{"id":154602,"date":"2022-06-28T12:13:50","date_gmt":"2022-06-28T12:13:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=154602"},"modified":"2022-06-28T12:13:50","modified_gmt":"2022-06-28T12:13:50","slug":"chamar-nomes-numa-relacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/chamar-nomes-numa-relacao\/","title":{"rendered":"Xingamentos em um relacionamento s\u00e3o t\u00f3xicos: veja como parar"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Your partner is someone who&#8217;s supposed to make you feel safe and protected. When they turn into someone who hurts you, your relationship becomes a burden instead of a comfort. <strong>Os insultos e outras formas de abuso verbal provocam um estado de medo permanente e fazem com que queira evitar o seu parceiro.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Os insultos numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o podem acontecer<strong> durante uma discuss\u00e3o, quando as emo\u00e7\u00f5es est\u00e3o \u00e0 flor da pele.<\/strong> In those moments, it&#8217;s easy for one or both partners to lose their temper and lash out by yelling, calling each other degrading names, and exchanging insults.<\/p>\n<p>O insulto tamb\u00e9m pode assumir a forma de <strong>insidious snide remarks, which inevitably result in the deterioration of the victim&#8217;s self-esteem over time.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica em que as discuss\u00f5es se transformam regularmente em insultos e gritos ou em que um dos parceiros sente que tem de andar sobre cascas de ovos para evitar irritar a outra pessoa <strong>isn\u2019t a healthy relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s see what it does to a person, what\u2019s behind it, and how to make it stop.<\/p>\n<h2>Como responder a insultos numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p>In a healthy relationship, arguments aren&#8217;t fights between partners but <strong>um m\u00e9todo de resolu\u00e7\u00e3o de problemas<\/strong>. Em um <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/7-fases-de-cura-apos-abuso-verbal-toxico\/\"> rela\u00e7\u00e3o verbalmente abusiva <\/a> where one or both people don&#8217;t know how to handle their feelings or talk through their issues, <strong>a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 interrompida.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Os insultos numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o levam a v\u00edtima a fechar-se e a deixar de reagir. <strong>Em vez de procurar solu\u00e7\u00f5es, a discuss\u00e3o \u00e9 passada com o parceiro abusivo a gritar com a outra pessoa at\u00e9 conseguir o que quer.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Como \u00e9 que lida com uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que algu\u00e9m est\u00e1 a gritar e a insult\u00e1-lo?<\/p>\n<h3>1. Recognize what&#8217;s going on<\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-154603\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch.jpg\" alt=\"homem zangado a gritar com uma mulher no sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-735x491.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-335x224.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-347x232.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-520x347.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-640x427.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-1280x854.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-on-the-couch-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>O primeiro passo \u00e9 tomar consci\u00eancia da situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<strong> If your significant other habitually calls you names, you might be used to it and start thinking that it\u2019s fine. It\u2019s not okay, and it\u2019s not acceptable.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s a form of bullying and can open the door to other harmful behaviors in your relationship.<strong> Because it\u2018s destructive and leads to constant fights, name calling often eventually leads to the end of a relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Name-calling is abusive behavior, and it\u2018s rarely the only thing an abusive partner resorts to. It often overlaps with other forms of verbal abuse, such as:<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 Criticizing.<\/strong> <em>\u201cAre you sure you want that piece of cake? Didn\u2019t you already eat?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 Manipulation.<\/strong> <em>\u201cYou&#8217;re overreacting!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>- <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/iluminacao-artificial-numa-relacao\/\"><b>Gaslighting<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong><em> \u201cWhat are you talking about? I never said that.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 Accusations.<\/strong> <em>\u201cYou did it on purpose.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 Blame.<\/strong> <em>\u201cYou made me spill my drink.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 Silent treatment.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Pode ser surpreendente encontrar alguns destes comportamentos na lista de comportamentos abusivos.