{"id":137220,"date":"2021-10-27T17:59:42","date_gmt":"2021-10-27T17:59:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=137220"},"modified":"2022-07-06T09:24:05","modified_gmt":"2022-07-06T09:24:05","slug":"deve-beijar-se-no-primeiro-encontro","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/deve-beijar-se-no-primeiro-encontro\/","title":{"rendered":"Deve beijar-se no primeiro encontro? 10 sins e n\u00e3os explicados"},"content":{"rendered":"

You’re getting ready for the primeiro encontro<\/a> Quando se encontra com um novo rapaz ou rapariga, dezenas de perguntas passam-lhe pela cabe\u00e7a. De que \u00e9 que v\u00e3o falar? Ser\u00e1 que vais gostar dele?<\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 que como tu<\/a>? E se houver sil\u00eancio constrangedor<\/a>? What if they don’t show up? What should you do to make a good first impression?<\/p>\n

Sounds familiar, I know. Well, the truth is that we’ve all been there.<\/p>\n

E, para al\u00e9m de tudo isto, h\u00e1 a quest\u00e3o final: Deve <\/b>beija-se no primeiro encontro<\/b>? The fact is that some people do, some don\u2019t.<\/b><\/p>\n

But is it obligatory to smooch when you first meet someone? What if you don’t like them enough? Or is it better to wait and see <\/b>se haver\u00e1 um <\/b>segundo encontro<\/b><\/a>?<\/b><\/p>\n

Well, luckily for your love life, your troubles have come to an end. I’m here to give you some dating tips to help you resolve this dilemma.<\/p>\n

Not only that \u2013 some daters will also share their experience with you \u2013 to help you get a broader perspective on things.<\/p>\n

5 raz\u00f5es para beijar no primeiro encontro<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

For starters, here are some reasons why people kiss on first dates. You don’t know \u2013 maybe one of these pros is exactly what you need to head in the right direction.<\/p>\n

1. Pensar demasiado \u00e9 sobrevalorizado<\/h3>\n

Is it okay to kiss on the first date? What if this is the last time you see each other? What if they get the impression that you’re crazy for them?<\/p>\n

E se eles perderem o interesse depois de os beijar? E se eles s\u00f3 te virem como um engate, mas tu quiseres algo mais?<\/p>\n

Yes, you could be racking your brain with all of these questions. But what’s the point?<\/p>\n

Will overthinking help you with the outcome? It most certainly won’t. In fact, it’s more likely to destroy your relationship before it even starts.<\/b><\/p>\n

That’s exactly why it’s much better to do your best and turn off your brain and follow your gut. I’m not saying that you should make reckless decisions, but hey, did one kiss ever really harm anyone?<\/p>\n

I don’t think so. Just go with the flow and see where the night takes you!<\/p>\n

2. H\u00e1 muita qu\u00edmica<\/h3>\n

Por vezes, a pessoa fica cativada pela outra desde o in\u00edcio. Seria um exagero chamar-lhe amor \u00e0 primeira vista<\/a>, but it’s definitely chemistry at first sight.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 muito tempo que se prolonga <\/b>contacto visual<\/b>, “accidental” physical contact, and all the other non-verbal signs that you’re both into each other. Don’t pretend like the tension between you two isn’t real.<\/b><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 muito racioc\u00ednio por detr\u00e1s disto. Sente-se a qu\u00edmica e s\u00f3 se quer beijar.<\/p>\n

So, why wouldn’t you do exactly that? Wait until your date is over or just start kissing right there. What’s the worst that could happen?<\/p>\n

3. You’re testing the waters<\/h3>\n

Have you ever been in a situation where you’re not sure se gosta ou n\u00e3o do seu par<\/a>? Maybe you’ve met them on an <\/b>aplica\u00e7\u00e3o de encontros online<\/b>,<\/b> e as coisas s\u00e3o de alguma forma diferentes agora que as vemos pessoalmente.<\/b><\/p>\n

Or maybe you just have mixed feelings about them. Don’t worry, that’s perfectly normal, and it happens to everyone.<\/b><\/p>\n

In that case, the first smooch is exactly what you need. It will help you test the waters and realize whether there’s enough chemistry for you to even consider a second one.<\/p>\n

4. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 melhor sinal n\u00e3o-verbal<\/h3>\n

If you’re not much into talking and hate dizer a algu\u00e9m o quanto gosta dessa pessoa<\/a>beij\u00e1-los \u00e9 a melhor maneira de mostrar os seus sentimentos.<\/p>\n

You don’t need to come up with a um monte de elogios<\/a>, and you don’t have to worry about finding the right words \u2013 your lips will do all the talking for you.<\/p>\n

Trust me \u2013 sometimes, it’s easier (and more effective) to express yourself with <\/b>linguagem corporal<\/b> sinais do que verbalmente.<\/b><\/p>\n

5. Apetece-lhe<\/h3>\n

At the end of the day, do you really need a reason for kissing? You just feel like it, and that’s reason enough.<\/p>\n

