Sim, \u00e9 verdade. Vivemos na era das redes sociais, o que nos torna escravos das nossas decis\u00f5es impulsivas porque tudo est\u00e1 \u00e0 dist\u00e2ncia de um clique. Por outras palavras, a infidelidade nunca esteve t\u00e3o dispon\u00edvel para n\u00f3s. Est\u00e1 apenas a um clique de dist\u00e2ncia. Hilariante, n\u00e3o \u00e9?<\/p>\n
But, it’s true. There are <\/b>diferente <\/b>tipos de batota<\/b><\/a> de inocente namoriscar com um colega de trabalho<\/a><\/b>\u00a0para <\/b>casos sexuais,<\/b> mas nem todos n\u00f3s a percepcionamos da mesma forma.<\/b><\/p>\n Algumas pessoas definem a infidelidade como puramente f\u00edsica, enquanto outras definem a trai\u00e7\u00e3o como emocional ou como infidelidade emocional e f\u00edsica. E ningu\u00e9m est\u00e1 certo ou errado nesta mat\u00e9ria.<\/p>\n No entanto, existem alguns ac\u00e7\u00f5es universais que s\u00e3o <\/b>considerado batota<\/b>, and there are main types of infidelity in a relationship, so you have every right to be picky about which ones you’ll consider as cheating.<\/p>\n We’ll go through all that below, and we’ll also talk about texting cheating, cheating in a marriage, social media cheating, and micro-cheating. I hope you’re ready!<\/p>\n Eis algumas das actividades que s\u00e3o <\/b>considerado batota<\/b> (if you’re doing them outside of your relationship):<\/b><\/p>\n Como se pode ver, existem things that count as cheating, even though they’re not physical<\/a>. A trai\u00e7\u00e3o pode ser f\u00edsica, emocional ou cibern\u00e9tica. O contacto sexual continua a ser visto como o derradeiro ato de trai\u00e7\u00e3o, embora a trai\u00e7\u00e3o emocional cause mais danos.<\/p>\n Bem, pode haver uma mistura de factores f\u00edsicos...<\/b>trai\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/b>, so things aren’t really black and white. <\/b>Todos os casais t\u00eam de definir os seus pr\u00f3prios padr\u00f5es de trai\u00e7\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, para saberem qual \u00e9 a sua posi\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Some couples don’t see flirting and teasing as an act of cheating, while others do. Some people see trai\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/a> como sendo mais destrutiva, enquanto outros v\u00eaem a batota como puramente f\u00edsica.<\/p>\n Ent\u00e3o, o que \u00e9 <\/b>considerado batota<\/b> numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/b><\/p>\n Existe uma regra universal segundo a qual se pode saber instantaneamente se se est\u00e1 a fazer batota ou n\u00e3o. Essa regra consiste em fazer a seguinte pergunta a si pr\u00f3prio: Would I share what I’m doing with my partner, or would I keep it from them?<\/b><\/p>\n If you feel the urge to keep it a secret from them, then you know you’re doing something that you shouldn’t. Why? Because you know they would see it as unacceptable, and that’s the main reason why you don’t want to share it with them in the first place. A great rule, right?<\/p>\n So, whenever you’re in doubt as to whether your actions are considered cheating, just ask yourself that one question and you’ll know for sure.<\/p>\n S\u00f3 estou a dizer Hi<\/i> a uma pessoa qualquer n\u00e3o \u00e9 necessariamente considerado trai\u00e7\u00e3o, porque isso seria absurdo, mas o que mais importa \u00e9 a sua opini\u00e3o e os seus sentimentos em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a essa pessoa (se os tiver).<\/p>\n Now, we’re entering the <\/b>caso emocional<\/b><\/a> territory. There’s actually a name for it: <\/b>assuntos emocionais<\/i><\/b> e mensagens de texto<\/i><\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n It’s when you find comfort in that one person, and you start confiding in them. You start oversharing things because you feel like they understand you better than your partner.<\/p>\n Then, on the other spectrum, we have the physical aspect of cheating in texting. It’s when you engage in sexting and sending explicit content to that one person (or more).<\/p>\n Como j\u00e1 referi, o mais importante \u00e9 saber como se sente em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a tudo isto.<\/b> Do you feel like you’re doing something behind your partner’s back? Something that you wouldn’t want to share with them? If yes, then it’s cheating.