{"id":136828,"date":"2021-10-25T11:34:50","date_gmt":"2021-10-25T11:34:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=136828"},"modified":"2022-09-06T11:29:22","modified_gmt":"2022-09-06T11:29:22","slug":"recuperacao-de-casos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/recuperacao-de-casos\/","title":{"rendered":"6 etapas do processo de recupera\u00e7\u00e3o de um caso para se curar com sucesso"},"content":{"rendered":"

Tem apanhou o seu c\u00f4njuge a trair<\/a> em ti? E, apesar de tu sentir-se destro\u00e7ado<\/a>, you feel like the whole world is crumbling beneath your feet, yet you still don’t feel ready to give up on your marriage… To give up on your love.<\/p>\n

Well, you have every right to give it a second chance. Especially if you feel deep down in your heart that it’s the right thing to do.<\/strong> However, you should know that you’re about to sail on a very difficult journey because affair recovery is truly an exhausting and emotionally draining process.<\/em><\/p>\n

You’re feeling a whole range of different emotions, I know.<\/em> You just want to close your eyes, make it all disappear, and bring your old ‘happy’ life back.<\/strong> Acredita em mim, eu compreendo-te.<\/em><\/p>\n

No entanto, e infelizmente, n\u00e3o \u00e9 assim que as coisas funcionam na vida real. \u00c9 necess\u00e1rio reunir for\u00e7as<\/a> para se erguer e enfrentar os seus medos, bem como todos os seus problemas e preocupa\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/em><\/p>\n

To make the affair recovery journey less challenging, I have compiled this guide on surviving infidelity. So, let’s save your love and make your marriage affair-proof.<\/p>\n

Quanto tempo leva para se recuperar de um caso?<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

The first thing you’ll experience is denial. You’ll feel like it’s all an awful nightmare, and you’ll be praying to God to wake you up out of it.<\/em> But, sooner or later, you’ll have to face the ugly truth because…<\/p>\n

It’s happening. And, trust me, as much as you try to deny it, it won’t just go away.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Then, you’ll start wondering how long healing after infidelity lasts. And, unfortunately, I don’t have the right answer to this question. The truth is, nobody does.<\/p>\n

We all experience these things differently, and for some of us, it doesn’t take much time to recover while other ones may struggle with affair recovery for years.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Depende tamb\u00e9m de outros factores. Por exemplo, depende da intensidade do amor entre si e o seu c\u00f4njuge e do tempo que o seu c\u00f4njuge esteve com o seu parceiro antes de o descobrir.<\/p>\n

Just try to silence everything and everyone around you and listen to your heart. After all, it carries all those wounds, and only your heart can tell you when it’s ready para seguir em frente<\/a>De facto.<\/em><\/p>\n

A resposta padr\u00e3o do sector \u00e9 que pode demorar at\u00e9 2 anos<\/h3>\n

De acordo com o famoso psic\u00f3logo cl\u00ednico, Dr. Wyatt Fisher, e muitos dos seus colegas, a recupera\u00e7\u00e3o da infidelidade demora normalmente entre seis meses a dois anos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ou, nas suas palavras (realmente encorajadoras), “Affair recovery usually takes anywhere from six months to two years, and is often a painful process, yet a possible one for couples who possess humility, compassion, and tenacity.”<\/em><\/p>\n

A minha resposta \u00e9 que demora o tempo necess\u00e1rio para que ambos os parceiros estejam totalmente recuperados<\/h3>\n

Infidelidade emocional<\/a> \u00e9 doloroso e desgastante para ambos os c\u00f4njuges. O c\u00f4njuge tra\u00eddo sente-se destro\u00e7ado e isso leva-o a culpar-se a si pr\u00f3prio.<\/strong><\/p>\n

However, they should know that it’s not and can never be their fault because that act of a trai\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00f3 pode falar pelo parceiro que traiu<\/a>n\u00e3o a que foi tra\u00edda.<\/p>\n

No entanto, tamb\u00e9m pode ser doloroso e torturante para o traidor, porque ele sabe que um erro pode custar-lhe o casamento. Pode custar-lhes a perda do seu verdadeiro amor.<\/p>\n

That’s why I really think that moving on is possible only when both partners are capable of doing so.<\/strong> Only when both of them heal completely and feel it deep down in their heart is when it’s time to leave it all in the past.<\/em><\/p>\n

