{"id":15298,"date":"2019-02-26T14:10:26","date_gmt":"2019-02-26T14:10:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=15298"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:48:10","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:48:10","slug":"a-dor-nao-define","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-dor-nao-define\/","title":{"rendered":"A sua dor n\u00e3o define quem voc\u00ea \u00e9"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando sentimos uma verdadeira dor emocional, ela parte-nos em peda\u00e7os, independentemente de qu\u00e3o fortes parec\u00edamos antes. Sente-se como se o peso do mundo inteiro tivesse ca\u00eddo sobre os seus ombros.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 perdido, devastado, zangado e amargurado. Mas acima de tudo, sente-se uma enorme tristeza<\/a> que o sobrecarrega ao ponto de ter dificuldade em respirar corretamente.<\/p>\n

Esta dor impede-o de funcionar e matou completamente a pessoa que costumava ser.<\/p>\n

You feel like you\u2019ve lost your spark. You\u2019ve become negative and pessimistic and all you can think about are the things you don\u2019t have, instead of focusing on those you do.<\/p>\n

Esta dor que est\u00e1s a atravessar mudou a ess\u00eancia da tua personalidade, pesou no teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o, fazendo-te vaguear pelos teus dias sem qualquer objetivo e fazendo-te sentir que j\u00e1 nada neste mundo tem um prop\u00f3sito.<\/p>\n

It has bound you to the point that you\u2019ve started thinking about it as the only emotion you could ever feel. You feel tied and caged by it, you feel like you are its prisoner, like this pain completely owns you.<\/p>\n

You feel like you\u2019ve lost your identity and individuality and the only thing you see about yourself is this all-consuming emotion that overwhelms you.<\/p>\n

E sente que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 sa\u00edda, que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada nem ningu\u00e9m que o possa salvar deste abismo em que se encontra.<\/p>\n

What you don\u2019t know is that you are the only one who can save yourself if you stop allowing this pain to define you.<\/p>\n

As pessoas dir-lhe-\u00e3o muitas vezes n\u00e3o permitir que o seu passado o defina<\/a>. What does that actually mean? It doesn\u2019t mean that you should pretend like some things that were devastating for you in the past didn\u2019t happen; they did and there is no point in running away from them.<\/p>\n

Eles mudaram-te e, quer gostes ou n\u00e3o, fazem parte de quem \u00e9s agora. A dor que est\u00e1s a sentir faz parte de quem tu \u00e9s e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada de errado nisso.<\/p>\n

\"ABut the worst thing for you to do is to start perceiving it as more than just a part of your personality. And this is exactly what you\u2019re doing. You are holding on to it like you have nothing else to offer.<\/p>\n

But remember that the pain you are feeling and the negative things you\u2019ve experienced only form a part of you\u2014they don\u2019t define you as a person and they never will.<\/p>\n

If you hold on only to negative things you\u2019ve experienced and if you are focusing on the pain as the only quality you have, you are allowing this para vos definir<\/a>sem sequer ter consci\u00eancia disso.<\/p>\n

Your past happened and your pain is still present but it shouldn\u2019t be the only thing someone sees in you. And most importantly, it shouldn\u2019t be the only thing you see in yourself.<\/p>\n

No, you can\u2019t erase this pain, as much as you would like to, but it can serve you as a life lesson, instead of being a roadblock.<\/p>\n

All the pain you are feeling is just a test of your strength and it\u2019s about time you start perceiving it that way. It is a part of your life journey and it is up to you whether you\u2019ll choose to hold on to it or you\u2019ll use it as fuel to drive forward.<\/p>\n

Isto pode ser um choque para si, mas a dor tamb\u00e9m pode servir de motiva\u00e7\u00e3o. Pode lev\u00e1-lo a fazer algumas mudan\u00e7as necess\u00e1rias na sua vida ou a excluir pessoas t\u00f3xicas.<\/p>\n

But most importantly, it can teach you to put yourself first. It can help you see that you don\u2019t actually need anyone in your life and that you could fight all of life\u2019s difficulties on your own.<\/p>\n

E vai definitivamente ajudar-te a ver as pessoas que merecem um lugar na tua vida e aquelas com quem nunca deves sequer tentar contar. Ajudar-te-\u00e1 a amar-te a ti pr\u00f3prio, mesmo quando est\u00e1s em peda\u00e7os.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada de vergonhoso em sentir dor, porque \u00e9 isso que nos torna humanos. O que precisa de saber \u00e9 que este sentimento ir\u00e1 desaparecer quando menos esperar. Podes pensar que te vai perseguir para sempre, mas acredita em mim, \u00e9 apenas tempor\u00e1rio.<\/p>\n

There are great things waiting for you\u2014you just need to be patient. And there will come a day when you\u2019ll realize that everything you were going through right now was worth it. Just be patient. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When you experience real emotional pain, it breaks you into pieces, no matter how strong you seemed before that. You feel like the weight of the entire world has fallen on your shoulders. You are lost, devastated, angry and bitter. But most of all, you feel this enormous sadness that overwhelms you to the point…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":15300,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15298","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/thought-catalog-570124-unsplash-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","parent":38,"count":146,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29617,"category_count":146,"category_description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","cat_name":"heartbreak","category_nicename":"heartbreak","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15298","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15298"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15298\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15300"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15298"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15298"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15298"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}