1. A nostalgia atingiu-os<\/h3>\n
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Uma das primeiras raz\u00f5es pelas quais o seu bom amigo<\/a> contacted you all of a sudden could be nostalgia. Maybe you got a friend request on social media or a text message from them \u2013 it doesn\u2019t really matter.<\/p>\n The bottom line is that you two share some beautiful memories together. Even though you don\u2019t know it, they think of these times frequently.<\/p>\n They sincerely hope that you haven\u2019t forgotten about them either. They hope that you remember all the fun you two had.<\/b><\/p>\n This is especially true if we\u2019re talking about a high school or childhood friend. Years have passed since you two spent time together.<\/p>\n Nevertheless, you were close friends once. And you\u2019re probably the only thing connecting this person to the good old days. So, they just want to talk about the past and reminisce.<\/p>\n Have you ever been in a situation when an ex who broke your heart and hurt you in the worst possible way tries to crawl back into your life ages after the break-up? I mean, of course, you have, it\u2019s what always happens.<\/p>\n Why? Well, it\u2019s because they realize what they\u2019ve lost only after you\u2019re gone. And that\u2019s exactly what happened to that best friend who did you harm.<\/p>\n They\u2019ve spent years looking for you. They were convinced that finding a friend like you would be a piece of cake.<\/p>\n A lot of people will welcome them with open arms \u2013 they will give them the love, comfort, and devotion you offered.<\/p>\n Mas, azar, nada disso aconteceu. Passaram uma eternidade inteira \u00e0 tua procura para se aperceberem de que n\u00e3o estavas em lado nenhum.<\/b><\/p>\n E agora, querem voltar aos velhos tempos. O seu ex-amigo quer continuar exatamente onde voc\u00eas pararam, como se nada tivesse acontecido, porque o v\u00ea como o seu alma g\u00e9mea amiga<\/a>.<\/p>\n Bem, se eu fosse a si, desejava-lhes apenas <\/b>boa sorte<\/b> with that. Why didn\u2019t they appreciate you while you were around?<\/b><\/p>\n On the other hand, there are people who know that they\u2019ve made a mistake and feel guilty about it. So, when an velho amigo<\/a> se a pessoa o contactar do nada, pode ser porque quer pedir desculpa.<\/p>\n There is no desire for reconnecting here. Maybe they just want to meet up to tell you that they\u2019re sorry or to obrigado por tudo<\/a>.<\/p>\n Why does it matter now? Well, they\u2019ve obviously grown as a person. They\u2019re probably replaying their entire life back and forth in their head, and they\u2019ve realized they treated you wrong.<\/p>\n Basicamente, eles querem desabafar. Precisam do seu perd\u00e3o para seguir em frente e limpar a consci\u00eancia.<\/b><\/p>\n Ou talvez outra pessoa estivesse a fazer-lhes passar um mau bocado. Talvez se tenham posto no seu lugar, o que os fez compreender o seu ponto de vista.<\/p>\n In that case, if you are able to forgive them, don\u2019t torture them anymore. Tell them that you accept their apology and move on with your life.<\/p>\n When an old friend contacts you out of the blue, they\u2019ve probably changed a lot. They’re not the same person they were the first time your friendship ended.<\/p>\n I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard the phrase \u201cright person, wrong time.\u201d Even though most people connect this line with romantic love, it can be applied to friendship as well.<\/p>\n O seu <\/b>antigo amigo<\/b> est\u00e1 ciente de <\/b>as suas qualidades<\/b><\/a>. They know that you\u2019re someone they want to spend time with.<\/b><\/p>\n But when you first used to hang out, you were too immature to realize the true meaning of friendship. Luckily, now, you\u2019ve both grown, and that has changed.<\/p>\n It means that it\u2019s time for a second chance. Besides, you two didn\u2019t end your friendship on bad terms. You didn\u2019t have a major fallout \u2013 you just lost touch.<\/p>\n There were no insults, no backstabbing, or anything like that. You drifted apart because you didn\u2019t appreciate each other, and that\u2019s all.<\/p>\n Or maybe they\u2019ve remained exactly the same person they were in the past. Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not claiming that they haven\u2019t made any progress whatsoever.<\/p>\n But at the end of the day, they\u2019re not the person they were last month or even last year. Deep down, they\u2019re still the person they were when you two <\/b>foram <\/b>melhores amigos<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n This means that you\u2019re the only one who knows the essence of their being. They\u2019ve tried spending time with new friends, but each one of them was missing something.