that wasn\u2019t something that he wanted.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, ele queria uma rapariga que fizesse as coisas como ele queria, que o amasse e perdoasse os seus erros que ele repetia vezes sem conta.<\/p>\n

He wanted a girl who kept her mouth shut because he always had something smart to say. He was happy seeing that I was a bird in a cage but this time it wasn\u2019t a golden one.<\/p>\n

Era uma jaula cheia de mis\u00e9ria e dor, aquela em que me sentia t\u00e3o mal, dando-lhe a oportunidade de me destruir.<\/p>\n

I once loved a man who couldn\u2019t love me back.<\/strong> Maybe that was just his decision because if he had loved me he wouldn\u2019t have hurt me so badly.<\/p>\n

Isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 algo que se fa\u00e7a \u00e0s pessoas que amamos. Eu amava-o com todo o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e a minha alma, pensando que ele iria mudar e que me estava a maltratar s\u00f3 porque tinha alguns problemas na sua vida.<\/p>\n

But now I know that I shouldn\u2019t have made excuses for him. From the first time he treated me like I didn\u2019t deserve, I should have left him. But, at that time, I wasn\u2019t strong enough to do that.<\/p>\n

Em tempos amei um homem que me prometeu uma vida que eu merecia.<\/strong> Mas, em vez disso, ele deu-me um inferno em que eu tinha de sacrificar coisas para o fazer sentir feliz.<\/p>\n

I put my life on hold because of him and he didn\u2019t even ask me why I was doing that when he saw that it wasn\u2019t making me happy. He knew that I would do anything for him, so he just let me drown in his amor t\u00f3xico.<\/a><\/p>\n

Nunca se esfor\u00e7ou por me fazer feliz, mesmo que quisesse que eu fizesse coisas por ele. Nunca me tratou bem e nunca me deu o amor que eu merecia.<\/p>\n

O homem por quem me apaixonei tanto era o ser humano mais ego\u00edsta que alguma vez conheci, mas mesmo assim amava-o com todo o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e a minha alma, sem pensar que me podia afastar dele.<\/p>\n

Uma vez amei um homem que me fez pensar que eu \u00e9 que n\u00e3o era am\u00e1vel.<\/strong> He made me think that I didn\u2019t deserve the love people write books about.<\/p>\n

He made me believe that I didn\u2019t deserve anything special and that I should be satisfied with what he gave me. That man never thought about my needs and my wishes but he dared to take the right to think and to feel instead of me.<\/p>\n

With him, I felt like I didn\u2019t have any common sense and that he always had the last word. He took my sanity, my free will and my right to judge.<\/p>\n

Ele s\u00f3 queria transformar-me numa boneca que pudesse controlar, dando-lhe apenas migalhas de amor da sua mesa. E mesmo que parecesse horr\u00edvel, durante algum tempo pensei que ele estava a fazer a coisa certa.<\/p>\n

Fui cega ao ver que ele se aproveitou de mim durante todo esse tempo e que eu era apenas algu\u00e9m que estava l\u00e1 para lhe provar que ele tamb\u00e9m podia ser amado e que n\u00e3o estava t\u00e3o quebrado como as pessoas pensavam.<\/p>\n

Em tempos, amei um homem que me fez perder a confian\u00e7a no amor.<\/strong> Por causa dele, pensei que nunca mais encontraria o amor. Pensei que ningu\u00e9m me iria querer, assim t\u00e3o destro\u00e7ada e triste.<\/p>\n

I thought that because of him, I would never find a man who would love me like I deserved because he always told me that men like that didn\u2019t exist.<\/p>\n

He told me that men just pretend to love girls and after some time they take them for granted. He also told me that it goes like that in life and that I can\u2019t change it.<\/p>\n

Because of him, I stopped believing in stories about Prince Charming who would come when you least expected him and who would take you to the love land\u2014the place where love is so real that you can almost touch it. Because of him, I lost all that was making me move forward.<\/p>\n

Em tempos amei um homem que me mostrou que era em v\u00e3o lutar pelo seu amor.<\/strong> E fez quest\u00e3o de me mostrar isso muitas vezes.<\/p>\n

Every time he neglected me when we were in company, he would show me that he didn\u2019t give a damn about me. Every time a good-looking girl would walk past him, he showed me that he didn\u2019t respect me.<\/a><\/p>\n

Every time I was sad, he would just leave the house like he wasn\u2019t leaving anyone special inside.<\/p>\n

And because of him, I learned to finally fight for my rights because I saw that he wouldn\u2019t do that for me. Because of him, I made a huge step forward, starting to live my life again with the people I liked.<\/p>\n

Finalmente libertei-me dele, mostrando-lhe que tamb\u00e9m podia ter uma op\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Decidi-me finalmente e afastei-me das suas m\u00e3os t\u00f3xicas, das suas palavras doces e t\u00f3xicas que me enganavam sempre e, ao perd\u00ea-lo, encontrei-me finalmente. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Apercebi-me de que merecia muito mais do que ele me podia dar e, pela primeira vez na minha vida, pus-me em primeiro lugar!<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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