{"id":14392,"date":"2020-04-13T09:34:58","date_gmt":"2020-04-13T09:34:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=14392"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:47:44","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:47:44","slug":"sobre-voltar-para-ele","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/sobre-voltar-para-ele\/","title":{"rendered":"Sempre que pensares em voltar para ele, l\u00ea isto"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I know it\u2019s hard for you to shut him out of your life, from your head, from your heart. I know you go to bed at night, all alone, fighting with your thoughts, staring at the empty, cold walls.<\/p>\n<p>I know that you are lonely, but that doesn\u2019t mean you have to<a href=\"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/kim-quindlen\/2015\/01\/heres-what-happens-if-you-go-back-to-him-when-you-know-you-shouldnt\/\" rel=\"noopener\"> voltar para ele<\/a>. Sei que te habituaste a ele e ao seu toque.<\/p>\n<p>Sei que estiveste com ele durante muito tempo e que n\u00e3o sabes mais nada. <em><strong>Sei que pensas que ele te d\u00e1 seguran\u00e7a quando, na verdade, te deixa ansiosa.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t stop rewinding in your mind everything you\u2019ve been through, in the hope that you\u2019ll find the situation where everything went wrong.<\/p>\n<p>There is an eternal fight inside you because one part of you knows it\u2019s best for you to forget him and move on, but the other part is still hooked on to him.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69759\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada na cama\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Essa pequena parte de ti est\u00e1 assustada e ret\u00e9m-te. Mant\u00e9m-te a correr em c\u00edrculos e<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/11-coisas-que-as-mulheres-magoaram-muitas-vezes\/\"> ferir-se<\/a> todas as vezes.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Sei que est\u00e3o desejosos de saber quando \u00e9 que o amor desapareceu. Onde \u00e9 que tudo correu mal? Porque \u00e9 que tudo se tornou t\u00e3o confuso e complicado?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>P\u00e1ra de o perseguir. P\u00e1ra de ligar para o n\u00famero dele e de pousar o telefone em p\u00e2nico quando te apercebes do que estavas prestes a fazer.<\/p>\n<p>Stop looking at his profile to see where he\u2019s at and who he is with. That won\u2019t make it any easier.<\/p>\n<p>Isso s\u00f3 te vai fazer sentir pior. Vai fazer com que o queiras de volta ainda mais.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>You know why you left. You left because he wasn\u2019t the same man you fell in love with. You know that, so don\u2019t go back to him.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69760\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-next-to-her-boyfriend.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada na cama ao lado do namorado\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-next-to-her-boyfriend.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-next-to-her-boyfriend-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-next-to-her-boyfriend-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t turn back time and relive the moments when the two of you were in love, when he cared about you, when he loved you. Those times are gone and nothing will bring them back.<\/p>\n<p>Ele j\u00e1 n\u00e3o \u00e9 o homem que era. Ele mudou.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t have to know why or when he changed, you just have to understand that he changed and nothing will bring him back.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Erase him from your memories because you\u2019re only hurting yourself. He doesn\u2019t care about you and even if you go back to him, he will hurt you again because he still won\u2019t care.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Por vezes, sonhamos em mud\u00e1-lo e faz\u00ea-lo ver que o seu comportamento \u00e9 errado, que ele age como um completo idiota. \u00c9 isso que nos d\u00e1 esperan\u00e7a e nos leva a voltar para ele.<\/p>\n<p>But you have to realize that you can\u2019t change him, you can\u2019t help him. He is the only one who has the power to do that and if he doesn\u2019t want to or doesn\u2019t get that he needs help, there is no point in staying.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69761\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-in-pink-coat.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste de casaco cor-de-rosa\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-in-pink-coat.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-in-pink-coat-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-in-pink-coat-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quando estavam juntos e quando as coisas come\u00e7aram a mudar, lembra-se de como se sentiu? Lembra-se de que era a respons\u00e1vel por tudo o que de mau acontecia?<\/p>\n<p>Tu \u00e9 que querias trabalhar na tua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, querias salvar o que restava da tua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Tentaste tanto esquecer todas as coisas est\u00fapidas que ele tinha feito, mas, de alguma forma, tudo acabou por sair pela culatra.<\/p>\n<p>Lembra-se de que tiveram belos momentos juntos, quando se esqueceram de tudo o que estava a acontecer.<\/p>\n<p>Pensou mesmo que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o tinha recuperado o seu antigo fulgor, que tinha sido apenas uma fase dif\u00edcil e agradeceu a Deus por isso, porque o amava.<\/p>\n<p>Bem, essa bolha foi rebentada num segundo porque o seu comportamento mudou do nada. Ele ficou louco sem motivo. Criou brigas a partir do nada.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69762\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/couple-fighting-in-the-kitchen.jpg\" alt=\"casal a discutir na cozinha\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/couple-fighting-in-the-kitchen.