{"id":13776,"date":"2018-02-05T08:24:51","date_gmt":"2018-02-05T08:24:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=13776"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:46:24","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:46:24","slug":"pos-namoro-com-um-psicopata-emocional-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/pos-namoro-com-um-psicopata-emocional-2\/","title":{"rendered":"As consequ\u00eancias de namorar um psicopata emocional"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>When you find yourself in the claws of an emotional psychopath, you have no idea what\u2019s happening to you. First, everything is perfect. He is perfect. You just can\u2019t believe you are<br \/>que tem a sorte de ter um homem t\u00e3o extraordin\u00e1rio. A vida muda completamente para si.<\/p>\n<p>You know that feeling when you\u2019re happy and you look at everything positively and with a huge smile? Well, at the beginning, your world shines brighter, your favorite food tastes better and you feel like you\u2019re on the top of the world.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Your life is so perfect that it\u2019s scary. It\u2019s like the weather and the unusual calmness in the air before the raging storm.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>You were the storm that hit me and left a disaster inside me. How could I have been so stupid? How couldn\u2019t I see that my life was too perfect to be true? I should have known better than that. I should have known it was a lie.<\/p>\n<p>Meu Deus, eras irresist\u00edvel. Apaixonei-me por ti no momento em que te vi. Para mim, foi definitivamente amor \u00e0 primeira vista. Nunca teria pensado que eras uma pessoa completamente diferente do que eu pensava que eras. Teria feito literalmente qualquer coisa por ti, n\u00e3o s\u00f3 porque pensei que farias o mesmo por mim, mas porque te amava verdadeira e sinceramente.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>E a parte mais triste \u00e9 que sabiam disso e isso tornou o vosso jogo ainda mais f\u00e1cil de jogar.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>After the idyllic life and things which were too good to be true, my life started to change. Things weren\u2019t as bright as before, my food didn\u2019t taste as good and the top of the world turned to be very low, going even lower.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Finalmente mostrou quem era realmente.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>I guess no one can pretend to be something they are not for so long. Masks fall and faces are revealed. It happened to him, too. He couldn\u2019t pretend to be something he was not; it drove him crazy, and it went against everything he believed in. Maybe it\u2019s not even his fault entirely because his mind was sick. He didn\u2019t know to differ right from wrong or on the other hand, he just didn\u2019t care because he was a selfish, emotion-thirsty vampire\u2014which was more likely to be the case.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Estes jogos de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o dele destru\u00edram-me. Estes planos astutos para me capturar na sua realidade tornaram-me sua prisioneira para sempre.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Ele fez-me acreditar em coisas que n\u00e3o eram verdadeiras.<\/strong> <\/em>He completely took control over my life and never asked me a goddamn thing. I felt like a was a prop in a show lying in a dark box until someone opened the box to use the prop and put it back when they were done. This is exactly how I felt and when I wanted to say something, when I wanted to rebel against being kept in a box, he made me believe I was out in the open the whole time. But, why do I remember only the darkness around me? Was I crazy? I mean deep inside I knew I wasn\u2019t, but there was no other explanation, so I began to think I am and I couldn\u2019t trust myself anymore. He took control over me completely. He broke me and made me doubt myself. This was his strongest manipulation\u2014the one that made everything else a piece of cake.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Ele <a href=\"https:\/\/www.elitedaily.com\/dating\/signs-dating-someone-change-you\/1578738\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">tentou mudar-me<\/a> e conseguiu-o.<\/em> <\/strong>By his side, I turned into someone I didn\u2019t recognize. I knew it was me, but yet there was no sign of me. When I looked in the mirror, I saw my reflection and I didn\u2019t recognize the face that was staring at me with no expression on its face. I couldn\u2019t recognize those weary, sad eyes that were looking at me. I never saw a face that was so worn out at such a very young age. It was like I was looking at an old lady who gave everything to the world and is ready to move on to the next one.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Ele culpava-me sempre que alguma coisa corria mal.<\/strong><\/em> Even when he fucked up, he blamed me. One day when he came home from work, he was so pissed. I didn\u2019t want to ask him anything and I hid in my room because I was too afraid to be by his side. I knew that this would somehow backfire on me. And I was right. He had problems at work and he came after me because I was the one who had fucked him up before work. I was the one who had gotten on his nerves so he was unable to concentrate. It was all my fault and then the insults came falling at me like a sharp, cold rain in a winter storm. No one can take that much humiliation and emotional abuse.