Dar tempo ao tempo e cultivar a paci\u00eancia<\/h3>\n

Please understand that the affair recovery process consists of many other ‘small’ processes you’ll need to go through in order to fully heal and recover.<\/em><\/p>\n

You’ll need to arm yourself with patience. Forget about statistics. Forget about as expectativas<\/a>.<\/strong> Forget about all those irrelevant things and focus only on what’s truly important; how to recover. Not when or if, but how to ultrapassar isso<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 10 erros comuns na reconcilia\u00e7\u00e3o do casamento a evitar ap\u00f3s a infidelidade<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Linha do tempo da recupera\u00e7\u00e3o de um caso (6 fases)<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

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There are six stages of the affair recovery process that all couples need to go through, specifically the ones who don’t want to divorciar-se<\/a> e decidem manter-se juntos depois do caso e resolver o seu casamento.<\/p>\n

Eis o que se espera de si na sua viagem para recuperar o seu casamento:<\/p>\n

1. A fase de descoberta.<\/h3>\n

This is the first stage of the surviving infidelity process. It’s when you first find out that your girlfriend\/o namorado traiu-a<\/a> depois de ter pensado durante algum tempo if they’re cheating on you or you’re just being paranoid<\/a>.<\/p>\n

O estado de um choque emocional profundo<\/h4>\n

Descobrir que a pessoa que amamos nos traiu \u00e9 muito doloroso.<\/strong> It’s a shocking discovery, and you won’t even be able to process it the right way in the beginning.<\/p>\n

It’s a traumatic experience, and most people aren’t even aware of the fact they’ve been betrayed.<\/em> However, that’s a completely normal psychological response to such a terrifying experience.<\/p>\n

Nega\u00e7\u00e3o profunda<\/h4>\n

That’s when denial comes on the stage. You don’t want to admit that it’s happening to you, and you rather choose to run away from it by denying it.<\/em><\/p>\n

You think it’ll make the pain go away. You think it’s easier to hide from the problem than to confront and face it…<\/strong> But, oh my, how wrong you are. Just wait, you’ll understand it later on.<\/p>\n

Vergonha e culpa<\/h4>\n

\u00c9 prov\u00e1vel que o c\u00f4njuge tra\u00eddo se culpe a si pr\u00f3prio.<\/strong> O parceiro traidor pode dizer-lhes coisas frustrantes<\/a> that will make them think it was all their fault. Their self-esteem will be damaged to the point where they’ll start thinking that their partner is right.<\/p>\n

Ser enganado descobre o seu segredo e as suas maiores inseguran\u00e7as.<\/strong> Come\u00e7amos a pensar que merecemos esse tipo de humilha\u00e7\u00e3o e, rapidamente, come\u00e7amos a sentir-nos envergonhados por causa disso.<\/p>\n

2. A fase do trauma.<\/h3>\n

Se encontrou vest\u00edgios de que o seu parceiro o est\u00e1 a trair no telem\u00f3vel<\/a> or you caught them in the act, it changes absolutely nothing. You’ll still experience it as a deep trauma for your emotional and mental health.<\/p>\n

Sentir-se zangado<\/h4>\n

Este \u00e9 um sentimento perfeitamente normal depois de descobrir que o seu parceiro lhe foi infiel. It’s your heart’s most natural response to being betrayed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You actually don’t feel angry because they were with another person. What pisses you off the most is the fact that they betrayed your love and the vows you made in front of God.<\/em><\/p>\n

Sentir emo\u00e7\u00f5es explosivas<\/h4>\n

You’ll feel a whole range of the most explosive emotions from anger to rage, even to some aggressive and violent emotional outbursts.<\/p>\n

In the beginning, you’ll be unable to control them, and it’ll damage your mental health deeply. However, once you cool down, you’ll be able to regain control over your emotions.<\/p>\n

Estar numa verdadeira montanha-russa emocional<\/h4>\n

You’ll most likely experience an emotional meltdown. Your moods will swing wildly and rapidly, and it’ll leave you confused and completely emotionally drained.<\/em><\/p>\n

