{"id":153442,"date":"2022-06-15T16:56:39","date_gmt":"2022-06-15T16:56:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=153442"},"modified":"2022-11-20T22:08:46","modified_gmt":"2022-11-20T22:08:46","slug":"mais-do-que-amigos-com-beneficios-mas-nao-uma-relacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/mais-do-que-amigos-com-beneficios-mas-nao-uma-relacao\/","title":{"rendered":"Mais do que amigos com benef\u00edcios, mas n\u00e3o uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

Everyone involved in a friends with benefits relationship knows about the risks that come with it \u2013 unless you\u2019re careful, someone will catch feelings.<\/strong> But what\u2019s so scary about catching feelings?<\/p>\n

The answer, as with any other type of relationship, is the same: what if those feelings aren’t reciprocated?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o de amigos com benef\u00edcios tem mais a ver com os benef\u00edcios do que com a amizade. Como \u00e9 que uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o deste tipo evolui para outra em que os sentimentos est\u00e3o claramente envolvidos?<\/strong> It all depends on whether (and how) either person’s expectations of the relationship change.<\/p>\n

So what\u2019s the deal when it\u2019s more than friends with benefits but not a relationship? If you\u2019re actual friends who presumably like each other and also have sex, what\u2019s stopping you from developing romantic feelings for each other?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s see what these complicated entanglements are and how to get through them with your heart unbroken.<\/p>\n

Mais do que amigos com benef\u00edcios, mas n\u00e3o uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 que existe algo mais do que amigos com benef\u00edcios, mas n\u00e3o uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o? Claro que existe. H\u00e1 quem lhe chame uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o de situa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>e esse t\u00edtulo pode ser uma descri\u00e7\u00e3o apropriada para uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que toda a gente est\u00e1 confusa.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Entre os muitos tipos de rela\u00e7\u00f5es em que nos podemos encontrar, este pode ser um dos mais complicados<\/strong>. Se as expectativas n\u00e3o forem claras desde o in\u00edcio, pode haver muita confus\u00e3o entre todos os envolvidos.<\/p>\n

Um aspeto a ter em conta \u00e9 que qualquer n\u00edvel de envolvimento para al\u00e9m da natureza casual de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o FWB tem provavelmente algo a ver com sentimentos.<\/strong> E quando h\u00e1 sentimentos, h\u00e1 sentimentos feridos.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a quick overview of the most common kinds of relationships that could cast a light on the one smack in the middle that isn\u2019t quite casual but also isn\u2019t defined. Em que \u00e9 que est\u00e1 atualmente enredado?<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Liga\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n

Hooking up is the definition of no strings attached. It’s not wrong to also call these relationships one-night stands. Usually, expectations are clear that you’re n\u00e3o est\u00e1 interessado em mais nada para al\u00e9m do engate<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don’t assume anything, though, and make sure to always spell it out for the other person if this is what you’re after.<\/strong> Likewise, if you’ve met someone in a bar or on a dating app and you’re about to hook-up, don’t guess their intentions, but make sure you’re on the same page.<\/p>\n

Os encontros t\u00eam a ver com sexo casual e nada mais.<\/strong> They’re usually one-time flings, but it’s not uncommon for people to hook up with each other more than once if an opportunity presents itself. As long as everyone is in agreement about what they want, it’s a great way of relieving sexual tension without complications.<\/p>\n

2. Amigos com benef\u00edcios<\/h3>\n

A amigos com benef\u00edcios<\/a> A rela\u00e7\u00e3o tem tanto a ver com sexo casual como com encontros. A diferen\u00e7a \u00e9 que um FWB \u00e9 um acordo e um engate \u00e9 uma coisa do momento.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest: the phrase \u2018friends with benefits\u2019 is a euphemism for a relationship that\u2019s all about sex. Friendship isn\u2019t a factor in it, nor should it be.<\/strong> Ser demasiado amig\u00e1vel com o seu FWB \u00e9 uma receita para se apanharem sentimentos.<\/p>\n

To keep things casual, focus on the \u2018benefits\u2019 part, or more accurately, the booty calls.<\/strong> The \u2018friends\u2019 part of FWB should only imply that you\u2019re somewhat familiar with this person and that there\u2019s a level of respect between you. It shouldn\u2019t mean that you regularly hang out, talk to each other, or are actually good friends.<\/strong><\/p>\n

People love their friends, so if you\u2019re mixing love \u2013 no matter how friendly and at the moment platonic \u2013 and sex, some sort of romantic feelings are bound to develop. What’s stopping you from apaixonar-se<\/a> if you’re sexually compatible and care about each other?<\/strong> Infelizmente, isso raramente acontece em ambos os lados, e passar de FWB para namoro \u00e9 muito raro.<\/p>\n

