{"id":135779,"date":"2021-09-23T07:43:15","date_gmt":"2021-09-23T07:43:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=135779"},"modified":"2022-04-22T01:00:47","modified_gmt":"2022-04-22T01:00:47","slug":"como-dizer-a-alguem-que-nao-esta-interessado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-dizer-a-alguem-que-nao-esta-interessado\/","title":{"rendered":"Como dizer a algu\u00e9m que n\u00e3o est\u00e1 interessado: 7 melhores maneiras + exemplos"},"content":{"rendered":"

S\u00e3o eles dupla textualiza\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> you (or triple-texting you), they somehow “magically” appear at the same places as you, and all you can think of is: How do you tell someone you’re not interested?<\/b><\/p>\n

Perhaps you never saw them in your life (I mean in real life) and they are virtually obsessing over you, but you don’t want to enter ‘the drama queen mode’ and block them or say something inappropriate.<\/p>\n

Or, maybe you went on a few dates with them and now you’ve realized that you’re actually not interested in proceeding with this bound-to-fail romance.<\/p>\n

Seja qual for a raz\u00e3o, uma coisa \u00e9 certa: Quer dizer-lhes que nesta altura da sua vida (e provavelmente no futuro), n\u00e3o tem qualquer interesse em, bem, qualquer coisa com eles, certo?<\/b><\/p>\n

But wait, why don\u2019t you just tell them openly and honestly that you’re not interested in hanging out with them; that you want to cut off communication and keep on living your best life without them in it?<\/p>\n

Porque <\/b>fantasma<\/b> \u00e9 para os cobardes<\/b><\/a>e quer encontrar uma forma respeitosa de expressar a sua <\/b>desinteresse.<\/b> Or, because you’re not really sure whether you’re interested or not in the first place.<\/b><\/p>\n

Don’t worry, we’ll figure it out together.<\/p>\n

Brace yourself because we’ve got some important questions to answer, such as: How do you know when you’re not interested in someone? Or, should you tell someone that you’re not interested? <\/i>We’ll also go through the best ways to do it (with examples).<\/p>\n

How Do You Know When You’re Not Interested In Someone?<\/h2>\n

\"umaMost people just know when they don’t have a romantic interest in someone and are not even considering a romantic relationship with that one person. Lucky me because I’m not most people.<\/p>\n

Even when I’m 100% sure that I don’t want to <\/b>continuar a namorar<\/b> that one person, I still question my decision and rethink it twice so I don’t <\/b>acabar<\/b> lamentando-o.<\/b><\/p>\n

I guess I never expect others to give me second chances, so I’m careful about making choices.<\/p>\n

I call it the evaluation process. Whenever I’m not quite sure (or I want to be 101% sure) that I’m TOTALLY not interested romantically in someone, I ask myself the following questions, and if the answer is NO to all of them, then I know where I stand:<\/p>\n

Trata-os como uma op\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n

Envia-os sinais contradit\u00f3rios<\/a>. You postpone texting them back (or avoid it completely). They’re not on your priority list.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 a fazer alguma coisa disso?<\/b> Well, if you’re not interested in them, then you probably are doing some of these (or all of these) things.<\/p>\n

You treat them like an option because you don’t care about their feelings, but you also don’t want to give them false hope, right?<\/p>\n

You’re not excited when they text you<\/h3>\n

We all know the thrill of excitement when the person we like texts us. It’s an entire symphony of emotions mixed with the anticipation and the urge to impress them with our texting skills.<\/p>\n

If you’re not experiencing any of this when they text you, then you’re definitely not interested in them. Period.<\/p>\n

You don’t feel the urge to spend time with them<\/h3>\n

You’re not interested in a second date with them. You’re not interested in phone calls with them, and you don’t want to see them face-to-face. Actually, you’re not interested in anything with them, right?<\/p>\n

If the answer is yes, that’s the biggest indication of total <\/b>desinteresse<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Let’s be honest. When you fall for someone, you can’t help yourself but contemplate spending every second with them (until you marry them, of course). No insult intended to married couples out there, okay?<\/p>\n