3. A fase do luto.<\/h3>\n

This stage will occur once you finally accept the fact that you’ve been betrayed. You’ll get past all that defensiveness you were trying to build at the beginning, and you’ll finally understand that it’s okay to grieve<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Depress\u00e3o e ansiedade<\/h4>\n

Os constantes flashbacks e pensamentos intrusivos ir\u00e3o provavelmente desencadear uma perturba\u00e7\u00e3o de stress p\u00f3s-traum\u00e1tico (PTSD).<\/strong> You won’t be able to sleep, eat, or function the way you used to because you’ll be obsessing about your partner’s betrayal.<\/p>\n

When it comes to grief, there’s no structured way of how people cope with it.<\/em> Mas, uma coisa \u00e9 certa, todos n\u00f3s passamos por situa\u00e7\u00f5es graves depress\u00e3o<\/a> e epis\u00f3dios de ansiedade.<\/p>\n

Sentir-se emocionalmente destro\u00e7ado<\/h4>\n

You’ll feel like your heart is broken into a thousand pieces, and you’ll be afraid that you’ll never be able to pick them up and glue them back together.<\/em> But, fortunately, it’s just your response to the trauma you’ve experienced; it’s not the actual truth.<\/p>\n

4. A fase de aceita\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/h3>\n

Em a fase de aceita\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>, you’ll pick yourself up and try to find a way to move on.<\/strong> It’ll be the first and most important step in your recovery process.<\/p>\n

Coming to terms with your ‘new’ reality<\/h4>\n

Things are not like they used to be, and they’ll never be the same again… that’s a pure fact.<\/strong> Um facto que tem de aceitar e aceitar.<\/p>\n

Confrontar os seus pr\u00f3prios sentimentos<\/h4>\n

Whatever you’re feeling right now, you should know that it’s completely normal. Don’t suppress your feelings and hope it’ll speed up your recovery process.<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the contrary, it’ll only slow it down. Identifique as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es e enfrente-as.<\/strong> Be in control of your emotions or they’ll take full control over you.<\/em><\/p>\n

Procurar compreender<\/h4>\n

After you’ve confronted your own feelings and gathered the courage to accept them as they are, the next step is to confrontar o seu c\u00f4njuge infiel<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

I know that all you want is to understand what made them betray you in such a way. So, let them talk and just listen…<\/strong> without accusing, without judgments… just listen to their side of the story.<\/p>\n

5. A fase de recupera\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/h3>\n

E agora, \u00e9 aqui que o seu processo de recupera\u00e7\u00e3o de um caso come\u00e7a realmente. You still won’t be able to leave it in the past, but you’ll be on the right path to moving on.<\/em><\/p>\n

Curar as suas feridas emocionais<\/h4>\n

Depois de atravessar a porta da dor, pode agora abrir as portas da cura.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tens de ser gentil contigo mesmo porque o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o ainda est\u00e1 partido. You need to treat your emotional wounds with caution because they’re the worst ones… they’re the ones felt in the depths of your being.<\/em><\/p>\n

Focusing on what’s the most important; LOVE<\/h4>\n

Ainda se amam e querem salvar o seu casamento<\/a>… want to save your love. And, that is undoubtedly the most important thing…<\/strong> o \u00fanico ambos os parceiros devem concentrar-se em<\/a>.<\/p>\n

O casamento \u00e9 tudo menos f\u00e1cil. There will still be many bumps on your journey of togetherness, but as long as you’re traveling through it together and holding hands, you’ll be able to keep it on the right track.<\/em><\/p>\n

And, if you’re asking if it\u2019s worth giving your love a second chance… going from my own experience, sometimes segundas oportunidades<\/a> funcionam melhor do que as primeiras, porque assim temos o privil\u00e9gio de aprender com os nossos erros.<\/p>\n

6. A fase do novo compromisso.<\/h3>\n

In the last stage of your affair recovery process, you’ll need to indulge in rediscovering your relationship.<\/strong> This means you’ll have to shift your focus to rekindling your emotional and intimidade f\u00edsica<\/a>, restabelecer a confian\u00e7a e melhorar a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Reconstruir a confian\u00e7a<\/h4>\n

A primeira e mais importante coisa que precisam de trabalhar enquanto casal \u00e9 a reconstru\u00e7\u00e3o da confian\u00e7a.<\/em> Afinal de contas, a confian\u00e7a \u00e9 sempre mais influenciada por quest\u00f5es emocionais.<\/p>\n