For this reason, if you\u2019re in an FWB relationship with your actual best friend, you can bet that there are feelings on at least one side.<\/strong> If you don’t want this to happen, don\u2019t hook up with your actual good friends and keep your socialization outside of your FWB dates to a minimum.<\/p>\n

3. ???<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Now we come to the \u2018more than friends with benefits but not a relationship\u2019 thing, which we could, for now, call a situationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

What\u2019s a situationship<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Este lugar nebuloso onde you\u2019re regularly hooking up and also doing some algumas coisas<\/a> juntos.<\/strong> You Netflix and chill, but neither of you knows what\u2019s going on because no one wants to utter the words that could potentially ruin all the fun: \u201cWhat are we?\u201d<\/p>\n

The fact is that some people love the casual sex aspect of an FWB relationship, while others simply aren\u2019t made for it. The intimacy of sex easily makes these people crave emotional intimacy, but because they don\u2019t want to disturb the balance, too many things are left unsaid.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So, the advice you hear for casual relationships about how you should be fine if you keep your expectations realistic doesn\u2019t always help. However, the real elephant in the room when talking about undefined relationships isn\u2019t expectations \u2013 it\u2019s false hope.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Como sair do impasse?<\/h4>\n

Muitas pessoas entram num acordo sem compromisso quando j\u00e1 sentem algo pela outra pessoa e esperam que as coisas mudem para ela.<\/strong> There\u2019s always the possibility that they will, sure. But the likelihood is far lower than you\u2019d like it to be.<\/p>\n

Perhaps a relationship doesn\u2019t start as a friends with benefits thing, but acontece sem qualquer tipo de expectativas<\/strong>. There\u2019s never a conversation about what\u2019s going on, and it just happens that one or both people develop some level of feelings but never talk about it.<\/p>\n

Este tipo de rela\u00e7\u00f5es pode ficar indefinido durante anos, permanecendo no mesmo s\u00edtio e tornando-se obsoleto. A \u00fanica sa\u00edda \u00e9 acabar com tudo ou, adivinhou, comunicar<\/strong>. Yes, you\u2019re going to have to have The Talk.<\/p>\n

Uma conversa honesta permitir-lhe-\u00e1 saber qual \u00e9 a sua posi\u00e7\u00e3o, o que ambos tencionam fazer e se devem mesmo continuar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong> Pode levar a que se abandone a rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou a que se avance com a rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que deve ter a conversa<\/h4>\n

As long as you continue to accept being in the ambiguous and vague \u2018relationship,\u2019 you\u2019ll never be free to feel your feelings.<\/strong> When you\u2019re hiding that you feel something for someone you\u2019re in some sort of relationship with because you\u2019re afraid to broach the subject, it\u2019s worse than pining from afar.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o faz com que se sinta envergonhado por ter sentimentos e invalida-os. Contentamo-nos com o que \u00e9 quase uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o imagin\u00e1ria e aceitamos o que podemos obter.<\/strong> It\u2019s not just a sexual relationship, nor is it a real relationship. You\u2019re spending time doing things besides sex, but you\u2019re not allowed to say how you feel.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re undrestandably hesitant to talk about it. You might finally move into a real romantic relationship, but there\u2019s always a chance that your conversation will give you the opposite of what you want \u2013 confirma\u00e7\u00e3o de que a outra pessoa n\u00e3o sente nada por si e uma relacionamento falhado.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s still better to know. Quer mesmo continuar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o que nunca vai atingir o n\u00edvel seguinte?<\/strong> To be with someone you can\u2019t even call your boyfriend or girlfriend? To settle for crumbs of affection and accept it as all you can get?<\/p>\n

Mereces melhor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

4. Namoro<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve had the conversation and it resulted in discovering that both of you have feelings and want a more serious relationship than hooking up, followed by worrying if it\u2019s okay to cuddle, the a rela\u00e7\u00e3o de situa\u00e7\u00e3o transformou-se numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>e agora vem o namoro.<\/p>\n

Quando se come\u00e7a a namorar depois de se ter estado numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o de situa\u00e7\u00e3o, \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que as coisas avancem mais rapidamente<\/strong> em dire\u00e7\u00e3o a uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e9ria<\/a>mas algumas coisas ter\u00e3o de mudar. It might take some getting used to before you realize that you\u2019re no longer just friends and that it\u2019s okay to be vulnerable with one another.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your sex life and your love life are now connected, and you\u2019re finally allowed to feel and express your feelings. It might feel weird to be able to post about your relationship on social media after having to pretend that nothing was happening when you were undefined.<\/p>\n

