{"id":138472,"date":"2021-11-12T23:07:49","date_gmt":"2021-11-12T23:07:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=138472"},"modified":"2022-05-04T11:07:07","modified_gmt":"2022-05-04T11:07:07","slug":"aprender-a-amarmo-nos-a-nos-proprios","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/aprender-a-amarmo-nos-a-nos-proprios\/","title":{"rendered":"Tudo o que precisa de saber sobre aprender a amar-se a si pr\u00f3prio (+ cita\u00e7\u00f5es)"},"content":{"rendered":"

O amor de que mais precisamos \u00e9 muitas vezes aquele que mais nos falta: o amor-pr\u00f3prio. Passamos a vida a oferecer a todos os outros o nosso apoio e empatia, mas quando se trata de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios, s\u00f3 temos palavras de cr\u00edtica e \u00f3dio.<\/strong><\/p>\n

How do you start learning to love yourself? Why is it so hard in the first place? Is it true that you can’t be loved by someone else until you come\u00e7a a amar-te a ti pr\u00f3prio<\/a>?<\/em><\/p>\n

Tenho todo o gosto em dar-te todas as respostas que procuras, ao mesmo tempo que te mostro como mereces ser amado, mesmo quando menos te apetece.<\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que o amor-pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 t\u00e3o dif\u00edcil?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It’s difficult because we get used to mistreatment.<\/em><\/p>\n

More often than not, our parents pass generational trauma onto us. Since they didn’t heal and are probably not even aware that they are traumatized, they make us feel the way they once felt.<\/p>\n

Os maus tratos verbais e f\u00edsicos, quer por parte de familiares quer por parte de colegas, deixam marcas duradouras que nos acompanham ao longo da vida e influenciam cada uma das nossas decis\u00f5es.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even though your issues most likely stem from childhood abuse, it is also possible that you’ve suffered extreme trauma recently that made it hard for you to love yourself.<\/p>\n

Ignorance isn’t always bliss<\/h3>\n

The sad truth is that we aren’t always aware when we are being abused. Muitas vezes, certos comportamentos s\u00e3o vistos como normais, e at\u00e9 os banalizamos e fazemos piadas sobre eles.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Trust me, your parents calling you lazy and incapable instead of supporting you when you’re feeling down is not normal.<\/em><\/p>\n

When they tell you to ‘suck it up’ instead of crying, that is not normal.<\/em><\/p>\n

Quando amaldi\u00e7oam a nossa exist\u00eancia cada vez que cometemos um erro, isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 normal.<\/em><\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que se pode fazer?<\/h3>\n

Bem, pode informar-se sobre as diferentes formas de abuso. Reconhecer os padr\u00f5es t\u00f3xicos na sua pr\u00f3pria vida e tentar livrar-se deles.<\/p>\n

If it’s too difficult, the best course of action would be to reach out to a therapist. They would help you uncover all the toxicity you’ve been a part of and guide you to create a better life.<\/p>\n

Perceber que \u00e9 preciso viver para si pr\u00f3prio<\/a>. A tua vida sempre foi sobre ti. L\u00ea isso outra vez.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O amor-pr\u00f3prio pode ser ensinado?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Sem d\u00favida.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00c9 certamente dif\u00edcil, mas n\u00e3o \u00e9 de todo imposs\u00edvel. O mais importante \u00e9 que d\u00ea tempo a si pr\u00f3prio.<\/a> Change doesn’t happen overnight. You first need to abrace as suas imperfei\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Perceber que \u00e9s digno<\/a> mesmo com todos os seus defeitos. Est\u00e1 a trabalhar nelas apenas para viver uma vida mais feliz e mais f\u00e1cil<\/a>e n\u00e3o porque precisa de ser corrigido.<\/strong> Al\u00e9m disso, alguns falhas <\/a>apenas te tornam mais ador\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

Lord knows I’ve struggled with this too. It took me years and years to see my own importance. You have to be disappointed many times before finally being enlightened.<\/p>\n

A verdade \u00e9 que aprender a amarmo-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios \u00e9 dif\u00edcil porque fomos ENSINADOS a tratarmo-nos mal. E, se foi ensinado uma vez, pode certamente ser ensinado de novo. Desta vez, fa\u00e7a-o corretamente.<\/em><\/p>\n

Can Others Love You If You Don’t Love Yourself?<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Sem d\u00favida, sim.<\/em><\/p>\n

I’ve always hated it when people would say the opposite. You know how much you struggle, and you feel like it will last forever. On top of that, you don’t need someone telling you that you will never be loved until you change your ways.<\/p>\n

A lack of self love isn’t a flaw that needs fixing and doesn\u2019t make you undeserving of love altogether.<\/strong> It just makes your life a little harder, that’s all. But it doesn’t mean that others can’t feel affection for you.<\/p>\n

