{"id":155518,"date":"2022-07-07T10:14:28","date_gmt":"2022-07-07T10:14:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=155518"},"modified":"2022-07-15T05:42:27","modified_gmt":"2022-07-15T05:42:27","slug":"chafurdar-na-auto-comiseracao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/chafurdar-na-auto-comiseracao\/","title":{"rendered":"20 dicas para parar de se afundar na autocomisera\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

Society tends to look down on people who seem weak in the face of their misfortunes. When someone who\u2019s been through a hard time shows that they’re persevering against all odds, they’re praised for being brave.<\/p>\n

Por outro lado, as pessoas que ficam presas a sentir pena de si pr\u00f3prias s\u00e3o menosprezadas<\/strong>. \u2018Stop indulging in a pity party\u2019 is a synonym for telling someone, \u2018Stop being weak and do something about it.\u2019<\/p>\n

Some people aren’t as strong as others, but they still deserve understanding and kindness. As pessoas que acabam por se afundar na autocomisera\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e3o a fazer mal a si pr\u00f3prias<\/strong> because they don’t know how to move on or because they get something out of it they can’t get elsewhere.<\/p>\n

If you feel like you’ve been stuck in a rut of self-loathing and wondering why it’s all happening to you, there’s a way to move on, and it all starts with a little self-compassion.<\/p>\n

Deixar de se afundar na autocomisera\u00e7\u00e3o atrav\u00e9s da autocompaix\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

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\u00c9 dif\u00edcil sair do ciclo intermin\u00e1vel de chafurdar na autocomisera\u00e7\u00e3o e cair cada vez mais na vergonha. The longer you’re stuck in it, the more you get used to feeling sorry for yourself, and moving on seems impossible.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes you just need to catch a break \u2013 all it takes is for one good thing to happen to you and shake things up. But when you feel like the world is against you, a chance to stop feeling broken rarely comes along, so there\u2019s only one thing you can do: criar as suas pr\u00f3prias oportunidades.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pretending your feelings don’t exist isn’t a sign of strength. To move on, you need to deal with them. It’s the hardest job you’ll ever have, but doing it will start your transformation.<\/p>\n

1. Comece por ter compaix\u00e3o por si pr\u00f3prio<\/h3>\n

Sentir pena de si pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 uma forma de auto-avers\u00e3o. You think that whatever you do, you can’t get what you want and only bad things happen to you.<\/strong> Isto faz-nos invejar aqueles que parecem ter a sua vida organizada e envergonharmo-nos porque sentimos you’re not good enough<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You hate yourself because you have no self-compassion and can’t accept these feelings. Once you choose to tell yourself, ‘It’s okay,’ things will start to get better.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. Trate-se como trataria um amigo<\/h3>\n

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How to develop compassion for yourself when you think you’re the worst, so the world is the worst to you? Deve decidir transformar a avers\u00e3o a si pr\u00f3prio em amor-pr\u00f3prio<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This love must be unconditional \u2013 tens de te amar a ti pr\u00f3prio, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer<\/strong>. You need to love yourself despite your flaws and things you don’t like about yourself. Only when you get there can you start treating yourself like a loved one.<\/p>\n

Treat yourself how you\u2019d treat a beloved friend if they were in the same situation as you are now.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. Falar com um terapeuta<\/h3>\n

O que parece autocomisera\u00e7\u00e3o pode, por vezes, ser uma depress\u00e3o cl\u00ednica.<\/p>\n

A visita a um psicoterapeuta pode ser a pausa de que precisa,<\/strong> se \u00e9 esse o caso ou n\u00e3o. Se estiver deprimido, ser-lhe-\u00e1 administrada medica\u00e7\u00e3o que pode ser profundamente \u00fatil num curto espa\u00e7o de tempo e ser\u00e1 encaminhado para counseling, which is absolutely necessary when you’re depressed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you aren’t, talking to a professional is still incredibly helpful for your mental health and will jump-start your journey of moving away from self-pity,<\/p>\n

4. Enfrenta os teus sentimentos<\/h3>\n

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Bad things happen to everyone, but when you feel like there’s no end to them, falling into a pit of despair is easy. You ask yourself, “Why me? Why is it all happening to you? Why can’t you be happier, healthier, taller, smarter, different?”<\/p>\n

Estes feelings that you don\u2019t deserve to be happy<\/a> \u2013 self-doubt, envy, feeling sorry for yourself, shame \u2013 are still your feelings, and you can’t ignore them.<\/strong> Feel them fully and understand them, and then you’ll be able to deal with them.<\/p>\n