<\/strong> There\u2019s a chance that you\u2019re guilty of a few of these yourself and that you\u2018ve done them without any intention of hurting the other person.<\/p>\n<p>Numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica, os insultos e outros comportamentos abusivos v\u00eam normalmente de ambos os lados. <strong>Most people don\u2019t set out to emotionally and verbally abuse a loved one,<\/strong> but the truth is that it can happen to anyone who doesn\u2019t know how to deal with their emotions.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/7-desculpas-para-uma-relacao-abusiva\/\"><b>Don\u2019t look for excuses<\/b><\/a> for the person who\u2019s calling you names, but if you\u2019re interested in saving your relationship, approach them with compassion.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Emotional abuse is often overlooked and not considered serious. Once it\u2019s clear to you that <strong>name-calling and yelling aren\u2019t normal and shouldn\u2019t be part of your relationship,<\/strong> you\u2019ll be able to see why it has to stop.<\/p>\n<h3>2. Estabelecer a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n<p>Mesmo que o seu parceiro o ame, pode ter um comportamento abusivo. Para lidar com isso, deve come\u00e7ar por abrir <strong>um canal de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o entre voc\u00eas os dois que realmente funcione.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Name calling starts when your partner feels negative emotions, such as anger, disappointment, or hurt, and instead of telling you how they\u2019re feeling, they call you names. <strong>Uma rea\u00e7\u00e3o comum a isto \u00e9 fechar-se e ignorar qualquer coisa depois de o insulto ter sido dito.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>O seu objetivo \u00e9 restabelecer a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o e, atrav\u00e9s dela, recuperar o respeito e a confian\u00e7a m\u00fatuos.<strong> O primeiro passo para o conseguir \u00e9 manter a cabe\u00e7a fria e impedir-se de retaliar quando lhe chamam nomes<\/strong>. Stay calm and focus on your goal \u2013 don\u2019t react to their abusive behavior, and don\u2019t check out.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 First, calmly <strong>tell your partner how you\u2019re feeling and how their behavior is affecting you<\/strong>. This template is the most efficient: \u201c<em>Quando<\/em> ~, <em>Sinto-me<\/em> ~ because ~.\u201d For example, \u201cWhen you call me names, I feel unloved because I love you.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 Ask your partner to rephrase their insult into something constructive using the same template<\/strong>. Esta \u00e9 uma forma de chegar \u00e0 raiz do problema e de o ajudar a ser capaz de exprimir os seus sentimentos sem o magoar.<\/p>\n<p>For example, if they called you stupid because you couldn\u2019t remember something they told you yesterday, they might rephrase it as \u201cWhen you couldn\u2019t remember what I told you yesterday, I felt neglected because I believed that you didn\u2018t listen to me when I told you about it.\u201c<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 Don\u2019t get stuck on the actual topic of your argument<\/strong> \u2013 it was just a trigger and not the real cause anyway. Instead of debating whether or not you really did whatever your partner accused you of, focus on how their name-calling affects you and makes you feel and ask them to stop.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 Set boundaries<\/strong>. Having clearly defined and established boundaries is necessary for a healthy relationship. Figure out what\u2019s unacceptable, and let your partner be aware of it. Enforce those boundaries <strong>se se esquecerem ou se acontecer por acidente, mas se ignorarem os seus limites ou os quebrarem de prop\u00f3sito, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/10-sinais-de-alerta-de-encontros-que-o-devem-fazer-fugir\/\"><b>it\u2019s a red flag<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong> It means that your partner doesn\u2019t regret their emotionally abusive behavior.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dealing with name-calling and other forms of verbal abuse isn\u2019t easy to handle on your own, so you might benefit from seeing a relationship expert.<\/strong> Um conselheiro deve ser capaz de o orientar para uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o que funcione para ambos.<\/p>\n<h3>3. Obter aconselhamento sobre rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-154604\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office.jpg\" alt=\" psiquiatra a falar com um jovem casal no consult\u00f3rio\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office-1536x1018.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office-735x487.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office-335x222.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office-347x230.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office-520x345.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office-640x424.