You seldom or never think about them (unless when you’re reading their texts)<\/h3>\n

You never check their social media profiles, and they’re seldom or never on your mind no matter what you’re doing at the moment. Well, you know what this means.<\/p>\n

It means that you’re a totally busy person and you have no time to think about those who are probably rotting to see you.<\/b> ?\u200d\u2640\ufe0f This was supposed to be funny, but it kind of turned out wrong. Well, now you know that you’re supposed to laugh at it.<\/p>\n

So, this means that they’re not on your mind because you aren’t into them. Simple, indeed.<\/p>\n

You don’t see yourself in a long-term relationship with them<\/h3>\n

Perhaps you think that they’re a great person, but you know you’re not a good match. The only “relationship” you would consider having with them is the famous friend zone.<\/p>\n

But, you don’t want to hurt that <\/b>person’s feelings<\/b> dizendo-lhes, <\/b>“<\/i><\/b>Sorry, you’ve been friendzoned<\/i><\/b><\/a>“,<\/i><\/b> because you’re not that type of person.<\/b> Queres acabar as coisas da maneira certa.<\/p>\n

Gostas de outra pessoa<\/h3>\n

Is that someone else on your mind 24\/7? Well, if you already like someone else, then there’s no need to question your disinterest in the other person.<\/p>\n

Or, maybe you could be into more people at once because we human beings have seriously evolved emotionally. I won’t confuse you any further. You, yourself, know the right answer to this question.<\/p>\n

Should You Tell Someone You’re Not Interested?<\/h2>\n

\"umaClaro que n\u00e3o. Devias deix\u00e1-los continuar a enviar-te mensagens e continuar a brincar com os seus sentimentos e a rir-se da sua mis\u00e9ria enquanto comem gelado.<\/i> BRINCADEIRA!<\/b><\/p>\n

I’ll ask you something else: Why shouldn’t you tell someone you’re not interested?<\/i> If you can give me one valid reason, I’ll reconsider what I’m about to write next.<\/p>\n

Okay. The main reason why you should tell someone that you’re not on the same page is that hurting someone else’s feelings is not fun. Deciding fantasiar algu\u00e9m<\/a> tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o \u00e9 nada divertido.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 muitos <\/b>formas educadas<\/b> para exprimir a sua <\/b>desinteresse<\/b>Por isso, porqu\u00ea complicar as coisas ou escolher m\u00e9todos grosseiros para o fazer?<\/b><\/p>\n

You should tell someone you’re not interested because you owe it to both yourself and them. That’s the only way you keep living your life without feeling guilty (if you have a sensitive consciousness like myself), and it’s the only way for them to move on.<\/p>\n

Imagine passar imenso tempo a fantasiar com o objeto do seu afeto e negligenciar a sua pr\u00f3pria vida apenas para viver numa ilus\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Imagine acordar todos os dias na esperan\u00e7a de que a outra pessoa acabe por admitir que gosta de si, e s\u00f3 quando isso acontecer \u00e9 que aceitar\u00e1 os seus sinais contradit\u00f3rios.<\/p>\n

Now, imagine how lucky you are because you’re not in their shoes.<\/b> Por isso, o m\u00ednimo que se pode fazer \u00e9 terminar as coisas de uma forma respeitosa<\/a> without hurting their feelings, and here’s how you’ll do it.<\/p>\n

7 Respectful Ways To Tell Someone You’re Not Interested<\/h2>\n

Desde enviar uma mensagem de texto honesta a faz\u00ea-lo pessoalmente, eis algumas formas de expressar o seu desinteresse, bem como aspectos a que deve prestar aten\u00e7\u00e3o quando o fizer:<\/p>\n

Considerar o melhor m\u00e9todo para os informar<\/h3>\n

\"umaHave you been dating for some time now, or you’ve just been on a first date? Do you feel like this is a mini break-up or perhaps things are not that serious between you?<\/p>\n

