{"id":151242,"date":"2022-05-20T17:20:10","date_gmt":"2022-05-20T17:20:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=151242"},"modified":"2022-05-25T11:47:16","modified_gmt":"2022-05-25T11:47:16","slug":"porque-e-que-o-poliamor-e-mau","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/porque-e-que-o-poliamor-e-mau\/","title":{"rendered":"Porque \u00e9 que o poliamor \u00e9 mau: 11 raz\u00f5es honestas"},"content":{"rendered":"

As rela\u00e7\u00f5es poliamorosas existem desde o in\u00edcio dos tempos. Mas este estilo de vida tem vindo a ganhar cada vez mais popularidade nos \u00faltimos tempos.<\/p>\n

I bet it\u2019s captured your attention, too; otherwise, you wouldn\u2019t be here. Admit it, you\u2019re thinking about giving it a go, but you\u2019re not sure about all the advantages and disadvantages of this type of relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the one hand, you\u2019re ready to try out something new. You think that you\u2019re not cut out for monogamous relationships because being committed to just one person has never been your thing.<\/p>\n

But on the other hand, you\u2019re also scared that you don\u2019t have what it takes to enter the poly community. Est\u00e1 sempre a ouvir dizer que este tipo de acordo \u00e9 a melhor coisa do mundo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No entanto, quer conhecer o outro lado da moeda. Quer saber porque \u00e9 que o poliamor \u00e9 mau.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And that\u2019s what you\u2019re about to find out. If you read on, you\u2019ll get all the cons of polyamorous relationships.<\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que o poliamor \u00e9 mau:<\/h2>\n

Aqui est\u00e3o 11 raz\u00f5es honestas pelas quais deve pensar novamente antes de entrar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o poliamorosa.<\/p>\n

1. A quest\u00e3o do ci\u00fame<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Polyamorous people claim that they don\u2019t get jealous. And I\u2019m really happy if that is the case. It means that they\u2019ve grown as people and succeeded in surpassing this toxic emotion.<\/p>\n

No entanto, na realidade, n\u00e3o s\u00e3o muitas as pessoas que conseguem calar os seus ci\u00fames<\/a> off completely. Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not talking about the possessive, unhealthy kind of jealousy.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about the way we all feel uncomfortable when faced with the idea of losing our partner to someone else. You can be the most confident person in the world, but you won\u2019t be happy if you see your loved one texting someone else.<\/p>\n

E mesmo que as pessoas polig\u00e2micas n\u00e3o sintam ci\u00fames no in\u00edcio da sua nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o, com o tempo, isso muda.<\/strong> Elizabeth Sheff realizou um estudo que acompanhou v\u00e1rios casais poliamorosos durante 15 anos.<\/p>\n

No in\u00edcio da sua nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o, nenhum deles sentiu ci\u00fames. De facto, sentiam compaix\u00e3o. No entanto, passados 15 anos, os mesmos casais afirmaram que se debatiam com pensamentos ciumentos.<\/p>\n

2. A liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/h3>\n

Porque \u00e9 que o poliamor \u00e9 mau: Uma das primeiras raz\u00f5es est\u00e1 relacionada com as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

Look, you\u2019re a human being, not a robot. Por mais que se tente ter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o sexual casual com algu\u00e9m<\/a>Mais cedo ou mais tarde, os sentimentos v\u00e3o aparecer.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O que acontece quando se cria uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional com algu\u00e9m novo? E se passar a am\u00e1-la mais do que ao seu parceiro principal?<\/p>\n

What if they fall in love, but you\u2019re unable to reciprocate their feelings? Either way, heartbreak every now and then is inevitable.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, it\u2019s impossible to form an liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/a> with everyone who comes along. Won\u2019t all of those meaningless physical encounters leave you feeling empty and drained?<\/p>\n

3. A igualdade \u00e9 imposs\u00edvel na pr\u00e1tica<\/h3>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o monog\u00e2mica baseia-se na igualdade. Pelo menos, \u00e9 assim que deve ser uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

Mas ser\u00e1 que a igualdade \u00e9 realmente poss\u00edvel quando se trata de rela\u00e7\u00f5es poliamorosas<\/a>? Em teoria, sem d\u00favida que sim.<\/p>\n

Of course, I\u2019m talking about poly relationships with no primary partner or, to be exact, when all partners are \u201cprimary.\u201d As much as poly folks try to create equality in this kind of romantic relationship, it\u2019s quite impossible in practice.<\/strong><\/p>\n

What about hierarchical poly relationships? How do the people positioned \u201cbelow\u201d the primary partners feel?<\/p>\n

4. Investimento emocional<\/h3>\n

A quest\u00e3o da igualdade n\u00e3o est\u00e1 nas prendas ou no tempo que passam juntos. Pode fazer um calend\u00e1rio segundo o qual sai com todos os seus parceiros o mesmo n\u00famero de vezes, dorme com todos o mesmo n\u00famero de vezes por semana, compra-lhes as mesmas prendas, etc.<\/p>\n

