{"id":144505,"date":"2022-02-14T22:30:40","date_gmt":"2022-02-14T22:30:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=144505"},"modified":"2022-02-25T06:51:34","modified_gmt":"2022-02-25T06:51:34","slug":"o-que-enviar-ao-seu-ex-depois-de-nao-ter-contacto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-que-enviar-ao-seu-ex-depois-de-nao-ter-contacto\/","title":{"rendered":"O que enviar ao seu ex depois de n\u00e3o haver contacto: 9 dicas profissionais"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ah, a eterna quest\u00e3o: O que enviar ao teu ex depois de nenhum contacto<\/a>? Como fazer com que eles saibam que ainda nos preocupamos sem os fazermos saber?<\/p>\n

Or…wait… \u00e9 melhor inform\u00e1-los?<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s all very confusing, especially when it’s happening to you. I get that. And that’s why I’m here to help you.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve realized that you can’t let your ex go, then we’ll make them yours again! All you need to do is follow the tips below<\/i>.<\/p>\n

I swear it’s not clickbait \u2013 I have so much wisdom to share with you!<\/p>\n

O que enviar ao seu ex depois de n\u00e3o haver contacto<\/h2>\n

If you’ve been wondering what to text your ex after no contact, here are 9 pro tips to help you out:<\/p>\n

1. Toda a gente gosta de rir<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/h3>\n

What’s better than reminding your <\/i>ex-namorado<\/i>\/<\/i>ex-namorada<\/i> de como \u00e9s engra\u00e7ado?<\/i><\/p>\n

Certifique-se de que guarda os melhores memes, especialmente os que t\u00eam a ver com a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Se quiser <\/b>reconquist\u00e1-los<\/b><\/a>, it’s always best to strike a chord with a personal joke rather than a random funny <\/b>foto<\/b> que encontrou no <\/b>redes sociais<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

That’s why I won’t give you any examples. That would be your task. Use that good memory of yours to your advantage!<\/p>\n

Pensem nas vezes em que ambos se riram at\u00e9 \u00e0s l\u00e1grimas. Qual foi o motivo? Ligue a mensagem a isso de alguma forma.<\/i><\/p>\n

Having fun with someone brings us closer together because we all want to enjoy life the best we can. Besides, there’s nothing more attractive than someone with a sense of humor.<\/p>\n

Portanto, antes de mais nada, faz\u00ea-los rir<\/a>. Recorde-lhes mais uma vez como a vida consigo era boa e como ainda pode ser.<\/b><\/p>\n

2. As semelhan\u00e7as s\u00e3o cruciais<\/h3>\n

Who doesn’t adore people with the same interests as us?<\/i><\/p>\n

The conversations can never be too long because we’re both obsessing over the same things with no shame whatsoever.<\/p>\n

If you’re wondering what to text your ex after no contact, this is definitely the way to go. \u00c9 preciso recordar-lhes a vossa semelhan\u00e7a. Isso ir\u00e1 certamente <\/b>fazer o seu <\/b>ex-miss<\/b> tu<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Let’s say you both enjoy the same TV shows. Then the first text can be an in-depth analysis of your favorite characters. Or find a meme related to it.<\/p>\n

And… the secret ingredient that I always like to add: ENTHUSIASM.<\/b><\/p>\n

Yes. It’s not enough to just talk about it. You have to genuinely enjoy the conversation because people who get excited over small things are just irresistible (especially when ainda tens sentimentos por eles<\/a>).<\/p>\n

3. There’s a question for every answer<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

I know this one sounds generic and boring, but it doesn’t have to be so.<\/p>\n

Ask your ex about their life. Check in to see what they’ve been doing and how they’ve been. Or wish them a happy birthday if you’re lucky enough with the timing!<\/p>\n

Mas o segredo \u00e9 ser genuinamente curioso.<\/p>\n

Don’t ask just for the sake of saying something. This can turn into the most interesting conversation ever if you only lead it in the right direction.<\/b><\/p>\n

Sempre que responderem \u00e0 sua pergunta, v\u00e1 mais fundo.<\/p>\n

For instance, if they say that they’re stressed because it’s exam period, don’t be like, “Oh, that sucks.”<\/p>\n

Descubra o que os est\u00e1 a deixar t\u00e3o stressados. Est\u00e3o, de um modo geral, a passar um mau bocado neste momento? Ou os exames s\u00e3o demasiado dif\u00edceis? Como est\u00e3o a lidar com o stress? Pode tamb\u00e9m dar algumas das suas pr\u00f3prias dicas.<\/p>\n

The point here is to show an interest in your ex’s life. If they see how much you care, they will be more drawn to you.<\/b><\/p>\n

