{"id":14474,"date":"2018-02-14T12:40:35","date_gmt":"2018-02-14T12:40:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=14474"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:40:32","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:40:32","slug":"o-tempo-comecou-a-dor-honesta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-tempo-comecou-a-dor-honesta\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c9 altura de come\u00e7armos a ser honestos em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 nossa dor"},"content":{"rendered":"

Life can be hard sometimes, it can feel as if everything is on top of us, pushing us down, pulling us under. It can feel as if we are completely alone in the world, as if we are the only ones dealing with emotions that make us feel trapped, angry, afraid. It can feel as if we are always watching everyone else get exactly what they want while we sit here wondering, \u201cWhat about me?\u2019<\/p>\n

And all too often we are afraid of these feelings, embarrassed by them. We immediately answer a question about how we are doing with, \u201cFine,\u201d because we don\u2019t want to burden anyone with something so \u2018trivial\u2019.\u00a0 We become so good at esconder a nossa dor<\/a> that we may even begin to believe we are okay.\u00a0 We start to accept that maybe this sinking feeling is just a part of us now, maybe it\u2019s normal to wake up dreading the day and feeling afraid of the dark because there\u2019s nothing to distract us from our spinning thoughts. We make excuses for disappearing when we need to cry and we return with a smile on our face because it\u2019s just easier that way\u2014to pretend we are absolutely fine, when in reality, we are breaking inside.<\/p>\n

But it needn\u2019t be this way. There really is no reason to wear a mask around the people you care about, the people who care about you.<\/p>\n

So I think it\u2019s time we started being honest about our pain. I think it\u2019s time we learned to accept our emotions rather than push them away, rather than be embarrassed by or afraid of them. I think it\u2019s time we started answering, \u201cHow are you?\u201d honestly. I think it\u2019s time we started to talk to each other, to hear the way we feel in the silence, to understand how it makes us feel when we hear it aloud. It\u2019s time we stopped hiding in the bathroom and crying on the floor, time we stopped having a shower simply to drown out our tears. It\u2019s time we faced up to it, moved through it, dealt with it.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time we let the pain in because if we don\u2019t, it will only grow, it will only consume us, bury us, become us.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por isso, da pr\u00f3xima vez que sentires a escurid\u00e3o a invadir-te, abra\u00e7a-a. Da pr\u00f3xima vez que algu\u00e9m lhe perguntar como est\u00e1, fale sobre isso. Talvez n\u00e3o em profundidade, talvez n\u00e3o muito, mas tente deixar outra pessoa entrar. Aprenda a ser honesto sobre a dor, aprender a aceit\u00e1-lo<\/a>. Da pr\u00f3xima vez que te sentires como se te pudesses desmoronar, deixa que outra pessoa tente manter-te firme. Deixa que algu\u00e9m te tire as l\u00e1grimas do rosto e te mantenha firme. Deixa que algu\u00e9m te puxe para junto do seu peito quando a noite cai e desfruta da sensa\u00e7\u00e3o do seu calor contra ti, deixa que te acalme.<\/p>\n

Lembre-se de que n\u00e3o est\u00e1 sozinho.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Da pr\u00f3xima vez que escolheres atacar em vez de te desfazeres, lembra-te que a raiva n\u00e3o \u00e9 a resposta, mas a honestidade \u00e9, deixar o amor entrar \u00e9, reconhecer a dor \u00e9.<\/p>\n

Because asking for help does not mean you aren\u2019t independent or strong or capable. Needing to feel someone\u2019s arms around you does not mean you can\u2019t soothe yourself, it doesn\u2019t mean you need someone else to pick up the pieces.<\/p>\n

It just means that sometimes two heads are better than one; sometimes someone else can tell us the words our broken hearts or tangled minds can\u2019t find right now. It just means someone else\u2019s arms often feel better wrapped around us than our own. It means that we all need a little help sometimes and that\u2019s okay.
\nSweet girl, it means it\u2019s time you were honest about your pain because it\u2019s real and it\u2019s scary and sometimes it can be too much. It means that there\u2019s a world of people out there who love you and want to help you and all you have to do is ask.<\/p>\n

Significa que \u00e9s forte, que \u00e9s um guerreiro, que te \u00e9 permitido pedir uma m\u00e3o para segurar.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Porque por vezes, apenas por vezes, essa m\u00e3o pode guiar-nos at\u00e9 \u00e0 superf\u00edcie.<\/p>\n

Por vezes, sermos honestos em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 nossa dor permite-nos respirar.<\/p>\n

by\u00a0Rose Goodman<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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