<\/p>\n They were all interested in this new version of themselves while you\u2019re the only one who accepted them truly for who they are.<\/p>\n Are they interested in reconnecting? Without a doubt, yes. You have to be aware that this person doesn\u2019t only see you as their friend. To them, you\u2019re a family member!<\/p>\n They haven\u2019t called you in ages, and truth be told, you haven\u2019t even crossed their mind all of this time. But recently, they saw a mutual friend or coworker who mentioned you.<\/p>\n Ou ouviram a tua m\u00fasica preferida. Talvez se tenham cruzado com algu\u00e9m parecido consigo.<\/p>\n Whatever happened, the bottom line is that your entire friendship went through their mind. They\u2019ve had a major flashback, and they remembered you.<\/b><\/p>\n But the point is that they kept thinking of you for days after something or someone reminded them of you. And that\u2019s when they knew they had to reach out to you, no matter what! Of course, that\u2019s exactly what they did.<\/p>\n At the end of the day, they don\u2019t know what they want from you. Ser\u00e1 esta uma oportunidade de reencontro?<\/b><\/p>\n Podes simplesmente <\/b>encontrar-se<\/b> a <\/b>dia seguinte<\/b> para p\u00f4r a conversa em dia sobre os velhos tempos? V\u00e3o construir um <\/b>amizade \u00e0 dist\u00e2ncia<\/b><\/a>? Who knows \u2013 all options are on the table.<\/b><\/p>\n Quando romper uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura<\/a>, it\u2019s natural that you want to know why it happened. When did things start going downhill?<\/p>\n Foi algo que fez? Poderia ter feito alguma coisa para evitar o fim da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o? Aconteceu alguma coisa em particular que <\/i>\u00faltima vez<\/i> que os levou a excluir-vos da vida deles?<\/i><\/p>\n No, these questions don\u2019t only apply to romantic relationships. The same goes with friendships as well. After all, it\u2019s also a type of relationship, and there is nothing wrong with wanting closure.<\/p>\n Bem, quando <\/b>um velho amigo contacta<\/b> tu <\/b>do nada<\/b>, that\u2019s exactly what they\u2019re looking for. Maybe they don\u2019t plan on coming back into your life.<\/b><\/p>\n Pelo contr\u00e1rio, s\u00f3 querem terminar esse cap\u00edtulo da sua vida para poderem come\u00e7ar de novo.<\/p>\n Obviously, everything that happened between you two left a big influence on their life. And if they ask you for closure, give it to them \u2013 that would be the only fair thing to do.<\/p>\n When an old friend contacts you out of the blue, you immediately assume that there is something huge or secretive hidden behind it. But the truth is that things don\u2019t have to be so complicated.<\/p>\n Maybe they\u2019re not here to ask for a kidney or gossip about your <\/b>amigos comuns<\/b>. Talvez o seu <\/b>antigo amigo<\/b> s\u00f3 quer conversar.<\/b><\/p>\n Of course, this is possible only if you two didn\u2019t have a huge <\/b>precipita\u00e7\u00e3o radioactiva<\/b> and just lost touch over time. You didn\u2019t have a big fight, and nobody hurt anyone.<\/b><\/p>\n So, why wouldn’t they want to see what you\u2019ve been up to? I won\u2019t say that they necessarily miss you, but you\u2019ve definitely crossed their mind, and they just wanted to see if there is anything new going on in your life.<\/p>\n Or they were just bored and had nothing better to do. Either way, you don\u2019t have to look too deep into it.<\/p>\n When an old friend contacts you out of the blue, they might be asking for help. I don\u2019t know if we\u2019re falar de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o m\u00e1<\/a>O que \u00e9 que se passa? Uma emerg\u00eancia familiar, um problema de sa\u00fade mental ou algo completamente diferente.<\/p>\n O mais importante \u00e9 que o v\u00eaem como a sua \u00faltima oportunidade de salva\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Look, they won\u2019t tell you they need a hand straight away. Instead, they\u2019ll just ask you to meet up, and if you\u2019re willing to see them, they might open up.<\/p>\n Why did they think of you, you must ask? After all, you can\u2019t remember when the last time you talked was, and you\u2019re sure that they\u2019ve found new friends in the meantime.<\/p>\n Well, I guess that you\u2019re still the only one they trust, no matter what. The only one who will apoi\u00e1-los em tudo<\/a>, understand them, and won\u2019t leave them when they need someone the most.<\/p>\n It\u2019s apparent that you two have an unbreakable bond. They see you as their alma g\u00e9mea plat\u00f3nica<\/a> e parceiro no crime<\/a>.<\/p>\n They can have alot of close friends, but you\u2019re their a primeira e \u00fanica amiga<\/a>!