It still brings many trials and tribulations…<\/h3>\n

People may love you, but problems arise when you start acting in ways a self-assured person wouldn’t.<\/em><\/p>\n

Talvez duvides do seu amor, o que te leva a provocar discuss\u00f5es, ou talvez precisam de ser constantemente tranquilizados<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Esta \u00faltima pode ser desgastante para a outra parte, mas se precisarmos mesmo disso, algu\u00e9m que nos ame verdadeiramente nunca ver\u00e1 isso como um problema.<\/p>\n

O primeiro, por outro lado, n\u00e3o s\u00f3 \u00e9 auto-destrutivo, como tamb\u00e9m arru\u00edna a paz geral da rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que se resolve o problema?<\/h3>\n

If you’re constantly experiencing relationship problems, pay attention to the following three things:<\/p>\n

1. You need to be aware of your own behavior and what drives it. Don’t transferir a culpa<\/a> para a outra pessoa, mas sim assumir responsabilidades<\/a> e abra\u00e7a o que sentes.<\/p>\n

2. Tente colocar-se na posi\u00e7\u00e3o deles. Pratique a empatia. Explique-se e prometa que vai resolver os seus problemas.<\/p>\n

3. Mant\u00e9m as tuas promessas. Trabalhe ativamente na destrui\u00e7\u00e3o das suas cren\u00e7as fundamentais para que possa ter mais rela\u00e7\u00f5es saud\u00e1veis<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que se come\u00e7a a amar a si pr\u00f3prio?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Bem, comece por colocar-se em primeiro lugar<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

O principal objetivo de aprender a gostar de si pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 fazer de si pr\u00f3prio uma prioridade<\/a>. Sim, resolver os seus problemas pode fortalecer as suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es, mas o rela\u00e7\u00e3o que tem consigo pr\u00f3prio<\/a> \u00e9 da maior import\u00e2ncia.<\/p>\n

Sacrifice isn’t equivalent to love<\/h3>\n

You can still be there for others, but don’t forget to be there for yourself as well. Practice self-care, both physical and emotional.<\/p>\n

At first, it won’t be easy, and you will feel extremely guilty. But, after some time, you will see the benefits it has on your mental health as well as your relationships.<\/p>\n

Remember \u2013 you are the main character of your own story<\/strong>. Esfor\u00e7a-se por se tornar o a melhor vers\u00e3o de si pr\u00f3prio<\/a> pode. Acima de tudo, encontra dentro de ti f\u00e9 inabal\u00e1vel<\/a>. You’ll see how things will finally start to look up.<\/p>\n

What if you\u2019ve just ended a toxic relationship?<\/h3>\n

Toxic relationships are very common. If you\u2019ve just experienced a rutura t\u00f3xica<\/a>, you\u2019re probably not quite sure how to heal and ama-te a ti pr\u00f3prio<\/a> novamente. S\u00f3 tenho uma coisa para vos dizer:<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need someone who trata-o mal<\/a> (por exemplo. ignora as suas mensagens<\/a>) and makes you feel like you\u2019re n\u00e3o \u00e9 suficientemente bom<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Afastar-se de uma pessoa assim \u00e9 um sinal de que finalmente aprendeste a amar-te a ti pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

If you can\u2019t find the pessoa certa<\/a>, be that person for yourself. Trust me, it\u2019s better to be alone than with the wrong person. Don\u2019t let them convince you otherwise.<\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o os 5 passos para o amor-pr\u00f3prio?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Learning to love yourself can be quite challenging. Naturally, since you’ve lived a life devoid of self-love, it’s going to take some time to achieve it. However, step by step, you can do it.<\/p>\n

Mas que passos seriam esses? O que \u00e9 que amarmo-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios<\/a> really mean? Well, here’s what:<\/em><\/p>\n

1. S\u00ea o teu melhor amigo.<\/h3>\n

We’re all gentle and kind when it comes to our loved ones. But as soon as it is us in need of our own love, we are prone to self-judgment. Stop that.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, pratique a auto-aceita\u00e7\u00e3o e a auto-compaix\u00e3o. Ofere\u00e7a a si pr\u00f3prio a mesma quantidade de amor que daria a outra pessoa.<\/strong> Just because you don’t fully love yourself yet, doesn’t mean you can’t start behaving as if you do!<\/p>\n

2. N\u00e3o existe uma forma errada de sentir.<\/h3>\n

Learning to love yourself is difficult if you don’t allow yourself to experience both positive and negative emotions. Trust me, your sadness won’t magically go away until you face it<\/strong>. Ent\u00e3o v\u00e1 e desatar a chorar<\/a>!<\/p>\n

Tenha em mente o seu pr\u00f3prio bem-estar e comece a ser mais emocionalmente vulner\u00e1vel<\/a>. Mantenha um di\u00e1rio ou fale com um ente querido. Este passo \u00e9 crucial na sua jornada de amor-pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

