{"id":155866,"date":"2022-07-14T12:21:03","date_gmt":"2022-07-14T12:21:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=155866"},"modified":"2023-04-07T08:18:07","modified_gmt":"2023-04-07T08:18:07","slug":"nao-negociaveis-numa-relacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nao-negociaveis-numa-relacao\/","title":{"rendered":"22 coisas n\u00e3o negoci\u00e1veis numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o para todos os casais"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let\u2019s be honest: sometimes, there is a thin line between factores de desempate<\/a> e ser demasiado exigente<\/a>. Quero dizer, h\u00e1 uma enorme diferen\u00e7a entre ter normas<\/a> e a andar \u00e0 ca\u00e7a de gambozinos.<\/p>\n

However, there are some non-negotiables you shouldn\u2019t even think about compromising on if you want a good relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o essas coisas n\u00e3o negoci\u00e1veis? Como \u00e9 que os define? S\u00f3 h\u00e1 uma maneira de o descobrir: continuar a ler!<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que n\u00e3o \u00e9 negoci\u00e1vel numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

A palavra diz tudo: as rela\u00e7\u00f5es n\u00e3o negoci\u00e1veis s\u00e3o as coisas sobre as quais nunca se deve negociar. Por muito que o compromisso seja importante para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o bem sucedida, quando se trata destas coisas, h\u00e1 n\u00e3o existe tal coisa como encontrar um meio-termo<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Voc\u00ea e o seu parceiro devem ter o mesmo ponto de vista (ou pelo menos semelhante) quando estes valores fundamentais est\u00e3o em causa.<\/p>\n

What is even more important is to talk about these non-negotiables before things get too serious \u2013 to save both of you the trouble and pain.<\/p>\n

22 Pontos n\u00e3o negoci\u00e1veis numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

Ser\u00e1 que voc\u00ea e o seu parceiro devem ter pontos de vista compat\u00edveis em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a cada uma destas coisas? Sem d\u00favida que sim! Sei que parece muito, mas acredite, cada um dos itens mencionados abaixo \u00e9 uma condi\u00e7\u00e3o para um relacionamento amoroso!<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Fidelidade<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que a fidelidade significa para si? E, mais importante, significa o mesmo para a sua cara-metade?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso ter em conta uma coisa: nem toda a gente gosta de monogamia. Alguns preferem rela\u00e7\u00f5es abertas<\/a> ou rela\u00e7\u00f5es poliamorosas<\/a>. And there is nothing wrong about that \u2013 as long as everyone involved knows exactly what they\u2019re getting themselves into.<\/p>\n

Se optarem pela monogamia, t\u00eam de definir o que \u00e9 a trai\u00e7\u00e3o. \u00c9 namoro infidelidade<\/a>? Onde \u00e9 que se ultrapassa o limite e que comportamento \u00e9 que se classifica como inaceit\u00e1vel?<\/p>\n

2. Lealdade<\/h3>\n

Outra coisa que deve estar em sintonia quando se inicia uma nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 a lealdade. N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que h\u00e1 uma diferen\u00e7a entre ser fiel e ser leal<\/a>.<\/p>\n

A lealdade tem a ver com o facto de nos mantermos fi\u00e9is uns aos outros em todos os momentos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Of course, you can\u2019t expect unconditional loyalty from someone you\u2019ve just met. However, if you want a serious relationship, it is definitely a deal-breaker.<\/p>\n

3. Respeito<\/h3>\n

Um dos maiores pontos n\u00e3o negoci\u00e1veis numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 o respeito! Acredita em mim, n\u00e3o pode haver amor quando h\u00e1 nenhum respeito<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No entanto, antes de mais, t\u00eam de definir o que significa respeito para ambos. Ser\u00e1 que se trata apenas de n\u00e3o se insultarem um ao outro \u00e0 frente dos outros? \u00c9 n\u00e3o chamar nomes um ao outro e nunca ultrapassar os limites, mesmo quando est\u00e3o a discutir?<\/p>\n

Ou ser\u00e1 que tamb\u00e9m inclui aceitar o seu parceiro como ele \u00e9, sem tentar mudar a ess\u00eancia do seu ser?<\/p>\n

Keep one thing in mind: you can\u2019t demand respect if you don\u2019t respect yourself first!<\/p>\n

4. Independ\u00eancia<\/h3>\n

Just because you promised to be faithful to this one person doesn\u2019t mean that they\u2019ve automatically got the right to control your entire life. It doesn\u2019t mean that they can rip you of your individuality and take away your independence.<\/p>\n

