{"id":147821,"date":"2022-03-22T11:30:46","date_gmt":"2022-03-22T11:30:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=147821"},"modified":"2022-06-25T09:30:45","modified_gmt":"2022-06-25T09:30:45","slug":"desamor-depois-de-uma-infidelidade","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/desamor-depois-de-uma-infidelidade\/","title":{"rendered":"Deixar de amar depois da infidelidade: 12 maneiras f\u00e1ceis de o fazer"},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s the last thing you\u2019d ever admit, but the truth is that ainda tens sentimentos pelo teu <\/b>parceiro de trai\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b><\/a>. You know what they did, and you don\u2019t plan on forgiving them, but you\u2019re having a hard time letting go of your love for them.<\/p>\n

Well, you\u2019re not alone. Apaixonar-se<\/a> ap\u00f3s a infidelidade \u00e9 um processo dif\u00edcil e algo que muitas pessoas enfrentam, apesar de a maioria guardar segredo.<\/p>\n

Eu devia saber, porque fui um c\u00f4njuge tra\u00eddo. E acho que o facto de ainda sentir algo pelo meu c\u00f4njuge infiel, depois de tudo o que ele me fez, causou um desgosto ainda maior do que a pr\u00f3pria infidelidade.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que ultrapassei o meu marido traidor? Como \u00e9 que eu desprender-me emocionalmente<\/a> do meu casamento falhado? Continue a ler para descobrir.<\/p>\n

Um guia para deixar de amar depois da infidelidade<\/h2>\n

Assim, todos os sinais de que o seu parceiro est\u00e1 a ser infiel<\/a> est\u00e3o l\u00e1. Sabe que tem de se afastar desta rela\u00e7\u00e3o, mas algo parece estar a impedi-lo.<\/p>\n

A dura realidade \u00e9 que ainda tem sentimentos pelo seu parceiro infiel. Bem, \u00e9 assim que se pode livrar deles num instante:<\/p>\n

1. A auto-culpa \u00e9 um jogo perigoso<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter if your partner had a physical or caso emocional<\/a> \u2013 your first impulse will probably be to blame yourself. This happens every time a a pessoa amada trai-nos<\/a>: you subconsciously think it\u2019s your fault because it\u2019s easier to blame yourself than see their true colors.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, let me tell you something: this has to stop right away! You can\u2019t be guilty of being cheated on! Even if you didn\u2019t treat them right, they always had the choice to walk away before fooling around behind your back.<\/p>\n

Remember: they signed up for monogamy \u2013 you didn\u2019t force them into it. Your cheating spouse has to take all the responsibility for this situation.<\/p>\n

2. Cort\u00e1-las completamente<\/h3>\n

Here\u2019s the hard part: you have to cortar o seu traidor<\/a>. And I really mean it \u2013 you have to stop all communication ASAP.<\/p>\n

Sem telefonemas, sem bebedeiras text messages saying \u201c I love you, \u201d<\/a> no asking if they\u2019re doing okay, and no asking them for favors. I know you\u2019re used to having this person in your life, but if you keep them around, your processo de cura<\/b><\/a> nunca chegar\u00e1 ao seu fim saud\u00e1vel.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not saying it\u2019s impossible to stay friends with an ex after a break-up. However, you haven\u2019t reached that stage just yet! For now, it\u2019s better to stay away from them.<\/p>\n

Co-parentalidade<\/h4>\n

But what if you have to co-parent with your ex-wife or husband? You can\u2019t cut them off completely in that case.<\/p>\n

However, you can reduce your communication to the bare minimum. Don\u2019t engage in any conversations that don\u2019t concern your children.<\/p>\n

3. Don\u2019t forget social media<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Please keep in mind that falling out of love after infidelity or any break-up whatsoever won\u2019t be possible if you keep track of what your ex is up to on social media.<\/p>\n

If you still follow their accounts (yes, that includes fake profiles as well) or ask your BFF about the things they posted, you haven\u2019t cut them off!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por mais dif\u00edcil que pare\u00e7a, \u00e9 preciso bloque\u00e1-los<\/a> everywhere! What if they\u2019re still with their affair partner? Do you really want to see how their new relationship is progressing?<\/p>\n

