{"id":144582,"date":"2022-02-15T19:12:42","date_gmt":"2022-02-15T19:12:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=144582"},"modified":"2022-06-25T09:13:04","modified_gmt":"2022-06-25T09:13:04","slug":"viuva-alfa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/viuva-alfa\/","title":{"rendered":"Vi\u00fava alfa: 7 sinais de que voc\u00ea est\u00e1 namorando uma e como lidar com ela"},"content":{"rendered":"

Namoro<\/a> is hard. It\u2019s stressful enough that you have to deal and compete with all the potential prospects to win a lady’s heart<\/a> \u2013 you don\u2019t want her ex on your list too.<\/p>\n

A situa\u00e7\u00e3o agrava-se quando o seu ex era uma pessoa muito importante.<\/strong> Sabes, o tipo de homem por quem tamb\u00e9m tens um enorme respeito. Ele tinha tudo: apar\u00eancia, estatuto, poder e estabeleceu uma fasquia inating\u00edvel para qualquer homem que viesse a seguir.<\/p>\n

Gentlemen, I have some bad news, you\u2019re dealing with an alpha widow.<\/strong> Then I have some good news: it doesn\u2019t have to be a losing battle.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s see how you can recognize an alpha widow and deal with this situation like the true man you are.<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 uma vi\u00fava alfa?<\/h2>\n

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Uma vi\u00fava alfa \u00e9 uma mulher que estava envolvida numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica ou sexual com um homem que \u00e9 considerado um macho alfa.<\/a><\/strong> The relationship ended, but her fixation on the alpha man she was dating hasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Such a relationship could last anywhere from a couple of weeks to a couple of years and didn’t even have to be exclusive.<\/p>\n

Pode at\u00e9 ser apenas um caso de uma noite<\/a>. No entanto, continua apegada a ele, por vezes sem ter consci\u00eancia do impacto que teve sobre ela.<\/p>\n

O normas<\/a> que ela det\u00e9m tornou-se impossivelmente irrealista para um homem comum alcan\u00e7ar.<\/strong> Quando sai com outros homens, compara-os com o homem de alto valor<\/a> do seu passado, deixando-a a ela e ao rapaz com quem namora frustrados.<\/p>\n

A saudade do macho alfa e o luto pela oportunidade perdida que teve com ele tornam-na incapaz de ultrapassar o passado.<\/p>\n

7 sinais de que voc\u00ea est\u00e1 namorando uma vi\u00fava alfa<\/h2>\n

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If this is your first time experiencing such a woman, it can be confusing to understand what’s going on.<\/p>\n

Let’s first go through some clear and sinais evidentes<\/strong> que a mulher com quem est\u00e1 a sair ainda est\u00e1 muito ligada ao homem alfa<\/a> diante de v\u00f3s.<\/p>\n

1. O ex dela ainda l\u00e1 est\u00e1<\/h3>\n

N\u00e3o fisicamente, claro. Mas ela ainda tem as coisas dele por perto, guarda fotografias antigas e recorda\u00e7\u00f5es dele, presentes que ele lhe deu, talvez at\u00e9 conversas antigas e mensagens.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Este comportamento nunca \u00e9 um bom sinal, independentemente da explica\u00e7\u00e3o que lhe \u00e9 dada.<\/p>\n

Ela pode dizer que s\u00e3o bons amigos e que n\u00e3o sente nada por ele.<\/strong> She may even say that she keeps stuff of her other exes, too (does she know she just made it worse?), so it’s not a big deal. Or she could blame it on your own insecurities.<\/p>\n

A guy once told me he had pictures of his ex on the wall just because he was…wait for it… so indifferent to her that he didn’t even notice her pictures. Pictures on the wall next to his work desk where he spends most of his day!<\/em><\/p>\n

Eles s\u00e3o muito criativos quando tentam distorcer a verdade.<\/em><\/p>\n

Although she may come with all sorts of believable and unbelievable explanations for why she keeps his things, the truth is pretty much obvious: she’s still stuck on him.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. She talks about him…<\/h3>\n

Next on the list of “Sinais que nunca s\u00e3o bons numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/em><\/a>” is talking about the ex.<\/p>\n

When entering a new romance, it’s perfectly normal that we are very curious about the other person. Therefore, we are curious to know more about their rela\u00e7\u00f5es passadas<\/a>. Tamb\u00e9m queremos partilhar um pouco do nosso passado, para nos conhecermos melhor.<\/p>\n

Mas quando mencionar o ex ocasionalmente se torna falar dele constantemente, as coisas n\u00e3o s\u00e3o boas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se ela fala do ex mais vezes do que voc\u00ea est\u00e1 disposto a falar, \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que ainda n\u00e3o o tenha esquecido ou que n\u00e3o tenha ultrapassado toda a situa\u00e7\u00e3o que tiveram.<\/p>\n

