{"id":147589,"date":"2022-03-17T11:40:13","date_gmt":"2022-03-17T11:40:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=147589"},"modified":"2022-03-17T11:40:13","modified_gmt":"2022-03-17T11:40:13","slug":"conduzir-alguem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/conduzir-alguem\/","title":{"rendered":"Est\u00e1 a enganar algu\u00e9m? Como dizer e como parar"},"content":{"rendered":"

“I feel like I was unintentionally leading him on,” a friend of mine told me after a coworker confessed that he gostava dela de uma forma rom\u00e2ntica<\/a>. Ela lamentava ter magoado os sentimentos dele e sentia que devia pedir desculpa. Mas ser\u00e1 que a culpa \u00e9 mesmo dela?<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you’ve ever been led on, or if you’re wondering if someone is doing it to you right now, pode estar a sentir-se usado e magoado.<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you’ve ever been accused of leading someone on, and you didn’t mean to do it, it\u2019s confusing and can make you feel ashamed and guilty.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You’ve come to the right place to find out why people do it, if you are doing it and how to stop, and how to recognize if it’s happening to you.<\/p>\n

Qual \u00e9 a defini\u00e7\u00e3o de \"Leading Someone On\"?<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

\"Para conduzir algu\u00e9m<\/strong>, phrasal verb. To persuade someone to believe something that is untrue.\u201d \u2013 Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary & Thesaurus<\/em><\/p>\n

Synonyms include \u201cto trick (someone) into believing\u201d and \u201cto mislead by lying.\u201d<\/p>\n

It’s clear from these definitions that this is a deliberate act. This means that there’s no such thing as leading someone on unintentionally.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Being led on means being deceived into expecting something by someone who has no intention of following through with it, and it isn\u2019t limited only to romantic relationships.<\/p>\n

Por exemplo, a sua entidade patronal pode estar a induzi-lo a sugerir a possibilidade de um aumento ou promo\u00e7\u00e3o, mas n\u00e3o tem qualquer inten\u00e7\u00e3o de o fazer acontecer.<\/p>\n

Por outras palavras, algu\u00e9m que conduzir algu\u00e9m<\/a> is aware that they’re doing it and realizes the consequences of their actions. If you’re the one doing it, you already know.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5 raz\u00f5es pelas quais as pessoas deixam algu\u00e9m na m\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Even though it’s not always done out of a place of cruelty, being led on can feel that way to the person who’s experiencing it. Pode ter um efeito negativo na sua autoestima e levar a um desgosto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Why would someone feign interest in another person and make them believe they will get together? If you don’t want someone, why pretend you do?<\/p>\n

Muitas pessoas enganam os outros para obterem o que querem da rela\u00e7\u00e3o existente.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As pessoas que conscientemente provocam algu\u00e9m fazem-no normalmente por uma das seguintes raz\u00f5es, ou por uma combina\u00e7\u00e3o das mesmas:<\/p>\n

1. Apreciam a aten\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n

Para algumas pessoas, a sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de poder de ser apreciado \u00e9 viciante. A adrenalina de serem desejados f\u00e1-los voltar para mais<\/strong>, even if they don\u2019t want to go any further than bask in the attention they\u2019ve been receiving.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t stop to think about what it\u2019s like for the other person. Rece\u00e7\u00e3o cumprimentos<\/a> and feeling attractive gives them a thrill and feeling of excitement that doesn\u2019t take into account the other person\u2019s emotions.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pessoas assim podem saltar de pessoa em pessoa, \u00e0 procura de mais e mais admira\u00e7\u00e3o e lisonja.<\/p>\n

2. They’re insecure<\/h3>\n

Uma pessoa insegura<\/a> podem estar a enganar algu\u00e9m porque saber que algu\u00e9m quer ter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com eles d\u00e1-lhes valida\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Even if they aren\u2019t actually interested in the person or a relationship with them, they feel accepted, so they keep them around to get as much of it as possible.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If they\u2019re insecure about their worth or don\u2019t know how else to feel approval, they take any chance to fill an emotional void, even if it means making false promises.<\/p>\n

Este tipo de pessoa pode engan\u00e1-lo durante muito tempo, mantendo-o preso at\u00e9 encontrar a sua pr\u00f3xima fonte de valida\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. They’re uncertain<\/h3>\n

\"duas<\/p>\n

Talvez tenham tido o vosso primeiro encontro e a pessoa tenha ido para casa sem saber se estava interessada. Isso levou a um longo per\u00edodo de reflex\u00e3o para decidir se gostavam de si ou n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

