{"id":144357,"date":"2022-02-11T13:15:00","date_gmt":"2022-02-11T13:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=144357"},"modified":"2022-03-02T00:15:08","modified_gmt":"2022-03-02T00:15:08","slug":"se-quisessem-fa-lo-iam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/se-quisessem-fa-lo-iam\/","title":{"rendered":"Se quisessem, f\u00e1-lo-iam: Verdadeiro ou falso?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’m sure you stumbled upon TikTok’s latest trend, “Se quisessem, f\u00e1-lo-iam<\/a>.” While some women claim that this is the only piece of relationship advice we should all live by, some argue against it, reminding us that things aren’t always that simple.<\/p>\n

So, what’s it gonna be? Is this line true or false? You can never know if you don’t read on!<\/p>\n

Se quisessem, f\u00e1-lo-iam: 8 coisas a considerar<\/h2>\n

Eis alguns aspectos importantes a ter em conta antes de chegar a uma conclus\u00e3o:<\/p>\n

1. Ningu\u00e9m est\u00e1 assim t\u00e3o ocupado<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Let’s start with the most obvious reason why the “se quisessem, f\u00e1-lo-iam<\/a>” line is true: everyone finds time and energy for the people and things that really matter to them.<\/p>\n

Isto pode parecer duro, mas, no fim de contas, ningu\u00e9m est\u00e1 demasiado ocupado para telefonar, enviar mensagens ou estar consigo quando precisa. Tente olhar para as coisas da sua pr\u00f3pria perspetiva: voc\u00ea tem sempre as pessoas de quem gosta na sua agenda.<\/p>\n

If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse!<\/b><\/h4>\n

You can have the busiest day in the world, but you’ll find a way to at least send your loved one a text message or give them a phone call explaining yourself. You won’t ghost them despite being well aware that they need your presence.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you’re too busy or exhausted, you’ll probably bail that man or woman from Tinder whom you’re supposed to go out on a first date with.<\/p>\n

Do you see the difference? You aren’t busy for your family members or best friends, but you’re busy for someone you met on an online dating app.<\/p>\n

And, that’s perfectly reasonable. But, it does bring us to the next conclusion: If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll <\/b>encontrar uma desculpa<\/b><\/a>!<\/b><\/p>\n

2. A vida \u00e9 demasiado curta para desculpas<\/h3>\n

No entanto, a \u00faltima coisa que tenciona fazer \u00e9 aceitar other people’s excuses<\/a>. And, that’s perfectly fine.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, a vida \u00e9 demasiado curta para ficar sentado \u00e0 espera que algu\u00e9m arranje uma desculpa v\u00e1lida para n\u00e3o o tratar bem ou afastar-se<\/a>. You’re sick and tired of people telling you how much you mean to them, but never actually showing up when you need them.<\/b><\/p>\n

How many times have you heard your good friend telling you that they wanted to call you, but something didn\u2019t go their way? What about your significant other who claims they love you to the moon and back, but regularly fails to give you the support you expect from them?<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que se faz quando se depara com uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o destas? Deve acreditar nestas desculpas vazias?<\/p>\n

Well, it all depends on your gut. Do you feel like they’re lying to you? If so, run!<\/p>\n

3. You’re not equally important to everyone<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Here’s a heartbreaking fact: sometimes, you’re not as important to people as you would like to be.<\/b><\/p>\n

Let’s take this for an example. You met a really nice guy or girl and you’re doing your best to build a committed relationship with them. You know they like you, but they’re either clearly not putting enough effort in connecting with you or they’re making <\/b>desculpas para n\u00e3o se comprometer<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

So, you say to yourself: If they wanted to, they would. But, why don’t they WANT a <\/b>rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e9ria<\/b> consigo?<\/b><\/p>\n

Tentamos justificar o seu comportamento e continuamos a procurar desculpas. No entanto, a dura verdade \u00e9 bastante simples: no <\/b>fim do dia<\/b>, you’re <\/b>aquele que se preocupa mais<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

And, as brutal as this might sound, it’s something you’ll have to accept. A lot of people won’t give you back the love you deserve. That’s all a part of life, and you just have to deal with it.<\/p>\n

4. A vida, por vezes, mete-se no caminho<\/h3>\n

I hate to break your bubble, but things aren’t always as simple as the TikTok advice “If they wanted to, they would” says. You know why? Well, because a vida \u00e9 bastante imprevis\u00edvel<\/b>.<\/p>\n

Por vezes, as coisas atrapalham mesmo. Quantas vezes planeou contactar algu\u00e9m, mas aconteceu algo inesperado?<\/p>\n

Of course, I’m not talking about “a dog ate my homework” kind of thing. I’m talking about real life situations that sound like empty excuses, but are actually true.<\/b><\/p>\n

What if the nice guy you met got hit by a car on the way to your first date? What if someone wasn’t returning your phone calls because they lost a loved one?<\/p>\n

What if your friend or a family member hasn’t been texting you because they’re struggling with depression? What if your crush isn’t reaching out because they lost their phone and can\u2019t get a hold of your number?<\/p>\n

