{"id":144935,"date":"2022-02-21T15:26:44","date_gmt":"2022-02-21T15:26:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=144935"},"modified":"2022-03-30T13:40:13","modified_gmt":"2022-03-30T13:40:13","slug":"um-brinde-a-todas-as-criancas-corajosas-que-cortaram-relacoes-com-as-suas-maes-toxicas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/um-brinde-a-todas-as-criancas-corajosas-que-cortaram-relacoes-com-as-suas-maes-toxicas\/","title":{"rendered":"Um brinde a todas as crian\u00e7as corajosas que cortaram rela\u00e7\u00f5es com as suas m\u00e3es t\u00f3xicas"},"content":{"rendered":"

You should love your parents, no matter what they\u2019re like. Especially your mother! She gave birth to you, and the least you can do is agradecer-lhe<\/a> para isso!<\/em><\/p>\n

E aposto que ela at\u00e9 te deu um teto durante anos. Tinhas comida na mesa. Que mais poderias pedir?<\/em><\/p>\n

After all, she could have dumped you on someone\u2019s doorstep. But, she didn\u2019t do that, did she?<\/em><\/p>\n

That\u2019s exactly why you MUST love her, no matter what. More importantly, you MUST respect her.<\/em><\/p>\n

Ela carregou-te durante nove meses e passou por uma dor tremenda para te trazer a este mundo. Quem \u00e9s tu para lhe guardar rancor?<\/em><\/p>\n

This is your mother we\u2019re talking about, and she\u2019s always right!<\/em><\/p>\n

How many times have you heard these lines? Of course, they always come from someone who doesn\u2019t understand where you are coming from.<\/p>\n

They always come from people who assume that everyone\u2019s mothers are angels God put on this earth to protect us. People who can\u2019t grasp the idea of a m\u00e3e t\u00f3xica<\/a> cuja \u00fanica miss\u00e3o neste mundo \u00e9 arruinar a tua vida.<\/p>\n

Well, sadly, I understand. And that\u2019s exactly why I say that all of this is bullshit.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o tens a responsabilidade de amar a tua m\u00e3e se ela foi a fonte da tua mis\u00e9ria.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esta n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma mulher que te deu o seu amor incondicional.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o \u00e9 uma mulher que te deu conforto quando precisaste e definitivamente n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma mulher que mere\u00e7a ser chamada de m\u00e3e.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Because let\u2019s face it, ela era tudo menos isso.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quantas vezes \u00e9 que ela partir o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong> sem te ajudar a apanhar os cacos? Quantas vezes imploraste por migalhas da sua aten\u00e7\u00e3o sem nunca as receberes?<\/p>\n

Quantas vezes \u00e9 que pedir a sua prote\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> mas acabou por lutar por si pr\u00f3prio?<\/p>\n

Quantos noites sem dormir que passaste a chorar<\/strong>Quantas vezes rezou a Deus para que lhe desse uma m\u00e3e carinhosa? Quantas vezes olhaste para os teus amigos com inveja quando eles recebiam um simples beijo ou um abra\u00e7o das suas m\u00e3es?<\/p>\n

Quantas vezes \u00e9 que correu para os seus bra\u00e7os, mas encontrou uma parede insens\u00edvel<\/strong>? Quantas vezes se culpou pela forma como ela o tratou?<\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s more than you can count. So why do you think you owe this woman anything? Trust me \u2013 you don\u2019t.<\/strong><\/p>\n

She didn\u2019t perform as a mother and, therefore, she dismissed you from any \u201cduties\u201d a thankful child might have.<\/p>\n

A \u00fanica pessoa a quem deve tudo \u00e9 a si pr\u00f3pria, porque teve a coragem de quebrar este ciclo t\u00f3xico.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Enfrentou o seu maior medo e aceitou a dura verdade: a tua m\u00e3e doesn\u2019t love you<\/a> e nunca o fez<\/strong>. De facto, ela \u00e9 provavelmente incapaz de amar.<\/p>\n

But guess what? None of it is your fault. Yes, it took you years to figure that out, but now, you\u2019ve finally gotten to the point where you no longer blame yourself.<\/p>\n

And it gets even better. You don\u2019t even blame her anymore.<\/p>\n

At some level, you\u2019ve even forgiven her for ruining your life. You haven\u2019t forgotten anything, of course, but you\u2019re no longer consumed by anger.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 preciso ser forte para atingir este n\u00edvel de consci\u00eancia!<\/p>\n

So, here\u2019s a toast to you. It\u2019s the least you deserve after everything you\u2019ve been through.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s to your bravery.<\/strong> It took you a lot of courage to look that hurt child inside of you directly in the eyes \u2013 a lot of courage to face your traumas and to start fighting them.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s to your strength.<\/strong> Foi preciso muito poder para curar essa crian\u00e7a interior.<\/p>\n

Mas acho que te custou ainda mais for\u00e7a para cortar realmente os la\u00e7os com a tua m\u00e3e t\u00f3xica<\/strong>. Para cortar os la\u00e7os com ela de uma vez por todas.<\/p>\n

Sei que foi quase imposs\u00edvel n\u00e3o cair nas suas manipula\u00e7\u00f5es, enganos e mentiras. Aposto que ela tentou atra\u00ed-lo de novo para a sua rede dezenas de vezes, prometendo que desta vez seria diferente ou a enganar-vos<\/a> and telling you that you\u2019re overreacting.<\/p>\n

No entanto, continuaste no caminho certo. Expulsaste-a mesmo da tua vida, do teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e da tua mente.<\/p>\n

Mas acima de tudo, here\u2019s to the person you\u2019ve grown into. Here\u2019s to the fact that you never mirrored her behavior patterns and never became anything like her.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O seu hunger for love didn\u2019t turn you into a heartless monster<\/strong>. Your desire for attention didn\u2019t turn you into a narcissistic jerk who\u2019d kill to be under the spotlight.<\/p>\n

Your desperation for comfort didn\u2019t inspire you to become a selfish, apathetic human being. Your craving for understanding didn\u2019t make you indifferent.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, a tua m\u00e3e t\u00f3xica inspirou-te a ser melhor do que ela. Ela mostrou-te o tipo de pessoa em que nunca te deves tornar.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When I come to think about it, that\u2019s pretty much the only thing you should thank her for: for giving you a lesson you\u2019ll never forget.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Adivinhem l\u00e1, conseguiu<\/strong>! You\u2019ve got everything you ever wanted in life, and you got it without any help from her.<\/p>\n

Most importantly, you have your inner peace. You\u2019ve healed, and all the emotional baggage she left behind is no longer weighing you down.<\/p>\n

Aparentemente, she was wrong \u2013 you aren\u2019t such a failure, after all.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, here\u2019s a toast for YOU!<\/strong> Merece-o.<\/p>\n

E s\u00f3 mais um lembrete r\u00e1pido: you don\u2019t have to love your mother just because she\u2019s your mother. But hey, you MUST always ama-te a ti pr\u00f3prio<\/a>!<\/strong><\/p>\n

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