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<\/p>\nTodos n\u00f3s queremos ser amados, isso \u00e9 simples. Estamos dispostos a fazer todo o tipo de disparates e a esfor\u00e7ar-nos ao m\u00e1ximo s\u00f3 para o conseguir. Nunca paramos realmente para pensar:<\/p>\n
Mas, quem \u00e9 que alguma vez tentou por mim?<\/i><\/p>\n
Haver\u00e1 algu\u00e9m preparado para amar o meu verdadeiro eu?<\/i><\/p>\n
Finding such a person is surely a rarity, but not by any means impossible. However, in order to see what love is, you must first see what it isn’t.<\/p>\n
J\u00e1 ouviste falar dos 3 amores da vida?<\/i><\/p>\n
O que \u00e9 que nos ensinam?<\/i><\/p>\n
Ser\u00e1 que realmente <\/i>apaixonar-se tr\u00eas vezes<\/i>?<\/i><\/p>\n
If you find yourself asking these questions, stay tuned because we’re about to answer them.<\/p>\n
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No seu livro, Kate Rose apresentou tr\u00eas tipos de amor<\/a>: the first love, the second love, and the third love. According to her, each of these happens for a specific reason…<\/p>\n \u00c9 preciso passar por todas estas diferentes fases para nos tornarmos mais s\u00e1bios e mais experientes. E, depois, chega o momento em que podes finalmente aplicar tudo o que aprendeste com algu\u00e9m que sempre esteve destinado a ser teu.<\/p>\n Mas, o que \u00e9 que realmente se aprende? Continue a ler e descubra!<\/p>\n Lembra-se dessa pessoa da prim\u00e1ria ou da <\/i>escola secund\u00e1ria<\/i> por quem estava profundamente apaixonado?<\/i><\/p>\n \u00c9 prov\u00e1vel que, mesmo depois de todos estes anos, ainda lhe venham \u00e0 cabe\u00e7a e, se por acaso trope\u00e7ar nelas, as mesmas sensa\u00e7\u00f5es regressam por um momento.<\/p>\n After all, they were your first love… o amor que pensavas que ia durar para sempre<\/b>. And, then it didn’t, and it took you years para ultrapassar<\/a> eles.<\/p>\n Talvez estivesses numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, ou talvez n\u00e3o passasse de uma paixoneta. Mas, apesar disso, o que sentias era muito real. Afinal, eles mostraram-lhe como era o amor e, nesses momentos, foi verdadeiramente feliz.<\/p>\n \"Quando perdemos algu\u00e9m que amamos, temos de aprender n\u00e3o a viver sem essa pessoa, mas a viver com o amor que ela nos deixou<\/i>.\u201d – Unknown<\/p>\n O meu primeiro amor trouxe-me muita dor, que eu felizmente perdoei, e at\u00e9 hoje n\u00e3o guardo qualquer ressentimento em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a ele. Raramente penso nele, mas quando o fa\u00e7o, escolho recordar as boas mem\u00f3rias.<\/p>\n What’s interesting is that while I’m writing this, I am quite indifferent. I value what I had back then, but it’s as if it happened to someone else.<\/p>\n Talvez a sua experi\u00eancia seja diferente e ainda tenha muito afeto pela sua pessoa, ou talvez a tenha acabado de conhecer. Pode acontecer que, daqui a alguns anos, se aperceba que ela era, de facto, a sua primeiro amor<\/a>.<\/p>\n And, that’s the problem that comes when you fall in love with this person. You think that you have found what you’ve always been looking for.<\/p>\n It’s quite understandable, though, because you had no prior experience. Tudo o que sabia sobre o amor era ver os filmes da Cinderela ou as telenovelas, e isso pode afect\u00e1-lo muito.<\/b><\/p>\n Quando se v\u00eaem tantas personagens na televis\u00e3o <\/i>experimentando <\/i>amor verdadeiro<\/i><\/a>, all the while being constantly told that you will one day marry the right person, you simply can’t wait to live your own <\/i>conto de fadas<\/i>.<\/i><\/p>\n E, ent\u00e3o, essa pessoa aparece diante de si, perfeita para esse papel. Tentamos alterar cada parte de n\u00f3s que achamos que n\u00e3o \u00e9 atraente para ela. What they end up loving is an untruthful version of yourself, and what you love is someone you’ve entirely romanticized.<\/b><\/p>\n As a matter of fact, it’s not exactly love, but rather paix\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n It’s quite possible that you didn’t know your first love well, or that you knew them, but something was always off. Still, you firmly believed that you would be together eternally. This is precisely because you loved the idea of love.