There\u2019s a quote that says, “If you run into an <\/b>idiota<\/b> de manh\u00e3, encontrou um <\/b>idiota<\/b>. Se se deparar com <\/b>idiotas<\/b> all day, you’re the <\/b>idiota<\/b>.”<\/b> (Raylan Givens, Justificado <\/i> ) Esta linha descreve perfeitamente este ponto.<\/p>\n
If all of your interactions with other people lead to them being mean to you, there\u2019s something about you that rubs them the wrong way. If it\u2019s an occasional rude or <\/b>pessoa m\u00e1<\/b>, ent\u00e3o t\u00eam um problema. <\/b><\/p>\n
Para chegar ao fundo da quest\u00e3o e perceber porque \u00e9 que as pessoas s\u00e3o m\u00e1s, devem ser exploradas as duas possibilidades.<\/p>\n
As pessoas s\u00e3o m\u00e1s para ti por causa dos seus pr\u00f3prios problemas<\/h3>\n
It\u2019s far more likely that not every single person is mean to you, but that you simply run into rude and hurtful people so often that it seems they\u2019re everywhere.<\/b><\/p>\n
Imagine a day like this: first someone bumps into you on the street and proceeds to yell at you while you\u2019re on your way to work. Later, your boss snaps at you when you ask them about a project deadline. To top it off, your friend ignores you when you text them to ask them to go out while you\u2019re getting ready to leave work.<\/p>\n
With such encounters it\u2019s easy to forget all the kind things that happened that day: the neighbor who greeted you with a smile, the co-worker who helped you out, the family member who called to ask how you are. So the next time you think, \u201cEveryone is so mean to me,\u201d take a moment to remember the other side of the story.<\/b><\/p>\n
As pessoas que s\u00e3o m\u00e1s, no entanto, s\u00e3o m\u00e1s por raz\u00f5es que n\u00e3o t\u00eam nada a ver consigo. As pessoas s\u00e3o m\u00e1s por causa dos seus pr\u00f3prios problemas.<\/b> It\u2019s insecurities and unhappiness that make people act rude, mean and unkind.<\/p>\n1. T\u00eam uma baixa autoestima<\/h4>\n
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A baixa autoestima faz com que uma pessoa duvidar do seu valor <\/a> , and their unhappiness needs to be expressed somehow. Sometimes it manifests as false self-confidence that\u2019s fragile and ready to shatter at any time.<\/p>\n Uma pessoa com baixo <\/b>autoestima<\/b> doesn\u2019t see anything good in themselves, and they\u2019ve convinced themselves that they are <\/b>indigno de amor<\/b><\/a>.<\/b> Porque se sentem pouco am\u00e1veis, sentem que n\u00e3o devem ser amadas.<\/p>\n They\u2019re afraid you won’t like them as they are anyway, so by being mean they give you something that\u2019s easy to dislike \u2013 the mean version of themselves that deserves hate. As mean as they are to you, they\u2019re meaner to themselves.<\/b><\/p>\n A common reason for being mean is when a person is facing something that they\u2019re insecure about. As interac\u00e7\u00f5es entre as pessoas s\u00e3o muitas vezes influenciadas pelo facto de algu\u00e9m ter frequentemente a vantagem<\/b> por muito dif\u00edcil que seja reconhec\u00ea-lo.<\/p>\n When someone who\u2019s feeling like you\u2019re above them in some way is mean to you, they\u2019re trying to protect themselves. Because they\u2019re feeling powerless and insecure about their <\/b>autoestima<\/b>, they\u2019re trying to put you down before you get the chance to put them down.<\/b><\/p>\n Some people who don\u2019t like themselves can espiral de auto-avers\u00e3o <\/a> and have trouble in social interactions because they feel like they don\u2019t have anything to offer. They believe others might think they’re boring and annoying, so they overcompensate by being mean.<\/b><\/p>\n A ansiedade em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0s interac\u00e7\u00f5es sociais leva-os a rebaixar as outras pessoas. Ao faz\u00ea-lo, puxam-nas para o seu pr\u00f3prio n\u00edvel.<\/p>\n A lot of people have grown up in unhealthy environments and never learned how to act when they\u2019re having negative emotions . If they were taught that it\u2019s acceptable to take out your feelings on others, they might lack <\/b>autoconsci\u00eancia<\/b> e nem sequer consideram examinar o seu comportamento.