Hey, you! I know you are out there and I know you think you are alone. But I am here to tell you that you are not. And I am here to tell you that you\u2019ll survive, no matter what you may think now.<\/p>\n
I know it hurts like hell. And I know that there are days when you think you won\u2019t make it. But that is something we\u2019ve all been through. And that is not something you should be ashamed of. It is OK to suffer and it is OK to feel pain. It is also OK to cry. It is not a sign of weakness.<\/p>\n
Lembre-se que cada noite que passa a chorar at\u00e9 adormecer \u00e9 uma noite mais pr\u00f3xima da sua recupera\u00e7\u00e3o e salva\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n
This guy was a big part of your life, so it is perfectly natural for you to feel a different range of emotions now that he is gone. But you need to remember he was only that\u2014a part of your life. No matter how much you love him or how much pain he has put you through, you still have your life ahead of you and this is only a period of it. You have your family, your friends, your hobbies\u2026 and most importantly, you still have yourself.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t think he has managed to take that away from you. Don\u2019t think he has ruined you for good. I know that now you feel broken and torn apart, but that feeling is only temporary and trust me\u2014it will go away.<\/p>\n
You gave yourself completely to this guy. You gave him your trust and your love. You gave him your body and soul. And instead of appreciating them, he played with them. Instead of appreciating you, he played with you. He lied to you and he deceived you. He promised you the world, but he only gave you pieces of his love and attention\u2014just enough to keep you around. And every time you thought about leaving this guy, he acted like he sensed it and he would always do something that was just enough for you to stay with him. I know you thought he did this out of love and because he was scared of losing you.<\/p>\n
But now that he is the one who left you, you are aware of the fact that you were just good for his ego and that was the reason he didn\u2019t want you to leave him. Now you realize that everything he ever told you was a lie. Now you see that his actions never matched his words.<\/p>\n
Agora v\u00eas como ele era realmente ego\u00edsta. V\u00ea que ele nunca pensou nas suas necessidades e que nunca se esfor\u00e7ou por ir ao seu encontro. S\u00f3 se preocupava com o seu pr\u00f3prio bem-estar e, embora lhe pedisse tudo, nunca lhe deu nada.<\/p>\n
Este homem andou a engan\u00e1-la durante todo este tempo. Prometeu-lhe um futuro brilhante com ele, dizendo-lhe que voc\u00ea era a pessoa certa para ele e que voc\u00eas eram almas g\u00e9meas. Mas ele s\u00f3 fez isso para a usar e para conseguir o que queria de si.<\/p>\n
It wasn\u2019t all about sex for him. He didn\u2019t settle until he saw that he had you completely and that he could control you the way he wanted. When he thought he had made you emotionally dependent on him, for him it meant that his emotional manipulation was successful and that was the only thing he ever wanted. It also meant that he was done with you and that he could move on to his next victim.<\/p>\n
Sei que \u00e9 dif\u00edcil para si ouvir tudo isto, mas \u00e9 a dura realidade e tem de a enfrentar, se quiser melhorar.<\/p>\n
So, instead of remembering all the good times you two had together, keep reminding yourself of all the times you felt unloved and unwanted. Remember all the times he made you beg for his attention and all the times he made you feel like you weren\u2019t good enough. Keep reminding yourself about all the nights you spent waiting for him to call you and of all the things you missed waiting for him to come and see you. Remember all the moments he treated you with disrespect and all the moments in which he didn\u2019t even try to match your efforts. Instead of thinking about how much you loved him, think of all the times he didn\u2019t love you the way you should be loved.<\/p>\n
I know it\u2019s hard, but it is the only way for you to realize everything he has done to you and more importantly, for you to understand that his behavior and treatment is not anything you deserve. This is the only way for you to see that this is not what true love should look like, despite what you may think.<\/p>\n