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Ele cortou-me do mundo<\/strong> <\/em>because he was too afraid that the world will open my eyes. He was too afraid that the world will take his victim from him. He convinced me that everyone around me wanted to hurt me and he was the only one who will keep me safe. It wasn\u2019t hard to manipulate me after he made me believe I\u2019m crazy and don\u2019t deserve anything. At that point, I was grateful I had him because who would love someone like me? At that point, he made me believe he was my savior and he kept me away from everybody because he knew I will wake up from the nightmare he directed.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ver tamb\u00e9m:<\/strong>\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/6-sinais-de-que-se-esta-a-fazer-de-vitima\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">6 sinais de que ele est\u00e1 se fazendo de v\u00edtima para te destruir<\/a><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Fui deixada completamente sozinha, pensando que ele era a \u00fanica coisa que eu tinha. Vivi numa mentira durante tanto tempo, mas algures no meu \u00edntimo, sabia que era uma mentira, mas aguentei tanto tempo que comecei a pensar que era verdade.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>I really didn\u2019t have a reason to live. I wanted my life to end. I thought to myself if I was that unlovable, if I was that crazy, if no one will ever love me or be there for me, I don\u2019t have any reason to live. I hated myself and I wanted my life to be over. I wanted my troubles to just stop.<\/p>\n<p>In all the sorrow and darkness that overtook me, a tiny ray of light from deep inside spoke to me. There was always that something that kept me alive. There was always that something that didn\u2019t let me leave this world forever.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>It took me so long to recognize who it was\u2014it was me. It was my old self who was hiding in this emotionless monster he created.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>That little piece of me shouted from the top of its lungs and I finally heard it. That voice inside me gave me hope and strength. That voice inside me showed me that my journey is still not over. It told me that I have so many more things to do, that I\u2019m not done yet.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>All I needed was that proof that there is still something left of my old self and I left. It hurt like hell. I was afraid but I didn\u2019t care, and I left for good.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>That doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019m free. That doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019m happy. I have a long road ahead of me. I have to find myself again and bring myself back. I have to learn to love myself again. I have to heal.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Eu sei <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/pode-estragar-alguem-vai-adorar\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">I\u2019m a mess<\/a>.<\/strong><\/em> He played his games with me for far too long. He tricked my mind so cunningly and so many times that I don\u2019t know what\u2019s right and what\u2019s wrong anymore. I need to sort out that mess in my head, but at least now I know I have to, now I know which path to take. Now I know that it was never me\u2014it was him all along.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I\u2019m terrified of love.<\/strong> <\/em>I don\u2019t know if I will be able to love anyone ever again. His \u2018love\u2019 destroyed me. His \u2018love\u2019 made me think that love is a piece of shit that takes everything away from you. I\u2019m scared of love because love has hurt me so much. But, I hope someday that fear will disappear. It\u2019s just that I know it won\u2019t happen overnight and I know that no one will show it to me. I have to see it for myself.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Quero estar sozinho.<\/strong><\/em> Preciso de tempo para pensar em tudo. Preciso de tempo para curar as minhas feridas que sangraram durante demasiado tempo. Preciso de aprender a mostrar os meus sentimentos. Preciso de aprender a sentir de novo.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Quero dar-me uma segunda oportunidade. Quero lutar por mim pr\u00f3prio porque encontrei a for\u00e7a de que tanto precisava. Quero continuar a viver porque sei que o mere\u00e7o.<\/em> <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/shutterstock_509724559.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-101608\"\/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When you find yourself in the claws of an emotional psychopath, you have no idea what\u2019s happening to you. First, everything is perfect. He is perfect. You just can\u2019t believe you arelucky enough to have such an extraordinary man. Life changes completely for you. You know that feeling when you\u2019re happy and you look at&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":101608,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13776","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse &amp; trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/shutterstock_509724559-e1601556864722.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse &amp; trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse &amp; trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13776","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13776"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13776\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/101608"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13776"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13776"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13776"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}