<\/p>\n I get it that you\u2019re facing a serious dilemma. On the one hand, you feel like they\u2019re using you.<\/p>\n Todos os outros os deixaram para tr\u00e1s, por isso agora pensaram em si. Onde \u00e9 que eles estiveram este tempo todo?<\/p>\n But if you look at things from a different perspective, you should actually be honored. They could have asked for anyone\u2019s help, but they chose you! If that doesn\u2019t make you feel special, I don\u2019t know what does.<\/p>\n I\u2019ve given your former friend the benefit of the doubt until now. But this is the moment when we have to tackle what you don\u2019t want to hear as well.<\/p>\n Yes, it\u2019s possible that they need a favor and nothing else. Maybe they want you to lend them money, take care of their kids, drive them somewhere, give your recommendation on something…<\/b><\/p>\n Os exemplos s\u00e3o infinitos, mas quando um velho amigo o contacta do nada, esta \u00e9 uma das raz\u00f5es mais comuns.<\/p>\n If you are in this kind of situation, don’t feel responsible to help them.<\/b><\/p>\n Were they ever around to give you a hand? Did they ever ask you how you\u2019ve been?<\/p>\n They have no shame and no dignity, and they don\u2019t deserve a response from you, let alone anything more.<\/p>\n Quero dizer, o que \u00e9 que tu \u00e9s? Uma loja de conveni\u00eancia? Uma sala de emerg\u00eancia?<\/p>\n A dura verdade \u00e9 que esta pessoa arruinou a tua sa\u00fade mental. Esta sempre foi uma amizade unilateral, e ela nunca foi a sua verdadeiro amigo<\/a>.<\/p>\n O seu <\/b>amigo t\u00f3xico<\/b><\/a> intimidaram-no e destru\u00edram a sua autoestima. Eles <\/b>nunca te respeitei<\/b><\/a> ou <\/b>trataram-no como o seu melhor amigo<\/b><\/a>. Sofreste abuso emocional por parte deles e tudo o que te fizeram deixou marcas no teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e na tua alma.<\/b><\/p>\n A verdade \u00e9 que demoraste demasiado tempo a ultrapassar tudo isto, quanto mais a encontrar novos amigos.<\/p>\n E quando estava a chegar ao fim da sua jornada de cura, eles reapareceram na sua vida.<\/p>\n Arrependem-se de tudo? Est\u00e3o aqui porque querem pedir desculpa? Detesto ter de vos dizer isto, mas n\u00e3o.<\/b><\/p>\n You\u2019re dealing with an abuser who thinks of you as a suitable victim \u2013 nothing more!<\/b><\/p>\n When an old friend contacts you out of the blue, they might be involved in MLM (multi-level marketing) or a pyramid scheme. I know you\u2019ve seen alot of memes and jokes regarding this topic, but trust me \u2013 we\u2019ll all get a similar phone call one of these days.<\/p>\n I have to admit, this is a tough situation. On the one hand, you don\u2019t want to waste your time listening to their nonsense.<\/b><\/p>\n But at the same time, we\u2019re talking about someone you\u2019ve been so close to. You can\u2019t just hang up on them.<\/b><\/p>\n The best thing to do is to be as polite as possible. But don\u2019t forget to be firm at the same time because trust me, they will use your vulnerabilities against you.<\/p>\n Just tell them that you\u2019re busy and that you\u2019ll call them the next day. Let\u2019s face it \u2013 you won\u2019t, but do you have any other option at this point?<\/p>\n Se tem algo a dizer-lhes, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada de errado em contact\u00e1-los <\/b>um velho amigo<\/b>. No entanto, \u00e9 preciso encontrar a melhor forma de o fazer.<\/b><\/p>\n If you haven\u2019t talked to each other in a long time, maybe it\u2019s better to send them a text message or friend request before calling them out of the blue.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s a list of phrases to say when you hear from a long-<\/b>amigo perdido<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n 1. \u201cHey, what\u2019s up?\u201d<\/p>\n 2. \u201cI\u2019ve been just thinking about you.\u201d<\/p>\n 3. \u201cLong time no see.\u201d<\/p>\n2. They\u2019ve realized you\u2019re nowhere to be found<\/h3>\n
3. Querem pedir desculpa<\/h3>\n
4. They\u2019ve changed<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Ou mantiveram-se na mesma<\/h3>\n
6. Algo o fez lembrar-se deles<\/h3>\n
7. Querem encerrar o assunto<\/h3>\n
8. Eles querem conversar<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n9. They\u2019re in a bad place in life<\/h3>\n
O que fazer?<\/h4>\n
10. Precisam de um favor<\/h3>\n
11. You\u2019re a suitable victim<\/h3>\n
12. Um esquema em pir\u00e2mide<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n\u00c9 estranho contactar velhos amigos?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nO que dizer quando um amigo h\u00e1 muito desaparecido nos contacta?<\/h2>\n
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