Ambos os parceiros t\u00eam de estar dispostos a fazer o que for preciso para restabelecer a confian\u00e7a na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/strong> Without it, they’ll never be able to prosper together and get their marriage back on track.<\/p>\n

Dar um novo significado \u00e0 rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h4>\n

Passou por uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o terr\u00edvel. You experienced something that has nearly killed your marriage. Now, it’s important to draw a lesson out of it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Concentre-se em todas as coisas que quer melhorar na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Estabelecer limites fortes e claros<\/a>. Podem definitivamente transform\u00e1-lo no in\u00edcio de uma vida nova e muito mais bonita juntos.<\/em><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Como \u00e9 que a maioria dos relacionamentos emocionais termina (15 formas comuns)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Como sarar depois de um caso? (Para o casal)<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Heads up… mending your marriage and coping with infidelity won’t be easy.<\/strong> However, it’ll be worth it. If there’s true love, it’ll be worth the sacrifice… the effort… and all the hard work.<\/p>\n

Seguem-se os passos mais importantes para sobreviver \u00e0 infidelidade, que o levar\u00e3o \u00e0 cura total. N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio avan\u00e7ar passo a passo.<\/em> Na verdade, \u00e9 preciso dar passos de beb\u00e9 se quiser realmente fazer com que o seu casamento volte a funcionar.<\/p>\n

1. D\u00ea tempo ao seu processo de cura individual.<\/h3>\n

O c\u00f4njuge tra\u00eddo precisar\u00e1 provavelmente de mais tempo para sarar.<\/strong> They’re the wounded ones, and their healing will be significantly slower than that of the betrayer.<\/p>\n

Repairing a marriage is a two-person job. Both sides need to be included in that process, and they won’t be able to cooperate if they don’t heal properly.<\/strong> Constant flashbacks and all the pain they’re feeling might even make them think that it’s all worthless, and it might make them give up on fixing things.<\/em><\/p>\n

2. Melhorar a efic\u00e1cia da comunica\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/h3>\n

Sabia que uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o deficiente e pouco saud\u00e1vel \u00e9 a causa mais comum dos casos emocionais? Well, that’s not quite a shocking fact because effective communication is the fundamental basis of every healthy relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Assim, em vez de acusar o c\u00f4njuge de trai\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> e a atirar-lhes as culpas para cima, deve falar abertamente sobre o assunto com eles. Deve tentar compreender as suas raz\u00f5es para poderem trabalhar em conjunto na resolu\u00e7\u00e3o desses problemas.<\/em><\/p>\n

3. Encontrar a causa principal.<\/h3>\n

That’s it. You can’t find the cause of your partner’s infidelity if you don’t talk with them.<\/strong> And, you’ll never be able to understand their reasons if you don’t listen to them carefully.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 prov\u00e1vel que haja mais do que uma raz\u00e3o para isso ter acontecido. All those little things and problems that you didn’t talk through during the years have accumulated and made your partner choose the wrongest possible choice… finding comfort in another person.<\/em><\/p>\n

4. Reconhecer as consequ\u00eancias.<\/h3>\n

It’s possible for a marriage to recover from an affair; however, this doesn’t mean that infidelity won’t leave any consequences on the couple. To be completely honest, it’ll emotionally scar both partners for life and leave a chronic wound on their marriage.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O seu a confian\u00e7a foi quebrada<\/a>e a vossa intimidade tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 destru\u00edda. A reputa\u00e7\u00e3o do vosso casamento ser\u00e1 certamente afetada. No entanto, tudo isso s\u00e3o consequ\u00eancias dos vossos actos e erros, e agora ambos t\u00eam de ser respons\u00e1veis e apoiar os vossos actos.<\/em><\/p>\n

Como diz o t\u00edtulo de um dos livros da psic\u00f3loga cl\u00ednica, Dra. Margaret Rutherford: O casamento n\u00e3o \u00e9 para as galinhas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. Ambas as partes t\u00eam de admitir os seus erros.<\/h3>\n

You need to understand that whatever happens in a marriage, it’s never completely one partner’s fault.<\/strong> Constant blame-shifting won’t lead you anywhere, especially if both of you want to conserte o seu casamento<\/a> e dar-lhe outra oportunidade.<\/p>\n