5. Refor\u00e7ar a autoestima<\/h3>\n

A baixa autoestima pode ser tanto a causa como o efeito da auto-piedade, causando um ciclo vicioso do qual parece n\u00e3o haver escapat\u00f3ria. Pode quebrar o ciclo, optando por deixar de se concentrar no negativo:<\/strong> as coisas m\u00e1s que lhe aconteceram e as m\u00e1s opini\u00f5es que tem de si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Aceitar-se a si pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 a forma de come\u00e7ar refor\u00e7ar a auto-confian\u00e7a<\/a>.<\/strong> It’s a long process, taking a day at a time, but it will completely change your outlook and how you live your life.<\/p>\n

6. Assuma o controlo da sua vida<\/h3>\n

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Feeling like bad luck follows you is what makes you believe that your life isn\u2019t under your control. Even so, you must decide that you still have choices. There\u2019s always a choice, no matter how bad things get.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A rea\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 livre: paramos ou continuamos? Em vez de deixar que os sentimentos de autocomisera\u00e7\u00e3o o impe\u00e7am, esforce-se por transformar a sua pena em compaix\u00e3o e motiva\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n

7. Deixar de se vitimizar<\/h3>\n

When something bad happens, do you just take it? It\u2019s okay not to have the strength to fight back the way you want to, but uma coisa que nunca se deve fazer \u00e9 aceitar que as coisas simplesmente acontecem connosco.<\/strong> Isto \u00e9 mentalidade de v\u00edtima e n\u00e3o faz nada, exceto fazer-nos sentir impotentes e perdidos.<\/p>\n

Your circumstances might be different than what you\u2019d like them to be, but your life is your own, and you do have control over it.<\/p>\n

8. Assumir responsabilidades<\/h3>\n

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When you decide that you\u2019re done having things happen to you, you assume responsabilidade pessoal<\/a> para a sua vida. Things that happen don\u2019t determine who you are and how you should live \u2013 you\u2019re the only one who does.<\/strong><\/p>\n

To take responsibility means to stop blaming, expecting, and enduring. It means to begin doing, changing, and moving. It\u2019s liberating, and once you choose to make your own decisions and stand behind them, you won\u2019t go back to wallowing in self-pity.<\/strong><\/p>\n

9. Fazer coisas que lhe d\u00eaem uma sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de realiza\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n

To feel happy, people need a sense of joy and a sense of accomplishment in their lives. When you\u2019re not feeling okay, both of these might seem like a distant dream, but you can do it.<\/p>\n

Start small and do something good for yourself today that you didn\u2019t do yesterday.<\/strong> Finish any task, no matter how easy, and for now, that\u2019s enough. Do it every day until you feel like you can accomplish more, and soon, those good things will become a habit. Continuar e seguir em frente.<\/strong><\/p>\n

10. Faz coisas que te d\u00e3o uma sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de alegria<\/h3>\n

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Como \u00e9 que se pode melhorar o humor quando nada te d\u00e1 alegria<\/a>? Quando parece que nada o pode fazer feliz, procure a mais pequena fa\u00edsca. Encontre uma forma de sentir qualquer tipo de conforto e fa\u00e7a-o regularmente.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Maybe pampering yourself won\u2019t make you happy, but it feels good. Playing with a pet or a child can put a smile on your face. Talking to a loved one, listening to your favorite song, taking a walk, or anything that seems like it should make you happy might not do it right now, but keep doing them.<\/p>\n

Even if you believe that these little things aren\u2019t doing anything, they are \u2013 you just need to let yourself feel it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

11. Ajudar outras pessoas<\/h3>\n

Calling someone less fortunate isn’t helpful because to everyone, their own struggle is the hardest. Still, ajudar outras pessoas com os seus problemas muda a perspetiva dos seus pr\u00f3prios problemas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you do things for others, you feel like you\u2019re part of something bigger than yourself. Making someone’s life a little easier is its own reward, but it also helps you feel connected to others and shifts the focus from yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

12. Resolver os problemas um de cada vez<\/h3>\n

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You can\u2019t solve everything that\u2019s bothering you at once and magically become a new version of yourself. Things, unfortunately, don\u2019t work that way. You must, however, start somewhere.<\/p>\n

Um problema a menos significa mais do que se pensa.<\/strong> By dealing with what bothers you one at a time, the list gets shorter. Think about it this way: in a year\u2019s time, do you want things to be the same or better?<\/p>\n

