Existem quatro tipos de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>. A vincula\u00e7\u00e3o segura \u00e9 capaz de estabelecer rela\u00e7\u00f5es emocionalmente saud\u00e1veis, enquanto as pessoas com um dos tr\u00eas estilos inseguros t\u00eam problemas.<\/strong><\/p>\n We\u2019ll focus on the dismissive attachment style and examine dismissive-avoidant traits and their effect on relationships.<\/p>\n Avoidant individuals fear intimacy and deal with it in a way that can be summed up in one sentence: \u201cI don\u2019t need anyone.\u201d In reality, they\u2019re afraid of getting hurt.<\/p>\n They claim they consider emotions a weakness and value independence, but, in fact, it\u2019s a coping mechanism developed as a response to their low self-worth.<\/strong><\/p>\n H\u00e1 uma s\u00e9rie de caracter\u00edsticas de desd\u00e9m e evitamento que se baseiam nestas cren\u00e7as.<\/p>\n They feel like they\u2019re able to provide for their own needs, and, therefore, they don\u2019t need anyone to take care of them. During hard times, they withdraw and deal with issues on their own. They\u2019re unaware that they fear that their loved ones won\u2019t care.<\/strong><\/p>\n They prefer to act on their own without other people\u2019s input and do what they choose. They focus on their own needs. Because of their fear of failure, they view being dependent as a weakness. Sabotam as suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es para manterem a sua independ\u00eancia.<\/strong><\/p>\n They\u2019re emotionally distant and don\u2019t want to connect with others. They avoid showing vulnerability and don\u2019t seek affection. They prefer casual relationships and don\u2019t pay attention to their partner\u2019s needs. They don\u2019t know how to overcome their fear of intimacy, so they manage it by avoiding it.<\/strong><\/p>\n Afastam-se quando os outros tentam aproximar-se. Se o parceiro lhes mostrar afeto, sentem que a outra pessoa \u00e9 carente<\/strong>. Quando algu\u00e9m se aproxima deles, e eles sentem que a liga\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 poss\u00edvel, afastam-se porque ainda t\u00eam medo da rejei\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Por vezes, experimentam emo\u00e7\u00f5es muito profundas, o que as torna desconfort\u00e1veis, pelo que tendem a escond\u00ea-las. Preferem lamentar-se sozinhas a queixarem-se dos seus problemas. Other people\u2019s feelings make them uneasy.<\/strong><\/p>\n Avoidant individuals don\u2019t look for close emotional relationships. They\u2019re attracted to pessoas que n\u00e3o est\u00e3o dispon\u00edveis<\/a> de alguma forma.<\/strong> N\u00e3o gostam que as rela\u00e7\u00f5es rom\u00e2nticas sejam importantes nas suas vidas e tendem a dar prioridade a tudo o resto.<\/p>\n An avoidant person can seem like they don\u2019t want to commit, but in reality, commitment presents such a big responsibility that they feel overwhelmed. They\u2019re unaware of the emotional need for attachment, and when they feel it, they either deny it or interpret it as something else.<\/strong><\/p>\n In a relationship, they don\u2019t appreciate their partners because they don\u2019t believe that a successful relationship is possible. Procuram qualquer defeito no seu parceiro como uma desculpa para acabar<\/a> quando come\u00e7am a aproximar-se.<\/strong><\/p>\n When they\u2019re faced with a triggering issue, they find it almost impossible to talk about their feelings. Afastam-se ou ignoram assuntos desagrad\u00e1veis.<\/strong><\/p>\n Avoidant individuals don\u2019t like remembering the past because they\u2019re afraid of what they\u2019re going to find. Querem manter-se seguros atr\u00e1s do muro de autossufici\u00eancia que constru\u00edram para se protegerem.<\/strong><\/p>\n Before we look in more detail into dismissive-avoidant traits, let\u2019s see what estilos de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> s\u00e3o, em primeiro lugar.<\/p>\n A teoria da vincula\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 uma teoria psicol\u00f3gica relativa \u00e0s rela\u00e7\u00f5es humanas<\/strong>. Foi desenvolvido pelo psiquiatra John Bowlby para examinar a liga\u00e7\u00e3o dos beb\u00e9s aos seus cuidadores.<\/p>\n As crian\u00e7as pequenas que sentem que os adultos que cuidam delas est\u00e3o dispon\u00edveis se precisarem delas interagem livremente com os outros.