<\/b><\/p>\n People who have suffered abusive behavior often perpetuate what they\u2019ve experienced unless their feelings are dealt with. This, or anything else on this list, isn\u2019t an excuse for behaving in a hurtful way to others, but it can give you a glimpse into porque \u00e9 que algumas pessoas t\u00eam dificuldade em relacionar-se com os outros de uma forma saud\u00e1vel e produtiva.<\/b><\/p>\n People are often mean to cope with their feelings. Maybe you remind them of their pain, or you\u2019re in the wrong place at the wrong time, but their lashing out has nothing to do with you. It\u2019s a coping mechanism to deal with <\/b>dor emocional<\/b><\/a> and handle damage that you don\u2019t see.<\/b><\/p>\n Some people convince themselves that they\u2019re right even when they aren\u2019t and transferir a culpa para os outros <\/a> . If they decide that you\u2019re the villain, they get a feeling of superiority when they\u2019re mean to you \u2013 if you’re awful, then they must be the good guy.<\/b><\/p>\n A primeira vez que agem assim, apercebem-se que gostam da sensa\u00e7\u00e3o, por isso continuam a faz\u00ea-lo. Because they enjoy being mean, they refuse to let go of their anger and think about how they\u2019re affecting the other person.<\/b><\/p>\n Ser mau pode revelar uma falta de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o e de compet\u00eancias sociais . Uma pessoa que fica zangada e m\u00e1 no momento em que discorda de si, provavelmente aprendeu essa forma de comunicar enquanto crescia.<\/b><\/p>\n J\u00e1 alguma vez falou com algu\u00e9m que come\u00e7a a falar por cima de si com uma voz mais alta do que a sua em vez de esperar que termine? Este \u00e9 outro comportamento que revela falta de capacidade de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n \u00c9 especialmente f\u00e1cil detetar o facto de se estar zangado por defeito quando se fala com os outros <\/b>redes sociais<\/b>. It\u2019s often found among people who\u2019ll disagree with you just for the sake of it.<\/b><\/p>\n You don\u2019t know what\u2019s going on in someone\u2019s life at the moment. They could be having a bad day or personal problems occupying their thoughts. They could be hungry or sleepy or worried, and too preoccupied with their own life to have any patience for others. Mau humor<\/b> causada pelo stress afecta toda a gente, mas nem todos sabem como lidar com ela.<\/b><\/p>\n Someone who\u2019s emocionalmente imaturo <\/a> doesn\u2019t have the ability to cope with their feelings, which can often result in acting out and trying to drag you down to their level. If you cross their path, they\u2019ll try to make you unhappy because they\u2019re unhappy.<\/b> Para exprimir os seus sentimentos negativos, recorrem a insultos, gritos e ataques.<\/p>\n As pessoas com direitos pensam que lhes devemos alguma coisa. It can be your time, attention or anything else, but they can become enraged when they don\u2019t get what they believe they deserve.<\/b><\/p>\n This is the kind of rude people who imagine scenarios about how a situation should go, and when you don\u2019t act in accordance with their imagination, they react to you behaving in a way they didn’t expect with anger.<\/b><\/p>\n These are toxic people who don’t even realize they are the problem and they\u2019ll blame you for ruining their day, even when you had nothing to do with it.<\/p>\n Quando algu\u00e9m est\u00e1 profundamente infeliz e frustrado, tentam procurar valida\u00e7\u00e3o <\/a> arrastando as outras pessoas para o seu n\u00edvel. A mis\u00e9ria adora companhia, por isso querem que se sinta t\u00e3o mal consigo pr\u00f3prio como eles.<\/b><\/p>\n The things they don\u2019t like most about you are the things they don\u2019t like most about themselves, and therefore they\u2019ll throw every ounce of hatred and vitriol that they believe they deserve at you.