(Estava a tentar ser educado, mas ela ainda n\u00e3o o esqueceu).<\/em><\/p>\n

3. …and to him<\/h3>\n

I’ve personally never understood por que raz\u00e3o as pessoas mant\u00eam um contacto pr\u00f3ximo com os seus ex<\/a>.<\/strong> It’s not that we should completely cut off people from our pasts, especially if we ended on good terms, but what’s the point of talking to them regularly?<\/p>\n

Duvido que haja explica\u00e7\u00f5es boas e razo\u00e1veis para o facto de as pessoas enviarem mensagens de texto aos seus ex com frequ\u00eancia, especialmente se estiverem a sair com algu\u00e9m novo.<\/p>\n

If she keeps coming up with a variety of excuses for why she’s reaching out to her ex, it shows that she’s unable to cut the cord with him<\/strong>. Ela ainda precisa da presen\u00e7a dele na sua vida<\/a>.<\/p>\n

4. Ela chega a compar\u00e1-lo com o seu ex<\/h3>\n

Todos os podcasts que ouvir e todos os livros que comprar na Amazon dir-lhe-\u00e3o o mesmo: este \u00e9 o \u00faltimo sinal de viuvez alfa.<\/p>\n

A compara\u00e7\u00e3o acaba sempre com o humor e faz com que as pessoas se sintam mal consigo pr\u00f3prias. But more importantly, it shows the secret desire of the person who is making the comparison \u2013 they crave something they don’t have at the moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Uma vi\u00fava alfa \u00e9 uma mulher que ainda deseja estar com o macho alfa muito tempo depois de romper<\/a>. And when she compares you to her alpha ex, she’s basically saying it out loud.<\/p>\n

We get it \u2013 the guy was amazing, pure 11\/10 on an SMV scale. You don’t beat that.<\/em><\/p>\n

You don’t need the red-pill awareness to understand such behavior. She is obviously very much attracted and attached to him and would likely want to go back to him.<\/p>\n

Se ao menos tivesse a oportunidade.<\/p>\n

5. It’s impossible to please her<\/h3>\n

Teve uma experi\u00eancia de topo com a macho alfa<\/a> que ela estava a namorar, e agora recusa-se a ter outra coisa que n\u00e3o seja isso.<\/p>\n

An alpha widow is very hard to please, and I don’t mean only sexually, but in every other way too.<\/strong> E ela \u00e9 muito vocal e aberta quanto ao facto de estar insatisfeita.<\/p>\n

You’ll find yourself trying hard to satisfy her needs and to do what she likes, whereas the whole time, she is thinking in silence: “Conhe\u00e7o algu\u00e9m que o pode fazer melhor.<\/em>”<\/p>\n

Mesmo no rela\u00e7\u00f5es mais saud\u00e1veis<\/a>, it’s normal sometimes to be unsatisfied with certain aspects.<\/strong> Os nossos parceiros n\u00e3o l\u00eaem mentes e, se queremos que eles saibam como nos agradar (mais uma vez, n\u00e3o apenas a n\u00edvel er\u00f3tico), temos de explicar o que gostamos.<\/p>\n

But if your partner constantly shit-tests you while you’re trying your hardest to make them happy, then you should ask yourself what’s going on there.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It almost sounds like she doesn’t want to be with you.<\/p>\n

6. You feel she’s not emotionally engaged<\/h3>\n

It’s hard to tell nowadays if the person we are dating is really into us or not. You may have the same confusion.<\/p>\n

Ela parece emocionalmente distante<\/a>, but aren’t all modern women like that?<\/em><\/p>\n

Claro que n\u00e3o, n\u00e3o s\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

If you feel that she’s not engaging emotionally and your relationship is mostly physical, it’s probably because it is.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A sua mente ainda est\u00e1 concentrada no seu ex-alfa, e ela ainda est\u00e1 agarrada a ele.<\/p>\n

7. Mant\u00e9m as suas op\u00e7\u00f5es em aberto<\/h3>\n

If the person you are dating is not exactly what you dreamed of, you may not want to leave the situation, but you’ll keep your options open. You are not in love, but you don’t want to be completely alone. Por isso, fica-se at\u00e9 aparecer algo melhor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I’m saying “you” because I’m sure everyone has been in that situation at least once. It happened to me, and I’m sure it\u2019s happened to you. Sadly, now it’s happening to the girl you are dating.<\/p>\n

Se ela se mantiver dispon\u00edvel, isso significa she’s not really into you<\/a><\/strong>. She may not openly flirt with guys and go on dates behind your back, but she’ll appear single. For instance, she will not post about you on social media.<\/p>\n

Se tem a sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de que ela n\u00e3o est\u00e1 completamente segura da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, isso pode significar she’s still thinking about her ex.<\/a><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 5 sinais de que um vi\u00favo est\u00e1 a falar a s\u00e9rio sobre a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Lidar com uma vi\u00fava alfa: 4 dicas e truques<\/h2>\n

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The term alpha widow can create some fear in you, I’m sure. This woman is savage, or at least sounds so.<\/p>\n

Let’s break the misconception about her being dangerous. She is not a black widow or anything like that. Ela \u00e9 apenas uma mulher incapaz de lidar com o seu passado.<\/strong><\/p>\n

