Aqui est\u00e3o algumas coisas que o ajudar\u00e3o a resolver todos os seus dilemas e muito mais!<\/p>\n
Com que frequ\u00eancia \u00e9 que os casais discutem? 6 Factores<\/h2>\n
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Despite popular opinion, the frequency of arguments is no predictor of a relationship\u2019s happiness and health. Of course, I\u2019m not talking about the situation where you can\u2019t go a day without a huge fight.<\/p>\n
No entanto, there are numerous issues that have to be discussed before answering the question, \u201chow often do couples fight?<\/strong>\u201d Before anything else, it\u2019s important to keep in mind how they resolve their disagreements.<\/p>\n But let\u2019s first see the factors that impact the frequency of fights.<\/p>\n A primeira coisa a considerar \u00e9, sem d\u00favida, a dura\u00e7\u00e3o da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. De acordo com os especialistas em rela\u00e7\u00f5es, os casais que mais discutem est\u00e3o juntos entre 6 meses e um ano. Porqu\u00ea?<\/p>\n Well, when you first start dating, you don\u2019t show your true colors. I\u2019m not saying that you\u2019re deliberately deceiving your partner, but we all feel the need to present ourselves in a better light.<\/p>\n Besides, you\u2019re in the fase de lua de mel<\/a>, and there are butterflies flying around in your tummy. You\u2019ve got your rose-tinted glasses on, and even the annoying things your partner does look cute.<\/p>\n Even when you\u2019re bothered by something they do, you\u2019ll bite your tongue.<\/strong> You don\u2019t want to be perceived as naggy or overly-demanding.<\/p>\n But when your relationship reaches a certain length, you\u2019re both relaxed enough, and it\u2019s seguro para mudar<\/a>. You no longer have a problem stating what\u2019s bothering you.<\/p>\n Ao mesmo tempo, ambos mostram as vossas verdadeiras cores. As borboletas est\u00e3o lentamente a desaparecer e todas as vossas peculiaridades v\u00eam \u00e0 tona.<\/strong><\/p>\n That\u2019s when arguments become more common. Don\u2019t be scared \u2013 happy couples go through this phase as well.<\/p>\n After spending years together, you\u2019ve seen todas as bandeiras vermelhas<\/a>. And you\u2019ve decided to live with them. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have stuck around for that long.<\/p>\n What is the amount of times you argue at this stage? Well, if you\u2019re in a rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a>a frequ\u00eancia deve diminuir significativamente.<\/strong><\/p>\n On the other hand, if you can\u2019t really stand each other and are together for the wrong reasons (a habit, co-parenting, finances, comfort zone), you\u2019ve got yourself a problem. In that case, you literally can\u2019t communicate without fighting.<\/p>\n Another factor that impacts the answer to the question of \u201chow often do couples fight?\u201d is the level of your relationship. Is it something serious? Are you married? Or are you just dating?<\/p>\n A resposta a esta pergunta \u00e9, de facto, bastante l\u00f3gica. You won\u2019t fight with someone you don\u2019t see a future with<\/a>. Pelo menos, n\u00e3o com tanta frequ\u00eancia.<\/strong><\/p>\n Because, to be honest, why would you waste your energy? I mean, you don\u2019t give a damn if he leaves his dirty socks under the bed if we\u2019re talking about a casual hookup.<\/strong><\/p>\n You have no idea when you\u2019ll see him next, and even though this might bother you, you\u2019ll tolerate it.<\/p>\n Mas o que acontece quando \u00e9 o outro que o faz? Bem, ficamos loucos porque nos vemos a passar uma vida inteira a apanhar as meias sujas dele.<\/p>\n E h\u00e1 uma s\u00e9rie de coisas aparentemente pequenas que at\u00e9 os casais felizes discutem.<\/p>\n It seems like some people enjoy arguing. They pick a fight wherever they appear, and they\u2019re able to argue for hours and hours, even when it becomes completely pointless.<\/p>\n They must get their way, and they won\u2019t give up until the other side admits that they\u2019re right.<\/p>\n On the other hand, there are those who\u2019ll do everything in their power to avoid getting into a fight. Estes s\u00e3o normalmente pessoas que agradam \u00e0s pessoas<\/a> who don\u2019t have trouble nodding their heads at everything the other party says just to avoid conflict.<\/strong><\/p>\n E depois h\u00e1 toda a gente no meio.<\/p>\n O que importa \u00e9 que todos n\u00f3s temos um conjunto diferente de tra\u00e7os de personalidade. Reagimos de forma diferente \u00e0s coisas que nos incomodam e lidamos com os lit\u00edgios de v\u00e1rias formas.