But, of course, also make sure that you share your own stories. There’s probably a lot that has happened since the last time you talked.<\/p>\n

So, if you’re not sure what to text your ex after no contact, you could try mentioning your new job and the new friends you’ve made. It should never only be a one-way street.<\/p>\n

I’m always thankful when someone considers me important enough to share random details about their day. Trust me, your ex will, too.<\/i><\/p>\n

4. Todos queremos ser super-her\u00f3is<\/h3>\n

Asking for help is also brilliant if you’re wondering what to text your ex after no contact.<\/p>\n

Everybody likes being useful, especially if they’re in love with you. So, think about what they’re good at and find the proper time to ask them for a favor.<\/b><\/p>\n

Por exemplo, se o seu ex \u00e9 muito versado em tecnologia e voc\u00ea tem os conhecimentos de uma pessoa de 90 anos neste dom\u00ednio, crie um problema para ele resolver.<\/p>\n

This will make them very happy, even more so if it’s a man. You will desencadear o seu instinto de her\u00f3i<\/a>e far\u00e1 tudo o que estiver ao seu alcance para o fazer sentir feliz e protegido.<\/p>\n

Mas o mesmo se aplica \u00e0s mulheres. Todos n\u00f3s queremos estar presentes para os nossos entes queridos, por isso, seguir esta dica nunca \u00e9 o caminho errado.<\/p>\n

5. It’s time for new beginnings<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

This one’s more about how NOT to initiate contact with your ex. You don’t want to involve them in your own drama as soon as you reach out.<\/p>\n

Claro que partilhar \u00e9 bom e necess\u00e1rio, mas deixe isso para mais tarde. De in\u00edcio, concentre-se em temas mais leves, temas que vos fa\u00e7am felizes.<\/i><\/p>\n

More importantly, don’t mention the issues that made you break up. It may be important to address them, but you have plenty of time for that. Let’s restabelecer a liga\u00e7\u00e3o com eles<\/a> primeiro.<\/p>\n

It’s much better to show them what a different person you are after so many <\/b>meses sem contacto<\/b> do que falar sobre o assunto. A comunica\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 saud\u00e1vel, mas n\u00e3o significa nada sem esfor\u00e7o.<\/b><\/p>\n

Show them that you’re ready for new beginnings, both in your personal life and in the life you plan to have with them.<\/p>\n

Quando o teu ex reparar na tua transforma\u00e7\u00e3o, garanto-te que eles v\u00e3o querer-te de volta<\/a>.<\/p>\n

6. Tudo come\u00e7a com o auto-aperfei\u00e7oamento<\/h3>\n

What made you break up? Was it a lack of maturity? Jealousy? Personal issues? Whatever it was, it’s important that you show your ex how much you’ve changed.<\/p>\n

Palavra-chave: MOSTRAR, n\u00e3o DIZER.<\/strong><\/p>\n

For example, if you were jealous, it’s not enough to say, “I don’t struggle with jealousy anymore. I’m past that.”<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Tem de o provar com as suas AC\u00c7\u00d5ES.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don’t be in a hurry either. Wait for the right moment.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get mad, if your ex mentions that they were having coffee with a (fe)male friend. Ask them how it was and take the conversation in a whole new direction. Yes, you read that right.<\/p>\n

If your goal is to show that you don’t mind them going out with (fe)male friends, the point is not to focus on it too much. Ask a few questions, and then move on to the next topic.<\/p>\n

HOWEVER, don’t pretend that you’re unbothered when you clearly are.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u00c9 por isso que recomendo que resolva os seus pr\u00f3prios problemas antes de contactar o seu ex.<\/p>\n

Only when you TRULY remove the issue that made you break up can you get back together; otherwise, history will only repeat itself, and we wouldn’t want that, would we?<\/i><\/p>\n

7. Deixar o passado fazer a sua magia<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/h3>\n

If you’re stuck wondering, ”What do I text my ex?” try asking yourself these questions:<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que eles mais gostaram em si? Foi a sua empatia? A tua curiosidade? O seu gosto por debates intelectuais?<\/i><\/p>\n

Seja o que for, certifique-se de que \u00e9 essa pessoa. Se eles apreciam a sua intelig\u00eancia, por que n\u00e3o contact\u00e1-los com um pensamento intrigante que ir\u00e1 desencadear uma conversa interessante<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Or, if they like how affected you get by other people’s troubles, open up to them about a recent tragedy.<\/p>\n

Eu sei que disse que n\u00e3o havia drama, mas nem tudo \u00e9 preto e branco.<\/i><\/p>\n