The failure of a relationship or a marriage happens because partners neglect each other’s emotional needs, are not willing to make compromises, don’t communicate in a healthy way, and don’t put enough effort into nurturing their marriage.<\/em><\/p>\n

You may think I’m completely wrong right now, and you probably disagree with me, but it’s always a two-sided thing. I don’t say that you’re to blame for being cheated on (both of us know very well who is the main culprit)… I’m just saying that obsessing over whose fault it was won’t bring you any good.<\/strong><\/p>\n

6. Fazer repara\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/h3>\n

Perdoem-se uns aos outros.<\/strong> I know that this is easier said than done for the betrayed spouse, but it’s truly the most important step in your affair recovery process.<\/em><\/p>\n

No entanto, n\u00e3o tenha pressa. Forgiveness isn’t just something that needs to be said out loud. You need to feel deep down in your heart that you’re ready to forgive your partner and take them back into your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lembre-se que a principal carater\u00edstica das pessoas fortes \u00e9 a sua capacidade de perdoar os outros.<\/em><\/p>\n

E, o traidor precisa de saber que pedir desculpa<\/a> doesn’t cut it when it comes to infidelity.<\/strong> Pode pedir desculpa por ter feito batota<\/a> a million times, but if your actions don’t match your words, you’ll never earn forgiveness.<\/p>\n

7. Aceita\u00e7\u00e3o da pr\u00e1tica.<\/h3>\n

After you decide to forgive each other and leave it all behind you, the fact is that none of you will ever be able to forget about it completely. And, you shouldn’t.<\/em><\/p>\n

Esta foi uma grande li\u00e7\u00e3o para ambos e para o vosso casamento, e \u00e9 assim que a devem aceitar.<\/strong> Forgetting it means you’re forgetting the lesson, too. And, that could lead to repeating the same scenario all over again.<\/p>\n

8. Crie um plano de a\u00e7\u00e3o para reparar o seu casamento.<\/h3>\n

J\u00e1 referi que \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio avan\u00e7ar passo a passo se quiser corrigir as coisas e resolver o seu casamento. Isso significa que deve fazer um plano e definir claramente cada um desses passos. Fa\u00e7a um lista de necessidades de relacionamento<\/a> tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

O casamento \u00e9 uma viagem de duas pessoas que concordaram em viajar juntas para sempre.<\/strong> And now, you’ve got a little lost on that journey, and you simply need to create a roadmap that will help you return to the right path.<\/em><\/p>\n

9. Trabalhar na reconstru\u00e7\u00e3o da confian\u00e7a.<\/h3>\n

A confian\u00e7a \u00e9 um dos elementos mais importantes para a constru\u00e7\u00e3o de uma sociedade saud\u00e1vel e rela\u00e7\u00e3o de compromisso<\/a>. Without it, it’s impossible to maintain uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a>, and it’ll all go down like a ton of bricks.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00c9 prov\u00e1vel que o c\u00f4njuge tra\u00eddo tenha perdido completamente a confian\u00e7a no seu parceiro infiel.<\/strong> E, por muito que queiram resolver as coisas com o c\u00f4njuge<\/a>, they just can’t let go of the feeling that they’ll never be able to trust their partner again.<\/p>\n

That’s why the first thing you’ll need to focus on in your journey of fixing your marriage is rebuilding trust.<\/strong> And, the best way to do this is to start from the beginning… to behave like you two have just met.<\/p>\n

10. Procurar ajuda numa terapia de casais.<\/h3>\n

If you can’t deal with it alone, you should try aconselhamento de casais<\/a>. Pode frequentar um curso em linha ou marcar uma consulta presencial com um terapeuta de casais.<\/p>\n

The important thing is to seek advice from experts. They’ll tell you how to direct your healing and rebuild trust in your marriage again.<\/em><\/p>\n

“Trust is an obvious issue, and is vital to regain. But, if both partners are committed to reconciling the marriage, or at least to try, then consultar um terapeuta de casais<\/a> together is most helpful,”<\/em> diz a psic\u00f3loga cl\u00ednica, Dra. Margaret Rutherford.<\/p>\n