<\/p>\n It’s time to get specific and talk about the main types of cheating. Note that some couples may be okay with some of the types below (or all of them), while others won’t.<\/p>\n So, let’s see:<\/p>\n Uma pessoa desenvolve sentimentos rom\u00e2nticos por algu\u00e9m fora da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o (um membro do sexo oposto) e estabelecer uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional profunda<\/a> com eles. Pode ser um colega de trabalho, um desconhecido, um amigo, etc.<\/p>\n Assuntos emocionais<\/b> baseiam-se na comunica\u00e7\u00e3o a um n\u00edvel profundo, \u00edntimo e pessoal.<\/b><\/p>\n It’s when a person no longer relies on his or her partner, and partilha coisas pessoais<\/a> e de relacionamento com a outra pessoa.<\/p>\n Haver\u00e1 muitas mensagens de texto (especialmente em horas curtas) e encontros com a outra pessoa. As mentiras e as desculpas tamb\u00e9m est\u00e3o inclu\u00eddas.<\/p>\n Algumas pessoas pensam que <\/b>rela\u00e7\u00f5es afectivas<\/b> aren’t a <\/b>grande coisa,<\/b> even though this type of infidelity is more serious, because it’s not based on an impulsive decision like <\/b>batota f\u00edsica<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n It’s an affair of the heart that can make a person’s partner feel betrayed and rejected. Prioritizing another person more than your current partner can destroy even the strongest of relationships.<\/p>\n O que \u00e9 que se chama a uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional desenvolvida online? Um caso cibern\u00e9tico. Como disse na introdu\u00e7\u00e3o, os casos cibern\u00e9ticos est\u00e3o apenas a um clique de dist\u00e2ncia (ou devo dizer, a um texto de dist\u00e2ncia).<\/p>\n Ser\u00e3o estes casos considerados menos graves pelo facto de tudo se passar num mundo virtual?<\/b> Talvez sim, talvez n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n It’s true that there are no real-life hangouts, but we have to consider one fact as well: An emotional connection created online can be equally powerful as the one created in the real world.<\/p>\n Os ciber-namoros s\u00e3o mais populares em rela\u00e7\u00f5es infelizes<\/a> because the person doesn’t feel like they’re cheating on their partner as it is all happening online.<\/b><\/p>\n Verdade seja dita, trair ao telefone<\/a> can happen unintentionally, and sometimes it’s really hard to decide if an online relationship with someone else instead of your partner is considered an affair.<\/p>\n No entanto, eis alguns indicadores de que, afinal, pode tratar-se de um caso cibern\u00e9tico:<\/b><\/p>\n That something could be their hobby, watching porn, an obsessive idea, you name it. It’s considered cheating because it consumes the person and results in neglecting their partner.<\/p>\n O objeto da sua obsess\u00e3o passa a ser a sua principal prioridade e deixa de prestar a m\u00ednima aten\u00e7\u00e3o ao seu parceiro e <\/b>problemas na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n Nunca t\u00eam tempo para fazer actividades para casais ou para falar com o seu parceiro de forma aberta e honesta, porque est\u00e3o muito concentrados nessa \u00fanica coisa pela qual est\u00e3o obcecados.<\/p>\n If the person is obsessing over porn, they might experience an inability to have normal sexual intercourse with their partner because they’re no longer aroused by it.<\/p>\n Acreditem ou n\u00e3o, um caso de objectos foi a raz\u00e3o pela qual acabei com o meu ex-namorado. Nessa altura, ele era um jogador hardcore e j\u00e1 n\u00e3o me prestava aten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/b><\/p>\n Comecei a sentir-me negligenciada porque tudo o que ele fazia era jogar ou falar de jogos de v\u00eddeo. O seu antigo passatempo transformou-se numa s\u00e9ria obsess\u00e3o. Tentei falar com ele sobre isso, mas ele era indiferente.<\/p>\n Por isso, afastei-me apenas para lhe dar uma li\u00e7\u00e3o e, claro, para me salvar. Depois disso, ele disse-me que tinha apagado todos os seus jogos e implorou-me que voltasse para ele.<\/p>\n Sabes o que \u00e9 que eu fiz? <\/b>I didn’t come back because I knew that he had only paused his obsession temporarily, and it was just a matter of time when it would strike again.<\/p>\n You know what they say: “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” There’s actually a term for it, and it’s called ‘um batoteiro em s\u00e9rie<\/a>‘.