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<\/p>\nLet\u2019s be honest: nobody is overjoyed that their partner has friends of the opposite sex. Even if your boyfriend\u2019s female friends don\u2019t represent any danger to your relationship, deep down, you can\u2019t help but feel threatened by their presence in his life.<\/p>\n
So, what exactly should you do about it? Should you turn into a psycho girlfriend who expects her boyfriend\u2019s friend to stop existing just because you appeared on the scene?<\/p>\n
De maneira nenhuma! Em vez disso, tenho uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o muito melhor para si: estabele\u00e7a alguns limites para os namorados e amigas.<\/p>\n
This way, both of you can have a place in your man\u2019s life, and everyone\u2019s role is clearly defined!<\/p>\n
If you want a healthy relationship, follow these rules, and you\u2019re good to go:<\/p>\n
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Quer ela goste ou n\u00e3o, a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com o seu namorado est\u00e1 sempre em primeiro lugar, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer. You don\u2019t care how long she has been in his life or what they\u2019ve been through. It\u2019s not okay for <\/b>que ele a ame mais do que a si<\/b><\/a>!<\/b><\/p>\n You need to set some clear boundaries regarding your time together. It\u2019s not acceptable for him to cancel your plans to hang out with his friend or to only call you when she is too busy to spend time with him.<\/p>\n You\u2019re the women he chose to share his life with, and nobody should come before you. Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean you should be selfish and demand to be the only person he spends time with.<\/p>\n Yes, you\u2019re the only woman in a romantic sense for him. And you\u2019re his priority.<\/p>\n However, if his female best friend needs a hand or has an emergency, don\u2019t make a big deal about it. If he runs off and helps her, it only shows that you\u2019re dating a good person with a kind heart.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s be honest: some friends are used to a lot of physical contact. They don\u2019t see it as a big deal \u2013 sometimes they sleep next to each other in the same bed, tease one another, she sits on his lap, and stuff like that.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not saying that there must be anything sexual about this. Maybe they\u2019ve been friends their entire lives and don\u2019t see anything wrong with this kind of contact.<\/p>\n No entanto, isto deve ser um fator de rutura quando se trata dos limites entre namorado e amigas. O seu namorado est\u00e1 agora numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o de compromisso e este tipo de comportamento j\u00e1 n\u00e3o \u00e9 aceit\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n They\u2019re still allowed to quickly hug or kiss each other on the cheek when they greet, but anything more than that is out of the question.<\/b><\/p>\n I don\u2019t care if he thinks of her as a sister \u2013 they\u2019re not related, and he is a human being. The last thing you need is to wonder whether he\u2019ll get a natural bodily reaction to this woman\u2019s presence.<\/p>\n It\u2019s one thing if you and your boyfriend hang out with his friends in a group setting from time to time. That is a great sign that he wants to make you part of his life. But even those get-togethers shouldn\u2019t come at the expense of your one-on-one time.<\/p>\n No entanto, o que n\u00e3o \u00e9 aceit\u00e1vel \u00e9 que a sua amiga seja uma constante terceira roda durante o seu tempo a s\u00f3s<\/a>. I mean, you two are dating \u2013 this is not a polyamorous relationship!<\/b><\/p>\n At the risk of sounding selfish, you shouldn\u2019t care whether she has no one to go on vacation with or that she\u2019s celebrating New Year\u2019s Eve by herself. I\u2019m not saying that the three of you can never spend time together, but please don\u2019t become her foster carer.<\/p>\n Besides, just because she is your boyfriend\u2019s BFF doesn\u2019t mean you have the desire to spend your free time with her as well.