A cura da infidelidade (Para o parceiro tra\u00eddo)<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

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Ser enganado e tra\u00eddo por algu\u00e9m que se ama verdadeiramente \u00e9, sem d\u00favida, a experi\u00eancia mais dolorosa por que uma pessoa pode passar.<\/em> Afecta a sua autoestima e a sua sa\u00fade emocional e mental e deixa-o marcado para o resto da vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s not like a physical wound because those kinds of wounds can be treated easily. Unfortunately, you can’t put a band-aid on your heart and hope it’ll heal.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Emotional wounds take time and demand very gentle treatment. And, the absolute worst thing is that nobody can guarantee you that you’ll ever be cured completely.<\/em> Eis algumas dicas que o ajudar\u00e3o a lidar com a trai\u00e7\u00e3o e a curar-se devidamente.<\/p>\n

1. Understand that it wasn’t your fault!<\/h3>\n

The betrayed partner starts questioning literally everything after they’ve been cheated on. They even start wondering if they did something wrong… something that made their partner hurt them in this awful way.<\/strong> Sei-o muito bem porque tamb\u00e9m j\u00e1 fui o parceiro tra\u00eddo.<\/p>\n

But, the truth is that no matter what you did, you didn’t deserve to get your heart broken. O teu \u00fanico erro \u00e9 dar a algu\u00e9m esse tipo de poder para te arruinar, mas, mais uma vez, isso \u00e9 amor.<\/em><\/p>\n

2. A auto-culpa s\u00f3 o levar\u00e1 \u00e0 auto-destrui\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/h3>\n

Oh, se ao menos algu\u00e9m estivesse l\u00e1 para me dizer isto e me avisar antes de eu me envolver completamente na auto-destrui\u00e7\u00e3o. Culpei-me durante demasiado tempo, o que prejudicou a minha sa\u00fade mental.<\/strong> Isso fez-me sentir deprimido e ansioso.<\/p>\n

If you’re blaming yourself, too, I can only say that you’re addressing it in the wrong way.<\/em> A \u00fanica pessoa que merece ser culpada \u00e9 o seu parceiro infiel que a fez sentir-se assim.<\/p>\n

3. Permita-se fazer o luto.<\/h3>\n

Even the strongest and most courageous people are vulnerable. Even they cry sometimes, and they can’t handle that pain in their chest after their loved one hurts them.<\/em> Porque a verdade \u00e9 que o amor torna-nos a todos fracos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You’ll never be able to recover properly if you don’t get it all out of yourself. Cry your heart out and scream from the top of your lungs…<\/strong> sometimes, it’s truly the price we have to pay for true love.<\/p>\n

4. Coloca-te em primeiro lugar.<\/h3>\n

Love is important… heck, it’s the most important thing in the world.<\/em> A corre\u00e7\u00e3o do vosso casamento tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 importante.<\/p>\n

But, right now, you’re trying to heal yourself. That makes you more important than both of those things. \u00c9 preciso concentrar-se em si pr\u00f3prio, ouvir o que a sua mente tem para lhe dizer e fazer o que o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o lhe pede para fazer.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. Aceite as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es, mesmo as negativas.<\/h3>\n

Durante o processo de cura, todos os tipos de emo\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o bem-vindos.<\/strong> O pior que se pode fazer \u00e9 tentar engarraf\u00e1-los dentro de n\u00f3s e fingir que nada est\u00e1 a acontecer.<\/p>\n

Because it’s happening. It’s the reality. And, the more you try to deny it, the more it’ll haunt you. The more you try to suppress your feelings, the more painful they will become.<\/em><\/p>\n

You’ve been betrayed, and you have every right to be pissed off. You’ve been hurt, so it’s completely normal to feel sad and broken. Accept your emotions just the way they are currently, and have faith that they’ll change soon.<\/p>\n

6. Partilhe a sua dor com um amigo pr\u00f3ximo.<\/h3>\n

Tente criar o seu pr\u00f3prio grupo de apoio.<\/strong> You can confide in your best friend or in a family member… it’s irrelevant. The only important thing is to talk about it.<\/p>\n

Don’t keep things like this to yourself. Don’t continue to suppress your innermost feelings because that definitely won’t make them go away.<\/em> Right now, you need a shoulder to lean on, and that’s exactly what best friends are for, right?<\/strong><\/p>\n