3. Mude o seu discurso pessoal.<\/h3>\n

Sente-se frequentemente sobrecarregado por pensamentos negativos<\/a>? E se eu lhe disser que tem o poder de os controlar?<\/em><\/p>\n

Yes, I know you’re probably rolling your eyes right now, but please listen carefully:<\/p>\n

Every emotion is valid, and it’s okay to feel it. But, as soon as you notice a self-deprecating thought, instantly reject it. Don’t feed yourself with even more hatred.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Find an inspiring mantra or keep a gratitude journal. That’s how you practice self-love.<\/p>\n

4. Your life \u2013 your decisions.<\/h3>\n

Estabelecer limites<\/a> com os outros \u00e9 o passo mais crucial que mudar\u00e1 toda a sua vida. Infelizmente, poucas pessoas est\u00e3o conscientes da sua import\u00e2ncia.<\/p>\n

They go through life giving more than they’re able to at the moment and sacrificing their own desires to fulfill someone else’s.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que o seu tempo \u00e9 exclusivamente seu e que tem o direito de impor regras.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you don’t like hugs, you don’t have to hug. If Sundays are your me-time days, so be it. You owe no one an explanation.<\/p>\n

5. Falar abertamente.<\/h3>\n

Algu\u00e9m est\u00e1 a menosprez\u00e1-lo?<\/em> Speak up! It is actually your duty to defend yourself, and it is their fault for provoking you. Don’t ever think that you’re the bad guy for simply standing up for yourself.<\/p>\n

O seu melhor amigo est\u00e1 a desrespeitar os seus limites?<\/em> Diga-lhes! Nunca se esque\u00e7a que \u00e9 a SUA vida que est\u00e1 a ser discutida. Mereces que as tuas decis\u00f5es sejam respeitadas.<\/p>\n

Portanto, estes foram apenas cinco entre muitos outros formas de se amar a si pr\u00f3prio<\/a>. Quanto mais praticar, mais f\u00e1cil se tornar\u00e1!<\/p>\n

How Do You Love Yourself When You Don’t Know How?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Bem, utilizem as in\u00fameras fontes que t\u00eam \u00e0 vossa disposi\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/em><\/p>\n

Para come\u00e7ar, pode ler livros de autoajuda. H\u00e1 muitos que pode encontrar na Amazon que o v\u00e3o inspirar na sua viagem de amor-pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, pode ouvir podcasts sobre amor-pr\u00f3prio ou, se as coisas ficarem realmente dif\u00edceis, pode sempre procurar um psic\u00f3logo cl\u00ednico ou um LCSW (assistente social cl\u00ednico licenciado) para chegar \u00e0s quest\u00f5es de raiz da sua falta de amor-pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Lastly, as hard as it is to rely on yourself when you’re struggling so much, that’s precisely what you need to do. Come\u00e7a a amar-te a ti pr\u00f3prio<\/a> praticando afirma\u00e7\u00f5es de amor-pr\u00f3prio <\/a>e lembrar-se de apenas confiar no universo<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que se aceita a si pr\u00f3prio?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Para se aceitar a si pr\u00f3prio, \u00e9 preciso primeiro abandonar as palavras de auto-julgamento. A cr\u00edtica constante nunca o ajudar\u00e1 a mudar.<\/p>\n

Porque n\u00e3o ser gentil consigo mesmo<\/a> em vez disso?<\/em> \u00c9 assim que se pode fazer isso:<\/p>\n

Seja o seu pr\u00f3prio apoio<\/h3>\n

A auto-compaix\u00e3o \u00e9 muito importante. Tem de compreender que o seu comportamento foi causado por outras pessoas. Don’t let them mess with you any longer. Don’t let them be the co-founders of your own life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Em vez disso, assuma o controlo. Deixe a toxicidade para tr\u00e1s e abrace tudo o que voc\u00ea \u00e9. Aprender a ama-te a ti pr\u00f3prio<\/a> isn\u2019t about hiding the pain but freely feeling it. It’s an emotion like any other.<\/p>\n

Moreover, don’t compare your progress to someone else’s. You’ve had different lives and different experiences, so you can’t expect the same type of person will come out of those experiences.<\/p>\n

Perceba o que realmente quer e fa\u00e7a um plano. Seja emp\u00e1tico para com a sua crian\u00e7a interior que nada mais quer do que ser amada por si.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don’t always trust yourself<\/h3>\n

Deixar de se comparar com as pessoas<\/a> nas redes sociais que considera mais bonitas. Just because you aren’t attractive by society’s standards doesn’t mean you aren’t at all.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Everyone is uniquely beautiful, and it’s time for you to finally abrace a sua verdadeira beleza<\/a>. Lembre-se diariamente de todas as coisas que gosta na sua apar\u00eancia. Mas tamb\u00e9m, se se sentiria melhor depois de certas mudan\u00e7as, porque n\u00e3o lutar por elas?<\/p>\n

