{"id":13989,"date":"2020-07-07T09:32:20","date_gmt":"2020-07-07T09:32:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=13989"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:02:15","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:02:15","slug":"quase-relacionamento","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/quase-relacionamento\/","title":{"rendered":"O rescaldo de uma quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quase namoraste com algu\u00e9m.<\/strong> You were almost the girl who was chosen. You had a boyfriend\u2014at least you almost had him. There was something, but you\u2019re not sure how to call it.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o havia r\u00f3tulos<\/a>. There were no promises made out loud, just those silent ones you could read from each other\u2019s behavior.<\/p>\n

But in the end, all you can call yourselves is \u2018almost\u2019 together because nothing really happened.<\/p>\n

You thought you\u2019re just taking things slow.<\/strong> Era como se nenhum de voc\u00eas quisesse apressar as coisas e ambos gostassem de passar tempo juntos. Pelo menos foi o que pareceu.<\/p>\n

Mas algures entre ir com calma e admitir os seus sentimentos, ficou preso numa zona cinzenta que n\u00e3o conseguiu ultrapassar.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s all you were left with\u2014frozen in time with so many possibilities but none of them happening.<\/p>\n

Esperava que o seu quase se transformasse em algo real.<\/strong> You hoped you will be able to stand in front of your friends and introduce each other as more than friends\u2014as people who are dating.<\/p>\n

\"O<\/p>\n

You hoped you\u2019ll be able to tell your family that you\u2019re together and you hoped you\u2019ll be able to display your relationship publicly.<\/p>\n

That you\u2019ll be able to change your profile picture, that you\u2019ll save each others numbers with your cute nicknames instead of just names, but it didn\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o aconteceu nada de facto.<\/strong> E tudo o que restava era a esperan\u00e7a de que as coisas acabassem por mudar.<\/p>\n

But regardless of how long you waited, somehow you got stuck and you weren\u2019t moving anywhere. No matter how hard you swam, if you ran or walked, you didn\u2019t move from the same spot.<\/p>\n

All that remained were those \u201cwhat if\u201d questions:<\/strong> What if you said what you felt, what if someone actually made the first move, what if you asked for a label, what if you took the charge, what if you weren\u2019t afraid, what if you were more courageous, what if and what if\u2026 what if it happened, seria capaz de ser feliz?<\/a><\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 que todos os teus sonhos se tornariam realidade? Seria tudo o que sempre quiseste?<\/p>\n

Even if it wasn\u2019t a real relationship, it still hurts.<\/strong> It\u2019s still a painful experience and the aftermath of an almost relationship haunts you even more than the aftermath of a failed relationship.<\/p>\n

Because there are so many possibilities that haven\u2019t come to life, there is so much hope that just froze in time, there are so many dreams that will never see the light of the day, there is so much that should\u2019ve been, but didn’t happen.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Even if it wasn\u2019t a real relationship, it still haunts you.<\/strong> Continua a despeda\u00e7ar-nos o cora\u00e7\u00e3o. E a melancolia continua a ser a tua melhor amiga.<\/p>\n

Porque pode n\u00e3o ter sido uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o real, mas os sentimentos eram muito reais. E a dor est\u00e1 bem viva.<\/p>\n

E, no final da hist\u00f3ria, uma vez que recusar o acordo<\/a> for something that is in the air and non-existent, you can\u2019t help but ask yourself why can\u2019t you be enough.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s wrong with you and how is it possible that you can\u2019t be chosen?<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t escape this feeling that it was something you\u2019ve done, that it had to be some huge mistake you made that prevented you from being chosen and from getting the love you deserve.<\/p>\n

And, even when you know your worth, even when you know you\u2019re more than enough, you can\u2019t escape all those questions that come in waves when you close your eyes.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t shake this feeling that you were meant to be. You can\u2019t accept that it isn\u2019t happening when you had all the signs that it will happen.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

And you can\u2019t shake off this feeling like you\u2019ll always be a backup plan. That you\u2019ll never get your own love story, that you\u2019ll never get the love you deserve.<\/p>\n

That you\u2019ll always be just an almost choice and that you\u2019ll always be stuck in an almost relationship.<\/p>\n

And you end up being disappointed in everything: life, people, future relationships. You end up being broken by something you don\u2019t even know how to name.<\/p>\n

Acabamos por nos perguntar se alguma vez seremos amados da forma que uma pessoa merece ser amada. Se alguma vez seremos escolhidos ou se alguma vez seremos mais do que apenas uma op\u00e7\u00e3o ou uma possibilidade que nunca chegou a existir.<\/p>\n

And you end up wondering if you\u2019ll be the one who wins ever in life.<\/p>\n

Well, let me answer that for you\u2014if you learned something from a sua quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>, if you know you deserve more than being just an option, if you walk away from a \u2018relationship\u2019 that isn\u2019t going anywhere, you win.<\/p>\n

Although the aftermath of an almost relationship is nasty, at least you made sure you aren\u2019t stuck in it forever. At least you gave a chance to your future.<\/p>\n

At least you made a spot for someone who\u2019ll be more than willing to give you everything you deserve.<\/p>\n

\"O<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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