<\/p>\n S\u00f3 querias ser amado,<\/a> por isso, aceitou o que lhe ofereceram, mesmo que fosse muito menos do que merecia.<\/p>\n Esperava v\u00ea-los todos os dias com grande entusiasmo. Nada mais existia para si a n\u00e3o ser esse sentimento.<\/p>\n You’d already fantasized about the ideal future you would have with them. For you, that was the only love that existed, and there was absolutely no possibility of ever apaixonar-se<\/a> novamente.<\/p>\n This is why it’s called idealista<\/i> amor<\/i>. Afinal de contas, you’re young, and you just want to experience love<\/b>. To achieve that, you’re prepared to lose your individuality if need be. You don’t care much about compatibility.<\/p>\n Quando olho para tr\u00e1s, vejo algu\u00e9m que me fazia sentir pouco atraente e sem valor, mas que, mesmo assim, o achava digno dos meus esfor\u00e7os. Nem por um segundo pude ser eu mesma, porque ele sempre zombou de quem eu era.<\/p>\n Descobri recentemente que ele se casou. Achei estranho o facto de o ter amado em tempos. Parecia ter sido h\u00e1 tanto tempo.<\/p>\n No entanto, mesmo que n\u00e3o sinta nada agora, senti-o na altura, e cada emo\u00e7\u00e3o merece a nossa valida\u00e7\u00e3o e aprecia\u00e7\u00e3o, ainda mais quando nos apercebemos do seu papel desde o in\u00edcio.<\/b><\/p>\n Ap\u00f3s a sua primeira <\/i>desgosto<\/i><\/a>, pensas que nunca amar\u00e1s outro <\/i>ser humano<\/i> novamente. Na verdade, at\u00e9 se recusa a faz\u00ea-lo. Sente que pertence \u00e0 sua <\/i>primeiro amor<\/i> e rejeita tudo o que lhe aparece pela frente.<\/i><\/p>\n It’s then when the segundo amor<\/a> aparece e convence-o do contr\u00e1rio.<\/p>\n This kind of love is the most powerful thing you’ve ever felt in your life. There\u2019s qu\u00edmica entre v\u00f3s<\/a> que \u00e9 simplesmente inigual\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n Esta \u00e9 a pessoa que pensa ser a sua alma g\u00e9mea<\/a>, the one you’re ready to write novels about.<\/p>\n You might even see them as your real first love because unlike before, this time, you’re acquainted with each part of their mind. No one has to pretend anymore, and yet…<\/p>\n D\u00e1 por si a tentar como nunca o fez antes. One minute, everything’s dreamy, and the next, you’re destroying your <\/b>sa\u00fade mental<\/b> com an\u00e1lises aprofundadas e constantes.<\/b><\/p>\n You’re in a constant loop of highs and lows, but no matter how great the pain is, you feel it’s worth it if you get to experience utter ecstasy afterwards.<\/p>\n This type of love isn’t simply lust as it is often perceived, but it IS intense and passionate. It’s also called rom\u00e2ntico<\/i> amor<\/i>.<\/p>\n When you’re in the presence of this person, you feel unimaginably excited, and then suddenly, they retreat and leave you feeling miserable.<\/i><\/p>\n You’re not quite sure what went wrong, and you spend every waking moment waiting for things to be fine again. Oftentimes, you blame yourself.<\/p>\n Quando se encontra esta pessoa, ela consome-nos por completo. O seu o amor torna-se um v\u00edcio<\/a>. Only one word is enough for you to feel like you can conquer the world by their side. It’s exhilarating to finally be understood. Apenas <\/b>parece correto<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n Provavelmente gostam muito da sua companhia e da sua anedotas tolas<\/a>, and they can listen to you talk 24\/7 without getting bored. Since you’ve always lacked such appreciation, you value your second love all the more.<\/p>\n You feel like you’ve finally found the person you were always meant to be with. You feel like it’s amor verdadeiro<\/a>, and in a way, it is…<\/p>\n Tal como o primeiro amor, este tinha de acontecer. Tivemos de experimentar uma tristeza extrema para reconhecer o que \u00e9 o amor que nos merece.<\/b><\/p>\n If you’re in pain right now, and you feel like it’s going to last forever, know that it doesn’t have to be that way. Your love won’t be any less meaningful if you decide to deixar ir<\/a>.