5. Rela\u00e7\u00e3o de compromisso<\/h3>\n

After dating for some time, your partner is falling for you and vice versa, and you\u2019ve developed an emotional connection, you might decide to take things even further and commit to each other.<\/p>\n

No entanto, n\u00e3o \u00e9 altura para relaxar. \u00c9 nesta altura que come\u00e7a o verdadeiro trabalho, mas os sentimentos fortes e a vontade de cultivar a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o podem resultar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o feliz e rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel a longo prazo<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se as coisas acabaram por n\u00e3o resultar e acabaram por desistir, pode pelo menos ficar chateado com o fracasso da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o. While things are undefined, you can\u2019t even look back at anything because how did you break up if you were never really together?<\/strong><\/p>\n

How Do You Know When It’s More Than Just Friends With Benefits?<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

How do you know that your relationship isn\u2019t an FWB arrangement anymore? No fundo, tu sabes.<\/strong> A verdadeira quest\u00e3o \u00e9 como saber se ambos sentem algo e querem mais do que t\u00eam.<\/p>\n

Existem signs you\u2019re unofficially dating<\/a> but are afraid of asking the question because you\u2019re afraid of losing this person completely<\/strong>. Or you\u2019re afraid of how things might change if you get the answer you\u2019re hoping for.<\/p>\n

Um aspeto importante a considerar \u00e9 quem est\u00e1 a iniciar todas estas mudan\u00e7as.<\/strong> If it\u2019s both of you, things are probably developing into a romantic relationship. If it\u2019s one-sided, it\u2019s time to move on.<\/p>\n

Maybe, if all the signs are listed in one place, you\u2019ll be able to decide what to do.<\/p>\n

1. Est\u00e1 a enviar mensagens de texto e a telefonar apenas para entrar em contacto?<\/h3>\n

Let\u2019s face it, when you\u2019re in a purely sexual relationship, you\u2019re not interested in hearing about their day. It doesn\u2019t mean that there shouldn\u2019t be basic courtesy involved, but you\u2019re not going to send someone you\u2019re casually hooking up with a good morning text.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019re already getting what you want from them, and there\u2019s no need to expand on it. So when you send each other texts just because and falar todos os dias<\/a> just to hear each other\u2019s voices, it\u2019s a sign that things might be different.<\/p>\n

2. Est\u00e3o a passar tempo juntos sem ter rela\u00e7\u00f5es sexuais?<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

The most obvious sign that things have changed is easy to notice: it\u2019s not just about sex anymore. Friends with benefits meet up, get on with it, and go on their merry ways. Se o seu FWB o aborda apenas para marcar um encontro, ent\u00e3o as coisas est\u00e3o na mesma como sempre estiveram.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re both looking for ways to see each other more often or to hang out, you\u2019re probably trying to get to know each other better and deepen your relationship.<\/p>\n

3. Have you met each other’s friends?<\/h3>\n

Even in relationships that start off with the intent of being romantic, it\u2019s a big deal to introduce someone to your friends. It shows an intent to include them in your life and tells people that there\u2019s something between you<\/strong>, especially if you don\u2019t share mutual friends.<\/p>\n

If either or both of you are staying in your lane and never mixing with each other\u2019s friends, it\u2019s clear that you see your relationship as having only one purpose.<\/p>\n

4. Tens encontros a s\u00e9rio?<\/h3>\n

If you only spend time together somewhere where you can easily hook up and everything that precedes it is just a prelude to it, it\u2019s still a casual sex relationship.<\/p>\n

O namoro leva a que nos conhe\u00e7amos melhor atrav\u00e9s de experi\u00eancias partilhadas e a que nos concentremos um no outro.<\/strong> If you\u2019re not only extending your time together but actually thinking about ways to have a pleasant date together, you\u2019re mais do que um engate<\/a>.<\/p>\n

5. Partilham dados pessoais?<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not important for your FWB to know anything personal about you. Os seus gostos e avers\u00f5es s\u00f3 importam quando se trata da sua vida sexual.<\/strong> Where you went to school and your sister’s dog\u2019s name have no relevance to the time you spend together.<\/p>\n

If they ask questions and want to know the little things about you, it\u2019s natural that you\u2019re wondering whether they have feelings for you.<\/strong> If they\u2019re eager to talk about themselves, too, it means that they not only want to get to know you better but want you to know them too.<\/p>\n

6. Interessa-se por outras pessoas?<\/h3>\n

When you\u2019re not interested in anyone else, it might mean one of two things: you’re either in a place in your life where you’re fine with an FWB relationship, or you have feelings for your FWB partner.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you decline when someone asks you out because you\u2019re just not feeling it? You\u2019ll know things aren\u2019t as casual anymore when a no-strings thing isn\u2019t enough and you want to be in a committed relationship, but you\u2019re not thinking about dating other people.<\/p>\n