But there is something you simply can\u2019t divide as much as you try, and that is exactly why polyamory is bad. Whether you like to admit it or not, you can\u2019t divide your heart into equal parts.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t give all of your partners the same amount of emotions. Besides, who measures this kind of thing?<\/p>\n

E se sentir emocionalmente negligenciada<\/a>, but your partner claims that they\u2019re invested in your relationship? Who decides who\u2019s right?<\/p>\n

Por outro lado, e se come\u00e7ar realmente a gostar mais de algu\u00e9m novo do que do seu parceiro principal? E se se sentir mais feliz num encontro com essa pessoa do que com o seu principal namorado ou namorada?<\/p>\n

You\u2019re still equally invested in both relationships looking from the outside. Nevertheless, deep inside, you feel a huge difference.<\/p>\n

5. Uma luta pelo poder<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

We\u2019re all human beings, which means that we\u2019re not perfect. As much as we try to disregard and surpass our egos, this is another impossible thing to perform in practice.<\/p>\n

Assim even if you manage to fight jealousy off, power struggles will always be there. Competition and winning against an opponent is in every person\u2019s nature, as much as we try to hide it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Truth be told, some people start polyamorous relationships to boost their egos. They enjoy the idea of multiple people \u201cfighting\u201d for their love and attention.<\/p>\n

Of course, this is not what healthy polyamory looks like. Nevertheless, in practice, this \u201cfighting\u201d happens more than you might imagine.<\/p>\n

And I\u2019m not only talking about women fighting over one man or vice versa. I\u2019m talking about the power struggle between you and your primary partner.<\/p>\n

Who\u2019s slept with more people? Who went out on more dates? Who gets hit on more?<\/p>\n

6. Quest\u00f5es jur\u00eddicas<\/h3>\n

If you don\u2019t know why polyamory is bad, I\u2019m sure you haven\u2019t thought of its legal aspects. I\u2019m no lawyer, but I do know that being married to more than one person at the same time is illegal in all western cultures.<\/p>\n

Eu sei que h\u00e1 quem pense que o casamento \u00e9 um conceito ultrapassado, mas aquele peda\u00e7o de papel significa mesmo alguma coisa. N\u00e3o se recebe nada depois de terminar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o, mas tem-se um conjunto de direitos depois de se divorciar.<\/strong><\/p>\n

E por mais que eu odeie abordar este assunto, o que acontece se um dos s\u00f3cios falecer sem deixar testamento?<\/strong> If you\u2019re not their legal spouse, you have no right to their inheritance or anything else.<\/p>\n

In fact, you\u2019re not considered their family by the authorities or medical staff.<\/p>\n

7. A monogamia \u00e9 suficientemente complexa<\/h3>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Jogos mentais<\/a>, t\u00e1cticas de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o, sinais contradit\u00f3rios<\/a>, toxic behavior… I\u2019m not saying that every monogamous relationship is like this, but let\u2019s be honest, most mono couples are guilty of at least some of these behaviors.<\/p>\n

Relationships are tough \u2013 nobody can argue against that. It takes a lot of time, effort, and energy to make it work.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, duas pessoas com diferentes origens, n\u00edveis de intelig\u00eancia, necessidades, passados e car\u00e1cteres t\u00eam de encontrar um meio-termo e uma forma de viverem juntas e felizes para sempre.<\/p>\n

Por que \u00e9 que se presume que estas coisas desaparecem magicamente no momento em que se muda para o poliamor? Pelo contr\u00e1rio, tudo se torna ainda mais complexo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

At\u00e9 agora, havia duas pessoas a tentar chegar a um compromisso. Agora, temos tr\u00eas ou mais adultos a tentar fazer a mesma coisa. Como \u00e9 que isto n\u00e3o torna as coisas ainda mais complicadas?<\/p>\n

8. Regras pouco claras<\/h3>\n

Quem \u00e9 o parceiro principal? Com quantos outros parceiros rom\u00e2nticos \u00e9 permitido estar? Podem apenas sair com outras pessoas solteiras ou tudo se restringe a outras pessoas poli?<\/p>\n

Do people outside of the polyamorous community know about the couple\u2019s practices? Where is it acceptable to look for other partners?<\/p>\n

\u00c9 permitido publicar fotografias com eles em todas as redes sociais? O que acontece se algu\u00e9m se apaixonar?<\/p>\n

A lot of people interested in polygamy have no idea that this list of questions can go on and on forever. And even veteran polyamorists don\u2019t have all the answers.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sim, a verdade \u00e9 que cada rela\u00e7\u00e3o poliamorosa \u00e9 diferente. N\u00e3o existem regras universais que se apliquem a todas as rela\u00e7\u00e3o aberta<\/a>da mesma forma que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 regras universais<\/a> que se aplicam a todas as pessoas monog\u00e2micas.<\/p>\n