7. As coisas v\u00e3o ser m\u00e1s durante algum tempo, por isso tenta n\u00e3o te perderes.<\/h3>\n

I don’t know how many times I’ll repeat it, but it’s really the truth. And, the sooner you accept it, the sooner you’ll be able to heal. O processo de cura leva tempo e n\u00e3o pode ser feito de um dia para o outro.<\/em><\/p>\n

There are many stages of grieving and healing you’ll have to go through, and I really don’t want to lie to you; a hell of a difficult time is in front of you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even when you start thinking that you’ve recovered fully, you’ll experience some bad flashbacks, and it’ll only prove to you that you still need time.<\/em> Stay strong and stay true to yourself. It’s a fact that many people tend to lose themselves in this process.<\/p>\n

8. Ama-te mais, apesar de todas as coisas que tentam deitar-te abaixo.<\/h3>\n

You’re strong. You’re powerful. You’re good enough… heck, you’re better than that. You’re a magically unique human being capable of achieving some great things in life.<\/em> Don’t ever let anyone or anything diminish your power.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ama-te mais a ti pr\u00f3prio. Sempre. Don’t let this experience make a victim out of you. You’re a freaking hero, and don’t ever allow anyone to make you think otherwise.<\/strong><\/p>\n

9. Fazer uma pequena pausa do mundo.<\/h3>\n

Right now, the only thing you need to do is focus on yourself… on your healing. That’s why the best thing would be to deactivate your social media accounts, and also, disconnect from real life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso estar sozinho com os seus pr\u00f3prios pensamentos e sentimentos.<\/em> \u00c9 preciso tomar algumas decis\u00f5es; decis\u00f5es muito importantes que ir\u00e3o influenciar a sua vida a muitos n\u00edveis.<\/p>\n

Precisa de refor\u00e7ar a sua auto-rela\u00e7\u00e3o e aprender a amar-se de novo.<\/strong> Precisa de se livrar de toda a negatividade que tem andado \u00e0 sua volta e libertar-se de toda a amargura e rancor.<\/p>\n

10. Perdoar. Para sua pr\u00f3pria paz de esp\u00edrito, perdoe-lhes.<\/h3>\n

Even if you decide that you can’t move on with your relationship and leave this thing in the past, you should still perdoar o seu traidor<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

I know it sounds impossible right now because there are still so many unresolved things and feelings between you. However, until you come to this final stage of your healing process, you won\u2019t understand what I am talking about.<\/p>\n

O perd\u00e3o \u00e9 uma parte essencial da sua cura.<\/strong> It actually has nothing to do with the other person. It’s something you need to do for your own well-being. It’s how you’ll unshackle yourself from all that resentment, bitterness, and, most importantly, hate.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lembra-te que, por muito que algu\u00e9m te tenha magoado, nunca envenenar\u00e1s o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o com \u00f3dio.<\/em> Don’t dye your beautiful pink heart with those ugly dark colors.<\/p>\n

Os casamentos podem funcionar depois de um caso amoroso?<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

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Claro que podem. Na verdade, por muito que isto possa parecer uma loucura, pode realmente aproximar um casal e tornar a sua liga\u00e7\u00e3o mais forte.<\/strong> E as estat\u00edsticas provam-no definitivamente.<\/p>\n

Sobreviver a uma infidelidade \u00e9 dif\u00edcil. Mending your marriage after an affair is an arduous journey. But, it’s definitely possible. Needless to say, ONLY if both parties are willing to work on it and put immense effort into fixing their marriage.<\/em><\/p>\n

Just don’t let this define your marriage…<\/h3>\n

Depois de fazerem as pazes e concordarem em deixar o assunto no passado, o mais importante \u00e9 virar uma nova p\u00e1gina no vosso casamento. The truth is, all marriages have ups and downs, and if you allow those ‘downs’ to define your entire relationship, it’ll be impossible to maintain it.<\/em><\/p>\n

Well, my marriage is also a great real-life example that a marriage can work after going through the hell called ‘caso emocional<\/a>‘.<\/p>\n

