As rela\u00e7\u00f5es com as outras pessoas podem ser muitas vezes confusas e, por vezes, chegam a ser confusas ao ponto de nos perdermos no meio de toda a confus\u00e3o.<\/p>\n
Acabamos por nos perguntar o que raio est\u00e1 a acontecer e acabamos num lugar t\u00e3o escuro que n\u00e3o fazemos ideia de como cheg\u00e1mos l\u00e1.<\/p>\n
We all enter relationships with other people hoping for the best, but what happens when \u2018the best\u2019 doesn\u2019t happen? What happens when instead of getting what you hoped for or what you deserved, you get your heart broken?<\/p>\n
After I\u2019d been through a lot in my life and after I\u2019d had one demasiados desgostos<\/a>, I learned that I can\u2019t continue walking through life constantly rushing into things and ending up falling flat on my face all the time.<\/p>\n Quando finalmente aprendi a permitir-me ver para al\u00e9m da dor que as outras pessoas me proporcionavam, aprendi algumas coisas valiosas na vida.<\/p>\n Here are my 11 most important lessons\u2026<\/p>\n \u00c9 aqui que cometo a maior parte dos meus erros. Estou sempre a pensar que as pessoas s\u00e3o a forma como se apresentam \u00e0 partida.<\/p>\n And I never bother to look beyond their first layer, I never scratch to see what\u2019s under the surface. Sometimes there is more to people than we see at first, be that better or worse.<\/p>\n Nobody is perfect and everyone has flaws. Perhaps those flaws aren\u2019t displayed at first, but they are there and once all the excitement decreases, you\u2019ll be able to see them.<\/p>\n At the end of the day, we\u2019re all bound to show our true face to others eventually, so before you allow yourself to fall in love with someone, make sure you scratch under the surface and know who they really are.<\/p>\n Every time I got my heart broken, I thought this is it, this is the one that will break me completely, this is my end and from this one, I won\u2019t be able to recover.<\/p>\n And guess what? After each heartbreak, I recovered. Sometimes it took me a while, but eventually, I\u2019d always colocar os peda\u00e7os do meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido de volta<\/a> juntos.<\/p>\n At some point in your life, you\u2019ll think you\u2019ve come to the end of the road. You\u2019ll think how life couldn\u2019t hit you any harder and you\u2019ll think about giving up so many times.<\/p>\n And when this happens, think about how many times before you have been in that situation and yet you\u2019ve managed to pass through it.<\/p>\n \u00c9s muito mais forte do que pensas<\/a> because you\u2019ve been brought into this life to be a fighter and not a person who gives up. Give yourself some credit for that.<\/p>\n When I was the most down, it wasn\u2019t those people I thought would be there who were actually there for me, but those who truly cared for me. Those who I thought should be there for me couldn\u2019t stand the phase I was going through, nor did they bother to try and understand it.<\/p>\n They said that I was either being too dramatic about it or that I should just snap out of it. On the other hand, the people I wouldn\u2019t have thought of being there for me at first were actually the ones who held my hand when I needed it the most and who helped me get back up.<\/p>\n Just because you deserved for some people to be there for you in your darkest days, it doesn\u2019t mean that this is the way it\u2019s always going to happen.<\/p>\n And that’s okay. Pay attention to those who stuck by you even when you were not fun to be around because those are the people who truly care about you and those are the only ones who matter.<\/p>\n S\u00f3 Deus sabe quantas vezes fui quebrado pelas pessoas de quem tinha maus sentimentos no in\u00edcio. Mas, apesar do que sentia, dei-lhes o benef\u00edcio da d\u00favida e acabei por ficar com a palha mais curta.<\/p>\n Whenever you don\u2019t feel like welcoming someone into your life\u2014don\u2019t. You\u2019re allowed to say no, regardless of what those people did for you, and regardless of how much they like or love you, if the feeling is off.<\/p>\n Mesmo que n\u00e3o fa\u00e7a sentido ou que seja um pouco ego\u00edsta, deve a si pr\u00f3prio fazer-se feliz.<\/p>\n For a long time, I had this habit of giving myself the most to those who were hurting me the most. I kept thinking if I gave them more love, they\u2019d choose to hurt me less, but I was wrong. I only ended up getting even more hurt for not afastar-me quando devia ter-me afastado<\/a>.<\/p>\n Por muito que se ame, o amor nunca \u00e9 uma desculpa para se manter numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica. O amor nunca deve ser uma desculpa para permitir que algu\u00e9m o trate mal ou destrua a sua auto-confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\n Always respect yourself enough to walk away from those who are just hurting you. Don\u2019t give your best to those who did nothing to deserve it.<\/p>\n A vida continuava a atirar-me bolas curvas e eu continuava a trope\u00e7ar nelas. Tudo o que me acontecia cortava-me sempre o cora\u00e7\u00e3o como a l\u00e2mina mais afiada.<\/p>\n Every time I wasn\u2019t loved or when I wasn\u2019t treated the way I deserved, I despaired, even at the smallest inconvenience. Then I opened my eyes and realized I couldn\u2019t continue walking through life afraid that something bad would happen or allowing everything to affect me.<\/p>\n When I learned to look beyond the pain I was going through, that\u2019s when I started growing.<\/p>\n Everything that happens in your life happens for a reason. And everything that happens will affect you, but it\u2019s up to you to choose whether you\u2019ll use it wisely or let it break you.<\/p>\n \u00c9 preciso ser suficientemente s\u00e1bio para saber quando deixar certas coisas, e \u00e9 preciso compreender que nem todas as pessoas que entram na nossa vida s\u00e3o para ficar e que nem tudo o que queremos na vida \u00e9 o mesmo que precisamos.<\/p>\n \u00c9 preciso come\u00e7ar a transformar cada coisa que nos aconteceu numa li\u00e7\u00e3o e n\u00e3o num rev\u00e9s.<\/p>\n God knows how many times I stuck by someone, mistaking what they gave me for love. God knows how many sleepless nights I\u2019ve had because I wasn\u2019t sure if the person I was with loved me or not.<\/p>\n E s\u00f3 Deus sabe quantas vezes fui quebrada por algu\u00e9m que eu pensava que me amava.<\/p>\n See, when someone loves you, you\u2019ll know. There won\u2019t be second-guessing, there won\u2019t be nights when you can\u2019t fall asleep because your mind is busy wondering if someone loves you or not, you won\u2019t be confused or unsure.<\/p>\n When someone truly loves you, they\u2019ll do everything in their power to make sure you\u2019re aware of that. They\u2019ll make sure you feel special and loved. That\u2019s the only truth.<\/p>\n I\u2019ve held on to so many temporary people in my life that I forgot how those who are meant to stay look. I kept living with this illusion that all those who come into my life are meant to stay.<\/p>\n I kept thinking that all those I love will love me back. But this couldn\u2019t be further from reality.<\/p>\n11. Ningu\u00e9m \u00e9 perfeito ou como o imaginamos \u00e0 partida<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
10. \u00c9s muito mais forte do que pensas que \u00e9s<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
9. S\u00f3 aqueles que realmente gostam de ti estar\u00e3o l\u00e1 para ti nos teus dias mais dif\u00edceis<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
8. If the feeling is off, you\u2019re allowed to say no<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
7. Respeite-se sempre para se afastar daqueles que s\u00f3 o est\u00e3o a magoar<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
6. Everything that happens to you in life will either teach you a lesson or destroy you\u2014but the choice is always yours<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
5. If someone truly loves you, you\u2019ll know<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
4. Just because you love someone, it doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re meant to be<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n