<\/strong><\/p>\n This is a major factor when it comes to the frequency of arguments and one of the main reasons why there is no universal answer to the question, \u201chow often do couples fight?\u201d<\/p>\n Uma das piores coisas nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es rom\u00e2nticas \u00e9 quando um dos parceiros est\u00e1 totalmente empenhado enquanto o outro est\u00e1 a entrar sem convic\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>. Quando um est\u00e1 empenhado e dedicado enquanto o outro v\u00ea a rela\u00e7\u00e3o como algo tempor\u00e1rio. Quando uma pessoa ama mais<\/a>.<\/p>\n In that case, one of the people always feels like they\u2019re not getting as much as they deserve. They feel emotionally neglected and taken advantage of.<\/strong><\/p>\n Quando isso acontece, as brigas s\u00e3o inevit\u00e1veis e constantes.<\/strong> A pessoa que est\u00e1 a dar menos torna-se evitante<\/a> e, normalmente, n\u00e3o \u00e9 ele que arranja brigas.<\/p>\n Por outro lado, o emocionalmente negligenciado<\/a> quer justi\u00e7a e \u00e9 quem est\u00e1 sempre a come\u00e7ar as discuss\u00f5es. Quer dizer, quem \u00e9 que os pode censurar?<\/p>\n You and your significant other\u2019s communication skills are extremely important when it comes to the frequency of fights.<\/p>\n Como \u00e9 que normalmente exprimir emo\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a>? Tem facilidade em dizer o que pensa? Tem tend\u00eancia para interpretar mal o que a outra pessoa est\u00e1 a tentar dizer-lhe?<\/p>\n Est\u00e1 a um emp\u00e1tico<\/a> who has the ability to feel your partner\u2019s feelings? How do you get along with communication in general, i.e., outside of your relationship?<\/p>\n Todas estas coisas far\u00e3o a diferen\u00e7a quando se trata de lutar com o seu ente querido.<\/p>\n Todos os treinadores de rela\u00e7\u00f5es lhe dir\u00e3o que a frequ\u00eancia das discuss\u00f5es tamb\u00e9m depende da hierarquia da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n There are numerous relationships where one person is afraid to speak up. In that case, there is no fighting \u2013 the dominant person makes a demand, and that demand must be fulfilled.<\/strong><\/p>\n On the other hand, if you\u2019re both equals and there is no submissive person who isn\u2019t allowed to confront the dominant one, arguments will be way more frequent.<\/p>\n N\u00e3o existe uma resposta universal para esta quest\u00e3o. Antes de mais, o que \u00e9 que consideramos um combate?<\/strong><\/p>\n Trata-se apenas de uma grande discuss\u00e3o ou o termo aplica-se a uma pequena discuss\u00e3o? Estamos a falar de dois extrovertidos que n\u00e3o t\u00eam problemas em expressar as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es? Ou talvez de duas pessoas que agradam \u00e0s pessoas e que nunca dizem o que pensam?<\/p>\n Todos os casais t\u00eam a sua rotina. And as long as they don\u2019t argue on a regular basis and have a way of resolving their conflicts \u2013 they\u2019re good to go.<\/strong><\/p>\n Most married couples squabble every couple of days. But that doesn\u2019t mean they\u2019re at each other\u2019s throats all the time.<\/strong><\/p>\n Al\u00e9m disso, tudo depende de v\u00e1rios factores. Por vezes, um casal discute algumas vezes por semana e, por vezes, passa meses sem a mais pequena discuss\u00e3o.<\/p>\n If we\u2019re talking about huge fights, it\u2019s definitely too frequent to argue every week.<\/strong> But if you\u2019re referring to irrelevant disagreements that come and go, there is nothing wrong with that.<\/p>\n N\u00e3o, n\u00e3o \u00e9 normal que casais saud\u00e1veis<\/a> para discutir todos os dias.<\/strong><\/p>\n According to clinical psychologists, fighting every day in a relationship is extremely harmful to your mental health. If this is something you can relate to, you\u2019re in a toxic relationship, and you have two options: to work on your conflict resolution as a couple or part ways.<\/p>\n I\u2019ll tell you right away: you can\u2019t avoid getting into a fight. Or, to be precise, you shouldn\u2019t do.<\/p>\n No entanto, existem algumas dicas que podem ajud\u00e1-lo a argumentar de forma mais produnda<\/strong>. Aqui est\u00e3o eles:<\/p>\n When you\u2019re bothered by something, you should speak up. Happy couples fight more often than you might think, but that\u2019s because they\u2019re honest about everything they want to change in their relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n And that\u2019s a great thing. I\u2019m not saying you should pick fights whenever you get the chance to, but you should definitely be comfortable enough to be honest about the things you\u2019d like to repair.