Let’s be real \u2013 sometimes, we’re all guilty of passive-aggressive behavior. I know I am, even though I’m aware of how toxic it is.<\/p>\n
H\u00e1 situa\u00e7\u00f5es em que parece mais f\u00e1cil ficar em sil\u00eancio ou amuar do que fazer a coisa emocionalmente madura e expressar as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es de forma saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n
As long as it doesn’t happen frequently and you identify it as harmful, there is probably nothing to be worried about.<\/p>\n
But what if you’re dealing with someone who is completely unaware of their behavioral patterns?<\/strong><\/p>\n Como \u00e9 que se lida com um parceiro rom\u00e2ntico cuja principal forma de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 a agress\u00e3o passiva?<\/strong><\/p>\n Espera, o que \u00e9 que significa passivo-agressivo? A Mayo Clinic define passivo-agressivo<\/a> comportamento como “a pattern of indirectly expressing negative feelings instead of openly addressing them.”<\/strong><\/p>\n When you get in an argument with a passive-aggressive individual, you’ll never get them to respond. They won’t tell you what’s bothering them, nor will they name your mistakes out loud.<\/p>\n Instead, what you’ll get is something else: the silent treatment and sulking. You’ll see that they’re in a bad mood and that something is wrong, but not one word will come out of their mouth.<\/p>\n Os casais que lutam constantemente numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e t\u00eam a Segunda Guerra Mundial a decorrer todos os dias podem pensar que isto \u00e9 refrescante depois de todo o drama. Mas acredita em mim, isto \u00e9 uma bandeira vermelha!<\/strong><\/p>\n Manter as emo\u00e7\u00f5es reprimidas<\/a>A comunica\u00e7\u00e3o direta, incluindo os sentimentos de raiva, n\u00e3o \u00e9 saud\u00e1vel. Todas as formas de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o direta, que por vezes incluem discuss\u00f5es, s\u00e3o melhores do que as formas passivo-agressivas de lidar com as coisas.<\/strong><\/p>\n Como lidar com isso?<\/p>\n If you’re in a rela\u00e7\u00e3o passivo-agressiva<\/a>, your partner has to improve their communication skills \u2013 that’s pretty clear. But they can’t do it without your help.<\/p>\n A melhor coisa a fazer \u00e9 deix\u00e1-los arrefecer um pouco e dar-lhes espa\u00e7o<\/a>. Don’t ask for answers right away, and let the situation calm down before engaging in another confrontation.<\/strong><\/p>\n After enough time has passed, go back to the passive-aggressive individual and tell them that you want to acknowledge their feelings. Tell them that they’re being heard and encourage them to speak up.<\/p>\n Another example of passive-aggressive behavior is the excessive use of sarcasm and irony. Let’s be honest \u2013 we all use it from time to time, but the difference here is that people who suffer from passive-aggressive disorder use sarcasm to mask their true feelings.<\/p>\n Em vez de o criticarem abertamente, insultam-no subtilmente. Ao mesmo tempo, esperam que perceba a dica e mude magicamente o que as est\u00e1 a incomodar.<\/strong><\/p>\n Let’s take this as an example: Your co-worker, family member, or partner doesn’t like your outfit choice for the day.<\/p>\n But when you ask them what they think about it, they’ll say something like, “Oh, your sweater is really nice. Did you borrow it from your grandma?” or “I like it. But I didn’t know the 80s are back in style.”<\/p>\n Como lidar com isso?<\/p>\n A pior ideia \u00e9 seguir o fluxo e responder com outra piada sarc\u00e1stica. Eu sei que quer dar-lhes a provar do seu pr\u00f3prio rem\u00e9dio, mas acredite que isso vai aprofundar ainda mais o conflito.<\/p>\n Instead, let them know that you’re perfectly aware of what they’re doing. Tell them loud and clear that they’re allowed to express their opinion without insulting you.<\/strong><\/p>\n Os sinais comuns de agress\u00e3o passiva s\u00e3o a teimosia, o mau humor e o comportamento hostil.<\/p>\n De facto, em 2009, uma equipa de especialistas realizou um estudo. Psiquiatria Processos interpessoais e biol\u00f3gicos: A Validade de Constru\u00e7\u00e3o da Perturba\u00e7\u00e3o de Personalidade Passivo-Agressiva,<\/em> em pacientes que sofrem de dist\u00farbio passivo-agressivo.<\/strong><\/p>\n E adivinha? A maior parte deles era rabugenta e argumentativa.<\/strong><\/p>\n To be honest, we’re all guilty of this from time to time. Nevertheless, when these responses become the only form of opposition a person is able to display, that’s definitely a red flag.<\/strong><\/p>\n O que significa isto numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica? Bem, tem certas exig\u00eancias em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao seu parceiro.<\/p>\n And it’s perfectly normal that they disagree with some of your conditions or are unable to meet as suas normas<\/a>. That’s not the issue \u2013 the issue is that they won’t say anything about it.