Of course, what matters here is mutual consent. It’s crucial to <\/b>prestar aten\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b> to the other person’s non-verbal signals before making a move.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 um simples beijar de l\u00e1bios, ou partilhar\u00e3o um apaixonado beijo franc\u00eas? E quanto ao vosso coloca\u00e7\u00e3o das m\u00e3os<\/a>? Will it be just a kiss, or will it end up in making out? It’s only up to you two!<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Como confirmar um encontro: 9 dicas e exemplos de textos<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

5 raz\u00f5es para n\u00e3o beijar no primeiro encontro<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Now that we’ve covered the fors, it’s time to pay attention to the reasons kissing on the first date is not the best idea in the world.<\/p>\n

1. You don’t feel ready<\/h3>\n

It’s okay not to feel ready to kiss someone on the first date or just not to be in the mood for it. Your personal boundaries are important, and please, don’t allow anyone to cross them.<\/b><\/p>\n

Don’t do anything just because you feel forced to do it. You’re still allowed to like the other person without having the need to kiss them \u2013 that’s your right.<\/b><\/p>\n

Finally, keep in mind that you don’t need to justify your actions to anyone. If they make the first move, step back or politely tell them that you want to wait \u2013 without any guilt trips included.<\/p>\n

2. You don’t want to send the wrong message<\/h3>\n

You have a feeling that this guy or girl you’ve started seeing will be special. And you don’t want to ruin things by rushing anything.<\/p>\n

Quer que o levem a s\u00e9rio e prefere esperar pela sua <\/b>primeiro beijo<\/b> para ser especial e rom\u00e2ntico.<\/b><\/p>\n

That’s also a valid reason not to kiss on the <\/b>primeiro encontro<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

3. Um abra\u00e7o \u00e9 mais do que suficiente<\/h3>\n

Por vezes, um simples abra\u00e7o<\/a> can be more intimate than an actual kiss. Or you just feel like that’s too intimate for your first encounter.<\/p>\n

In that case, be the one to lean in for a hug when you’re saying goodbye before you give them a chance to try and kiss you. Of course, there are <\/b>diferentes tipos de abra\u00e7os<\/b><\/a> \u2013 you should hold them a bit tighter and a bit longer, so they get the message.<\/b><\/p>\n

You’ll show them that you like them and that you’re comfortable with being physically close to them. At the same time, you’ll send a message that you want to wait a bit longer for the first kiss to happen.<\/p>\n

4. You’re afraid of rejection<\/h3>\n

Making the first move takes a lot of courage, and don’t let anyone tell you differently. If you want to kiss the other person, but you’re not sure if they want the same, I would always advise you to go for it.<\/p>\n

At least, you’ll know you tried and went after what you wanted.<\/p>\n

No entanto, if you’re insecure about doing it and have trouble reading their non-verbal signals, it may be better to wait for a better opportunity. Maybe next time you’ll feel more confident, or they’ll show you more signs that <\/b>querem beijar-se<\/b><\/a> de volta.<\/b><\/p>\n

5. It’s too intimate<\/h3>\n

For many, kissing is not such a big deal. But for you, it’s an intimate act, and you don’t enjoy locking lips with guys or girls who are practically strangers.<\/p>\n

In that case, the answer to the question of, \u201cShould you kiss on the first date?\u201d is definitely no. Espere at\u00e9 conhecer melhor a outra pessoa e se sentir confort\u00e1vel <\/b>beijar<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: O que enviar a um rapaz depois de um primeiro encontro: 70 melhores exemplos de textos<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Beija-se no primeiro encontro?<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

To get the right picture, I’ve asked a couple of daters (both men and women) to talk to me about their habits and experience regarding first dates and first kisses. Here is what they’ve revealed:<\/p>\n

O segundo encontro \u00e9 um encanto<\/h3>\n

“Personally, Penso que o <\/b>primeiro encontro<\/b> \u00e9 demasiado cedo.<\/b> Maybe it’s just me, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable kissing a stranger.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, de acordo com a minha experi\u00eancia, a maioria dos homens vai gostar mais de si se se fizer de dif\u00edcil no in\u00edcio.<\/p>\n

Mas raramente fico \u00e0 espera do <\/b>terceiro encontro<\/b> because, let’s face it, a guy could get the impression I don’t like him until then.<\/b><\/p>\n

That’s why I think that the beijo no segundo encontro<\/a> is perfect. Not too soon, not too late!”<\/p>\n

– Julia, 33<\/i><\/p>\n

Porque n\u00e3o?<\/h3>\n

“Doesn’t everyone kiss on the first date? Well, at the end of the date, if nothing else :chuckles:<\/p>\n

If you ask me: should you kiss on the first date? \u2013 I ask you: why shouldn’t you? <\/b>That is, if you feel like it, of course. After all, what is there to lose?”<\/p>\n

– Amy, 29<\/i><\/p>\n

Tudo depende<\/h3>\n

“Well, I can’t really give you a concrete answer. You see, it’s one thing if I went out with a guy I met on an <\/b>aplica\u00e7\u00e3o de encontros online<\/b> and haven’t had the chance to talk too much before the date.<\/b><\/p>\n