Quer cair na tenta\u00e7\u00e3o de o contactar? Quer deixar-lhes espa\u00e7o suficiente para o contactarem quando lhes apetecer?<\/p>\n

I think both you and I know the answers to these questions. Please, do what\u2019s right and spare yourself an unnecessary headache.<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t suppress your emotions<\/h3>\n

Healing is a process. And at first, it hurts like hell. But that\u2019s perfectly normal. After all, you\u2019ve been through a lot.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve experienced severe trauma \u2013 don\u2019t let anyone tell you any different! Don\u2019t forget that you\u2019re a human being, and it\u2019s natural that you\u2019ll feel different negative emotions regarding everything that happened.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So if you feel like crying, that\u2019s exactly what you should do. If you\u2019re angry (at first), don\u2019t pretend like everything is fine. It\u2019s not, and that\u2019s okay! But whatever you do, don\u2019t suprimir as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a>!<\/p>\n

Just make sure you give yourself a deadline to get it together. It\u2019s okay to grieve for a certain period of time, but allowing this to become your lifestyle might take a serious toll on your mental health and easily turn into depression.<\/p>\n

5. Dar tempo a si pr\u00f3prio<\/h3>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Isto leva-nos ao nosso pr\u00f3ximo ponto: falling out of love after infidelity doesn\u2019t happen overnight. Remember: it\u2019s a process.<\/strong> E todos os processos levam tempo.<\/p>\n

First of all, don\u2019t let others rush you. Don\u2019t be embarrassed that you\u2019re still overwhelmed by everything you\u2019ve experienced.<\/p>\n

Um prazo em que se deve ultrapassar isso<\/a> doesn\u2019t exist. We\u2019re all different, and we all heal at a different pace.<\/p>\n

O melhor conselho que j\u00e1 recebi foi dar tempo ao tempo<\/a>. Trust me, time will do its magic sooner or later \u2013 you just have to be patient about it.<\/p>\n

Of course, this is not an invitation to keep on grieving your ex for the rest of your life. But don\u2019t expect magic results overnight either.<\/p>\n

6. Esquece o \u00f3dio e a vingan\u00e7a<\/h3>\n

You want to get even \u2013 that\u2019s pretty understandable. Mas procura de vingan\u00e7a<\/b><\/a> is one of the first red flags that you\u2019re not falling out of love after infidelity \u2013 you\u2019re actually still emotionally involved in this relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Trust me \u2013 vingar-se<\/a> won\u2019t make you feel better. I\u2019m not saying you must perdoar o seu c\u00f4njuge infiel<\/a> right away, but hating them won\u2019t bring you any good either \u2013 it will only turn you into a more negative person.<\/p>\n

And don\u2019t even get me started on your ex\u2019s affair partner. This might be a hard pill to swallow, but they\u2019re not to blame either.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t know if they even knew you existed. Even if they did, it was your partner\u2019s responsibility not to break your trust.<\/p>\n

Of course, in that case, the affair partner isn\u2019t the best person in the world either, but that\u2019s not your problem. You won\u2019t become best friends or something like that, but you shouldn\u2019t hate them either.<\/p>\n

7. Pensar demais \u00e9 o seu maior inimigo<\/h3>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Why do people cheat? Was this my unfaithful spouse\u2019s first time going behind my back? Should we have gone to couples therapy?<\/em><\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que eu devia ter feito para que a minha rela\u00e7\u00e3o funcionasse? Era poss\u00edvel reconstruir a confian\u00e7a entre n\u00f3s dois? Mereciam uma segunda oportunidade?<\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to put all of these questions aside! I hate to break it to you, but you likely won\u2019t obter o fecho<\/a> que desejas desesperadamente. No final do dia, qual seria o objetivo?<\/p>\n

Would it make you feel better? Trust me \u2013 it wouldn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not here to judge the people who decided to make their relationship work after infidelity. But you\u2019re not one of those people.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve made your decision and decided to leave your cheating husband or wife in the past. So, what\u2019s the point of overanalyzing everything that has happened?<\/strong><\/p>\n

As long as you continue doing so, you\u2019re staying in the relationship. I know that you\u2019ve removed yourself from it physically, but you haven\u2019t done so mentally.<\/p>\n

8. Aceitar que era para ser<\/h3>\n

You have no other choice but to accept that it was meant to be. No, I\u2019m not telling you that your relationship was meant to be because clearly, it wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