All along, you\u2019ve been waiting and hoping because you liked them from the first moment. What is a nuisance to them might be a very emotional experience for the person they\u2019re leading on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They might be confused, afraid of commitment, unsure whether they want a relationship at all, so they\u2019ll keep you on standby or in a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/a><\/p>\n

With this person, you can be sure that they\u2019ll never pick you, and their hesitation is just a way to keep you in place until someone else comes along.<\/strong><\/p>\n

4. They’re stringing you along<\/h3>\n

They\u2019re doing this to others, or they’re already in a relationship. While you\u2019re thinking about a relationship with them, they\u2019re thinking about the next person in line.<\/p>\n

This person believes they have their pick, so they\u2019re weighing their options and a enganar-vos<\/a>.<\/strong> If you want exclusivity, you\u2019ll probably never get it from someone like this.<\/p>\n

Pode dizer-se que pessoas como esta s\u00e3o cobardes, com medo de tomar uma decis\u00e3o. You shouldn\u2019t care about someone who makes you a possibility instead of a priority.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. S\u00f3 querem sexo<\/h3>\n

Uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o baseada no sexo tem de ser definida desde o in\u00edcio, caso contr\u00e1rio \u00e9 muito prov\u00e1vel que algu\u00e9m se magoe. Pode ser puramente f\u00edsico para eles e pode ser que j\u00e1 tenha sentimentos.<\/p>\n

If it\u2019s not an agreed-upon amigos com benef\u00edcios<\/a> pode estar \u00e0 espera que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o evolua numa dire\u00e7\u00e3o mais est\u00e1vel. <\/strong>Someone who is leading you on won\u2019t tell you that they don\u2019t have any intention of doing so.<\/p>\n

Make your self-care a priority and walk away if you think they\u2019re using you.<\/strong> Esperar que mudem de ideias s\u00f3 o vai prejudicar.<\/p>\n

How Do You Tell If You\u2019re Leading Someone On?<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

O contexto \u00e9 importante quando se trata de rela\u00e7\u00f5es. Algumas coisas podem ter mais do que um significado, consoante a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

If you believe that someone wants to have a relationship with you, yet you don’t feel the same, giving them even the smallest bit of attention might be considered leading them on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you don’t intend to get into the kind of relationship they want and continue doing things they might construe as interest, you’re leading them on.<\/p>\n

Provided you don’t suspect that someone is interested in you, the following are not signs of leading someone on:<\/p>\n

- Ser gentil<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Communicating often<\/p>\n

- Enjoys someone’s company and hanging out<\/strong><\/p>\n

- Abertura<\/a> e partilhar detalhes sobre si pr\u00f3prio<\/p>\n

- Mostrar interesse por ele como pessoa<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Giving them help and support<\/p>\n

Se acha que eles podem querer um determinado tipo de rela\u00e7\u00e3o, a primeira coisa que deve fazer \u00e9 falar com eles.<\/strong> A forma mais f\u00e1cil de saber como se sentem \u00e9 perguntar-lhes e dizer-lhes qual \u00e9 a sua posi\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

If the other person is interested in you the way you aren’t interested in them, everything that could be interpreted as intimate might lead them on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Em caso de d\u00favida, pergunte a si pr\u00f3prio se o faria com os seus outros amigos.<\/p>\n

Coisas que podem ser sinais de estar a enganar algu\u00e9m que gosta de si:<\/p>\n

- Namoro<\/a><\/p>\n

- Acariciar<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Dates<\/p>\n

- Beijar<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Making promises<\/p>\n

Put it this way, if you know they\u2019re into you, and you give them hope when you don\u2019t plan on changing your mind, you\u2019re leading them on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Como lidar com o facto de ser enganado e deixar de o fazer aos outros<\/h2>\n

\"duas<\/p>\n

Now that we\u2019ve learned why people do it and how to know if you\u2019re doing it to someone else, let\u2019s take a look at the ways it can happen.<\/p>\n

As we mentioned, it all depends on the context and intentions \u2013 whether you know if someone is interested in you and if you\u2019re interested in them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

These conditions allow for three possible situations: you intentionally leading someone on, realizing that a friend has developed feelings, and someone you thought of as a friend showing that they\u2019ve wanted something else the whole time.<\/p>\n

1. You’ve been intentionally leading someone on<\/h3>\n

Feelings that aren\u2019t reciprocated can lead to pain, but having false hope feels even worse. Pode fazer com que uma pessoa se sinta usada e devastada.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Enganar algu\u00e9m \u00e9 ego\u00edsta. Knowing you\u2019ll never love them back and keeping them hooked shows a lack of concern for their feelings and well-being.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019re probably aware that you\u2019re doing it and want to stop, or you wouldn\u2019t care to look it up. Where do you go from here?<\/p>\n