<\/p>\n Depression isn\u2019t just sadness, it\u2019s a lack of will and it\u2019s often accompanied by irritability and short temper. Lack of patience for people around them and anxiety make it f\u00e1cil de atacar. <\/b> Other mental health issues can also contribute to someone\u2019s rude and mean behavior , such as certain personality disorders.<\/p>\n Muitas vezes, as pessoas que est\u00e3o zangadas com algu\u00e9m ou com alguma coisa recorrem a uma raiva despropositada para lidar com quest\u00f5es n\u00e3o resolvidas. Pode ser a vig\u00e9sima pessoa que os irritou hoje e foi a \u00faltima gota. <\/b> It happens more than you think \u2013 someone made them mad, now they\u2019re making you pay for the other person\u2019s behavior.<\/p>\n Sometimes people are mean because they\u2019re angry at you specifically. You don\u2019t have to have done anything in particular \u2013 as pessoas podem, por vezes, guardar rancor contra si pela forma como o v\u00eaem em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a elas pr\u00f3prias.<\/b><\/p>\n Por exemplo, podem odi\u00e1-lo porque discordam de si em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a alguns valores ou invejam-no <\/a> because you have something they don’t.<\/p>\n You might be complaining about lack of free time because you\u2019ve made too many plans, and they\u2019ll resent you because they\u2019re lonely and bored.<\/p>\n Se a maioria das pessoas com quem entra em contacto \u00e9 rude ou m\u00e1 para si, \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que you\u2019re probably not as nice as you think. <\/b> Cada um tem o seu ponto de vista e, por vezes, podemos julgar os outros com mais severidade do que nos julgamos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n Most of the time we value our own actions by their intent, and the others\u2019 by their results. <\/b> For example, if you accidentally spill coffee on someone, you\u2019ll insist that it wasn\u2019t on purpose if they get mad. If someone else spills coffee on you, you\u2019ll be all sticky and angry and won\u2019t care that they did it by accident.<\/p>\n This is how we justify things that we did but didn\u2019t mean to do, while we still blame other people if they do the same thing. When you hold people to standards that you don\u2019t apply to yourself, it can become easy to see yourself as a victim who is under attack by everyone.<\/b><\/p>\n Examine everything from the previous section closely to see if anything applies to you. Are you the one who\u2019s mean in the first place for some reason? Do you have unresolved anger issues?<\/p>\n If you don\u2019t like yourself, if your life is stressful or you don\u2019t know how to cope, you might be dealing with it by being rude to people<\/b> O que os leva a serem rudes e maus para si tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re nice and everyone is mean to you, people might be thinking that your niceness is fake. Overly nice people can seem like they have an agenda and are trying to gain something by their niceness, so people might feel like you\u2019re dishonest.<\/b><\/p>\n Make sure that you\u2019re not nice because you\u2019re trying to be liked. People can feel the lack of sincerity, and if you\u2019re nice because you expect niceness back, you won\u2019t get it. Em vez de ser simp\u00e1tico, seja bondoso.<\/b><\/p>\n Asking the question \u201cWhy is everyone so mean to me?\u201d in the first place can mean that you\u2019re a person who looks at everything in a negative way.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re seeing <\/b>comportamento m\u00e9dio<\/b> e coisas m\u00e1s em todo o lado, \u00e9 preciso tentar perceber porque \u00e9 que isso acontece. <\/b> If you\u2019re pessimistic and can\u2019t seem to find anything good around you, you might be feeling depressed or sad for some reason.<\/p>\n Tente mudar lentamente a forma como encara a vida e, se necess\u00e1rio, procure a ajuda de um profissional.