No entanto, se a rela\u00e7\u00e3o for unilateral, a m\u00e1goa \u00e9 inevit\u00e1vel, por isso, saia o mais depressa poss\u00edvel,<\/strong> and soon enough, you\u2019ll start to get interested in other people.<\/p>\n

7. Do you spend the night at each other’s places?<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

T\u00eam uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o estritamente sexual, por isso o que \u00e9 que fazem quando acordam um ao lado do outro de manh\u00e3?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve been spending your nights together, things are getting complicated<\/strong>. If you\u2019re making it a habit of staying after hooking up, feelings are on the horizon for one or both of you.<\/p>\n

If your FWB is asking you to stay, they don\u2019t want things to end and want to spend time with you. If it\u2019s always you who initiates this, pulling back might be a good idea.<\/strong><\/p>\n

8. Sente uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional?<\/h3>\n

If you feel like you can share everything with each other, if you attentively listen when they speak, if you don\u2019t judge each other? If you\u2019re genuinely interested in each other\u2019s lives, if you can have deep conversations? If the \u2018friend\u2019 part of \u2018friends with benefits\u2018 is important? You\u2019re feeling an liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you can\u2019t be bothered to answer their questions and they feel cold or closed-off, unwilling to share, and disinterested, then you\u2019re probably already getting everything you want from each other.<\/p>\n

9. Mostram apre\u00e7o uns pelos outros?<\/h3>\n

Your FWB getting you a small gift shouldn\u2019t be a big deal, but it is. It means that they thought about you, decided they wanted to get you a gift, put thought into what you might like, and searched until they found it.<\/p>\n

Podem ter-lhe comprado o presente s\u00f3 porque o viram e lhes fez lembrar de si, mas a quest\u00e3o mant\u00e9m-se: estavam nos seus pensamentos e queriam fazer-te feliz.<\/strong> This and other small shows of appreciation \u2013 flirting, compliments, paying attention, expressing gratitude \u2013 show that you matter to this person.<\/p>\n

10. Do you miss each other when you\u2019re apart?<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

And no, not just the sex. If you miss being together when you\u2019re away, it\u2019s a good sign that your attachment has gone beyond FWB. If it\u2019s mutual \u2013 if they\u2019re letting you know they\u2019ve missed you \u2013 things might be changing.<\/p>\n

It shows that you\u2019re not only enjoying the physical part of your relationship but that you also appreciate each other\u2019s company.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re missing them, and they only think of you when they\u2019re in the mood (or vice versa,) things will soon get messy, and one of you will get hurt.<\/p>\n

11. \u00c9 afetuoso?<\/h3>\n

A afei\u00e7\u00e3o durante o sexo \u00e9 de esperar, mas se continuar fora do quarto, mostra definitivamente que as coisas n\u00e3o s\u00e3o o que parecem. Os beijos, as car\u00edcias e os toques suaves que n\u00e3o t\u00eam objectivos ulteriores s\u00e3o uma express\u00e3o de sentimentos e n\u00e3o de desejo.<\/strong> Se isto estiver a acontecer, \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o esteja a seguir uma dire\u00e7\u00e3o diferente.<\/p>\n

Se um dos dois tenta iniciar o afeto n\u00e3o sexual e o outro o rejeita, os vossos desejos em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e3o claramente desencontrados. Acabar com as coisas antes que se torne demasiado dif\u00edcil.<\/strong><\/p>\n

12. Tu simplesmente sabes.<\/h3>\n

When all is said and done, you know. You\u2019ve seen all the signs \u2013 now just allow yourself to listen to your intuition. Se queres algo mais com esta pessoa, o que \u00e9 que o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o te diz para fazeres?<\/strong> Do you think that if you show your feelings that you\u2019ll get hurt or that you\u2019ll get your love story?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re hesitant, there might be a reason. Don\u2019t let either fear of rejection or wishful thinking sway you \u2013 ouvir o seu instinto.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Definir a rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

What\u2019s more than friends with benefits but not a relationship? A place where nothing ever happens and where you\u2019re not allowed to feel.<\/strong> It\u2019s not knowing and wondering. It\u2019s a constant limbo where you\u2019re afraid that if you show your feelings, things might end.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t accept your fate and be someone who only takes what you are given. Ask for what you want, and you might get it. You might lose the little comfort you have, but at least you\u2019ll be free. Until you\u2019re rid of the assumptions and uncertainty, you won\u2019t be able to move on and form a real relationship with anyone.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A situationship can continue for years until it fails and leaves you heartbroken. Establish boundaries before it\u2019s too late.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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