<\/p>\n We’re certainly all familiar with this type of affair. It’s one of the most popular types of cheating in both movies and in real life.<\/p>\n But, what you didn’t know or didn’t pay attention to is that a physical affair doesn’t mean only sexual intercourse with someone who is not your partner. It also means kissing, holding hands, and all kinds of things that are considered physical.<\/p>\n O mais importante aqui \u00e9 a inten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/b> Como \u00e9 que a pessoa se sente quando faz qualquer uma destas coisas f\u00edsicas com algu\u00e9m fora da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o? Qual era a inten\u00e7\u00e3o da pessoa ao <\/i>primeiro lugar<\/i>?<\/i><\/p>\n After being caught in a physical affair, some people say that it didn’t mean anything to them and they did it on impulse, while other batoteiros<\/a> admitem que tamb\u00e9m est\u00e3o emocionalmente ligados a elas. Assim, os casos f\u00edsicos podem ir desde os n\u00e3o intencionais at\u00e9 aos mais graves.<\/p>\n Al\u00e9m disso, o caso f\u00edsico \u00e9 definido de forma diferente em <\/b>monogamia<\/b> e poligamia<\/a>.<\/b> Na (maioria) das rela\u00e7\u00f5es monog\u00e2micas, o caso f\u00edsico \u00e9 considerado trai\u00e7\u00e3o, enquanto que nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es poliamorosas e rela\u00e7\u00f5es abertas<\/a> t\u00eam as suas pr\u00f3prias regras de batota.<\/p>\n O que \u00e9 <\/b>micro-trapa\u00e7a<\/b><\/a>?<\/b><\/p>\n It’s something that many people do without even knowing. It’s a small act of emotional infidelity that happens through texting or other types of online interactions.<\/p>\n Tal como acontece com qualquer outro tipo de batota, n\u00e3o \u00e9 algo que todos n\u00f3s consideremos como batota. Algumas pessoas v\u00eaem estas micro-trapa\u00e7as como um divertimento inofensivo.<\/p>\n Alguns exemplos de <\/b>micro-trapa\u00e7a<\/b> incluir:<\/b><\/p>\n So, it’s up to you, dear reader, whether you’ll see these things as a cheating act or something trivial. As always, if you aren’t comfortable with your partner’s behaviors, it’s best to be honest with yourself and talk to them.<\/p>\n Sim, a trai\u00e7\u00e3o financeira \u00e9 uma coisa. Acontece quando casais com finan\u00e7as partilhadas decidem mentir um ao outro sobre a sua situa\u00e7\u00e3o financeira. Por exemplo, um dos parceiros pode manter as suas d\u00edvidas em segredo, para que o outro parceiro n\u00e3o tenha conhecimento disso.<\/p>\n Ou ent\u00e3o, um dos parceiros gasta secretamente mais dinheiro do que devia (ou do que o acordado com o parceiro), o que afecta imediatamente o parceiro e a qualidade da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n \u00c9 claro que esta infidelidade financeira n\u00e3o pode durar muito tempo porque, mais cedo ou mais tarde, o outro parceiro come\u00e7ar\u00e1 a suspeitar que algo est\u00e1 errado.<\/b><\/p>\n As raz\u00f5es para a trai\u00e7\u00e3o financeira podem ser pessoais ou profissionais. Seja qual for a raz\u00e3o, ela afecta ambos os parceiros.<\/p>\n When a person is making financial moves behind their partner’s back, it endangers their financial future, trust, and comunica\u00e7\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n Every individual has a different definition of cheating. There are a lot of grey areas here, and relationship experts can’t really help you with this one. Some people don’t see flirting with others as a red flag, while others see it as an act of betrayal.<\/p>\n O flirt \u00e9 um comportamento l\u00fadico (normalmente) sem inten\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e9rias.<\/b><\/p>\n A person flirting with anyone outside their committed relationship can greatly affect their partner’s trust. Things could get even more serious if their partner is jealous by nature.<\/p>\n Flirtar significa basicamente mostrar interesse por outra pessoa. Quando uma pessoa tem tend\u00eancia para esconder o seu comportamento de namorico do seu parceiro, ent\u00e3o pode ser chamado de trai\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Assuntos emocionais<\/b> don’t have to include <\/b>infidelidade f\u00edsica<\/b>.<\/b> Sometimes, it’s only about the feelings that have crossed the line into emotional intimacy. We’re talking about a person oversharing things and treating the other person (instead of their current partner) as their safe haven.