If you met someone on a dating app or on social media, and you weren’t spending time in person, then things should be easy for you (Cheers to online dating).<\/p>\n

You can simply send them an honest text and explain that you’re not interested in further hanging out with them.<\/b><\/p>\n

If you’ve gone out a couple of times, then you should consider other methods (face-to-face or a phone call). If you’re overly anxious about doing it in person, then calling them is a better option perhaps for both of you so that you avoid any awkward situations.<\/p>\n

Enviar uma mensagem honesta<\/h3>\n

Porque o fantasma n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma op\u00e7\u00e3o!<\/p>\n

Regardless of how many times they texted you so far (and how many times you haven’t responded), choose to do the right thing and send them an honest text message that will let them know how you feel about all this.<\/p>\n

I’m not telling you that you should send one of those legit <\/b>rutura<\/b> textos<\/b><\/a> if things weren’t that serious between you. Just write what’s on your soul.<\/b><\/p>\n

If it’s easier for you, pretend that they are your friend and you have to tell them something they might not like. After that, you can expect anything to happen depending on the level of their attachment to you.<\/p>\n

They might choose to block you or simply text you that they understand. Whatever happens, know that you’ve done the right thing and there’s nothing you should worry about.<\/p>\n

Fazer o contacto direto<\/h3>\n

\"umIf you’ve been on a couple of dates so far and you actually felt like there could be something more between you, but for some reason, you become disinterested in pursuing the ongoing romance, a face-to-face conversation should suffice.<\/p>\n

Eu sei o que est\u00e1s a pensar: <\/b>Mas, e se eles me derem uma bofetada na cara depois de eu lhes dizer isso? E se come\u00e7arem a chorar em p\u00fablico por causa do que lhes acabei de dizer? E se?<\/i><\/p>\n

Pensar em demasiadas coisas E se<\/i> is a surefire way to boost your stress levels (I’m speaking in a negative connotation if you haven’t noticed).<\/p>\n

Se receia que as coisas se tornem embara\u00e7osas se decidir dizer-lhes isso pessoalmente, pe\u00e7a-lhes simplesmente para irem dar um passeio e evite sentar-se em locais p\u00fablicos.<\/b><\/p>\n

Also, if you simply can’t find the courage to do it face-to-face, then send them a text message. That should be your plan B.<\/p>\n

Manter a conversa curta<\/h3>\n

Regardless if you’re about to see them in person or send them a text, keep in mind that you shouldn’t prolong the conversation. Now is definitely not a time to analyze the whole situation between you or to start some random topics.<\/p>\n

It’s always best to keep the conversation short because it’s less painful for the both of you. I don’t know about you, but I’m a straightforward kind of person.<\/b><\/p>\n

I don’t like when someone starts beating around the bush or trying to minimize the seriousness of a situation.<\/p>\n

Tenha em mente o seguinte: <\/b>If that guy or girl likes you A LOT, then for them, this is literally going to be the end of the world. But, luckily, it’s nothing that a couple of drinks, 10 tons of ice cream, and 120 sleepless nights can’t cure.<\/p>\n

I’m aware of the fact that now is not the time to be sarcastic, but I’m trying to let you know that straightforwardness will be the best option because disappointment and pain are inevitable.<\/p>\n

Don’t sugar coat it<\/h3>\n

\"umaAnd, please, don’t start the conversation with something like: “Look, you’re a <\/i>homem simp\u00e1tico<\/i>\/nice girl and there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re one of the coolest people I’ve ever met, BUT…”<\/i><\/p>\n

Seriously? Why would anyone waste their time on praising the other person only to “put a bullet in their heart” a few seconds later?<\/b><\/p>\n

There’s no need for you to aumentar a sua confian\u00e7a <\/a>porque, de qualquer forma, eles v\u00e3o analisar e pensar demasiado nas coisas depois de lhes dizeres. Podes dizer algo como: “You’re a <\/i>grande pessoa<\/i>…”<\/i> but don’t go into detail.<\/p>\n

It’s best to not give them plenty of material for overthinking because they might draw the wrong conclusion from that.<\/p>\n