13. Learn to accept what you can’t change<\/h3>\n

You already know that you should let go of things, but how can you do that when you\u2019re still feeling the effects? Deixa-se ir, fazendo o seu melhor para melhorar as coisas, e depois accepting that there are some things you can\u2019t change<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean that you should be complacent and accept everything but that you should do the best you can with what you have and work on the things that can be different.<\/p>\n

14. Praticar ser forte<\/h3>\n

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Bottling up your feelings isn\u2019t what being strong is about. Feel your pain, disappointment, sense of inadequacy, but then choose to be positive \u2013 this is o que significa ser forte<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Estar em contacto com a mente e os sentimentos e fazer tudo o que se pode com o que se tem \u00e9 dif\u00edcil. Desistir e sucumbir \u00e0 auto-piedade \u00e9 mais f\u00e1cil, mas d\u00f3i mais. Choose today to do something good with your life, and tomorrow, you\u2019ll be better.<\/strong> Quanto mais praticar, mais f\u00e1cil se tornar\u00e1.<\/p>\n

15. Compreender o que \u00e9 realmente a for\u00e7a de vontade<\/h3>\n

People who accomplish something that seems unreachable are praised for their willpower, but do you really know what that means? Willpower isn\u2019t going against what you want \u2013 it\u2019s the opposite: it\u2019s finding the strength to do something difficult because you want it so much.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Once you decide that you want to stop wallowing in self-pity and change your life, you\u2019ll be able to do it. Quando se quer muito uma coisa, \u00e9 f\u00e1cil fazer o que for preciso para a conseguir.<\/strong><\/p>\n

16. Reconhecer o pensamento negativo<\/h3>\n

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When you think negative thoughts regularly, they become part of you, and you don\u2019t realize that this is what they are. Aprenda a identificar os pensamentos negativos para os poder travar.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Os pensamentos negativos surgem na sua mente por si s\u00f3 e influenciam o seu comportamento. They\u2019re not helpful and hold you back.<\/strong> Aprenda a reconhec\u00ea-los e a desafi\u00e1-los.<\/p>\n

17. Encontrar um sentimento de gratid\u00e3o<\/h3>\n

A auto-piedade pode ser autoindulgente. There\u2019s a comfort in helplessness and blaming the world that can give you a sense of validation, but it only hurts you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Instead of focusing on everything that\u2019s gone wrong, choose to feel grateful for the good things. There\u2019s always something that you have that you\u2019re taking for granted<\/strong>. Contar as suas b\u00ean\u00e7\u00e3os e estar grato<\/a>. Esta perspetiva positiva pode mudar a sua vida para melhor.<\/p>\n

18. Aprender a adaptar-se<\/h3>\n

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What about the things you don\u2019t like and can\u2019t change? Once you accept them, you must learn to work with what you have. Adaptar-se \u00e0s circunst\u00e2ncias \u00e9 a \u00fanica forma de crescer.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Clinging to the things you\u2019re unhappy about only brings more unhappiness. Quando escolhemos como reagir \u00e0s coisas que nos acontecem, as desilus\u00f5es podem transformar-se em oportunidades.<\/strong><\/p>\n

19. Viver no presente<\/h3>\n

Ficar preso ao passado e remoer as coisas que aconteceram s\u00f3 o atrasa. Optar por viver no aqui e agora \u00e9 o que \u00e9 preciso para continuar.<\/strong> Don\u2019t let the past rob you of your present and future.<\/p>\n

Praticar a aten\u00e7\u00e3o plena<\/a> para se concentrar no momento presente.<\/strong> Concentre-se nas coisas que s\u00e3o, n\u00e3o nas coisas que costumavam ser e nas coisas que poderiam ser.<\/p>\n

20. Escolher seguir em frente<\/h3>\n

If you\u2018ve gone through all the tips, you\u2019ve learned one thing: faz o seu pr\u00f3prio caminho<\/strong>. Life doesn\u2019t happen to you \u2013 you\u2019re the one who makes your own choices. So choose to move forward.<\/p>\n

Embrace change and realize that you\u2019re in control<\/strong>. Be kind and patient with yourself, but show yourself love by doing what\u2019s best for you, and that\u2019s deciding to stop wallowing in self-pity.<\/p>\n

Em resumo<\/h2>\n

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Para deixar de se afundar na autocomisera\u00e7\u00e3o e encontrar a valida\u00e7\u00e3o de que necessita noutro lugar, tem de aprender a amar-se a si pr\u00f3prio e a mostrar esse amor de todas as formas necess\u00e1rias. When you love someone, you\u2019ll do things that are good for them, no matter how difficult and unpleasant they might be.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you feel love and compassion for yourself, you\u2019ll understand why self-pity only hurts you and do your best to move on.<\/p>\n

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