<\/p>\n You can’t wait for someone forever. This person obviously can’t commit to you in a way that you deserve. Love them, but walk away.<\/i><\/p>\n It’s quite understandable that you’re going to have a hard time forgetting this person. After all, what you felt was extraordinary. What’s important is not looking back, not trying so hard anymore.<\/p>\n You gave all your best, and it’s finally time to desligar-se emocionalmente deles<\/a> e aprender a aceitar outra coisa.<\/p>\n If you find that the past is still haunting you, know that it’ll only continue to do so if you let it.<\/b><\/p>\n H\u00e1 realmente uma maneira de recordar uma pessoa com carinho sem que ela nos impe\u00e7a de encontrar a felicidade<\/a> with someone else. You don’t have to hate them nor suppress the memories.<\/p>\n O amor pode continuar a existir, mas ter\u00e1 menos poder sobre a forma como escolhe viver a sua vida.<\/p>\n ” …there will be a piece of you in me always, and I’m grateful for that. Whatever someone you become, and wherever you are in the world, I’m sending you love. You’re my friend to the end.” <\/i>\u2013 the movie, ”Her”<\/p>\n Depois de ter lutado tanto para deixar o amor dif\u00edcil, pode perguntar-se: O amor \u00e9 mesmo real?<\/i><\/a>? And, then the third love comes knocking on your door…<\/p>\n Poder\u00e1 ainda estar num estado vulner\u00e1vel, sem estar preparado para experimentar algo novo, mas quando este <\/i>tipo de amor<\/i> arrives, it’s a <\/i>tend\u00eancia<\/i> \u00e9 muito bem-vindo.<\/i><\/p>\n It feels peaceful and liberating. You aren’t the only one trying because this person reciprocates your feelings. They offer you coer\u00eancia e esfor\u00e7o<\/a>e nunca deixam de lutar por si!<\/p>\n If you’re tired of the rela\u00e7\u00f5es de montanha-russa<\/a> you used to have, you can be at peace because that period of your love life is over. And, this is why the 3 loves in life exist \u2013 they help you find peacefulness.<\/p>\n Esta pessoa nunca duvida de si e nunca faz jogos. N\u00e3o existe um comportamento quente ou frio, mas sim amor incondicional<\/a> e certeza, que o atraem como nada mais.<\/p>\n J\u00e1 n\u00e3o se sente indesejado, nem sequer por um segundo. This time, they don’t leave you all confused, but they rather reassure you of their love even without you asking.<\/b><\/p>\n If there’s a problem, you solve it by communicating. There is no toxic fighting nor silent periods. You care enough to fix the issue in a healthy way.<\/p>\n It’s not uncommon for your first or second love to be puzzling. You’re never quite sure where you’re at. You’re either in a fake relationship or a situa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>, and you constantly overthink if it’s ever going to become anything more.<\/p>\n Bem, com este chama g\u00e9mea<\/a> kind of love, there are no such problems. This person instantly tells you what their intention with you is, so you don’t have to stay up all night wondering. Eles t\u00eam a maturidade emocional para lidar com o amor que sentem por si.<\/b><\/p>\n ”N\u00e3o <\/i>ser humano<\/i> has ever stood so close to my soul as you stand…<\/i>” \u2013 James Joyce<\/p>\n This is not just a romantic relationship between two people, but it’s rather two best friends who are in love with each other. What does this mean?<\/p>\n Bem, sempre que se tem algo em mente, a outra pessoa est\u00e1 preparada para ouvir. Nunca nos deixa viver a dor sozinhos, por isso tamb\u00e9m a torna sua.<\/p>\n When you’re happy, they do the very same. It’s enough for them to see you filled with joy in order for them to feel that way, too.<\/p>\n Depois de experimentar outros <\/i>tipos de amor<\/i>, nothing quite makes sense yet. It’s only when you stumble upon your <\/i>terceiro amor<\/i> que percebes o prop\u00f3sito de tudo o que te aconteceu. Percebe o significado de todos os 3 amores da vida.<\/i><\/p>\n Precisou de sentir a dor de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica para compreender que merecia uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel desde o in\u00edcio.