Confian\u00e7a ilimitada vs sombra de d\u00favida<\/h4>\n

Tem duas op\u00e7\u00f5es. Pode acreditar nestas desculpas e arriscar-se a ser um tolo. Ou ent\u00e3o, pode acusar a outra pessoa de n\u00e3o se esfor\u00e7ar o suficiente antes de pedir uma explica\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/b><\/p>\n

What’s it going to be? Well, here’s something that saved my heart from getting broken too many times, and also helped me keep my mental health.<\/p>\n

D\u00eaem \u00e0s pessoas que vos rodeiam a presun\u00e7\u00e3o de inoc\u00eancia. <\/b>Isso significa dar-lhes a oportunidade de se explicarem.<\/p>\n

However, if they repeat the same mistake and try to justify themselves with the same lousy excuse, they won’t be getting a segunda oportunidade<\/a>.<\/p>\n

5. Retira a culpa de si<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Possibly the best thing about the “Se quisessem, f\u00e1-lo-iam<\/a>” concept is the fact that it takes the blame off you. Instead of questionar o seu valor pr\u00f3prio<\/a> sempre que um potencial parceiro doesn’t text you back<\/a>N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7am que a decis\u00e3o foi deles e que t\u00eam o direito de a tomar.<\/p>\n

Em vez de deixar que isto arru\u00edne a sua <\/b>autoestima<\/b>Lembrem-se que nada disto \u00e9 <\/b>sua culpa<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

They didn’t fantasma porque<\/a> of something you did. They weren’t unfaithful because you weren’t enough<\/a>.<\/p>\n

6. N\u00e3o \u00e9 um convite para os perseguir mais<\/h3>\n

A rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a> means equal effort. It’s not about one person running for their life while the other one is chasing them all the time.<\/p>\n

Por isso, se algu\u00e9m n\u00e3o estiver presente para si, veja isso como uma bandeira vermelha.<\/p>\n

I don’t care if they’re n\u00e3o responder \u00e0s suas mensagens<\/a> and phone calls, ignoring you all over social media, not giving you the amount of time you’re giving them, or ignoring you after y’all slept together<\/a>.<\/p>\n

A conclus\u00e3o \u00e9 a mesma: isto n\u00e3o \u00e9 um convite para os perseguir mais. On the contrary, it’s a sign to back off.<\/b><\/p>\n

As much as this hurts, this person clearly doesn’t want any more contact. <\/b>Or, they’re just jogar jogos<\/a>.<\/p>\n

De qualquer forma, a \u00faltima coisa que deve fazer \u00e9 correr atr\u00e1s deles! Eles fizeram claramente uma escolha, e tudo o que se pode fazer \u00e9 respeit\u00e1-la e <\/b>deix\u00e1-los ir<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

7. O que est\u00e1 destinado a ser teu encontrar\u00e1 um caminho<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

The “If they wanted to, they would” concept doesn’t have to be looked at so pessimistically. Instead of searching for reasons why someone wasn’t there for you or chose not to treat you right, just see it as an act of destiny.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s actually pretty simple: they weren’t meant to be<\/a>. Ou, pelo menos, eles weren\u2019t meant to last<\/a> na sua vida.<\/p>\n

Por outro lado, quem \u00e9 destinado a ser teu<\/a> encontrar\u00e1 sempre tempo e energia para si. A sua alma g\u00e9mea encontrar\u00e3o uma maneira<\/a> ao vosso cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

There won’t be any obstacles or red flags. Once you meet them, everything will fall in its place, and you’ll understand why it never worked with anyone else.<\/b><\/p>\n

Por isso, em vez de se preocupar, relaxe e deixe que o Universo tome conta de si.<\/p>\n

8. Some people don’t know how to “be there”<\/h3>\n

I don’t mean to justify anyone who doesn’t put enough effort into a relationship with you, but here is something you need to hear: a lot of people just don’t have the capacity to love you<\/a> da forma que se espera.<\/p>\n

Talvez tenham uma estilo de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>, s\u00e3o emocionalmente indispon\u00edvel<\/a>, ou realmente don’t know what they want<\/a>. Se calhar, o tipo que a deixou sem resposta queria mesmo ficar, mas ficou com medo quando viu que se estava a apaixonar.<\/p>\n

Maybe your friend wanted to give you their emotional support, but chickened out once they realized they had to be someone’s rock for the first time ever.<\/p>\n

Don’t get me wrong: this doesn’t annul them from responsibility, and you shouldn’t feel guilty for not understanding their reasons!<\/b><\/p>\n

To Wrap Up: Things aren’t always that simple<\/h2>\n

So, is the “If they wanted to, they would” sentence true? \u00c9 este o conceito que o deve guiar ao longo da vida?<\/b><\/p>\n

If someone doesn’t treat you right, is it because they simply don’t want to put more effort into your relationship? If someone isn’t there for you, is it because they don’t care enough?<\/p>\n

No final do dia, tenha em mente que nada na vida \u00e9 preto e branco<\/b>. Sure, the “if there is a will, there is a way” concept applies in most cases, but sometimes you have to dig deep under the surface to find the real reason and to look at the bigger picture!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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