Exercise regularly, eat healthier food, wear makeup or don’t wear makeup. The only important thing is that you sentir-se sexy e confiante na sua pr\u00f3pria pele<\/a>. Do it for yourself and your own standards, not someone else’s.<\/p>\n

Aprender a amar a si mesmo Cita\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A viagem para amor-pr\u00f3prio incondicional<\/a> e autoestima \u00e9 o melhor que se pode fazer. Mas a import\u00e2ncia est\u00e1 sempre no primeiro passo. Pouco a pouco, passar\u00e1 a utilizar mecanismos mais saud\u00e1veis para lidar com a situa\u00e7\u00e3o e ter\u00e1 a vida com que sempre sonhou.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you’re having difficulty taking that first step, here are some quotes that might help you.<\/p>\n

Aprender a amarmo-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios Cita\u00e7\u00f5es inspiradoras<\/h3>\n

Conseguir autoconfian\u00e7a<\/a> n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma tarefa f\u00e1cil. Por muito que tentemos, por vezes, a nossa baixa autoestima prevalece.<\/p>\n

That is precisely why I’ve picked my favorite life-changing quotes that will inspire you to take care of yourself the way you were always meant to.<\/p>\n

1. ”And that I did not give to anyone the responsibility for my life. It is mine. I made it. And can do what I want to with it.”<\/strong> \u2013 Mary Oliver<\/p>\n

2. ”I am not the target. I am the archer.” \u2013 Sophocles<\/p>\n

3. ”I will not stay, not ever again, in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself.” \u2013 Glennon  Doyle<\/p>\n

4. ”Laugh as much as you choose, but you will not laugh me out of my opinion.” \u2013 Jane Austen<\/p>\n

5. ”Very well; I hear; I admit, but I have a voice, too, and for good or evil mine is the speech that cannot be silenced.”<\/strong> \u2013 Joseph Conrad<\/p>\n

6. ”May what I do flow from me like a river, no forcing and no holding back…” \u2013 Rainer Maria Rilke<\/p>\n

7. ”Last year I abstained, this year I devour.” \u2013 Margaret Atwood<\/p>\n

8. ”I always deserve the best treatment, because I never put up with any other.” \u2013 Jane Austen<\/p>\n

9. ”I am learning to love the sound of my feet walking away from things not meant for me.”<\/strong> \u2013 Unknown<\/p>\n

10. ”The world has no visible order, and I have only the order of my breathing. I let myself happen.” \u2013 Clarice Lispector<\/p>\n

Aprender a amarmo-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios Cita\u00e7\u00f5es sinceras<\/h3>\n

Even though we’re not the only ones with insecurities, it often feels that way. People rarely share such issues with others, and we’re left to deal with it all alone.<\/p>\n

So, if you’re seeking words of empathy and support, here are some quotes that will offer you just that:<\/p>\n

1. ”No longer trying to find myself. Instead, I am creating myself. I am not lost. I have endless potential!”<\/strong> \u2013 Unknown<\/p>\n

2. ”You belong in the world today, no matter how ‘off’ you may feel.” \u2013 @thelatestkate<\/p>\n

3. ”It’s okay to be sad after making the right decision.” \u2013 Unknown<\/p>\n

4. ”As the image of myself becomes sharper in my brain and more precious, I feel less afraid someone else will erase me by denying me love.” \u2013 Jenny Slate<\/p>\n

5. ”I am too full of life to be half-loved.”<\/strong> \u2013 Ijeoma Umebinyuo<\/p>\n

6. ”I made the decision to consider my feelings more. And you need to pick up things you feel are important.” \u2013 Mob Psycho 100, anime<\/p>\n

7. ”I overcame myself, the sufferer; I carried my own ashes to the mountains; I invented a brighter flame for myself” \u2013 Friedrich Nietzsche<\/p>\n

8. ”To be great, be whole; exclude nothing, exaggerate nothing that is not you.” \u2013 Fernando Pessoa<\/p>\n

9. ”It’s now or later. There is no never.”<\/strong> \u2013 Niall Breen<\/p>\n

10. ”To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance” \u2013 Oscar Wilde<\/p>\n

Tudo em todos<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Learning to love yourself is never easy, but it can be achieved through sheer force of will. You won’t magically manage to aumentar o amor-pr\u00f3prio<\/a>No entanto.<\/p>\n

It’s going to take time and, above all, patience. But once you see how much better your life will be and how much stronger your relationships will be, too, you will realize that it was all worth it.<\/p>\n

Tu \u00e9s o \u00fanico que pode mudar a tua vida. S\u00f3 acreditar em si pr\u00f3prio<\/a>e os milagres est\u00e3o destinados a acontecer.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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