<\/p>\n Os ultimatos n\u00e3o s\u00e3o normalmente a melhor escolha para um rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a>mas, por vezes, temos de as emitir. Este \u00e9 um desses casos.<\/p>\n Quer ele goste ou n\u00e3o, o seu <\/b>outra pessoa significativa<\/b> shouldn\u2019t be allowed to have <\/b>conversas privadas<\/b> com o seu amigo do <\/b>g\u00e9nero oposto<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n This might sound unreasonable to him, but let\u2019s put it this way: let\u2019s say that he has a lot of female friends, but he doesn\u2019t let you read any of the conversations he has with him.<\/p>\n Who can guarantee that they\u2019re all nothing but friends? I mean, he can tell you every girl he\u2019s flirting with is his close friend.<\/p>\n Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019ll read every conversation they have. It is important that you have access to their communication, so you can find out everything you need to know whenever you feel like it.<\/p>\n \u00c9 discut\u00edvel se a sua cara-metade deve ou n\u00e3o ir de f\u00e9rias com os amigos homens. No entanto, um dos limites mais importantes entre namorados e amigas \u00e9 o facto de n\u00e3o haver viagens em conjunto.<\/p>\n Talvez o seu namorado tenha o h\u00e1bito de viajar com uma <\/b>muitas amigas mulheres,<\/b> mas esses dias acabaram. Sim, isso inclui viagens num <\/b>defini\u00e7\u00e3o de grupo<\/b> tamb\u00e9m.<\/b><\/p>\n The only way these journeys might happen is if you all go together and if you\u2019re okay traveling with his friends. Of course, you won\u2019t agree to your BF\u2019s female BFF traveling with you \u2013 I\u2019m talking about the bunch of you traveling together.<\/p>\n E se houver um evento a que eles t\u00eam de ir? N\u00e3o h\u00e1 problema, pode acompanhar-nos.<\/p>\n What if they\u2019ve already booked a trip before you issued this ultimatum or even before you two started dating? Tough break, but they\u2019ll have to find a way to cancel it.<\/p>\n O seu namorado pode publicar fotografias com a sua melhor amiga nas redes sociais? Ela pode faz\u00ea-lo?<\/p>\n Bem, h\u00e1 v\u00e1rios factores que t\u00eam de ser tidos em considera\u00e7\u00e3o antes de lhe poder dar uma resposta adequada.<\/p>\n First of all, does your boyfriend put photos with you on his social media profiles? Are all of his followers familiar with the fact that you\u2019re his girlfriend?<\/p>\n Se a resposta for sim, deve deix\u00e1-lo publicar uma hist\u00f3ria de vez em quando com a sua melhor amiga. \u00c9 permitida uma publica\u00e7\u00e3o permanente quando se trata de uma ocasi\u00e3o especial.<\/p>\n What is crucial to note here is that he can\u2019t have more photos with her than with you. Once again, you\u2019re the number one woman in his life.<\/b><\/p>\n Mas o que \u00e9 ainda mais importante \u00e9 que a natureza da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o seja clara. Se ele publicar uma fotografia com ela, deve escrever um <\/b>friend\u2019s caption<\/b><\/a> ou um <\/b>cita\u00e7\u00e3o de amizade<\/b><\/a> e nada mais.<\/b><\/p>\n The same goes both ways. Don\u2019t let her post selfies with him without any explanation \u2013 it\u2019s natural that her followers will assume he\u2019s her boyfriend.<\/p>\n The biggest red flag that your BF\u2019s friend of the opposite gender is jealous of you is the way she interferes in your relationship. You know exactly what I\u2019m talking about: she constantly gives him \u201cadvice\u201d that somehow never works in your favor.<\/p>\n She knows every little thing that happens between you two, and sometimes you wonder if you\u2019re dating her or him. Whenever you two argue or break up, she helps him come up with comebacks and tells him how to play his cards right.<\/p>\n Must I even explain why this isn\u2019t acceptable? Sim, ela \u00e9 sua amiga \u00edntima e ele tem vontade de partilhar os seus pensamentos e sentimentos com ela, mas como \u00e9 que esta configura\u00e7\u00e3o o faz sentir?<\/b><\/p>\n Trust me \u2013 this is one of the most significant boyfriend female friends boundaries you\u2019ll have to impose in time. Make it clear that your private matters shouldn\u2019t concern anyone outside of your relationship.