In that case, I probably won’t kiss him.<\/b><\/p>\n

But if I’m going out on a date with a friend of a friend I’ve been texting for a while, then, yes, I wouldn’t mind kissing him.<\/b><\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, depende do tipo de data. \u00c9 uma <\/b>encontro para caf\u00e9<\/b>? Ou estamos no cinema?<\/b><\/p>\n

And let’s not forget about body language. If there is some serious eye contact, and if he sends me the vibe of a good kisser, I’d definitely step up my game and take things to the next level.”<\/p>\n

– Nikkie, 22<\/i><\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que h\u00e1 para esperar?<\/h3>\n

“Absolutely! Nada me excita mais do que uma boa <\/b>Beijo franc\u00eas<\/b> no <\/b>fim da noite<\/b>. Sair com algu\u00e9m no <\/b>primeiro encontro significa<\/b> that you’re, if nothing else, attracted to them enough to kiss them.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s my job to make the first move, but hey, if she isn’t down for a smooch, it’s no big deal. I’ll take it like a man and accept it as the end of the night without a problem.”<\/p>\n

– Steve, 38<\/i><\/p>\n

Testar as \u00e1guas \u00e9 a melhor maneira de o fazer<\/h3>\n

“Who doesn’t enjoy a good kiss, especially if it ends up with alguns amassos<\/a> e namorar<\/a>? Eu sei que sim.<\/p>\n

Ao mesmo tempo, I also make sure to respect my date’s boundaries.<\/b> I pay attention to her body language signs and do my best to determine whether she’s down for it as well.<\/p>\n

A \u00faltima coisa que quero \u00e9 tornar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o desconfort\u00e1vel. <\/b>Trust me \u2013 there is nothing worse than leaning in for a kiss on the mouth and having a girl give you a beijo na bochecha<\/a>.<\/p>\n

But if that happens, what can you do? It certainly won’t discourage me. I get it: some girls are shy and have a strict policy of no kissing when they first meet on a date.”<\/p>\n

– Mark, 27<\/i><\/p>\n

Is it bad if you don’t kiss on the first date?<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Some people prefer taking things slow, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. It doesn’t mean that they don’t like you if they don’t initiate the <\/b>primeiro beijo<\/b> no <\/b>primeiro encontro<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que isto \u00e9 apenas o in\u00edcio e que h\u00e1 muito tempo para desenvolverem uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o significativa que terminar\u00e1 com um beijo.<\/p>\n

Um beijo no primeiro encontro \u00e9 um bom sinal?<\/h2>\n

Um beijo (ou qualquer outra forma de contacto f\u00edsico) num primeiro encontro n\u00e3o \u00e9 apenas um bom sinal de que algu\u00e9m gosta de si<\/a> \u2013 it’s a great sign. If they want to kiss you right after meeting you, it’s a signal that the attraction they feel for you is so strong that they can’t wait to see you again.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s definitely a sign that they like you and want something more. Of course, it’s up to both of you to take the wheel and drive this romance in the right direction.<\/p>\n

Em que data se deve beijar?<\/h2>\n

\"o<\/p>\n

If you’re sure that there is mutual attraction and f\u00edsico-qu\u00edmica<\/a>, there is nothing wrong with kissing on the first date (keep in mind that most people wait for the end of the date). But if you need more time to decide whether this person is kissable, it’s perfectly okay to wait for the second date.<\/p>\n

O <\/b>terceiro encontro<\/b><\/a> \u00e9 provavelmente a altura em que deve saber se se v\u00ea a beijar a outra pessoa ou n\u00e3o. <\/b>If there is still not enough chemistry between you two at this point, I’m afraid to break it to you, but you should stay friends.<\/p>\n

O que n\u00e3o se deve fazer num primeiro encontro?<\/h2>\n

I’m begging you not to do anything you’re uncomfortable with. Don’t do something just to please the other person or just because you think it’s expected from you.<\/b><\/p>\n

But besides this, there are some other things you should avoid the first time you go out with someone (or ever). So, don’t:<\/p>\n

    \n
  • Chegar atrasado<\/b><\/li>\n
  • Pousar o seu par para se sentir melhor<\/b><\/li>\n
  • Mencionar demasiado o ex-namorado\/namorada<\/b><\/li>\n
  • Passar a noite no telem\u00f3vel<\/b><\/li>\n
  • Parecer barato<\/b><\/li>\n
  • Ser demasiado insistente<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

    \"um<\/p>\n

    Todos os especialistas em rela\u00e7\u00f5es dir-lhe-\u00e3o praticamente o mesmo: there is no right or wrong answer to the question, \u201cshould <\/b>you kiss on the first date?\u201d<\/b> This decision is all yours, so forget about some nonexistent dating rules that tell you what you’re allowed to do.<\/b><\/p>\n

    Sabes qual \u00e9 a coisa mais importante aqui? Beijar no primeiro encontro \u00e9 aceit\u00e1vel. Esperar para dar o primeiro beijo tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 perfeitamente aceit\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

    The only thing that matters is that you and your date are both happy with the decision you’ve made. Forget about the norms and regulations!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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