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/couple-fighting-in-the-kitchen-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/couple-fighting-in-the-kitchen-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t even remember how it all happened, how you found yourself in the situation where you felt like a piece of shit, unworthy of living.<\/p>\n<p>Como \u00e9 que se meteu numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que ele lhe gritava com os miolos?<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Como \u00e9 que foi poss\u00edvel passar de um momento de felicidade total para o que parece ser uma eternidade de tristeza absoluta?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Sempre que quiser voltar para ele, lembre-se de que foi em si que ele descarregou as suas frustra\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n<p>Lembre-se que a raiva e a f\u00faria dele foram projectadas em si e, depois disso, ele sentia-se melhor e voc\u00ea sentia-se p\u00e9ssima. Queres mesmo passar por tudo isso outra vez?<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>He doesn\u2019t deserve you and he never did.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>No in\u00edcio, ele era querido, gostava de si. Ligava s\u00f3 para dizer que te amava, mas depois tudo isso desapareceu, como se algu\u00e9m tivesse desligado um interrutor.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69764\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/happy-man-laying-on-woman-in-the-living-room.jpg\" alt=\"homem feliz deitado em cima de uma mulher na sala de estar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/happy-man-laying-on-woman-in-the-living-room.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/happy-man-laying-on-woman-in-the-living-room-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/happy-man-laying-on-woman-in-the-living-room-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He became someone you no longer recognized. He wasn\u2019t your person anymore, he was just a person.<\/p>\n<p>Nessa altura, querias sair, mas era como se ele soubesse que estavas prestes a deix\u00e1-lo, por isso voltava aos bons velhos tempos e tornava-se na pessoa por quem te apaixonaste, s\u00f3 para te manter, para <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/7-razoes-para-atrair-homens-emocionalmente-afectados\/\">emocionalmente<\/a> chantagear-vos, para vos fazer sentir demasiado culpados para o deixarem.<\/p>\n<p>And when you decided to stay, everything would be the same, so he would stop caring, and he would ignore you and treat you like you didn\u2019t even exist.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Mais uma vez, ficou degradada e magoada. Sozinha numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o com um homem que se tinha transformado num completo monstro.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Eu sei que tinhas medo de seguir em frente. Sei que foi incrivelmente dif\u00edcil para ti deix\u00e1-lo, porque ele era tudo o que conhecias h\u00e1 j\u00e1 algum tempo.<\/p>\n<p>You doubted yourself because you thought you wouldn\u2019t it make a day without him. But you were wrong. You found that strength and you left. That was the best thing you could have ever done.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69765\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/calm-woman-meditating.jpg\" alt=\"mulher calma a meditar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/calm-woman-meditating.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/calm-woman-meditating-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/calm-woman-meditating-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t ruin it by <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/nao-deixar-para-tras-a-vida-ouvida\/\">voltar atr\u00e1s.<\/a> There will always be hard days when you don\u2019t want to get out of bed.<\/p>\n<p>There will be days when you won\u2019t be able to look yourself in the mirror.<\/p>\n<p>There will be days when you will want to get back to him. Don\u2019t, just don\u2019t. You\u2019re better off alone.<\/p>\n<p>Pensa apenas na dor e na mis\u00e9ria que ele te causou e lembra-te que nada pode ser pior do que isso.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t go back to him because you deserve so much more than him. You\u2019re so much stronger and more beautiful when he isn\u2019t around.<\/p>\n<p>You shine bright when you are away from him, so please don\u2019t go back to him.<\/p>\n<p><em>You know that this has to end sometime. Let it be this time. Don\u2019t go back to him.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69757\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Every-Time-You-Think-About-Going-Back-To-Him-Read-This-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Sempre que pensares em voltar para ele, l\u00ea isto\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Every-Time-You-Think-About-Going-Back-To-Him-Read-This-pinterest.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Every-Time-You-Think-About-Going-Back-To-Him-Read-This-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Every-Time-You-Think-About-Going-Back-To-Him-Read-This-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I know it\u2019s hard for you to shut him out of your life, from your head, from your heart. I know you go to bed at night, all alone, fighting with your thoughts, staring at the empty, cold walls. I know that you are lonely, but that doesn\u2019t mean you have to go back to&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":69766,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14392","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Every-Time-You-Think-About-Going-Back-To-Him-Read-This.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14392","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14392"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14392\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/69766"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14392"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14392"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14392"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}