<\/p>\n This doesn’t mean that what happened to you <\/b>estava correto<\/b> nem que deveis <\/b>estar grato<\/b><\/a>. No one should feel grateful for the sadness they’ve experienced.<\/b><\/p>\n It’s rather about accepting what happened and choosing to see the good side of it (nonetheless allowing yourself to grieve).<\/p>\n If you’re of the opinion that you could’ve learned your lessons the easy way, you’re correct. But, that’s not on us to decide. The only thing we can do is make peace with the past and cherish the current relationship.<\/p>\n Wishing your destiny was different only makes you unhappy. Why don’t you rather go to your lover and tell them that you appreciate them, and how you’ve always waited for them even when you didn’t know it.<\/p>\n It’s different for each person. Some may find it very early, and others at the end of their days. It’s really both a stroke of luck and your eagerness to accept it.<\/p>\n If you’re still stuck on the first or <\/i>segundo amor<\/i>, and you can’t seem to <\/i>seguir em frente<\/i><\/a>O verdadeiro amor pode estar mesmo \u00e0 sua frente, mas, mesmo assim, n\u00e3o o sentir\u00e1. Ele s\u00f3 vir\u00e1 no momento em que estiveres totalmente preparado para ele.<\/i><\/p>\n Perhaps you\u2019re just n\u00e3o estou pronto para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o neste momento<\/a> even if you want to be. Wishing for something isn’t enough, but I know you can’t just turn your emotions off either.<\/p>\n Ent\u00e3o, como \u00e9 que pode estar preparado para o seu verdadeiro amor? Como \u00e9 que se pode viver os 3 amores da vida? Se a sua curiosidade o est\u00e1 a matar, talvez queira ler o seguinte:<\/p>\n RELACIONADO: 20 sinais reveladores de que voc\u00ea nunca vai encontrar o amor (e como mudar isso)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n It is, and it isn’t.<\/i><\/p>\n Alguns experimentam de facto 3 amores na vida, enquanto outros experimentam apenas um. Alguns nunca deixam de se agarrar ao amor dif\u00edcil, e os outros t\u00eam um grande n\u00famero deles.<\/p>\n It doesn’t strictly happen three times to all of us. Acontece tantas vezes quantas as necess\u00e1rias para aprendermos as li\u00e7\u00f5es<\/b>. Sadly, there are those who never learn anything…<\/p>\n Quando a tristeza por um amor passado \u00e9 demasiado grande, come\u00e7a a ser medo de se apaixonar.<\/a> You protect yourself in this manner when all you’re really doing is preventing yourself from seeing and being with your true love.<\/p>\n So, yes, the theory is accurate\u2026 if you allow it to be. Slowly mend your wounds and ir l\u00e1 fora outra vez<\/a>! Um mundo cheio de oportunidades espera por si.<\/p>\n We all have different romantic experiences. There’s no same love that happens twice. Still, the universal truth is that most of the time when we apaixonar-se<\/a>A educa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 uma atividade que nos ajuda a adquirir conhecimento e sabedoria.<\/p>\n A teoria dos 3 amores na vida explica-o perfeitamente. Talvez nem todos experimentem exatamente os tr\u00eas tipos de amor, mas haver\u00e1, no entanto, li\u00e7\u00f5es cujo objetivo \u00e9 conduzi-los ao seu verdadeiro amor.<\/p>\nO primeiro amor<\/h3>\n
It’s your first heartbreak<\/h4>\n
You’re in love with the idea of love<\/h4>\n
Reprime o seu verdadeiro eu<\/h4>\n
O amor dif\u00edcil<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\nIt’s never peaceful<\/h4>\n
Parece um amor verdadeiro<\/h4>\n
Acontece por uma raz\u00e3o<\/h4>\n
It’s okay to struggle<\/h4>\n
O amor que fica<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\nIt’s a tranquil kind of love<\/h4>\n
As verdadeiras inten\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o claras<\/h4>\n
There’s friendship<\/h4>\n
Percebemos porque \u00e9 que tudo aconteceu<\/h4>\n
Com que idade encontrarei o amor verdadeiro?<\/h2>\n
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A teoria dos 3 amores na vida \u00e9 exacta?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nConsidera\u00e7\u00f5es finais<\/h2>\n