You know your ex-partner the best. If they’re the type of person who will be interested even if the conversation is a bit sad, then why not do it?<\/p>\n

A chave aqui \u00e9 mostrar-lhes que continua a ser a pessoa que eles amavam.<\/b><\/p>\n

Por isso, acentue todas as caracter\u00edsticas que fizeram com que se apaixonassem por si, ao mesmo tempo que mostra que os seus defeitos s\u00e3o uma coisa do passado.<\/b><\/p>\n

Confia em mim, isto vai faz\u00ea-los pensar em si<\/a> a toda a hora.<\/p>\n

8. Usar o cora\u00e7\u00e3o na manga<\/h3>\n

Talvez <\/i>your ex hasn\u2019t tried to contact you<\/i><\/a>mas porque n\u00e3o dar o primeiro passo?<\/i><\/p>\n

Honesty is the best policy because life is too short for games. If you want your ex back, that’s exactly what you should say.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, provavelmente conhecem-se muito bem. Porqu\u00ea esconder o que querem?<\/p>\n

Deixem-me dizer-vos algumas vantagens de seguir esta dica:<\/p>\n

1. Se lhe disser que continua a am\u00e1-la, parece uma pessoa confiante que luta pelo que quer.<\/b><\/p>\n

Both of you probably find it awkward as hell to initiate conversation after the no contact rule, yet you so bravely went straight to the point. Who wouldn’t want a partner who doesn’t give up on us so easily?<\/p>\n

2. When you’re honest, you encourage honesty in the other person.<\/b><\/p>\n

O resultado \u00e9 a exist\u00eancia de dois parceiros emocionalmente vulner\u00e1vel<\/a> uns com os outros. E o que \u00e9 que a vulnerabilidade emocional nos d\u00e1?<\/p>\n

LIGA\u00c7\u00c3O.<\/i><\/p>\n

Quanto mais honesto for, mais profunda ser\u00e1 a liga\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

3. Far\u00e1 com que se sintam amados.<\/b><\/p>\n

Quero dizer, imagine que algu\u00e9m volta para si meses depois da separa\u00e7\u00e3o. N\u00e3o \u00e9 lisonjeiro?<\/p>\n

Show them how unforgettable they are and how you wouldn’t replace them for the world.<\/p>\n

4. Por que n\u00e3o?<\/b><\/p>\n

You only have one life, and it’s best to make it easier for both parties to cut right to the chase.<\/p>\n

That’s what I do. I always remind myself that I’m a mere mortal who won’t roam the earth forever. I know it sounds depressing, but it’s all about perception.<\/p>\n

Death can be inspiring because it can make us do things. Let’s use our time here wisely. Let’s go after the thing we want.<\/b><\/p>\n

P.S. First, make sure to mark step 6 as done. If you haven’t solved the core issues, loving them won’t be enough (sadly).<\/i><\/p>\n

9. \u00c9 necess\u00e1rio um encontro<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Now that you’ve told them you miss them, it’s time to take some action. <\/i>Fazer o <\/i>primeiro passo<\/i><\/a> e pedir-lhes que <\/i>encontrar-se<\/i> para o caf\u00e9.<\/i><\/p>\n

Melhor ainda, leve-os a comer aquela sobremesa de que tanto gostam ou v\u00e1 \u00e0quela pizzaria onde ia quase todos os dias.<\/p>\n

Quanto mais pessoal for, melhor. Mas o principal objetivo \u00e9 mostrar-lhes que quer passar tempo com eles.<\/b><\/p>\n

Texting is nice, and you CAN connect with someone over a text message, but it doesn’t come close to face-to-face conversation, hearing the sound of their voice, or hugging them.<\/p>\n

Por isso, tente voltar a falar com eles na vida real. Desta forma, ser\u00e1 ainda mais f\u00e1cil reconquistar o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Se o per\u00edodo de aus\u00eancia de contacto tornou as coisas demasiado embara\u00e7osas para si, ent\u00e3o pode avan\u00e7ar mais gradualmente. Que tal fazer uma chamada telef\u00f3nica ou, pelo menos, gravar uma mensagem de voz?<\/p>\n

Take baby steps if it’s easier for you until you finally muster the courage to <\/i>convid\u00e1-los a sair<\/i><\/a>.<\/i><\/p>\n

Confia em mim, se <\/i>sentiram a sua falta durante a aus\u00eancia de contacto<\/i><\/a>, eles dir\u00e3o que sim.<\/i><\/p>\n

Como agir ap\u00f3s o per\u00edodo de aus\u00eancia de contacto<\/h2>\n

But how do you actually behave when you text your ex in the first place? Here’s how:<\/p>\n