No entanto, as coisas estavam destinadas a correr exatamente como correram. Trust me \u2013 everything happens for a reason, and Deus tem sempre um plano<\/b><\/a> para si.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Era preciso que esta infidelidade acontecesse para que finalmente se afastasse da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica? Era necess\u00e1rio para conhecer o amor da sua vida? Afinal de contas, \u00e9 preciso fechar uma porta<\/a> para abrir outro.<\/p>\n

Foi uma li\u00e7\u00e3o que teve de aprender? Esta experi\u00eancia foi necess\u00e1ria para perceberes o qu\u00e3o forte \u00e9s na realidade?<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t know the answers now, I get it. But trust me, you\u2019ll find them soon enough.<\/p>\n

And when that happens, you\u2019ll see that this was actually a blessing in disguise. I promise you that in the future, you\u2019ll look back on this and see it as the best thing that could have ever happened to you.<\/p>\n

At\u00e9 l\u00e1, tenham f\u00e9 e aceitem que \u00e9 assim que as coisas devem ser!<\/p>\n

9. Get back out there…when you\u2019re ready<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o: sim ou n\u00e3o? Bem, antes de vos dar a resposta a esta pergunta, temos de esclarecer uma coisa. H\u00e1 uma diferen\u00e7a entre entrar numa nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o e voltar a sair.<\/p>\n

Antes de mais nada, you shouldn\u2019t do anything you\u2019re not ready for<\/strong>. Esque\u00e7am o per\u00edodo de tempo que passou, esque\u00e7am as normas sociais e, acima de tudo, esque\u00e7am fazer ci\u00fames \u00e0 ex <\/a>.<\/p>\n

Neste caso, deve seguir o seu instinto e dar um passo de cada vez.<\/p>\n

This means that nobody expects you to start a new serious relationship tomorrow. And whoever does, well, screw them. You\u2019re still handling your trauma, and the last thing you need right now is to be pushed into something you don\u2019t want.<\/p>\n

But that doesn\u2019t mean you should be stuck in your four walls waiting for a miracle to happen. Get voltar \u00e0 piscina dos encontros <\/a>.<\/p>\n

Namoriscar com aquele colega de trabalho novo e giro que acabou de chegar. Responde \u00e0quela DM que acabaste de receber. Sorri quando recebes um elogio.<\/p>\n

Love will find its way back to you \u2013 just don\u2019t force it.<\/p>\n

Rela\u00e7\u00f5es de ricochete<\/h4>\n

Mas, por favor, afasta-te das rela\u00e7\u00f5es de ricochete. You\u2019ll end up hurting yourself and breaking someone else\u2019s heart.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even if you don\u2019t cheat on this new person with your ex, you still have feelings for them, and, in a way, that\u2019s an emotional affair. Please, be better than this and don\u2019t fall into this toxic pattern of behavior!<\/p>\n

10. O auto-aperfei\u00e7oamento \u00e9 fundamental<\/h3>\n

I can\u2019t stress this enough, but falling out of love after infidelity is utterly impossible if you don\u2019t work on yourself. I\u2019m not saying you should change the essence of your personality, but reinventing some parts of yourself might be beneficial.<\/p>\n

O auto-aperfei\u00e7oamento \u00e9 a chave para se sentir melhor. Quando recuperar a sua autoestima, tudo come\u00e7ar\u00e1 a melhorar.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t do it to make your ex realize what they\u2019ve lost<\/b><\/a>. Fa\u00e7a-o para melhorar a sua vida!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Em vez de ficar obcecada com a infidelidade da pessoa, mantenha-se ocupada. Saia o mais poss\u00edvel, encontre um novo passatempo, v\u00e1 ao gin\u00e1sio, passeie com outras pessoas e fa\u00e7a tudo o que a fizer feliz.<\/p>\n

Arrase na sua vida de solteiro<\/a> and get the best out of it. Do everything you\u2019ve missed out on.<\/p>\n