<\/strong> Children who don\u2019t feel like they can rely on their parents make every effort to get their attention.<\/p>\n A psic\u00f3loga do desenvolvimento Mary Ainsworth observou o comportamento de crian\u00e7as pequenas quando separadas dos seus cuidadores e classificou-o em diferentes padr\u00f5es de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o: seguro, evitante e estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o ansioso<\/a><\/strong>, categorizado mais adiante.<\/p>\n Atualmente, a classifica\u00e7\u00e3o aceite dos padr\u00f5es de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 a seguinte<\/p>\n - FIXA\u00c7\u00c3O SEGURA.<\/strong> As crian\u00e7as tornam-se apegadas de forma segura se desenvolverem uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o pr\u00f3xima com um prestador de cuidados. T\u00eam confian\u00e7a de que este satisfar\u00e1 as suas necessidades e responder\u00e1 aos comportamentos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o que exibem.<\/p>\n - LIGA\u00c7\u00c3O ANSIOSA-AMBIVALENTE<\/a>.<\/strong> Este padr\u00e3o relacional desenvolve-se quando a crian\u00e7a n\u00e3o tem a certeza de que o seu prestador de cuidados responder\u00e1 \u00e0s suas necessidades. Reage com raiva ou passividade como forma de influenciar a intera\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n - VINCULA\u00c7\u00c3O ANSIOSA-EVITANTE\/DISMISSIVA-EVITANTE.<\/strong> A crian\u00e7a evita ou ignora o seu prestador de cuidados, mas est\u00e1, de facto, a disfar\u00e7ar a sua ang\u00fastia. O estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o permissivo desenvolve-se quando a crian\u00e7a \u00e9 constantemente rejeitada e os seus prestadores de cuidados n\u00e3o satisfazem as suas necessidades.<\/p>\n - LIGA\u00c7\u00c3O DESORGANIZADA\/DESORIENTADA<\/a>.<\/strong> Parents who are simultaneously a source of fear and comfort confuse the child, and disorganized attachment develops. Children don\u2019t show any specific attachment behavior but a combination of behaviors.<\/p>\n Cindy Hazan e Phillip Shaver alargaram a investiga\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0s rela\u00e7\u00f5es rom\u00e2nticas dos adultos e conclu\u00edram que estes tamb\u00e9m t\u00eam diferen\u00e7as nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es. A liga\u00e7\u00e3o aos parceiros rom\u00e2nticos \u00e9 apresentada como uma das quatro estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o dos adultos.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n Os adultos que desenvolvem o tipo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o segura tendem a ter uma atitude mais saud\u00e1vel em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0s rela\u00e7\u00f5es do que aqueles que t\u00eam um dos estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o insegura.<\/p>\n Attachment styles affect both a person\u2019s choice of partner and their behavior when they\u2019re in a relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n As pessoas com estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o inseguros tendem a escolher parceiros cujo estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o se enquadra nas suas cren\u00e7as sobre as rela\u00e7\u00f5es e, quando est\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, procuram provas que reforcem essas cren\u00e7as.<\/p>\n Generally, it\u2019s been observed that people who believe that romantic love is lasting are usually securely attached, while other styles seem to have doubts.<\/p>\n People with a secure attachment style deal with their feelings appropriately. They\u2019re comfortable expressing them and easily form connections with partners. They\u2019re able to express their needs and form healthy relationships.<\/p>\n Adultos com estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o ansioso-preocupado<\/a> t\u00eam baixa autoestima e procuram valida\u00e7\u00e3o nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es. They worry that they\u2019re not good enough for their partners and experience fear of abandonment<\/strong>. Podem tornar-se pegajosos e dependentes.<\/p>\n Um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desdenhoso e evitante nos adultos f\u00e1-los parecer emocionalmente auto-suficientes. Mascaram a baixa autoestima com uma vis\u00e3o positiva de si pr\u00f3prios. They avoid emotional intimacy and closeness and don\u2019t want to depend on others.