1. Ir devagar<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

You’ve broken up for a reason, and you can’t expect things to go back to how they used to be as soon as you first contact your ex.<\/p>\n

Reconstruir a confian\u00e7a<\/b><\/a>especialmente depois de tantos <\/b>dias sem contacto<\/b>, \u00e9 <\/b>trabalho \u00e1rduo<\/b> that takes time. You can’t <\/b>curar <\/b>desgosto<\/b><\/a> durante a noite.<\/b><\/p>\n

So, don’t text them too much or, if you do, don’t get mad when they don’t text back immediately or even the next day.<\/p>\n

Even if you sent the text last week, that doesn’t mean that all hell broke loose. Just be a bit more patient.<\/p>\n

Talvez o seu ex precise de um pouco mais de tempo para se adaptar \u00e0 ideia de voltarem a ser parceiros, ou talvez esteja apenas fingir que j\u00e1 te esqueci<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Think about it this way. You are no longer partners. You don’t owe each other anything. If you decide to start talking again, that’s just giving each other a <\/b>segunda oportunidade<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

But, it still doesn’t mean that you have to be there for each other as you once were. It’s healthy to estabelecer limites<\/a> even in a relationship but even more so when you’re not in one.<\/p>\n

Por isso, tenta ser mais compreensivo quando o teu ex te ignora<\/a>e d\u00ea \u00e0 sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada tempo suficiente para recuperar, para que a sua nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o possa evoluir.<\/p>\n

2. Don’t play games<\/h3>\n

Isto \u00e9 muito importante. Sei que pensa que os jogos o levar\u00e3o a algum lado, mas s\u00f3 provocam dramas desnecess\u00e1rios e prolongam a obten\u00e7\u00e3o do que quer, ou seja, uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

It’s simple. You like someone \u2013 tell them. You have certain boundaries \u2013 let them know.<\/b><\/p>\n

Exprimir os seus pr\u00f3prios desejos e necessidades e respeitar o que os seus <\/b>o ex quer<\/b> e necessidades.<\/b><\/p>\n

Trust me, honesty makes things much easier. I know you’re tempted to lie because people made you believe that’s the best way to achieve your goal, but it’s immature.<\/p>\n

O mundo seria um lugar muito melhor se f\u00f4ssemos mais honestos. Comece a torn\u00e1-lo melhor dizendo algo verdadeiro a um ente querido neste preciso momento.<\/p>\n

Go on. I’ll wait.<\/p>\n

3. Admitir os seus erros<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

I don’t just mean your past mistakes. If you notice that you made your ex upset in any way, assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus actos<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Don’t play the victim. Don’t make them believe that they’re bothered for no valid reason.<\/b><\/p>\n

Sempre que me chateio ou deixo algu\u00e9m chateado, lembro-me das palavras que li um dia: ”If you hurt someone, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.”<\/i><\/p>\n

E, sinceramente, mudou a minha vida para melhor. Normalmente, somos demasiado ego\u00edstas e temos tend\u00eancia para ficar na defensiva.<\/p>\n

While it IS important to stand up for ourselves, it is equally important to admit when we’re wrong.<\/b> So, start practicing that, and you’ll see how much healthier all your relationships will be.<\/p>\n

4. Abordar os problemas diretamente<\/h3>\n

If there is any kind of problem, don’t ignore it. Don’t suppress negative feelings hoping they will all go away. Newsflash \u2013 THEY WON’T.<\/p>\n

Os problemas s\u00f3 desaparecem quando se lida com eles.<\/b> I know it’s hard sometimes because they never teach us that being direct is the way to go.<\/p>\n

Mudar as suas cren\u00e7as fundamentais \u00e9 extremamente dif\u00edcil, mas pelo menos pode come\u00e7ar por ter consci\u00eancia de que a supress\u00e3o est\u00e1 errada.<\/p>\n

Once you realize that openness improves your relationships, you’ll do it more and more often.<\/b><\/p>\n

To be honest, it’s enough to do it only once. Even after the very first time, you’ll see that it’s not such a big deal at all.<\/p>\n

Considera\u00e7\u00f5es finais<\/h2>\n

See? I wasn’t tricking you! I am full of helpful advice on what to text your ex after no contact. How wouldn’t I be when I’ve been pining over the same person for years? You could say I’m a relationship coach now.<\/p>\n

Everything I’ve shared with you, I\u2019ve tried myself. It worked for me, and I know it will work for you as well.<\/p>\n

You only need to pay attention to the ‘personal’ aspect of everything that you do. No person is the same, so you use your knowledge to your advantage.<\/b><\/p>\n

Caro leitor, boa sorte para si!<\/p>\n

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