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/psychiatrist-talking-to-young-couple-in-office-150x99.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re determined to stay together but can\u2019t seem to get a grasp on how to do it, getting professional help can help you save your relationship.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re struggling to establish the best way to communicate, or if your partner resists change, a therapist can help you figure out where it\u2019s coming from and how to deal with it. <strong>Using methods and tools that aren\u2019t available to you, they might be able to guide you towards a solution.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/aconselhamento-de-casais\/#When_Should_You_Consider_Going_To_Couples_Therapy\"> tudo o que precisa de saber sobre aconselhamento de casais <\/a>.<\/p>\n<h3>Terminar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h3>\n<p>Os maus tratos verbais e os insultos, em particular, conduzem frequentemente a uma rutura se n\u00e3o forem tratados. Se o seu parceiro n\u00e3o estiver disposto a admitir os abusos verbais e a esfor\u00e7ar-se por mudar, \u00e9 poss\u00edvel que tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o esteja aberto a aconselhamento.<\/p>\n<p><strong>A relationship goes two ways, and one person can&#8217;t fix it on their own<\/strong>. If the abuse is more than you&#8217;re prepared to deal with, and if the thought of being with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself is horrible, leaving the relationship might be the only solution.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Se ainda quiser tentar salvar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, a sua melhor aposta \u00e9 tentar chegar ao seu parceiro atrav\u00e9s de aconselhamento, por isso insista nisso.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/se-ele-faz-estas-8-coisas-e-um-agressor-verbal-disfarcado-de-homem-a-serio\/\"> Agressores verbais<\/a> whose aim is to damage and hurt their victims can turn to physical abuse when they&#8217;re faced with resistance and their partner doesn\u2019t react in the way they imagined. <strong>If you feel unsafe or if your partner has shown signs that their behavior might escalate, don\u2019t hesitate to contact the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.acf.hhs.gov\/fysb\/programs\/family-violence-prevention-services\/programs\/ndvh\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><b>Linha direta nacional para a viol\u00eancia dom\u00e9stica<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>Como parar de chamar nomes numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p>Calling your partner bad names and belittling them won\u2019t resolve your problems. It\u2019ll only damage their psychological and emotional wellness. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/sou-emocionalmente-abusivo-10-sinais-de-que-e-o-parceiro-abusivo\/\"> If you\u2019re the abusive partner<\/a>Mas h\u00e1 medidas que pode tomar para deixar de o fazer.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Most people don\u2019t actively want to hurt their partners.<\/strong> Name-calling can start as something that at first seems harmless \u2013 a silly nickname that pokes fun at a small flaw and escalates into problematic behavior once name-calling becomes a habit.<\/p>\n<h3>1. Reconhecer o seu comportamento<\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-154605\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home.jpg\" alt=\"casal a discutir no sof\u00e1 de casa\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-735x491.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-335x224.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-347x232.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-520x347.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-640x427.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-1280x854.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/couple-arguing-on-the-couch-at-home-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Accept that what you\u2019ve been doing is hurtful and damaging to your partner. <strong>Compreender o seu comportamento: o que o causa e como afecta o seu parceiro e aceitar a responsabilidade.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>People often don&#8217;t realize that what they\u2019re doing is abusive, and once they do, they feel guilty and regret it. <strong>Calling someone names doesn&#8217;t seem so bad in the heat of the moment during a fight, but afterward, you might be ashamed of your behavior.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re in the middle of an argument and can tell that you\u2019re about to start saying mean things to your partner, take a moment to calm down.<strong> Impe\u00e7a-se conscientemente de chamar nomes ao seu parceiro.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>2. Pedir desculpa<\/h3>\n<p>Pe\u00e7a desculpa imediatamente quando insulta o seu parceiro. <strong>You can\u2019t take back what you said, but you can show your partner that you regret it<\/strong>. Be sincere and remorseful in your apology. Explain to your partner that you\u2019re working on stopping your behavior once and for all.