<\/strong><\/p>\n Pessoas com o estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o temeroso-evitador<\/a> s\u00e3o inst\u00e1veis nas suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es com os outros. Querem intimidade mas t\u00eam dificuldade em desenvolver liga\u00e7\u00f5es emocionais fortes por medo de se magoarem.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c0 superf\u00edcie, os adultos evitantes parecem ser independentes e ter uma elevada autoestima. T\u00eam dificuldade em estabelecer rela\u00e7\u00f5es afectivas estreitas e s\u00e3o cr\u00edticos em rela\u00e7\u00e3o aos seus parceiros.<\/strong> Por baixo, h\u00e1 o medo.<\/p>\n Uma das causas subjacentes ao estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desdenhoso e evitante \u00e9 o facto de ter sido criado por pais pouco fi\u00e1veis que o ensinaram a n\u00e3o confiar em ningu\u00e9m e a n\u00e3o mostrar os seus sentimentos.<\/p>\n Os padr\u00f5es de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desenvolvidos na primeira inf\u00e2ncia afectam as rela\u00e7\u00f5es na idade adulta<\/strong>, but before you blame it all on your parents, it\u2019s important to note that there\u2019s more to it.<\/p>\n Os prestadores de cuidados pouco fi\u00e1veis s\u00e3o apenas uma das poss\u00edveis causas do estilo desdenhoso e evitante. Outras experi\u00eancias, para al\u00e9m da rela\u00e7\u00e3o com os pais em crian\u00e7a, podem influenciar os estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o dos adultos.<\/strong><\/p>\n For instance, a failed relationship early in life could be one of the reasons an avoidant person doesn\u2019t have faith in relationships. Sentiram-se magoados e tra\u00eddos, o que provocou inseguran\u00e7a e baixa autoestima.<\/strong><\/p>\n Por detr\u00e1s de todos os tra\u00e7os de desprezo e evitamento, no centro deste estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 uma baixa autoestima. The avoidant feels undeserving of love to such a great degree that they believe it\u2019s impossible for them.<\/strong><\/p>\n Para fazer face a esses sentimentos, o evitante desenvolve um medo da intimidade e uma necessidade excessiva de independ\u00eancia. Even when they enter a relationship, they don\u2019t get attached.<\/strong><\/p>\n A intimidade faz com que se sintam presos, por isso, a qualquer sinal de liga\u00e7\u00e3o, distanciam-se do parceiro, fazendo deliberadamente coisas que os possam magoar e separar. Sabotam a rela\u00e7\u00e3o para evitar a proximidade emocional.<\/strong><\/p>\n N\u00e3o t\u00eam consci\u00eancia de que o facto de evitarem rela\u00e7\u00f5es significativas \u00e9 causado pelo seu medo da intimidade.<\/p>\n Signs of dismissive-avoidant attachment style can be seen in many aspects of a person\u2019s life, not only in romantic relationships. If you suspect you or a loved one might be an avoidant individual, the following list might help you make sure.<\/p>\n Their extreme independence means they don’t need help in most situations. Their refusal to accept is less about confidence in their own abilities and more about a lack of trust in people, especially when it comes to emotional support.<\/p>\n They like to be left alone to make their own decisions and care for themselves because they don\u2019t believe that anyone else will actually do it, even if they offer. For this reason, they focus on themselves and prioritize freedom over relationships.<\/p>\n They look down on people who show their emotions because they believe it\u2019s a weakness. They don\u2019t rely on other people and don\u2019t allow anyone to rely on them. Because of their fear that closeness will lead to them getting hurt, they don\u2019t trust another person not to do it.<\/p>\n They prefer small talk to meaningful conversations because it\u2019s safer. They fear the possibility of difficult questions or unsolicited advice. Even if they wanted to, they\u2019re unable to find the language to talk about how they feel<\/strong>. Por exemplo, se falharem algu\u00e9m<\/a>, they won\u2019t talk about that person.<\/p>\n A raz\u00e3o pela qual est\u00e3o sempre ocupados \u00e9 porque se fazem ocupar. They don\u2019t know how to deal with their feelings, so they invent situations they can use as excuses to avoid their partner<\/strong>. This is especially the case if they\u2019re feeling particularly vulnerable and incapable of handling it.