<\/p>\n Physical affairs include sexual contact of all types (touching of intimate areas, having sex, etc.). It’s true that emotional affairs can sometimes be more hurtful than physical affairs.<\/p>\n Se suspeitar que o seu c\u00f4njuge est\u00e1 a tra\u00ed-lo<\/a>, eis alguns sinais comuns de <\/b>infidelidade no casamento<\/b><\/a>:<\/b><\/p>\n Se notar alguma das coisas acima referidas (e o seu c\u00f4njuge estiver a agir de forma mais estranha do que o habitual), ent\u00e3o tem todo o direito de questionar a sua fidelidade e a sua vida conjugal<\/a> tamb\u00e9m. Tem todo o direito de assumir que your partner doesn’t love you anymore<\/a>.<\/p>\n Liking an attractive person’s photo (or a few of them) can also backfire if your partner sees it as a threat. There is also complimenting a beautiful person’s picture<\/a>.<\/p>\n Some partners don’t get insulted by it, while others see it as a red flag. It all depends on their type of personality, and, well, the strength of trust in a relationship (or lack thereof).<\/p>\n So, what is considered cheating on social media? If your actions are contradicting your partner’s point of view, then it’s cheating.<\/p>\n Aqui est\u00e3o algumas coisas que s\u00e3o <\/b>considerado batota<\/b> sobre <\/b>redes sociais<\/b> (some of them are classified as ‘<\/b>micro-trapa\u00e7a<\/b>):<\/b><\/p>\n Remember, if you’re doing any of these things behind your partner’s back and you fear that they might find out about it, then it is considered cheating.<\/p>\n Why do people decide to do something behind their partner’s back when they know it will hurt them once they find out about their secret mission(s)? Why do <\/i>as pessoas fazem batota<\/i> numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o em vez de a terminarem e seguirem em frente com a sua vida?<\/i><\/p>\n In most cases, it’s because they aren’t ready to give up what they have (their current partner), but they also want something more (or, should I say, something different).<\/b><\/p>\n Actually, the keyword here is DIFFERENT. People don’t cheat just because they’re interested in someone better, stronger, or mightier. They do it because they feel either stuck in a rut or there’s something that their relationship lacks.<\/p>\n Assim, em vez de lidarem com esse problema, decidem encontrar o ingrediente que falta noutro lugar. Pode ser apoio emocional, prazer f\u00edsico, etc.<\/b><\/p>\n Ending a relationship means losing something (their current partner), which creates fear, especially if they aren’t sure about ending things in the first place. That’s how some individuals end up in physical affairs, emotional affairs, cyber affairs, micro-cheating, you name it.<\/p>\n Outra raz\u00e3o pela qual <\/b>as pessoas fazem batota<\/b> in a relationship instead of just ending it is that they don’t realize the seriousness of their actions. <\/b>They don’t think about how their partner might feel, so they choose to do whatever they want (or whatever their impulses are telling them to do).<\/p>\n Actually, every person has their own reason why they don’t break up with their partner before cheating on them, and these are all just assumptions that can be applied to the majority of cases. And, remember that a batota \u00e9 uma escolha, n\u00e3o um erro<\/a>.<\/p>\n For example, if we’re talking about <\/b>trai\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/b> ou <\/b>batota f\u00edsica<\/b>estes dois <\/b>tipos de batota<\/b> s\u00e3o mais dif\u00edceis de digerir e de recuperar.<\/b><\/p>\n Again, it all depends on what partners consider cheating in the first place. If we’re talking about micro-cheating (things like flirting with others and texting), this shouldn’t be a dealbreaker unless it gradually turns into something more.<\/p>\n Como v\u00eaem, todos os <\/b>rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/b><\/a> baseia-se na confian\u00e7a. Criar confian\u00e7a<\/a> leva algum tempo e pode ser facilmente quebrado numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, mesmo por <\/b>micro-trapa\u00e7a<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n If the cheated partner is unable to get rid of trust issues caused by their partner’s betrayal, then this could be the end of their relationship.<\/p>\n Al\u00e9m disso, se ambos os parceiros estiverem dispostos a trabalhar na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o e a lidar com quaisquer quest\u00f5es n\u00e3o resolvidas, a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o ter\u00e1 ainda a oportunidade de prosperar.<\/p>\n A batota pode ser uma <\/b>quebra-galho<\/b> in a relationship, but it’s not exclusive.<\/b> Tudo depende do n\u00edvel de confian\u00e7a numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e se os parceiros envolvidos est\u00e3o dispostos a fazer com que as coisas funcionem.<\/p>\nQue ac\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o consideradas batota?<\/h2>\n