<\/p>\n<p><strong>An effective apology is one where you accept blame, express genuine regret, and make a firm promise that you\u2019ll try to change.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t skimp on the apology by making it just a formality. <strong>A incapacidade de aceitar que o seu comportamento \u00e9 o problema \u00e9 <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/8-razoes-para-o-fim-de-uma-relacao-de-longa-duracao\/\"><b>n\u00e3o vale a pena perder um <\/b><b>rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura<\/b><b> sobre<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong> Perdoe o seu parceiro e compreenda se ele tem um certo n\u00edvel de desconfian\u00e7a em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a si.<\/p>\n<h3>3. Parar de transferir a culpa<\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-154606\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2.jpg\" alt=\"casal s\u00e9rio a conversar num caf\u00e9\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-735x491.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-335x224.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-347x232.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-520x347.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-640x427.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-in-coffee-shop-2-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>O comportamento verbalmente abusivo \u00e9 frequentemente causado por <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-arte-malefica-da-transferencia-de-culpas\/\"> transfer\u00eancia da culpa<\/a>. <strong>Culpar a v\u00edtima pelo seu comportamento parece justificar as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es e absolv\u00ea-lo da culpa.<\/strong> Para deixar de o fazer, assuma a responsabilidade pelos seus actos.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Once you&#8217;re able to accept that it&#8217;s only you and not your partner who&#8217;s responsible for your behavior, you won&#8217;t place expectations on them that are impossible to meet.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Try to see things from your partner\u2019s perspective and understand how much your words hurt them. <strong>Deve deixar de esperar que o seu parceiro aja de uma determinada forma e aceit\u00e1-lo como ele \u00e9.<\/strong> Ser\u00e1 mais f\u00e1cil deixar de lhes chamar nomes.<\/p>\n<h3>4. Enfrenta os teus sentimentos<\/h3>\n<p>Falar com o seu parceiro sobre o que sente tornar-se-\u00e1 mais f\u00e1cil com a pr\u00e1tica. No in\u00edcio, poder\u00e1 ter de se for\u00e7ar a abrir-se, mas \u00e0 medida que for praticando, <strong>you\u2019ll be both more capable of recognizing your emotions, contextualizing them, and talking about them.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Esteja consciente dos seus pr\u00f3prios pensamentos. <strong>Descobrir de onde vem o seu comportamento<\/strong>. Est\u00e1 a guardar algumas emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao seu parceiro ou \u00e0 sua vida? Sente ressentimento, raiva, ci\u00fame, desilus\u00e3o, etc.?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Understand why you\u2019re attacking your partner and how much it hurts them.<\/strong> People who are emotionally abusive may not be fully aware that this is what they&#8217;re doing, or they might be used to doing it without being aware of how damaging it is to their partner.<\/p>\n<h3>5. Aprender a comunicar<\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-154607\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2.jpg\" alt=\"casal s\u00e9rio a falar no ch\u00e3o (2)\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-735x491.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-335x224.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-347x232.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-520x347.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-640x427.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/serious-couple-talking-on-the-floor-2-2-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Learn to actually own and express your emotions so you can let your partner know how you\u2019re feeling instead of taking the negativity out on them.<strong> During an argument when you&#8217;re emotional and not thinking straight, name-calling may feel deserved and rational, but you might regret it the moment it comes out of your mouth.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-padroes-duplos-que-um-parceiro-emocionalmente-abusivo-lhe-impoe\/\"> Comportamento emocionalmente abusivo<\/a> \u00e9 t\u00f3xico para ambas as pessoas. <strong>Os insultos alimentam mais raiva e a discuss\u00e3o aumenta, fazendo com que se sinta exausto e culpado.<\/strong> Pride and anger often won&#8217;t let you immediately go back on what you said and apologize, and it causes damage to both you and your partner and your relationship.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Aprenda a ouvir verdadeiramente o seu parceiro.<\/strong> Don\u2019t just wait for them to finish so you can talk and prove your point. Practice talking to your partner openly. Let them know how you feel instead of allowing your feelings to cloud your judgment.