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re selfish <\/a> and focused only on yourself, it\u2019s hard to notice how other people feel. Se tem tend\u00eancia para culpar os outros pelos seus problemas, pode ser este o caso. <\/b><\/p>\n If you\u2019re making everything about you, and judging others, their mean behavior might be a reaction to the way you treat them. Alguns sinais de que pode ser ego\u00edsta s\u00e3o julgar os outros por coisas que acha que tem o direito de fazer e perseguir os seus pr\u00f3prios desejos e necessidades \u00e0 custa dos outros. <\/b><\/p>\n Comece a lidar com isso concentrando-se um pouco mais nos outros, em vez de precisar de ser sempre o centro das aten\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n Se tem de ter sempre a \u00faltima palavra e de ter sempre raz\u00e3o, as pessoas podem consider\u00e1-lo mand\u00e3o. If you get upset when things don\u2019t go your way, people might think <\/b>you\u2019re controlling<\/b><\/a> e n\u00e3o fazer as coisas que queremos de prop\u00f3sito.<\/b><\/p>\n Ser algu\u00e9m que critica, chateia e tenta controlar as outras pessoas pode fazer com que elas reajam com rudeza ou n\u00e3o queiram estar perto de si.<\/p>\n Ver tamb\u00e9m: Porque \u00e9 que a minha namorada \u00e9 t\u00e3o m\u00e1 para mim (16 raz\u00f5es + formas de lidar com a situa\u00e7\u00e3o)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n When people are mean to you, don\u2019t take things personally. You can react in kind and cause an argument, but you won\u2019t gain anything from it. Or you can get sad, but they\u2019re not worth it.<\/p>\n The best thing to do when people are rude and mean to you, is to fully understand that people\u2019s reactions to you are their problem.<\/b><\/p>\n Don’t expect people to be nice. If they turn out to be nice, that\u2019s great. If they don\u2019t, it\u2019s not your problem.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re in a situation where you\u2019re forced to deal with someone who\u2019s being mean, try to ignore their behavior until you don\u2019t have to interact with them and then simply focus on the reason you\u2019re there.<\/b><\/p>\n For example, if you need a co-worker who\u2019s being rude to give you a file, don\u2019t react to their rudeness, but every time they say something mean, only talk about the file you need. Don\u2019t give them the validation they\u2019re looking for \u2013 only deal with them for the reason you have to.<\/p>\n Outra forma de reagir \u00e0s pessoas que s\u00e3o m\u00e1s \u00e9 ser gentil com elas. Claro que sim, you don\u2019t have to be kind to someone who\u2019s rude to you, but the results might surprise you.<\/b><\/p>\n If it\u2019s someone who\u2019s mean because they\u2019re not feeling good about themselves, your kindness can completely change their day around and make them reconsider the way they\u2019re treating you.<\/p>\n If it\u2019s someone who\u2019s mean because they feel like they have the right to be mean, they\u2019ll get confused and potentially even more angry. Se <\/b>persistir na vossa bondade<\/b><\/a> and completely ignore that they\u2019re being rude, you\u2019ll end up much less upset.<\/b><\/p>\n Sometimes it\u2019s best to simply leave the situation. If you don\u2019t have to deal with the person who\u2019s being mean, don’t engage them at all. Just turn around and leave and don\u2019t give them a time of day. Sometimes it\u2019s really not worth it.<\/b><\/p>\n Quando algu\u00e9m \u00e9 habitualmente mal-educado connosco, temos de ser firmes e estabelecer limites <\/a> . Let them know their behavior isn\u2019t acceptable and tell them that you refuse to deal with it. <\/b> If they cross your boundaries after you\u2019ve let them know, don\u2019t allow them to get away with it. Ser claro e decidido.<\/b><\/p>\n Sometimes you have to speak up and call out someone\u2019s rudeness . Deciding when to do it and when to walk away is difficult, but keep in mind that \u00e9 preciso escolher as batalhas. <\/b><\/p>\n If you see that speaking up only leads to more conflict, it\u2019s better to remove yourself from the situation. When you think that you\u2019re able to reach the other person, then you should speak up.