{"id":14633,"date":"2018-02-16T08:02:15","date_gmt":"2018-02-16T08:02:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=14633"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:38:14","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:38:14","slug":"tornar-a-realidade-em-sonhos-melhores","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/tornar-a-realidade-em-sonhos-melhores\/","title":{"rendered":"Torne a realidade melhor do que os seus sonhos"},"content":{"rendered":"

Love is when you don’t want to sleep, because reality is better than a dream. \u2013 Unknown<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

When we\u2019re younger, we develop a fantastical mindset that we will one day grow up, have a home of our own with a white picket fence, a successful career \u2013 usually something in the medical or entertainment fields \u2013 a loving partner, and children. These ideals are established at an early age by our caregivers, the environment we grow up in, or, at the very least, the media.<\/p>\n

By the time we enter into that idealized stage of our life, however, it often comes with some sobering realities. Even if we\u2019ve taken years of acting classes or graduated with a nursing degree, it\u2019s much more difficult to garner success than we expected. We may have a home, but chances are it does not have that proverbial picket fence of our dreams. A s\u00e9rio, quantos o fazem, afinal?<\/em><\/p>\n

Podemos ter passado por uma s\u00e9rie de rela\u00e7\u00f5es falhadas, ter sido um ombro amigo para as nossas amigas chorarem enquanto elas passavam pelas suas e ter percebido que os pr\u00edncipes encantados s\u00e3o mais dif\u00edceis de encontrar do que esper\u00e1vamos. Podemos n\u00e3o compreender what \u2018love\u2019 even means<\/a>.<\/p>\n

There are numerous reasons why we set these expectations for ourselves, only to feel sorely mistaken later in life. Let\u2019s take a look at a few.<\/p>\n

Pais narcisistas.<\/strong><\/em> Sometimes the environment in which we were raised was less than ideal. We could have been at the mercy of narcissistic parents, or those who had similar personality disorders. This typically means we were at their constant beck and call. Everything we did was essentially so our caregivers could live vicariously through us. And, despite all of our efforts, we never felt good enough. This is because we were constantly told we weren\u2019t behind closed doors. We were mentally and emotionally abused, probably physically, too. It\u2019s very difficult to break the chains of childhood narcissistic abuse, and often, victims mirror these traits in adulthood, hoping to obtain the perfection they consistently strived for without success.<\/p>\n

Fugir de uma realidade dolorosa.<\/strong><\/em> H\u00e1 tamb\u00e9m aqueles que sofreram outras formas de disfun\u00e7\u00e3o na inf\u00e2ncia. Quando os pais s\u00e3o toxicodependentes, sobreviventes de abusos<\/a> who, almost systematically, repeat the cycle, or are battling extreme anxiety or depression, this creates an unstable, feared reality for children. In the aftermath of maturing amid chaos, we may find ourselves equally fearful, anxious, or depressed. Therefore, we attempt to create a fantastical reality in adulthood that\u2019ll help to suppress our memories.<\/p>\n

Fugir \u00e0s circunst\u00e2ncias sociais.<\/strong> <\/em>Children who grow up in poverty tend to escape this reality mentally through idealization of what life will be like when they finally \u2018get out\u2019. By believing that we will one day break the cycle, and doing everything possible to do so, we are hoping to prove we are more than the hand we\u2019ve been dealt. However, this can come with a dark side, and that is a continued thirst for wealth and upper-class luxuries. Lust and greed can come with some nasty consequences. Remember the saying, \u2018Only the greedy get caught\u2019?<\/strong> Sometimes, individuals who get caught up in the \u2018money game\u2019 employ some seedy methods to obtain their fame and fortune, such as developing gambling, sex, or substance addictions.<\/p>\n

Rivalidade entre irm\u00e3os.<\/strong> <\/em>In some situations, there was a brother or sister who we became determined to \u2018beat\u2019 early on and we continue to do so regardless of the stage of life we are in. This could be a self-imposed internal competition or one that is actually verbalized to the target. Regardless, it typically stems from jealousy and insufficient self-esteem. Creating rivalries with anyone else is derived from self-discontentment which need to be addressed. Para realizar verdadeira felicidade<\/a>Para que o nosso trabalho seja bem sucedido, temos de ter um n\u00edvel de confian\u00e7a saud\u00e1vel.<\/strong> Normally, competition of this nature leaves a void and no matter how much we achieve, we can never be satisfied. Consider the principle of self-actualization in Maslow\u2019s Hierarchy of Needs. This is at the top of the pyramid because only when we reach a stage in which we are self-actualized, do we feel complete contentment and we have, theoretically, met our fullest potential. We cannot feel this internal satisfaction by living in constant competition with others.<\/p>\n

Fixa\u00e7\u00e3o pela fama.<\/strong> <\/em>Quite commonly, children become fixated, for a number of different reasons, on the lifestyles depicted in the books they read, or the television shows and movies they watch. The storylines become goals that are sought later in life. What is missing from these earliest influences, however, is any pain or suffering the protagonists endure. Essentially, they are completely dehumanized and we only see the sunny side. This, of course, is purposeful. Children shouldn\u2019t have to worry about the same things as adults. But, n\u00e3o podemos esperar tamb\u00e9m ser desumanizados \u00e0 medida que amadurecemos e vivemos num conto de fadas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Because children are so impressionable, and the earliest years of our lives are so influential, it can be difficult to break away from the idealistic norms we feel we \u2018deserve\u2019. However, we must find peace in the reality that we may not achieve every ideal we believe we will before we\u2019re able to know any better. The truth is, we don\u2019t have to<\/strong><\/em>. A vida \u00e9 imperfeita, afinal, e h\u00e1 beleza nessa imperfei\u00e7\u00e3o. A necessidade constante de subir degraus ou o desejo de ultrapassar os outros s\u00f3 nos far\u00e1 sentir insatisfeitos. \u00c9 verdade que temos de nos amar a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios antes de podermos amar qualquer outra pessoa. Aprender a amarmo-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios<\/strong> <\/em>e tudo o resto se encaixar\u00e1 no seu devido lugar.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Love is when you don’t want to sleep, because reality is better than a dream. \u2013 Unknown When we\u2019re younger, we develop a fantastical mindset that we will one day grow up, have a home of our own with a white picket fence, a successful career \u2013 usually something in the medical or entertainment fields…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":14637,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29636],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14633","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-help"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29636,"label":"self help"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/mohamed-nohassi-438188.jpg",800,564,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29636,"name":"self help","slug":"self-help","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29636,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","parent":22911,"count":314,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29636,"category_count":314,"category_description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","cat_name":"self help","category_nicename":"self-help","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14633","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14633"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14633\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14637"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14633"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14633"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14633"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}