<\/p>\n No name-calling, humiliating, and insulting your partner! Remember: just because you argue with someone doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re allowed to disrespect them, especially when we\u2019re talking about your romantic partner.<\/p>\n Confia em mim, a primeira vez que cruzares esta linha, as coisas v\u00e3o mudar para sempre. If you insult each other once and you both let it slide, it will become a normal way of communicating, and that\u2019s the last thing you want.<\/strong><\/p>\n You don\u2019t feel like you\u2019ve done anything wrong. Okay, that\u2019s your point of view. But at the same time, your partner feels hurt and heartbroken.<\/p>\n Dever\u00e1 lutar para decidir se eles t\u00eam o direito de se sentirem assim? Ou ser\u00e1 que est\u00e3o a exagerar? A rea\u00e7\u00e3o deles \u00e9 realista?<\/strong><\/p>\n Isto n\u00e3o est\u00e1 aberto a discuss\u00e3o!<\/strong> You must validate each other\u2019s feelings \u2013 that\u2019s the whole point!<\/p>\n Remember, if you\u2019re criticizing something your partner has done, you\u2019re not criticizing them as a person. The same goes both ways.<\/p>\n I know it\u2019s hard not to take relationship arguments personally, but please, do your best to separate the art from the artist.<\/strong><\/p>\n This kind of approach will help you both see things more realistically, and you\u2019ll gain the objectivity you didn\u2019t know you had.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t replay old hits. Don\u2019t tackle all the what-ifs, could-haves, and should-have-beens. Don\u2019t go beating around the bush either!<\/strong><\/p>\n Yes, this is quite challenging, especially when you\u2019ve been together for ages, but trust me on this one.<\/p>\n Resolvam o problema que deu origem a toda esta confus\u00e3o. S\u00f3 depois de o resolverem \u00e9 que podem tratar de tudo o resto.<\/p>\n Obst\u00e1culos<\/a>, tratamento silencioso<\/a>, chantagem emocional<\/a>e t\u00e1cticas semelhantes s\u00e3o abuso emocional<\/a>! The same goes for other techniques that should magically tell your partner what you\u2019re bothered by.<\/p>\n This is not a game \u2013 it\u2019s a relationship, and you must always be direct if you want things to work for the best.<\/strong><\/p>\n Don\u2019t be a child and post a social media song or a status update addressing your partner. Don\u2019t expect them to read your mind and magically know what\u2019s wrong.<\/p>\n Instead, be mature enough to start a fight if it\u2019s necessary.<\/p>\n A arte de ouvir com aten\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 crucial para uma luta saud\u00e1vel. You can\u2019t be the only one talking, and you must take the other person\u2019s point of view into consideration.<\/strong><\/p>\n Listen to what they have to say, and don\u2019t interrupt them until they\u2019re finished. Don\u2019t be rude, no matter what\u2019s going on.<\/p>\n Reagir no calor do momento \u00e9 muito divertido at\u00e9 ter de sofrer as consequ\u00eancias dos seus actos. A discuss\u00e3o com o seu parceiro ser\u00e1 muito mais produtiva se respirar fundo ou at\u00e9 sair um pouco antes de continuar.<\/strong><\/p>\n1. Qual a dura\u00e7\u00e3o da rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h3>\n
Primeira fase<\/h4>\n
Segunda fase<\/h4>\n
Terceira fase<\/h4>\n
2. Qu\u00e3o s\u00e9ria \u00e9 a rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h3>\n
3. As suas personalidades<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Diferentes n\u00edveis de compromisso, amor e devo\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n
5. Compet\u00eancias de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n
6. Igualdade numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n
Com que frequ\u00eancia devem os casais discutir?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nCom que frequ\u00eancia \u00e9 que os casais discutem?<\/h2>\n
\u00c9 normal discutir todas as semanas numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n
\u00c9 normal discutir todos os dias numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n
9 dicas para uma discuss\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. A honestidade \u00e9 sempre o caminho a seguir<\/h3>\n
2. O respeito \u00e9 obrigat\u00f3rio<\/h3>\n
3. Validate each other\u2019s feelings<\/h3>\n
4. Don\u2019t make it personal<\/h3>\n
5. Abordar a quest\u00e3o<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n6. Sem jogos mentais<\/h3>\n
7. Aprender a ouvir<\/h3>\n
8. Don\u2019t be impulsive<\/h3>\n
9. Concordar em discordar<\/h3>\n
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