<\/p>\n O facto de se sentirem insatisfeitas com alguma coisa nas suas vidas faz com que as pessoas procurem qualquer forma de expressar a sua insatisfa\u00e7\u00e3o. Enredar-se nos seus sentimentos pode ser muito f\u00e1cil, e come\u00e7a a olhar para as outras pessoas como seus inimigos.<\/b><\/p>\n When you\u2019re feeling like you\u2019ve been treated unfairly for something minor and you react with what seems to be justified anger, you feel a sense of superiority because the other person is clearly awful and you\u2019re the one who\u2019s right.<\/p>\n In this way it\u2019s easy for your feelings of righteousness to lead you into being mean, and to feel satisfaction when you give someone what you believe they deserve. <\/b> Have you ever gossiped about someone and happily listed every bad thing about them, pleased that they\u2019re so terrible and you\u2019re not?<\/p>\n A forma como as pessoas tratam os outros est\u00e1 relacionada com a forma como se sentem em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a si pr\u00f3prias.<\/b> Becoming someone who isn\u2019t mean starts with compaix\u00e3o<\/b> \u2013 for others, but also for yourself. If you’ve been unkind, start by being kinder to yourself.<\/b><\/p>\n \u2022 Forgive yourself for your past mistakes.<\/p>\n \u2022 Face your fears and your flaws that make you mad when you recognize them in others.<\/b><\/p>\n \u2022 Don’t criticize yourself and don\u2019t judge yourself.<\/p>\n \u2022 See your own anger at yourself and recognize you’re not a bad person.<\/b><\/p>\n \u2022 Acknowledge that some of the things that are important to you, might hold no value in someone else\u2019s life.<\/p>\n \u2022 On the other hand, just because you\u2019re not even thinking about something, doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s not an issue for someone else.<\/b><\/p>\n To stop being mean, it\u2019s important to consider other people\u2019s lives and their own perspectives, which might be completely different from yours. Escolher curar<\/b><\/a> e decidir ser gentil em vez de mau. Primeiro para si pr\u00f3prio e depois para os outros.<\/b><\/p>\n Being mean is an easy way to cope with things that aren\u2019t going well in someone\u2019s life. Not everyone deals in that way, so the question, \u201cWhy is everyone so mean to me?\u201d is something that needs some thought.<\/p>\n2. They\u2019re plagued by insecurities<\/h4>\n
3. They\u2019re feeling inadequate<\/strong><\/h4>\n
4. A sua educa\u00e7\u00e3o influenciou-os<\/h4>\n
5. They\u2019ve suffered abuse<\/h4>\n
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<\/p>\n6. They\u2019ve been hurt<\/h4>\n
7. A sua raiva sabe bem<\/h4>\n
8. N\u00e3o t\u00eam capacidade de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h4>\n
9. They\u2019re going through something<\/h4>\n
10. They\u2019re emotionally immature<\/h4>\n
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<\/p>\n11. They\u2019re feeling entitled<\/h4>\n
12. They\u2019re trying to make themselves feel better<\/h4>\n
13. T\u00eam problemas de sa\u00fade mental<\/h4>\n
14. They’re taking it out on you<\/h4>\n
15. Eles n\u00e3o gostam de ti por alguma raz\u00e3o<\/h4>\n
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<\/p>\nAs pessoas s\u00e3o m\u00e1s para si por causa do seu comportamento<\/h3>\n
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<\/h3>\n1. You’re rude to people<\/h4>\n
2. Pareces falso<\/a><\/h4>\n
3. You’re negative<\/h4>\n
4. You’re selfish<\/h4>\n
5. You’re bossy<\/strong><\/h4>\n
O que devo fazer quando as pessoas est\u00e3o a ser m\u00e1s para mim?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Concentre-se na quest\u00e3o em causa, em vez do comportamento rude<\/h3>\n
2. Don’t pay them back in kind, ser<\/i> gentil<\/h3>\n
3. Afastar-se<\/h3>\n
4. Estabelecer limites<\/h3>\n
5. Falar<\/h3>\n
Porque \u00e9 que \u00e9 t\u00e3o f\u00e1cil ser mau para os outros?<\/h2>\n
Ser gentil<\/h2>\n