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Is watching porn cheating? What about innocent flirting with no intention of “doing anything stupid”? What counts as cheating?<\/p>\n\n
O que \u00e9 considerado trai\u00e7\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n
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Given that every couple (and person) has their own idea of cheating in a relationship, this should be perceived as an individual thing. Some couples don’t see watching porn as an act of cheating, while others do.<\/p>\nAs mensagens de texto s\u00e3o batota numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n
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Yes, texting can be considered cheating in a relationship if you wouldn’t want to share the texting content with your partner. It’s really simple.<\/p>\n7 principais tipos de infidelidade numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n
Caso emocional<\/h3>\n
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Emotional cheating is an emotional attachment between a person and someone who isn’t their significant other. Physical cheating is not necessarily a part of the emotional affair, but it can be included.<\/p>\nCaso cibern\u00e9tico<\/h3>\n
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Caso de objeto<\/h3>\n
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Chances are you haven’t heard of this cheating type before. The object affair happens when a partner becomes obsessed with something outside their relationship.<\/p>\nCaso f\u00edsico<\/h3>\n
Micro-trapa\u00e7a<\/h3>\n
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Ao contr\u00e1rio da trai\u00e7\u00e3o f\u00edsica, a micro trai\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 um tipo de trai\u00e7\u00e3o comum entre aqueles que n\u00e3o est\u00e3o prontos para se comprometerem com o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n\n
Infidelidade financeira<\/h3>\n
Namoro<\/h3>\n
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O namorisco \u00e9 batota?<\/a>? Well, some people consider it cheating, while others don’t.<\/p>\nO que \u00e9 considerado trai\u00e7\u00e3o num casamento?<\/h2>\n
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Existem duas formas mais comuns de trai\u00e7\u00e3o num casamento, que s\u00e3o os casos emocionais e os casos f\u00edsicos. Os casos f\u00edsicos incluem encontros de uma noite, casos de longa dura\u00e7\u00e3o, trai\u00e7\u00e3o por vingan\u00e7a e casos online.<\/p>\n\n
O que \u00e9 considerado trapa\u00e7a nas redes sociais?<\/h2>\n
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Se me perguntarem, <\/b>redes sociais<\/b> \u00e9 um dos maiores destruidores de todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es. <\/b>Publicar uma fotografia sua e do seu parceiro pode transformar-se num pesadelo se outra pessoa a encarar como um desafio (tentar arruinar a sua felicidade).<\/p>\n\n
Porque \u00e9 que as pessoas traem uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o em vez de a terminarem primeiro?<\/h2>\n
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Esta \u00e9 uma \u00f3ptima pergunta.<\/p>\nA trai\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 um fator decisivo numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n
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N\u00e3o, a trai\u00e7\u00e3o nem sempre \u00e9 um fator de rutura da rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Tudo depende da gravidade da situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\nA linha de fundo<\/h2>\n
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What is considered cheating? We’ve learned today that there are many types of cheating, from emotional affairs to cyber affairs, and every individual has their own standards when it comes to infidelity.<\/p>\n