<\/p>\n Look, it would be great if you could also become friends with this girl. However, things don\u2019t work that way always. Maybe you two have different interests or just didn\u2019t click from the first time you met. And that\u2019s perfectly okay.<\/p>\n Basically, I\u2019m saying that she doesn’t have to like you, as long as her negative emotions don\u2019t affect your boyfriend. However, she must respect you.<\/p>\n Even if she secretly hates your guts, she should keep it to herself and respect you as her friend\u2019s girlfriend.<\/b><\/p>\n O mesmo se aplica a todos os outros amigos e familiares. Eles t\u00eam de respeitar a sua escolha.<\/p>\n However, it all depends on how your boyfriend behaves in these situations. If he lets them badmouth you or continues hanging out with them even after they\u2019ve insulted you or tried humiliating you in any way, I\u2019m sorry to break it to you, but then, he\u2019s the one who doesn\u2019t respect you.<\/p>\n Por outro lado, se ele lhe der o lugar que merece na sua vida e se ele respeita-te como deve ser<\/a>, they\u2019ll have no other choice but follow his lead.<\/p>\n Lembra-se de termos falado sobre as conversas privadas nas amizades entre homens e mulheres? Bem, esta regra aplica-se a tudo o resto na rela\u00e7\u00e3o deles.<\/p>\n Does this mean the two of them are not allowed to have secrets? Absolutely yes \u2013 if they could affect you in any way possible.<\/p>\n For example, your boyfriend is not obliged to talk to you about his friend\u2019s childhood traumas or anything similar related to her personal life. After all, let\u2019s not forget that he is the friend she chose \u2013 you\u2019re not. She probably wouldn\u2019t feel comfortable having all of her secrets exposed in front of a stranger, which you are to her.<\/p>\n No entanto, se alguma vez gostaram um do outro ou, pior ainda, se namoraram no passado, isto \u00e9 algo com que deve estar familiarizado. L\u00e1 <\/b>deveria<\/b>\u2019t be secrets about the nature of their friendship: how they met, how long they\u2019ve been friends, how close they are as friends, and so on.<\/b><\/p>\n You have to have all this information to get a bigger picture of their relationship and figure out whether there are some red flags you should look out for and if there\u2019s a reason for you to be com ci\u00fames dela<\/a>.<\/p>\n Is there anything more annoying than a girl trying to prove her dominance over a man, especially in front of that man\u2019s girlfriend, by constantly mentioning inside jokes? Of course, she never cares to explain to you what they\u2019re talking about \u2013 she enjoys that you feel left out.<\/b><\/p>\n In fact, this is the primary reason she uses these jokes: to show you that there is a part of his life you know nothing about, that she knows him better than you, and that they\u2019re so incredibly close. She just tells him: \u201cHey, remember that time when we were on a beach…\u201d and starts laughing hysterically.<\/p>\n Then, they proceed to talk in code, and you stand there, completely clueless about what\u2019s going on. Are they talking about that time they hooked up? Or about an embarrassing hangover they wish you know nothing about?<\/p>\n Bem, para evitar estas situa\u00e7\u00f5es, pro\u00edba as piadas internas.<\/p>\n Your significant other has a lot of female friends \u2013 that\u2019s quite clear. He\u2019s probably used to talking to them in the middle of the night or spending hours on the phone together.<\/p>\n Bem, isso tem de acabar! Quer dizer, a \u00faltima coisa que se quer \u00e9 estar a dormir tranquilamente ao lado do namorado e ser acordada pelo seu <\/b>amiga<\/b>\u2019s drunk call in the middle of the night.<\/b><\/p>\n You understandably wouldn\u2019t feel comfortable in this scenario.<\/p>\n Now that you\u2019re in the picture, there is no more late-night texting and no more all-nighter phone calls.<\/p>\n If he is uncomfortable telling them this, just ask him not to pick up the phone after midnight. He can reply in the morning, and I\u2019m sure that, after a while, they\u2019ll understand that you\u2019ve set boundaries.