She most probably is not even aware of how she behaves. Let’s now see what you can do when you find yourself dating such a woman:<\/p>\n

1. Decida o que quer dela<\/h3>\n

Est\u00e1 a desfrutar da parte f\u00edsica da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o sem pensar no futuro? Ou est\u00e1 a sentir algo e espera desenvolver uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura<\/a>?<\/p>\n

If you want nothing more than a fling, then there\u2019s no need to bother about whether she thinks about someone else or not.<\/strong> Be open with her about what you want, and if it goes both ways, enjoy the pleasure and don’t worry too much.<\/p>\n

But if the situation is more serious, and you\u2019ve grown a genuine desire for her, then proceed to number two.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. Don’t take things personally<\/h3>\n

\u00c9 muito importante ter sempre isto em mente, uma vez que o seu ego ser\u00e1 ferido muitas vezes. Se deixares o teu ego ferido assumir a lideran\u00e7a, a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o tornar-se-\u00e1 t\u00f3xica<\/a> sem qualquer perspetiva de sucesso.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I’m not saying you should tolerate anything unhealthy and abusive and that you don\u2019t feel ok with in general. But if you’ve already decided to give it a try, you should try to understand the situation from the perspective of the rational male.<\/p>\n

Her being unable to get over her ex doesn’t have anything to do with you.<\/strong> Really, it’s not you \u2013 it’s her. It doesn’t mean you are not a high-value man, too, because you probably are.<\/p>\n

3. Estar pronto para crescer<\/h3>\n

Uma vi\u00fava alfa \u00e9 uma mulher incapaz de superar traumas<\/a> e quest\u00f5es n\u00e3o resolvidas do passado que a mant\u00eam presa ao homem que teve o maior impacto sobre ela.<\/p>\n

Se virmos as coisas desta perspetiva, \u00e9 evidente que esta mulher precisa de cura<\/a>.<\/strong> Para se abrir a um novo amor, ela precisa primeiro de se curar do passado.<\/p>\n

Se decidires estar com uma mulher assim, primeiro tens de come\u00e7ar a tua pr\u00f3pria processo de cura<\/a> e transforma\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you get rid of the toxic patterns you have (it’s ok, we all do), old traumas, and pain you have inside you, you’ll also be able to help others heal.<\/p>\n

4. Seja o seu verdadeiro e aut\u00eantico eu<\/h3>\n

Don’t fall into the trap of comparing yourself with her ex or anybody else.<\/strong> You’ll never manage to be like him, not because you are not a high-value man, but because her standards are not realistic.<\/p>\n

You could also be an alpha man, but if you are constantly trying to be like somebody else, you won\u2019t see all the amazing characteristics you have.<\/p>\n

And she won’t see them either.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por isso, se quiser chamar a aten\u00e7\u00e3o dela e afeto,<\/a> precisa de mostrar mais das suas qualidades \u00fanicas. Em vez de copiar o antigo, d\u00ea-lhe algo diferente do que ela tinha (e do qual n\u00e3o \u00e9 capaz de se curar). Mostra-lhe a tua singularidade e toda a riqueza do teu ser.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Some would say women are prone to hypergamous behavior, and they’ll always try to find the best and most successful males on the market. Whether I agree with this is not important, but I’ll tell you this: if you want to be the best, then believe that you are.<\/p>\n

Felizes para sempre com uma vi\u00fava alfa: \u00e9 poss\u00edvel?<\/h2>\n

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Embora possa parecer imposs\u00edvel, ter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel, amorosa e empenhada com uma vi\u00fava alfa \u00e9 algo que se pode conseguir com um pouco de trabalho (interior e exterior), esfor\u00e7o e muito amor e paci\u00eancia.<\/p>\n

Em primeiro lugar, ela precisa de estar preparada para o crescimento e a transforma\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong> Then it\u2019s very crucial that you act from a healed state of mind. If you do that, you’ll be able to overcome all the troubles and achieve a happy and harmonious relationship.<\/p>\n

Mas \u00e9 preciso ter consci\u00eancia de que lidar com algu\u00e9m que n\u00e3o se curou dos seus traumas passados \u00e9 uma experi\u00eancia desgastante e que consome muita energia.<\/strong> If you are dealing with your own issues or don’t have enough self-confidence, rethink pursuing the relationship.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Primeira rela\u00e7\u00e3o depois de ficar vi\u00fava: 11 dicas para fazer dar certo<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Reflex\u00f5es finais<\/h2>\n

The term “alpha widow” shines quite an unflattering light on a woman with a wound from a past relationship.<\/p>\n

Uma vi\u00fava alfa \u00e9 igual a toda a gente que merece ser amado<\/a> e cuidada.<\/strong> A \u00fanica diferen\u00e7a \u00e9 que, devido aos seus traumas pessoais e padr\u00f5es aprendidos, n\u00e3o \u00e9 capaz de ultrapassar situa\u00e7\u00f5es do passado.<\/p>\n

Doesn’t that make us all an alpha widow in some way? Are we sure we\u2019ve healed our traumas?<\/em><\/p>\n

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