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Pense nas consequ\u00eancias das suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es e opte por falar apenas por bondade.<\/strong> Comunique com o seu parceiro da forma que gostaria de ser comunicado: com respeito e compreens\u00e3o. Se fizer um esfor\u00e7o para ser aberto e gentil, pode aprender a falar com o seu parceiro de uma forma que conduzir\u00e1 a uma maior intimidade e proximidade.<\/p>\n<h2>O que \u00e9 que os insultos fazem a uma pessoa?<\/h2>\n<p>Hearing anyone say hurtful words is damaging, but it\u2019s especially cruel from a loved one. <strong>Os danos emocionais que causa v\u00e3o para al\u00e9m dos sentimentos feridos.<\/strong> When an emotional abuser repeatedly throws insults, criticism, and put downs on their victim, those words don\u2019t just disappear.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Eventualmente, criam ra\u00edzes e ambos come\u00e7am a acreditar nessas ideias.<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-maneiras-como-ela-mudou-depois-de-uma-relacao-emocionalmente-abusiva\/\"> O abuso emocional muda a v\u00edtima<\/a> and causes them to question themselves and their own worth. This can permanently hurt the victim\u2019s self-esteem and ruin their self-confidence,<strong> causando depress\u00e3o e ansiedade.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>O abuso verbal cont\u00ednuo torna-se uma forma regular de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <strong>Using hurtful words tells the victim that they don&#8217;t matter and that their feelings don&#8217;t count.<\/strong> Cria uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica em que os parceiros se tornam inimigos em guerra.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 It feeds the victim\u2019s insecurities<\/strong>. Verbal abuse reinforces the victim&#8217;s insecurities and attacks them where they already feel vulnerable, causing them to feel even more insecure. Also, it\u2019s isolating and makes it difficult for the victim to reach out for help, leaving them feeling unloved and hopeless.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 It destroys the victim\u2019s self-worth.<\/strong> When your partner calls you degrading names, it doesn&#8217;t only make you feel horrible, it makes you lose self-confidence and manipulates how you feel and what you think about yourself.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 It makes the victim feel degraded and inferior.<\/strong> Name-calling makes the victim feel like their potential and abilities are insignificant. They start to perceive themselves through the lens of the insult, making them feel like they&#8217;re less than the person they are.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 It makes the victim withdraw and shut down.<\/strong> Os ataques constantes fazem com que a v\u00edtima queira desistir da discuss\u00e3o. Em vez de ripostar, sente-se resignada e deixa de se preocupar com o resultado e com uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 It creates self-doubt.<\/strong> The victim begins to wonder if they&#8217;re overreacting and if the abuse isn&#8217;t as bad as it seems. They might also begin to blame themselves and start to believe that they deserve it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>- <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/depois-de-ter-partido-alguem-em-quem-confiava\/\"><b>Destr\u00f3i a confian\u00e7a<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong> A falta de respeito e de cuidado evidente no comportamento abusivo leva a que a v\u00edtima perca a confian\u00e7a n\u00e3o s\u00f3 em si pr\u00f3pria, mas tamb\u00e9m no seu parceiro. A pessoa em quem deveria confiar est\u00e1 a causar-lhe dor, pelo que se torna imposs\u00edvel confiar nela, causando danos na rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Muitas vezes, a v\u00edtima quer retaliar ou torna-se t\u00edmida e retra\u00edda.<\/strong> O parceiro abusivo sente-se culpado pelos seus actos, mas mesmo que pare durante algum tempo <strong>Se n\u00e3o aprenderem a lidar com os seus sentimentos, acabam por voltar a faz\u00ea-lo.<\/strong> The victim&#8217;s hurt feelings matter for a moment, then they forget about it.<\/p>\n<h2>Qual \u00e9 a psicologia por detr\u00e1s dos insultos?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-154608\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1.jpg\" alt=\"Casal jovem e s\u00e9rio sentado num sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-735x491.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-335x224.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-347x232.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-520x347.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-640x427.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Serious-young-couple-sitting-together-on-sofa-1-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Os insultos numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e3o causados por frustra\u00e7\u00e3o, inseguran\u00e7a ou necessidade de controlar o parceiro. <strong>Sentir-se chateado com uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o ou pessoa \u00e9 normal, mas a forma como se reage a esses sentimentos \u00e9 que faz toda a diferen\u00e7a.