{"id":154007,"date":"2022-06-22T10:13:50","date_gmt":"2022-06-22T10:13:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=154007"},"modified":"2022-06-29T15:15:46","modified_gmt":"2022-06-29T15:15:46","slug":"nao-nos-falamos-ha-uma-semana-depois-do-combate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nao-nos-falamos-ha-uma-semana-depois-do-combate\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00e3o nos falamos h\u00e1 uma semana depois da briga - ser\u00e1 que acabou?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Couples fight, no matter how much we’d all like to deal with our relationship problems in an easier way. Opinions clash, needs don\u2019t get met, and everyone makes mistakes \u2013 conflict in a relationship is inevitable.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A forma como lida com uma discuss\u00e3o quando esta surge depende muito das suas capacidades de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o e intelig\u00eancia emocional. No entanto, a sua atitude tem o impacto mais significativo no resultado do conflito: what it is you\u2019re looking to achieve from an argument with your partner.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Uma discuss\u00e3o pode rapidamente transformar-se numa luta quando as emo\u00e7\u00f5es est\u00e3o ao rubro e things are said in the heat of the moment that you\u2019d normally never say to your partner.<\/strong> If either of you is looking to win the fight instead of striving to solve your problems, then the last thing you\u2019re going to reach is a solution.<\/p>\n

This is what usually leads to situations in which you might end up thinking, \u201cWe haven’t talked in a week after fight \u2013 what should I do?\u201d There\u2019s really only one thing to do if you want to save your relationship: engula o seu orgulho e estenda a m\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n

We Haven’t Talked In A Week After Fight \u2013 What Should I Do?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Lack of contact doesn\u2019t have to mean that the relationship is over. If your anger has subsided by this point and all you\u2019re left with is the thought, \u201cWe haven’t talked in a week after fight,\u201d your worry that things might be serious is understandable.<\/p>\n

Se o seu parceiro cortou a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o depois de uma grande discuss\u00e3o, a preocupa\u00e7\u00e3o e a incerteza podem deix\u00e1-lo ansioso.<\/strong> Your partner keeping their distance can make you think they want to break up, but it\u2019s too soon to panic.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s normal for casais a combater<\/a>, and your relationship can recover as long as you’re prepared to work to solve your problems. So what should you do \u2013 contact your partner, or give them space?<\/strong> Ser\u00e1 que as coisas v\u00e3o melhorar se lhes dermos espa\u00e7o ou se entrarmos em contacto?<\/p>\n

Descobrir isto \u00e9 um desafio porque unless they\u2019ve let you know what\u2018s going on<\/strong>, you can\u2019t be sure whether they want you to contact them or not, but this is exactly where the answer lies. Deciding what to do depends on which one of the following two situations you find yourself in.<\/p>\n

1. Se o seu parceiro lhe disse que precisa de espa\u00e7o<\/h3>\n

Deixa-os em paz.<\/p>\n

Se, imediatamente ap\u00f3s a luta, o seu parceiro lhe tiver dito diretamente que precisa de espa\u00e7o<\/a> or told a mutual friend that they can’t talk to you right now, you\u2019re aware of the reason for the lack of contact. This isn\u2019t the time to push and be clingy.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In this case, respect your partner\u2019s wishes and give them space to work out their issues. You can\u2019t make your partner talk to you until they\u2019re ready.<\/strong> Don\u2019t try to get them to explain things right now, and especially don\u2018t try to continue the argument.<\/p>\n

A pessoa pode precisar de tempo para amuar durante algum tempo. For\u00e7ar as coisas depois de o seu parceiro lhe dizer para n\u00e3o entrar em contacto s\u00f3 vai prolongar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

If you dwell on what happened and what they might decide, you\u2018ll drive yourself crazy thinking about what\u2019s going on. Deixe isso de lado por enquanto para se concentrar em si mesmo e na sua pr\u00f3pria vida.<\/strong> \u00c9 mais f\u00e1cil falar do que fazer, mas a forma mais simples de n\u00e3o pensar em nada \u00e9 encontrar algo para se manter ocupado, de prefer\u00eancia fazendo algo de que gosta.<\/p>\n