O objetivo \u00e9 melhorar a sua sa\u00fade f\u00edsica e mental!<\/p>\n

11. E o amor-pr\u00f3prio tamb\u00e9m<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Lembrem-se disto: deixar de amar depois de uma infidelidade inclui voltar a apaixonar-se por si pr\u00f3prio<\/b><\/a>. It means realizing that you don\u2019t need this person\u2019s validation to feel good about yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It means rebuilding your destroyed self-esteem and understanding your worth! It\u2019s about putting yourself in first place!<\/p>\n

O mais importante aqui \u00e9 chegar ao ponto em que se ama mais a si pr\u00f3pria do que ao seu ex infiel. Mas ou\u00e7a-me bem: o que \u00e9 que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 para amar em si?<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure there are things you don\u2019t like about your personality. And that\u2019s perfectly fine. But the power to change lies only in your hands.<\/p>\n

Por favor, respeita-te o suficiente para nunca te contentares com menos do que mereces. Eleve os seus padr\u00f5es e lembre-se do seu valor!<\/p>\n

12. Ajuda profissional<\/h3>\n

I hope your family, best friends, or even close coworkers are there for you. But sometimes, their help just doesn\u2019t cut it.<\/p>\n

E n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada de vergonhoso nisso. Afinal de contas, that\u2019s why experts exist \u2013 to help you overcome your trauma.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you feel like you\u2019re having a hard time getting over everything you\u2019ve experienced, please don\u2019t hesitate to look for professional help. An expert will guide you through your recovery process and help you get your mental health back on track!<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 30 c\u00f3digos de mensagens de texto de c\u00f4njuges traidores revelados<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Ainda amas algu\u00e9m se o tra\u00edres?<\/h2>\n

Surpreendentemente, muitos batoteiros afirmam que eles adoram<\/b><\/a> a pessoa com quem se traiu<\/strong>. The truth is that infidelity isn\u2019t always the same as the absolute absence of emotions. On the contrary, it can be just a moment of weakness or come after relationship or marital problems.<\/p>\n

However, this fact doesn\u2019t justify infidelity under any circumstances!<\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 que a dor da infidelidade desaparece?<\/h2>\n

Even though it doesn\u2019t seem like it in the beginning, a dor da infidelidade desaparece definitivamente ao fim de algum tempo.<\/strong> De acordo com os especialistas em rela\u00e7\u00f5es, normalmente demora cerca de um ano e meio para o vosso cora\u00e7\u00e3o para sarar <\/a> depois de ter sido tra\u00eddo.<\/p>\n

Quanto tempo \u00e9 que os casais permanecem juntos depois da infidelidade?<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

It all depends \u2013 se visitarem um conselheiro matrimonial e estiverem dispostos a fazer algumas mudan\u00e7as na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, os casais podem permanecer juntos para o resto das suas vidas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But if they try to bury what happened under the carpet and ignore it, it\u2019s not likely they\u2019ll stay together for a long period of time. In this case, the prognosis is a couple of months.<\/p>\n

Ser tra\u00eddo muda-nos?<\/h2>\n

Sim, \u00e9 verdade! A maioria das pessoas acaba por se debater com inseguran\u00e7as e at\u00e9 perder a f\u00e9 no amor para sempre<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, infidelity doesn\u2019t have to change you in a bad way. It can help you see that you\u2019re self-sufficient and strong enough to take whatever life throws at you.<\/p>\n

All in all, it\u2019s a tough lesson, but it\u2019s also very valuable.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

You know what the most important thing about falling out of love after infidelity is? It\u2019s judging yourself for still having feelings for your cheater.<\/p>\n

Please, don\u2019t fall into this trap. Compreenda que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada de errado consigo e siga este guia passo-a-passo para o sucesso!<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s the last thing you\u2019d ever admit, but the truth is that you still have feelings for your cheating partner. You know what they did, and you don\u2019t plan on forgiving them, but you\u2019re having a hard time letting go of your love for them. Well, you\u2019re not alone. Falling out of love after infidelity…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":147835,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29626],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-147821","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-affair"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29626,"label":"affair"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/Falling-Out-Of-Love-After-Infidelity-12-Easy-Ways-To-Do-It-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29626,"name":"affair","slug":"affair","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29626,"taxonomy":"category","description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","parent":29620,"count":132,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29626,"category_count":132,"category_description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","cat_name":"affair","category_nicename":"affair","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/147821","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=147821"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/147821\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/147835"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=147821"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=147821"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=147821"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}