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Quando exprime os seus sentimentos de uma forma que os torna claros para o seu parceiro, o efeito na rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 positivo. Quando a sua rea\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 atacar o seu parceiro e faz\u00ea-lo sentir-se mal, tamb\u00e9m est\u00e1 a prejudicar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 Frustration.<\/strong> This is often caused when one partner feels like the other person is ignoring their feelings. Frustrated with their inability to communicate with their partner, they believe they don&#8217;t listen to them and don&#8217;t care.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 Insecurity.<\/strong> Someone who name-calls is plagued by insecurities. Something in their life isn&#8217;t working, and they&#8217;re afraid of their feelings. They use the other person as a scapegoat and take it out on them. To get past this, they must get to the root of their insecurities and learn how to cope with their feelings in a productive way.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u2022 Control.<\/strong> Verbal abuse is a power play. It&#8217;s a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/7-tacticas-que-os-abusadores-emocionais-usam-para-manter-o-controlo-numa-relacao\/\"> meios de controlar o seu parceiro<\/a>. Faz com que a v\u00edtima se sinta mal consigo pr\u00f3pria, inferior, envergonhada e embara\u00e7ada. F\u00e1-la duvidar de si pr\u00f3pria e real\u00e7a as suas inseguran\u00e7as.<\/p>\n<p>This, in turn, makes them even more dependent on the person who&#8217;s telling them those things. Because they feel so bad about themselves, they begin to rely on those moments when their partner acts kindly and makes them feel good. They start to feel worthless and believe that their partner is the only person willing to accept them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Os insultos numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e3o muitas vezes um comportamento aprendido<\/strong> e a \u00fanica forma de algu\u00e9m saber como reagir aos seus sentimentos. Talvez os seus pais tenham comunicado da mesma forma entre si ou com eles, ou aprenderam-no ao longo da vida. <strong>A sua incapacidade de exprimir e de lidar com os seus sentimentos negativos leva-os a atacar e a descarregar sobre outra pessoa.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Quando aprendem a exprimir essas emo\u00e7\u00f5es de uma forma produtiva, isso conduz a uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o mais saud\u00e1vel. <strong>Ser capaz de partilhar o que sente com o seu parceiro aumenta a intimidade e a confian\u00e7a e aproxima-os.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>Para onde ir a partir daqui<\/h2>\n<p>Name calling in a relationship can have a devastating effect on the victim\u2019s emotional and mental health and self-esteem. <strong>It\u2019s more often caused by the inability of the abusive partner to deal with their emotions than any intention to truly hurt their significant other.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Para restabelecer o respeito, a confian\u00e7a e a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o, s\u00e3o necess\u00e1rias compaix\u00e3o e compreens\u00e3o de ambas as partes, bem como um desejo m\u00fatuo de trabalhar na rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You\u2019ll become able to stop calling your partner names once you stop shifting blame to your significant other and rationalizing your behavior.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Aprender a exprimir os seus sentimentos de forma calma e eficaz e torn\u00e1-lo um h\u00e1bito resultar\u00e1 numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o mais saud\u00e1vel em geral.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Your partner is someone who&#8217;s supposed to make you feel safe and protected. When they turn into someone who hurts you, your relationship becomes a burden instead of a comfort. Name-calling and other forms of verbal abuse cause a permanent state of dread and make you want to avoid your partner. Name calling in a&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":154609,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-154602","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse &amp; trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/Name-Calling-In-A-Relationship-Is-Toxic-Heres-How-To-Stop-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse &amp; trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse &amp; trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/154602","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=154602"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/154602\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/154609"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=154602"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=154602"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=154602"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}