2. If your partner hasn’t contacted you since the fight<\/p>\n

Entre em contacto.<\/h3>\n

If you haven\u2019t heard from your partner at all since the fight, you can\u2019t possibly know what\u2019s going on. Your partner might be hurt and need space to work out their feelings, or they might be punishing you. They might be playing games, but avoid the temptation to push back.<\/p>\n

Your partner might be stuck in a win\/lose mindset and believe that you\u2019re to blame for whatever happened and that you should take the first step.<\/strong> Este tipo de pensamento n\u00e3o tem lugar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a>, and it\u2019s something you should work on after things have calmed down a little.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, if you\u2019re trying to avoid a breakup, the first thing to do is put your ego aside. Someone has to take the first step, and it might as well be you. Right now, stop focusing on who was right or wrong. Think of your relationship: is being right worth losing it? Colocar o amor \u00e0 frente do orgulho.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quanto tempo se deve esperar para falar com algu\u00e9m depois de uma briga?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Unless your partner has explicitly told you not to contact them, then do it as soon as possible. If your partner has told you that they need space, don\u2019t contact them until they do. Otherwise, you won\u2019t know what\u2018s happening until you get in touch.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Podem ignorar a sua mensagem e, nesse caso you shouldn\u2019t contact them again.<\/strong> They\u2018ll know you made a move and that the ball is now in their court. They might let you know that they need some time until they\u2019re ready to talk, in which case, dar-lhes espa\u00e7o<\/a> at\u00e9 que eles se aproximem.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Talvez o seu parceiro estivesse apenas \u00e0 espera que desse o primeiro passo e mostrasse que se preocupa. If there\u2019s goodwill and a desire to continue your relationship on both sides, you can get over this.<\/strong> Don\u2019t wait for your partner to contact you \u2013 reach out and extend an olive branch. Let them know that you\u2019re willing to work for your relationship.<\/p>\n

Uma boa forma de entrar em contacto \u00e9 enviar uma mensagem de texto ou uma mensagem de voz. This doesn\u2019t put immediate pressure on them to respond like a phone call would, and it gives the both of you the chance to organize your thoughts.<\/strong> Depois de a pessoa responder, pode marcar uma reuni\u00e3o ou qualquer outra forma que lhe permita conversar.<\/p>\n

Como agir com o seu parceiro depois de uma discuss\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

Communicate with your partner sincerely and respect both of your feelings. There\u2019s no need to be meek and walk on eggshells to avoid spooking your partner. Instead, encourage them to speak up and let you know when they can\u2018t talk about something.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your and your partner’s mental health are important factors in the health of your relationship. As quest\u00f5es pessoais podem dificultar a resolu\u00e7\u00e3o de conflitos.<\/strong> It’s important to be understanding and give each other the benefit of the doubt.<\/p>\n

1. Pense no combate antes de falar com o seu parceiro.<\/h3>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Uma discuss\u00e3o pode come\u00e7ar quando pedimos ao nosso parceiro para fazer uma tarefa e acabar em l\u00e1grimas, portas a bater e sil\u00eancio de r\u00e1dio. Antes de tentar falar com eles, pense seriamente na sua luta recente<\/strong> e outras lutas para perceber porque \u00e9 que algo insignificante se agravou e como evitar que volte a acontecer.<\/p>\n

Algumas perguntas a fazer a si pr\u00f3prio:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Was the reason for the fight something that’s been bothering you for a while?<\/h4>\n

Sometimes couples fight about the same thing over and over again or bottle something up until it explodes. It might be a conflict in their values or a behavior they\u2019re unwilling to change, but it has to be dealt with.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Did you say something they can’t get over?<\/h4>\n

Sometimes in the heat of the moment, things are said that don\u2019t seem like a big deal to one person but cut deep and feel overwhelming to the other.<\/p>\n