<\/p>\n O mesmo se aplica \u00e0 comunica\u00e7\u00e3o em geral. Acabaram-se as conversas de beb\u00e9 e os elogios que est\u00e3o \u00e0 beira do flirt.<\/p>\n There is no need for heart emojis and stuff like that when they\u2019re texting. Ask them both to keep their relationship as friendly as possible!<\/p>\n N\u00e3o h\u00e1 absolutamente nada de errado no facto de um homem numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o ter <\/b>amigas<\/b>desde que saiba como o fazer <\/b>estabelecer limites<\/b> com eles.<\/b> Apesar do que as pessoas dizem, os homens e as mulheres podem ser amigos<\/a>!<\/p>\n Isto \u00e9 especialmente verdade se essas namoradas fizeram parte da vida dele antes de ele come\u00e7ar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o atual.<\/p>\n I mean, what should he do? Stop being friends with them every time he finds a new girlfriend and then resurface whenever he\u2019s single again?<\/p>\n This wouldn\u2019t be fair to these friends, and nobody would tolerate this kind of behavior.<\/p>\n Para al\u00e9m disso, nenhuma namorada razo\u00e1vel pode esperar que o seu namorado apague toda a sua vida antes dela s\u00f3 porque ela apareceu.<\/b><\/p>\n \u00c9 claro que isto \u00e9 v\u00e1lido para os dois lados: n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada de errado no facto de as pessoas que est\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o terem amigos do sexo oposto.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re smart enough, you also become friends with this woman! <\/b>Don\u2019t worry, she doesn\u2019t have to become your BFF overnight. After all, I sure hope that you have a life of your own that includes numerous close friendships you\u2019ve built before your relationship.<\/p>\n No entanto, it would be great if you could at least be on good terms with your BF\u2019s friend<\/b>. This way, you\u2019ll gain better insight into what\u2019s going on between the two of them. You won\u2019t feel like an outsider, and you\u2019ll have more control over their relationship.<\/p>\n If that\u2019s not possible, you must ask your boyfriend to set some clear boundaries. Make sure you both agree on these boyfriend female friends boundaries instead of making it look like you\u2019re the bad guy who is suddenly imposing all these new rules.<\/p>\n Either way, you shouldn\u2019t disrespect this woman. After all, she is in your BF\u2019s life for a reason. Of course, this doesn\u2019t apply to situations when she is the first to show you disrespect!<\/p>\n O teu namorado tem <\/b>amigas<\/b> pela mesma raz\u00e3o que ele <\/b>amigos homens<\/b>O que acontece \u00e9 que as pessoas que ele gosta s\u00e3o as que t\u00eam a mesma energia que ele, porque s\u00e3o confi\u00e1veis ou porque gosta de passar tempo com elas. Na maioria dos casos, n\u00e3o existe uma psicologia mais profunda escondida por detr\u00e1s das suas <\/b>amizades femininas<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n It\u2019s clear that he\u2019s found something in each one of his good friends. Maybe he likes their loyalty, the fact that he can count on them, or they make him laugh, and he enjoys being in their company.<\/p>\n2. Sem contacto f\u00edsico<\/h3>\n
3. Proibi\u00e7\u00e3o de terceira roda<\/h3>\n
4. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 conversas secretas<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n5. N\u00e3o fazer viagens em conjunto<\/h3>\n
6. Limites das redes sociais<\/h3>\n
7. N\u00e3o interferir na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n
8. Ela tem de o respeitar<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n9. Tudo est\u00e1 \u00e0 vista de todos<\/h3>\n
10. Sem piadas internas<\/h3>\n
11. Mudan\u00e7a na sua comunica\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n
\u00c9 aceit\u00e1vel que um homem numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o tenha amigas mulheres?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nO que fazer quando o namorado tem uma amiga \u00edntima?<\/h2>\n
Porque \u00e9 que o meu namorado tem amigas mulheres?<\/h2>\n
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