Ou pode simplesmente comprar-lhes um bolo! <\/b>D\u00e1 para acreditar que recentemente me deparei com conselhos para encontros<\/a> que sugere fazer ou comprar um bolo que diz “Not interested”<\/i>? It even suggests “throwing a card in for added flare.”<\/p>\n

I don’t know what’s wrong with people or if it’s just me and my mindset is outdated. Why would someone go through the trouble of buying a cake only to tell the person they’re not interested in them in the first place? ??<\/p>\n

Don’t force a friendship<\/h3>\n

Acha que ser amigo depois de namorar<\/a> \u00e9 uma boa ideia? Talvez, para si, seja, mas ser\u00e1 que \u00e9 mesmo para eles?<\/p>\n

Recently, I’ve been on a couple of dates with a guy and all of a sudden I realized that I’m not interested in anything serious with him at the moment.<\/p>\n

I didn’t <\/b>saber como<\/b> para lhe dizer isso porque eu sabia que ele era louco por mim (ele disse-me que <\/b>cara a cara<\/b>).<\/b><\/p>\n

Para dizer a verdade, via-o mais como um potencial amigo do que como um amante, por isso, se acabasse com ele, perderia ambos. Passei alguns dias a pensar em tudo isso e estava determinada a encontrar a melhor solu\u00e7\u00e3o para ambos.<\/p>\n

Quando lhe falei em ficarmos amigos, ele mostrou-se imediatamente aborrecido com a ideia.<\/b> He couldn’t stay friends with me because he had feelings for me, and it would have been torture.<\/p>\n

I understood him immediately, and didn’t contradict a single word because I knew that I would feel the same way about it if I was in his shoes.<\/p>\n

The bottom line is, don’t force a friendship with them if they don’t suggest it themselves.<\/b> No entanto, deve pensar duas vezes para evitar qualquer complica\u00e7\u00e3o no futuro.<\/p>\n

Dizer a verdade e manter-se fiel a ela<\/h3>\n

\"aHere’s the most important part of all. Once you tell them the truth, DON’T change your mind a week\/month\/ year later. This happened to me, and I can tell you how painful it is to experience it.<\/p>\n

Passado meio ano, um tipo disse-me:<\/b> “I wasn’t ready for a<\/i> de longa dist\u00e2ncia<\/i> rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/i><\/a> back then, so I told you I wasn’t interested. I actually liked you, but I wasn’t ready for anything serious then.”<\/i><\/p>\n

O qu\u00ea?<\/b><\/p>\n

Okay, let’s say that this is true (even though I’m a skeptical person). Do you really think I would be interested in dating him again after he told me that he wasn’t interested? Dude, I moved on a long time ago.<\/p>\n

Por isso, fa\u00e7a um favor a si pr\u00f3prio: diga a verdade e mantenha-se fiel a ela. Don’t question your decision, and don’t assume they were waiting for you all this time to appear in their life out of nowhere.<\/b><\/p>\n

Of course, there are exceptions because every situation is unique, but generally, it’s best to just leave them be and forget about them. Tell them you just aren’t interested in them anymore, and allow them to digest it and recover from it.<\/p>\n

A \u00fanica coisa que devem ter em mente \u00e9 o seguinte: Never date someone who isn’t sure about you<\/a>. That’s the only wisdom they need to protect themselves from being disappointed.<\/p>\n

How To Tell Someone You’re Not Interested: EXAMPLES<\/h2>\n

\"umFinally! How do you tell someone you’re not interested in them? Wait, are there some rules that you should follow when it comes to finding the right words and expressing yourself?<\/p>\n

Bem, a \u00fanica regra que deves seguir \u00e9: Don’t overdo it, and stick to the point.<\/b><\/p>\n

The more you’re explaining yourself, the less valid your words are (whether it is written or spoken). That’s one of the lessons I’ve learned the hard way as per usual.<\/p>\n

To save you from unnecessary overthinking, here are a few examples of how to tell someone you’re not interested:<\/b><\/p>\n