\u2022 How did you act in the fight?<\/h4>\n

Enquanto comunica, tudo, desde o tom de voz \u00e0 linguagem corporal e \u00e0s palavras que utiliza, diz ao seu parceiro como se sente e vice-versa. Se estava muito zangado durante a discuss\u00e3o e se sentia vingativo, o seu parceiro pode pensar que os seus sentimentos por ele mudaram.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Were you fighting to win the fight or to solve the problem?<\/h4>\n

Construtivo os argumentos podem ser \u00fateis nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a>. They help you see the other person\u2019s point of view and can even bring you closer together. When all you focus on is proving your point, conflicts end in resentment instead of solutions.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Do you fight often?<\/h4>\n

If you often fight about insignificant things, it usually means that there is an underlying issue you\u2019re not dealing with. Before you can move forward, you have to figure out what it is and how to address it.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Are there other signs that there are issues in your relationship?<\/h4>\n

Just because you and your partner aren\u2019t best friends (yet) isn\u2019t in itself a problem. On the other hand, if you don\u2019t like spending time together, don\u2019t listen to each other, if you complain and criticize each other, you might be in trouble.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Did you hurt your partner on purpose?<\/h4>\n

Sometimes when you\u2018re hurt and angry, all you want to do is make the other person hurt too, even though you later regret it. Sometimes anger lingers, and people take it further when they should let it go.<\/p>\n

For example, posting pics of you partying with friends on social media the next day when you know your partner will see them while they\u2019re hurting.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Are you willing to work on your problems?<\/h4>\n

Isto \u00e9 fundamental. A menos que ambos sejam pronto para trabalhar<\/a>Se o seu namorado ou namorada se repetir, pode tornar-se no seu ex-namorado ou ex-namorada.<\/p>\n

Answers to these questions might give you the answers to \u201dWhy won\u2019t my partner talk to me in a week after a fight?\u201d and \u201cHow can I get them to come back?\u201c You\u2018ll get a picture of how to apologize and how to approach your partner. Really giving it some thought might even give you an idea if it\u2019s space they need.<\/p>\n

2. Don\u2019t view arguments as zero-sum games.<\/h3>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

A situa\u00e7\u00e3o menos ben\u00e9fica depois de uma discuss\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 quando ambos os parceiros se culpam mutuamente e tentam levar a melhor, fazendo com que a outra pessoa tente chegar primeiro. If at least one person demonstrates the willingness to communicate and reconcile, it can get easier \u2013 just don\u2019t be the one to wait for your partner to do so.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Be honest: it\u2019s very possible that you are also experiencing toxic thoughts and negative feelings regarding who\u2019s to blame<\/a> e o que significa ser o primeiro a dar o primeiro passo.<\/strong> Quanto mais cedo abandonar a ideia de que a pessoa que lhe estende a m\u00e3o \u00e9 a perdedora, mais cedo poder\u00e1 come\u00e7ar a melhorar as coisas.<\/p>\n

Being the one to forgive doesn\u2019t imply that from now on, the other person can do whatever they want or that they\u2019re somehow the winner of the fight. Deve continuar a ter limites que deve dar a conhecer ao seu parceiro e que espera que ele respeite.<\/strong> N\u00e3o h\u00e1 vencedores nem vencidos numa parceria.<\/p>\n

Gaste a sua energia a procurar uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o em vez de tentar ganhar a discuss\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

3. Ser compassivo.<\/h3>\n

If your partner is reluctant to communicate after the fight, don’t try to force them to open up; instead, give them the option and let them know you’re willing to listen.<\/strong> Emotional distance following an argument isn’t necessarily a sign of a dysfunctional relationship, but it can mean that the person who’s withdrawing isn’t equipped to deal with the situation.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se o seu parceiro lhe est\u00e1 a dar a tratamento silencioso<\/a> or stonewalling you, it doesn\u2019t have to be seen as an immediate sign that they’re trying to manipulate you, although it can be. Whether it\u2019s a coping mechanism when they’re feeling overwhelmed, they\u2019re too upset to continue, or a manipulation technique can be determined from other aspects of your relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Trying to reach someone who doesn\u2019t want to talk can be frustrating, but trying to force it won\u2019t have any effect aside from making you argue again.<\/p>\n