Mas, quer se queira admitir ou n\u00e3o, a verdade \u00e9 que estas regras s\u00e3o um pouco dif\u00edceis de compreender e de seguir.<\/p>\n

9. CTI<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not claiming that every poly relationship is only a sexual relationship. However, it is true that sex lives between more than two people carry more risk, regardless of one\u2019s sexual orientation.<\/p>\n

Yes, there is a bigger chance of getting an STI. It\u2019s actually pretty logical \u2013 you sleep with a lot of people, all of those people sleep with other people, and your partner does the same.<\/p>\n

No entanto, if you\u2019re all responsible, STIs can be avoided.<\/strong><\/p>\n

First of all, always use protection, even when sleeping with your primary partner. Nevertheless, that\u2019s not always enough.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s crucial to ask everyone to get tested before sleeping with them for the first time. Make sure they know you\u2019re not accusing them of anything \u2013 it\u2019s just a matter of precaution.<\/p>\n

Besides, if they refuse to get tested, they\u2019re either hiding something or they\u2019re not mature enough to see where you\u2019re coming from.<\/p>\n

Seja como for, n\u00e3o s\u00e3o candidatos a uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00edntima!<\/p>\n

10. N\u00e3o \u00e9 saud\u00e1vel para as crian\u00e7as<\/h3>\n

Este tipo de acordo n\u00e3o \u00e9 saud\u00e1vel para as crian\u00e7as que est\u00e3o a ser criadas por pais n\u00e3o-monog\u00e2micos? Este tipo de imprevisibilidade e incerteza pode ter um impacto negativo na sua sa\u00fade mental? Os estudos dizem que sim.<\/p>\n

Por um lado, sim, o poliamor d\u00e1-lhes a oportunidade de serem amados e cuidados por mais pessoas. No entanto, este tipo de arranjo tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o lhes d\u00e1 a estabilidade e a firmeza de que necessitam.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, o que \u00e9 que acontece se dois parceiros tiverem um filho biol\u00f3gico? Como \u00e9 que isso faz sentir a terceira pessoa?<\/p>\n

Sentem-se exclu\u00eddos? Ficam com ci\u00fames da liga\u00e7\u00e3o entre os seus outros parceiros?<\/p>\n

11. Separa\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

E as separa\u00e7\u00f5es?<\/p>\n

\u00c9 necess\u00e1rio um conselho oficial para decidir quando algu\u00e9m sai? E se quisermos acabar com um parceiro, mas o outro parceiro ainda quiser estar envolvido com ele? Ou o contr\u00e1rio?<\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 que a democracia funciona aqui?<\/p>\n

Breakups are practically impossible in polyamorous relationships. Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not talking about the kind of romances where you have a primary partner and a couple of intimate relationships outside of the primary one.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about that type of relationship where there are more people involved in the same romance; when you\u2019re dating or even living together.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s say you want to cut ties and go no contact with one of your partners. How is that possible if your boyfriend or girlfriend is still involved with this person?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Of course, I\u2019m presenting you with imaginary scenarios, but trust me \u2013 something like this is highly possible.<\/p>\n

O poliamor \u00e9 uma doen\u00e7a mental?<\/h2>\n

Polyamory is definitely not a mental illness \u2013 it\u2019s just a way of life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Polyamorous people have different personality types, attachment styles, and personality traits. They\u2019re regular human beings \u2013 they just prefer non-monogamy.<\/p>\n

O poliamor n\u00e3o \u00e9 \u00e9tico?<\/h2>\n

Desde que todas as partes envolvidas d\u00eaem o seu pleno consentimento a este tipo de rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica, o poliamor \u00e9 perfeitamente \u00e9tico.<\/strong> Of course, it\u2019s not acceptable behavior according to most religions and according to some conservative views, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as nobody is forced into it.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

The truth is that I\u2019ve given you all the reasons why polyamory is bad. However, I\u2019m sure that you can also find a bunch of studies about porque funciona de facto<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So, what\u2019s the verdict? Is it something you should avoid at all costs, or is it an arrangement you ought to try out and see where it takes you?<\/p>\n

I have to be honest with you: there is no right or wrong answer here. But if you\u2019re used to monogamous relationships, switching from mono to poly will definitely be a difficult task.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, it all depends on what you want and what makes you feel comfortable. After all, even if you try giving it a chance, you can always go back to monogamy \u2013 it\u2019s not like you have to spend the rest of your life in polyamory.<\/p>\n

Seja qual for a vossa decis\u00e3o, n\u00e3o se esque\u00e7am de uma coisa: o mais importante \u00e9 o consentimento!<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not polyamory if your partners aren\u2019t familiar with the other people in your life. In that case, it\u2019s called cheating, and that\u2019s something monogamous relationships already have!<\/p>\n

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