My surviving infidelity testimonial goes like this…<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1vamos casados h\u00e1 7 anos quando isso nos aconteceu. Bem, esses s\u00e3o os anos mais dif\u00edceis de um casamento, ou como a maioria dos especialistas lhe chama, a comich\u00e3o dos sete anos.<\/em><\/p>\n

Para resumir a hist\u00f3ria, o meu parceiro traiu-me e eu sentia que o meu mundo estava a desmoronar-se.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Para ser sincera, no in\u00edcio, odiava-o do fundo do meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o. Nunca mais o queria ver. I didn’t want my husband to touch me<\/a> nem lhe queria dar uma oportunidade de falar comigo.<\/p>\n

I was a strong believer of all that ‘once a cheater \/ always a cheater’ crap.<\/strong> I thought that as much as my love is strong, it’ll never be strong enough to change my unfaithful partner.<\/p>\n

And, I really thought that even if we give our marriage another try, it’ll never be able to function like it used to… that we’ll never be able to move from it completely.<\/em><\/p>\n

Em vez disso, deixe que ela lhe d\u00ea um significado totalmente novo!<\/h3>\n

E, felizmente, apercebi-me a tempo de como esta forma de pensar \u00e9, de facto, errada. Comecei a olhar para tudo isto como uma enorme tenta\u00e7\u00e3o de Deus.<\/strong> I started to feel like it was just the way the universe was testing us… our love.<\/em><\/p>\n

After some time, after I allowed myself to grieve, and eventually, to heal… and after so many tries of my desperate husband to convince me he’s feeling guilty<\/a> and repentful… Decidi dar-lhe uma segunda oportunidade.<\/em><\/p>\n

Decidi dar outra oportunidade ao nosso casamento. Eu ainda o amava<\/a>e eu queria lutar por esse amor.<\/em><\/p>\n

That’s when we understood how infeliz e pouco saud\u00e1vel o nosso casamento<\/a> actually was before all of it happened. This awful experience also made us understand how strong our bond is despite everything, and it showed us and the rest of the world that we’re meant to be together… Forever.<\/p>\n

And, guess what… 5 years afterward, we’re still happily married, and I’m now surer than ever that we’ll have that \u2018happily ever after\u2019…<\/strong><\/p>\n

Qual \u00e9 a percentagem de casamentos que resulta ap\u00f3s um caso?<\/h3>\n

Encontrar a percentagem exacta de quantos casamentos conseguiram funcionar depois de um ou ambos os parceiros terem sido infi\u00e9is \u00e9 uma tarefa dif\u00edcil.<\/em><\/p>\n

No entanto, os inqu\u00e9ritos nacionais mostram que cerca de 40 a 50% dos div\u00f3rcios ocorreram devido a infidelidade. E 20 a 40% dos casais que foram v\u00edtimas de infidelidade conseguiram manter-se juntos e resolver o seu casamento.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, os inqu\u00e9ritos revelam que a maioria dos parceiros que decidem ficar com o c\u00f4njuge infiel s\u00e3o mulheres.<\/strong> In most cases, it’s because of the children, but it could also be because of financial reasons or the fear of being single again.<\/p>\n

Men, in general, aren’t so good with forgiveness. Quando um homem descobre que o seu a mulher est\u00e1 a tra\u00ed-lo<\/a>O amor transforma-se rapidamente em \u00f3dio.<\/strong> He is unable to gather the strength to forgive his spouse, and that’s when their marriage ends for good.<\/p>\n

Principais conclus\u00f5es sobre a recupera\u00e7\u00e3o da infidelidade<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 duas coisas que tem de compreender sobre o processo de recupera\u00e7\u00e3o de um caso: demora tempo e exige muita paci\u00eancia, compreens\u00e3o e esfor\u00e7o de ambos os c\u00f4njuges.<\/em><\/p>\n

The good news (and the only one you should be focusing on) is that it’s possible to recover from infidelity. It’s possible to consertar o seu casamento<\/a> e salvar o vosso amor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00f3 precisa de o querer com for\u00e7a suficiente. E, claro, ter f\u00e9 no poder do amor porque, de facto, o verdadeiro amor cura e \u00e9 capaz de enfrentar e ultrapassar at\u00e9 os obst\u00e1culos mais dif\u00edceis.<\/p>\n

I’m cheering for your love, and I hope you’ll accept the blessing of envelhecer juntos<\/a>…<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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