4. Pensa no que deves dizer.<\/h3>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

When you approach your partner, do so with the best intentions and with an idea of what you want to say. Here are some things you might want to include to let your partner know you\u2019re ready to communicate.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Offer an explanation, but don\u2019t look for excuses.<\/strong> It doesn\u2019t matter if you didn\u2019t mean it if it has hurt your partner.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Let them know you feel bad about the fight.<\/strong> Be specific if you especially regret saying or doing something. Apologize if you think that\u2019s what you need to do, but make sure your apology is genuine.<\/p>\n

- Assumir a responsabilidade<\/a> pelo seu comportamento durante o combate<\/strong> e o que quer que tenha levado a isso.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Express regret about the fight<\/strong> e reconhecer o seu comportamento.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Ask your partner how you can make things better.<\/strong> Diga-lhes o que precisa deles.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Show how much your partner means to you<\/strong> and that you want to deal with your problems. Promise \u2013 and mean it \u2013 that you\u2019ll do better.<\/p>\n

- Diga ao seu parceiro que a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 mais importante do que a discuss\u00e3o<\/strong> and that you don\u2019t want to fight anymore.<\/p>\n

5. Saber quando pedir ajuda.<\/h3>\n

Se for imposs\u00edvel resolver as coisas sozinho, considere a possibilidade de visitar um profissional em conjunto. Desde que ambos queiram permanecer juntos, t\u00eam de aprender a lidar com os conflitos e a resolver os problemas subjacentes \u00e0 vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Estes s\u00e3o alguns sinais de que os problemas da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o podem ser demasiado graves para resolver sozinho e que deve pedir ajuda:<\/p>\n

- Amea\u00e7as.<\/strong> If you\u2019re constantly threatening to break up while you fight, one of these days it\u2019s going to happen. You need to examine why this happens.<\/p>\n

- Ultimatos.<\/strong> Isto \u00e9 o oposto do compromisso, que \u00e9 um dos pilares de uma parceria.<\/p>\n

- Deris\u00e3o.<\/strong> Chamar nomes uns aos outros<\/a>A pessoa que se quer magoar, que faz coisas s\u00f3 para irritar a outra pessoa e outros sinais de querer fazer mal \u00e0 outra pessoa.<\/p>\n

- Infidelidade.<\/strong> Rebuilding trust after infidelity is a long and difficult process that can be too much to handle. If you\u2019ve decided to continue your relationship after infidelity, aconselhamento em mat\u00e9ria de rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a> pode tornar as coisas mais f\u00e1ceis.<\/p>\n

- Ressentimento.<\/strong> Se, durante as discuss\u00f5es, falar de coisas n\u00e3o s\u00f3 da noite passada, mas tamb\u00e9m do ano passado, \u00e9 poss\u00edvel que haja quest\u00f5es por resolver.<\/p>\n

Estender a m\u00e3o ou dar-lhes espa\u00e7o?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Depois de uma grande discuss\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o que acaba em vozes altas, l\u00e1grimas e relut\u00e2ncia em lidar com os verdadeiros problemas, ambos os parceiros se sentir\u00e3o magoados e zangados.<\/strong> The first time you fight with your significant other in that way will be the last time you fight at all unless one of you reaches out because there won\u2019t be a relationship to fight about.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe had a fight\u201d can easily turn into \u201dWe haven’t talked in a week after fight,\u201d which pode transformar-se numa rutura, a n\u00e3o ser que algu\u00e9m se esforce por resolver a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to be the one to do so, but if you see that your partner hasn\u2019t contacted you in a couple of days<\/a> and hasn\u2019t given you an indication that they need space, rather than waiting for them to come around, ser o \u00fanico a estabelecer contacto.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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