<\/p>\n Instead, they’ll begin to fail even more, just in spite. Also, they’ll get all gloomy and sad without telling you the real reason behind this type of behavior.<\/p>\n Como lidar com isso?<\/p>\n O melhor conselho que lhe posso dar \u00e9 Escolhe as tuas batalhas. Se queres tentar e corrigir esta rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>, keep in mind that you can’t change this about your partner, so don’t lose it over every little thing they get stubborn or hostile about.<\/strong><\/p>\n De acordo com alguns estudos cient\u00edficos, existe uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o estreita entre a agressividade passiva e a perturba\u00e7\u00e3o da personalidade negativista. As pessoas passivo-agressivas s\u00e3o geralmente tamb\u00e9m pessimistas e raramente v\u00eaem algo de positivo na vida.<\/p>\n Para simplificar: as pessoas passivo-agressivas est\u00e3o sempre a queixar-se. Mas raramente protestam contra algo espec\u00edfico.<\/strong><\/p>\n Na verdade, est\u00e3o sempre a queixar-se e a resmungar.<\/strong> They’re obviously not happy with their own mental well-being but refuse to do anything about it.<\/p>\n Instead, they prefer spreading their negative energy all over the place and destroying everyone else’s wellness in the process.<\/p>\n Como lidar com isso?<\/p>\n If negativity is one of your partner’s predominant personality traits, the most important thing is not to let it get you. Don’t let their negativity take what’s best from you.<\/strong><\/p>\n Entretanto, pode sempre dar o seu melhor para lhes mostrar toda a beleza que a vida tem para oferecer.<\/p>\n It’s perfectly normal to feel resentful from time to time, especially when we’ve been treated unfairly. Nevertheless, it’s unfair to claim that everything is fine when you’re actually holding a grudge about something that went on ages ago.<\/p>\n That’s exactly what your partner does. They’re frustrated and bitter but refuse to admit it. And when you call them out on their behavior, they accuse you of being crazy.<\/strong><\/p>\n You’re nowhere near perfection, and you admit that you made a mistake in the past. But if they say they forgave you, should that really be held against you for the rest of your life?<\/p>\n De modo algum!<\/p>\n Como lidar com isso?<\/p>\n Antes de mais, fa\u00e7a o seu melhor para corrigir os seus erros. Mas se sabes que pediste desculpa e fizeste tudo o que estava ao teu alcance para mostrar remorsos, ignora os seus modos passivo-agressivos.<\/strong> Don’t let your SO make you feel guilty about something they allegedly forgave you for.<\/p>\n Passive aggression is frequently connected with a narcissistic personality disorder. To be exact, it’s one of the symptoms of covert narcisismo passivo-agressivo<\/a>.<\/p>\n If you’re dealing with this type of narcissist, they’ll use all of their energy to make you feel less worthy. They’ll put a lot of effort into lowering your self-esteem and eventually destroying your mental well-being.<\/p>\n The trick is that they won’t use direct insults \u2013 at least, not at first. But have you ever heard of something called backhanded compliments? It\u2019s an even more efficient tool for killing someone’s self-esteem.<\/strong><\/p>\n Basicamente, um elogio indireto \u00e9 uma mistura perfeita de um elogio e de um insulto. Por exemplo, se fores promovido, o teu parceiro narcisista dir\u00e1 algo como isto:<\/p>\n “I didn’t expect you to get that promotion. Well done”.<\/p>\n Do you see what they did there? At first glance, they congratulated you, but actually, they showed that they never believed in you or that you didn’t deserve it.<\/p>\n The problem is that most victims don’t get this right away. Instead, their partners have been sabotaging them for years with the help of these and similar t\u00e9cnicas de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n Quando damos por isso, deixamos de acreditar em n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios. Pensamos que nada do que fazemos \u00e9 suficientemente bom e o nosso sentido de autoestima fica arruinado.<\/p>\n Como lidar com isso?<\/p>\n O melhor \u00e9 sair desta situa\u00e7\u00e3o o mais rapidamente poss\u00edvel. Mas eu sei que ultrapassar um narcisista<\/a> \u00e9 um processo, por isso, at\u00e9 isso acontecer, trabalhe a sua confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\n Remember that nobody is more important than your mental health and wellness. Instead of focusing on their insults, focus on all the good things you’ve achieved.<\/strong><\/p>\n Keep in mind that someone else’s opinion can never define who you are. Besides, your partner obviously sees that you’re way better than them; otherwise, they wouldn’t have felt the need to devalue your worth at all costs.<\/p>\n1. Tratamento silencioso<\/h2>\n
2. Sarcasmo e ironia<\/h2>\n
3. Teimosia e mau humor<\/h2>\n
4. Queixas constantes<\/h2>\n
5. Negar o ressentimento<\/h2>\n
6. Desvaloriza\u00e7\u00e3o da v\u00edtima<\/h2>\n
7. Procrastina\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n