Levei um ano inteiro com o meu atual noivo para aprender a confiar novamente.<\/strong><\/p>\nWe argued\u2014not over the big things but rather the small, seemingly insignificant things that you wouldn\u2019t think people would argue you over. What those tiny little fights taught both of us was how much we had been hurt in our previous relationships. Feeling secure, as simple and as natural as that, seemed like a foreign concept to us for a while. We couldn\u2019t trust that if the other person was mad, it didn\u2019t mean that one of us was going to stand up and leave. I look back on those early years and how mangled we both must have been to have never known true security in a relationship before we met and fell in love with each other. It was tragic.<\/p>\n
So it took time for us to heal despite being on this new journey together. The heart is a vulnerable part of us and when it gets broken, it doesn\u2019t just feel it\u2014it encompasses every bitter part of that hollowness. Sente cada fissura, cada mentira, cada equ\u00edvoco, cada ato sujo e cada momento em que essa confian\u00e7a, esse amor, foi enganado. <\/strong><\/p>\nUltrapassar isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o que se resolve de um dia para o outro. Mas h\u00e1-de ultrapass\u00e1-la.<\/p>\n
You need to put the time in to be sad. It\u2019s necessary. You need to have countless nights where you cry yourself to sleep. You need to make foolish decisions.<\/p>\n
Tens de descobrir da maneira mais dif\u00edcil que o amor pelo qual lutaste tanto n\u00e3o era o ideal para ti.<\/strong> You need to find out he\u2019s dating someone new and you need to go through all the pain that comes with that. You need to face the guilt, the hunger for someone new and you need to chase that new found sadness until you\u2019re tired of it defining you.<\/p>\nO desgosto cura-se sempre.<\/strong><\/p>\nBelieve me, it will not happen when you want it to. The happiness will begin, not when you want it to, but when you\u2019re ready to enjoy it. Real love is out there and I assure you that it\u2019s worth waiting for. You\u2019ll get through this difficult time and you\u2019ll wake up one morning, with your cup of coffee growing cold and the love of your life in the bedroom down the hall.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s at that moment you\u2019ll feel happy that you endured the misery of what that old love, that old heartbreak once caused you. Porque, nesse momento, nada mais importar\u00e1: nem o passado, nem mesmo o presente, mas o futuro.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"There came a point in my life when my ex became old news. The misery he caused my heart eventually faded, but it took years to do so. I can thank the help of boys who posed as men; the 40-somethings that used me for one-night stands, the cashiers who texted me at midnight with…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":15098,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15095","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/mike-fox-467499.jpg",800,573,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","parent":29627,"count":263,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29628,"category_count":263,"category_description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","cat_name":"dealing with breakup","category_nicename":"dealing-with-breakup","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15095","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15095"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15095\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15098"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15095"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15095"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15095"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}