- Fazer as pazes.<\/strong> Be honest and kind. Apologize and be genuine. Tell them you\u2019re sorry for your actions and hurting them.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not sure about them, or you\u2019re mantendo-os como op\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>, deix\u00e1-los ir imediatamente. You are well aware that you\u2019ll never come to love them, so stop wasting their time.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Prepara-te para que te odeiem. This isn\u2019t about you right now \u2013 it\u2019s about them.<\/strong> Be conscious of the fact that you\u2019ve knowingly caused them pain.<\/p>\n

- Trabalhe em si pr\u00f3prio.<\/strong> Think about why you pretended to care when you know how they felt and that you didn\u2019t feel the same.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re insecure and looking for external validation in the form of love from someone you don\u2019t feel the same for, you might first need to work on yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se anseiam por aten\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>, focus on self-love until you feel like you\u2019re happy with yourself.<\/p>\n

2. Um amigo desenvolveu uma paixoneta<\/h3>\n

Normalmente, quando uma pessoa sente que a sua um amigo pode gostar deles<\/a> a little more than they like them, they start to wonder if they\u2019ve been leading them on. A lot of times, you don\u2019t want to hurt the other person\u2019s feelings, so you\u2019re not sure how to deal with it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You might be feeling guilty and wondering, \u201cIf they do have feelings for me, do the things I do seem like I\u2019m leading them on?\u201d<\/p>\n

You can’t force yourself to be attracted to someone and vice versa<\/strong>. Um bom amigo que o aprecie compreender\u00e1 isso.<\/p>\n

- Limpar o ar.<\/strong> Trata-se de uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o delicada e \u00e9 assim que deve ser abordada. Ser muito compassivo mas assertivo.<\/strong> Clearly let them know that you don\u2019t see yourself in a romantic relationship with them.
\nDeixe-os escolher o que fazer e d\u00ea-lhes todo o tempo e espa\u00e7o de que necessitam.<\/p>\n

- Don\u2019t be hard on yourself.<\/strong> Quem est\u00e1 a ser genuinamente amig\u00e1vel e n\u00e3o est\u00e1 a fazer jogos n\u00e3o tem nada que pedir desculpa.
\nBeing gentle while letting your friend know you don’t feel the same way is one thing \u2013 taking responsibility for something that isn’t your fault is another.<\/p>\n

You can enjoy someone’s company without being attracted to them.<\/strong> The other person might develop a crush if they feel attracted to you and if you’re friendly.<\/p>\n

3. Fingiram ser amigos<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s normal to like someone without them knowing. There can be a lot of reasons someone won\u2019t come out and make their feelings known.<\/p>\n

However, it becomes suspicious when the only reason for any kindness throughout your relationship is hope that it will butter you up and you\u2019ll get together.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s put it this way: if someone is deliberately giving you the wrong impression that they want to be friends while they’re after something else, it’s you who’s being led on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pode at\u00e9 ser o caso de algu\u00e9m que se diz um homem simp\u00e1tico<\/a> mas na verdade s\u00f3 finge ser simp\u00e1tico para o manipular para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Some red flags that the person isn’t actually your friend but that they have false pretenses are:<\/p>\n

- “Friendzone.”<\/strong> Using this word to describe your relationship shows that their friendship was fake and that they don\u2019t value your company, only what they think they can get from you.<\/p>\n

- Direito.<\/strong> If they\u2019re talking about what they have “invested” into you (feelings, time, money), they\u2019re expecting something in exchange. By thinking of your relationship as if it were a transaction, they\u2019re showing their intentions.<\/p>\n

- Recusa em aceitar a rejei\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong> If they\u2019re not able to accept that you’re not interested and keep trying to get you to change your mind, they\u2019re clearly showing that they don\u2019t care about your feelings.<\/p>\n

Such people feel entitled and put the blame on others when their expectations aren’t met.<\/strong> They expect payback for their politeness, feigned care, and friendliness. You don’t owe anyone your heart and your body.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s always best to keep a person like this out of your life. Seja firme e proteja-se.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Conclus\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

The term “leading someone on” is often used to explain why someone’s romantic feelings aren’t being reciprocated despite expectations. Depending on what those expectations are based on, they might be right, or they might have the wrong impression.<\/p>\n

Believing that someone who’s continuously flirting with you and hinting at romantic interest is planning to accept your feelings is different from misinterpreting someone’s friendliness.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Not leading someone on is all about intention and responsibility. If you think they like you, and your actions might make them like you more, talk to them if you\u2019re not interested.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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