<\/p>\n Devido ao facto de o seu cr\u00edtico interior ser t\u00e3o ruidoso, um indiv\u00edduo evitante \u00e9 fr\u00e1gil quando se trata de cr\u00edticas externas. Ficam furiosos quando recebem qualquer tipo de cr\u00edtica e reagem de forma exagerada porque a cr\u00edtica \u00e9 apenas a confirma\u00e7\u00e3o de coisas em que j\u00e1 acreditam profundamente.<\/strong><\/p>\n Uma pessoa que apresente tra\u00e7os de desd\u00e9m e evitamento tem dificuldade em estabelecer todo o tipo de rela\u00e7\u00f5es, n\u00e3o s\u00f3 as rom\u00e2nticas. A amizade requer abertura e partilha de si pr\u00f3prio<\/strong> e, para eles, isto representa um risco t\u00e3o grande como a liga\u00e7\u00e3o com um parceiro.<\/p>\n Da mesma forma que evitam a proximidade emocional, as pessoas com um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desdenhoso e evitante preferem n\u00e3o ser tocadas. O toque significa proximidade e deixa-as desconfort\u00e1veis, pelo que uma pessoa evitante procura qualquer forma de se separar das outras pessoas.<\/p>\n They consider their partner too clingy if they exhibit emotions or express their needs. Because they don\u2019t allow themselves to do the same, they are judgmental and believe the smallest displays of emotions to be too much.<\/p>\n Os adultos evitantes t\u00eam dificuldade em confiar em algu\u00e9m porque t\u00eam medo de ser julgados. They don\u2019t show their feelings out of their fear of emotional commitment<\/strong>. O facto de evitarem a vulnerabilidade e a liga\u00e7\u00e3o e a sua falta de confian\u00e7a tornam o enamoramento quase imposs\u00edvel.<\/p>\n Enquanto estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desdenhoso e evitante<\/a> is common in narcissists, they\u2019re not the same thing.<\/p>\n O narcisismo \u00e9 um dist\u00farbio de personalidade marcado por uma autoimagem exagerada e uma falta de empatia. Os narcisistas tendem a ser arrogantes, a ter um sentido de grandiosidade e a procurar constantemente a admira\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n Uma pessoa com um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desdenhoso e evitante vive com medo de ser magoada. Evita as pessoas para, em \u00faltima an\u00e1lise, evitar a rejei\u00e7\u00e3o. Narcisistas<\/a> need admiration, and their fear is that they won\u2019t get it.<\/p>\nO que s\u00e3o tra\u00e7os de esquiva?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u2022 Self-sufficiency.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Independence.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Intimacy issues.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Distance.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Avoiding emotions.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Indifference to relationships.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Fear of commitment.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Dislike of intimate relationships.<\/h3>\n
- Problemas de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/a><\/h3>\n
\u2022 Suppressing negative memories.<\/h3>\n
O que \u00e9 a Teoria da Vincula\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nEstilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o dos adultos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Estilo de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o seguro<\/h3>\n
2. Estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o inseguros<\/a><\/h3>\n
\u2022 Anxious-preoccupied<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Dismissive-avoidant<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Fearful-avoidant<\/h3>\n
Quais s\u00e3o as ra\u00edzes do estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o esquivo-esquivo?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nCausas<\/h3>\n
Efeitos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nQuais s\u00e3o os sinais de apego esquivo e evitante?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Fazem tudo sozinhos<\/h3>\n
2. Insistem na liberdade<\/h3>\n
3. They don\u2019t trust other people<\/h3>\n
4. Evitam falar de assuntos emocionais<\/h3>\n
5. They\u2019re always busy<\/h3>\n
6. They can’t take criticism<\/h3>\n
7. They don\u2019t make friends easily<\/h3>\n
8. They don’t like physical proximity<\/h3>\n
9. O parceiro parece demasiado apegado<\/h3>\n
10. They\u2019ve never been in love<\/h3>\n
Quais s\u00e3o as diferen\u00e7as entre um evitante desdenhoso e um narcisista?<\/h2>\n
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