I didn\u2019t want to move on because the pain took control of me. I felt sorry for myself and I spent so many nights crying over my past actions and him.<\/p>\n
Culpei Deus, culpei toda a gente mas, acima de tudo, culpei-me a mim pr\u00f3prio.<\/strong><\/p>\n I didn\u2019t want to forgive myself and I didn\u2019t want to leave the past where it belonged. I was stuck in it and I couldn\u2019t find a way out. It was a never-ending enchanted circle.<\/p>\n De vez em quando, sentia que me tinha tornado mais forte e que podia deixar tudo isso para tr\u00e1s, mas depois o meu passado voltava a sugar-me.<\/p>\n Perdi a minha autoestima e odiei-me. Agora, quando olho para tr\u00e1s, o que sinto \u00e9 sobretudo raiva. N\u00e3o contra ele, mas contra mim pr\u00f3pria.<\/p>\n I\u2019m furious because I let him make me think of myself as less worthy and of guilty of everything that happened to us.<\/p>\n I thought I didn\u2019t deserve to be happy<\/a>Pensava que era um falhado at\u00e9 que finalmente deixei de sentir pena de mim pr\u00f3prio e acordei.<\/p>\n He didn\u2019t have the power to rule over me. Too bad it took me that long to realize that. Too bad I put myself through hell and back because I was too blind to see how much I really deserved.<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019m ready now. He left a huge mark on my life. He changed me. I\u2019m not saying that I\u2019m a different person, it\u2019s just that I don\u2019t see the world like I used to see it.<\/p>\n But that\u2019s okay because I\u2019m not afraid anymore. I\u2019ve felt things and I\u2019m ready for whatever life throws at me because what doesn\u2019t kill me, makes me stronger.<\/p>\n I\u2019m ready to open my heart again and if destiny so decides, I\u2019m ready to have my heart broken again. He was my lesson, he made me stronger, and he made me smarter.<\/p>\n Encontrei a parte de mim que estava a faltar. Encontrei o gatilho que precisava de puxar para voltar \u00e0 vida.<\/p>\n Demorei tanto tempo a chegar onde estou hoje. Se alguma vez conheceres uma rapariga que tenha sido quebrada como eu fui, promete-me que vais tentar compreend\u00ea-la.<\/p>\n Promise me that you\u2019re going to look after her. Promise me that she won\u2019t just be temporary because she wouldn\u2019t be able to take it. Not right now.<\/p>\n Promise me that you will be there for her because\u2026.<\/strong><\/p>\n She will be suspicious of your actions and your feelings. She won\u2019t believe the words you say to her because she has heard them a thousand times before.<\/p>\n Foi-lhe prometido o mundo, foi-lhe dada uma falsa esperan\u00e7a, mas nunca aconteceu nada. Ela n\u00e3o viu nada disso.<\/p>\n A primeira vez que se apaixonou, gritou-o ao mundo e o tiro saiu-lhe pela culatra. O seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o foi espezinhado e despeda\u00e7ado.<\/p>\n You have to understand that she can\u2019t just open up that easily and show how she feels about you, but never doubt her.<\/p>\n Ela pode n\u00e3o o dizer e pode escond\u00ea-lo, mas seja paciente porque, quando ela se abrir, vai sentir um amor que nunca imaginou existir.<\/p>\n She will think that it\u2019s her fault for everything that has happened to her. He robbed her of her self-respect and self-love. She was left with nothing but the feeling of guilt.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t let her treat herself poorly. Don\u2019t let her abandon herself. Show her that there is hope and prove to her that you are not like everybody else.<\/p>\n Prove que se preocupa realmente e esteja presente quando ela mais precisa de si.<\/p>\n You have to take it slowly, otherwise you\u2019ll scare her off. She has just had a huge trauma and it took her awhile to heal and to bounce back from it.<\/p>\n She won\u2019t be making the same mistake again and if you pressure her into doing something she isn\u2019t yet comfortable doing, she will run away.<\/p>\n No matter how much she loves you, she has a plan in case that the two of you don\u2019t work out. She\u2019s been to hell and back and she won\u2019t risk going there again.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t have to be angry about it; it\u2019s just a consequence of her heartbreak and pain that she felt and will never forget.<\/p>\n She will second-guess your every decision like she second-guesses hers, too. It\u2019s nothing personal, it\u2019s a defense mechanism she uses not to get hurt ever again.<\/p>\n Even when you treat her the way she deserves, she will be suspicious because she isn\u2019t used to being treated that way. It will take her a while to realize that she was supposed to be treated like that from the beginning.<\/p>\n The one before you made her that way. He gaslighted her and he turned her into an obedient puppet. She didn\u2019t have a mind of her own and her voice was completely silent.<\/p>\n She always apologized to avoid fights he initiated. She apologized for things she did and didn\u2019t do.<\/p>\n Faz-lhe lembrar quando ela estava presa numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o que a estava a matar pouco a pouco. Ela est\u00e1 aterrorizada com a possibilidade de lhe fazeres o mesmo.<\/p>\n Por isso, aguentem-na porque ela vale toda a espera do mundo.<\/p>\n Be patient with her. She is a girl who had her heart broken. Don\u2019t you break it too\u2026<\/p>\n I never realized how hard this hit me. When it was happening, I guess I was too stressed to think about myself and where I would go from there. I just wanted to escape him so badly, at any cost. 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<\/p>\nShe won\u2019t trust you right away<\/a><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nShe won\u2019t show affection so easily<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nEla ser\u00e1 extremamente cr\u00edtica<\/h2>\n
![\"casal](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/unhappy-couple-sitting-outside.jpg\")
<\/p>\nEla vai recuar se tentar avan\u00e7ar demasiado depressa<\/h2>\n
![\"casal](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/worried-couple-looking-at-each-other-at-cafe.jpg\")
<\/p>\nEla provavelmente tem um plano B<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/upset-woman-looking-away-while-sitting-with-man.jpg\")
<\/p>\nEla analisa tudo em excesso<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nShe will apologize to you all the time but isn\u2019t her fault<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nEla tem pavor de compromisso<\/a><\/h2>\n
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