Se quer que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica funcione, tem de determinar que n\u00edveis de liberdade s\u00e3o aceit\u00e1veis.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c9 correto que o seu parceiro tenha amigos \u00edntimos do sexo oposto? Incomoda-o o facto de ele sair frequentemente com os amigos sem a incluir a si?<\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o as decis\u00f5es que devem tomar em equipa e quais as que podem tomar sozinhos?<\/p>\n

5. Dinheiro<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s another non-negotiable thing you must talk to your romantic partner about before planning a future together: finances. Sei que este \u00e9 um dos temas que todos gostar\u00edamos de evitar, mas, infelizmente, o dinheiro \u00e9 uma parte importante da nossa vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t expect to have a successful relationship with someone who saves every extra buck they make if you live every day like it\u2019s your last and don\u2019t give a damn about financial stability. I\u2019m not saying either lifestyle is wrong \u2013 I\u2019m just pointing out that they\u2019re different and you\u2019ll have a big problem in the future.<\/p>\n

6. Cren\u00e7as religiosas<\/h3>\n

No, this doesn\u2019t mean that you and your partner must have the same religious beliefs or that you have to have any religious beliefs at all. However, se as suas cren\u00e7as religiosas afectarem a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o no futuro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

What if their family doesn\u2019t approve of them dating someone from another religion? What if you\u2019re strictly religious, but they think every faith is nonsense and think less of you because of your beliefs?<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que vai acontecer se decidirem ter filhos? Podem chegar a acordo sobre a educa\u00e7\u00e3o dos filhos? E se quiser educ\u00e1-los na sua religi\u00e3o e o seu parceiro quiser ensinar-lhes o ate\u00edsmo?<\/p>\n

7. Fam\u00edlia<\/h3>\n

Your family is a huge part of your life, and it\u2019s natural that you want to include them in your goals for the future. And your SO feels the same way. That is exactly why this is one of the important non-negotiables in a relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Com que frequ\u00eancia deve visitar o seu sogros<\/a> se se casarem? At\u00e9 que ponto poder\u00e3o interferir na vossa vida?<\/p>\n

What about your parents? What will happen when they grow old? Let\u2019s say that you plan on moving them somewhere near you, but your partner strongly opposes that idea?<\/p>\n

What about your siblings? Maybe you plan on having them over at your house all the time, while your SO doesn\u2019t see a reason to be so close with their brother and sister?<\/p>\n

8. Amigos<\/h3>\n

O mesmo se aplica aos amigos. Em primeiro lugar, h\u00e1 um aspeto social nesta lista n\u00e3o negoci\u00e1vel, e \u00e9 exatamente por isso que as rela\u00e7\u00f5es entre introvertidos e extrovertidos s\u00e3o t\u00e3o dif\u00edceis.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por um lado, temos algu\u00e9m que quer passar todo o seu tempo livre a conviver com as pessoas. Gosta de dar festas, fazer churrascos ao domingo e receber convidados. Por outro lado, \u00e9 um introvertido que despreza as reuni\u00f5es sociais. O que \u00e9 que se pode fazer aqui?<\/p>\n

And let\u2019s not forget about your best friends who are almost like family? Maybe your partner doesn\u2019t understand when you go running to your best friend\u2019s house in the middle of the night just because they need you.<\/p>\n

9. Crian\u00e7as<\/h3>\n

Esta \u00e9 provavelmente uma das quest\u00f5es n\u00e3o negoci\u00e1veis mais importantes numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o: filhos. Antes de mais, t\u00eam de decidir se querem ter filhos ou n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Quero dizer, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada a comprometer aqui. It\u2019s not like you\u2019ll agree to have kids just because your partner is a pessoa orientada para a fam\u00edlia<\/a><\/strong>. You know that a child is not a toy, and you can\u2019t choose to have one just to please your loved one.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 claro que isto acontece nos dois sentidos. It\u2019s not fair to sentence someone to a childless life just because it\u2019s what you want.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Basically, there is no middle ground here. Trust me, if you aren\u2019t compatible in regards to this, neither of you will change your minds along the way.<\/p>\n

But your troubles won\u2019t end if you both agree to have children. What if one of you is happy with one child while the other dreams of having a huge family?<\/p>\n

E se tiverem pontos de vista completamente opostos sobre a paternidade e a educa\u00e7\u00e3o dos vossos filhos imagin\u00e1rios? Estas s\u00e3o as coisas que t\u00eam de discutir a seu tempo!<\/p>\n

10. Abuso<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

This should go without saying, but I\u2019ll say it anyhow: there should be zero tolerance for abuse when starting a new relationship. And it\u2019s crucial for you to make this absolutely clear to your partner!<\/strong><\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not only talking about physical abuse. I\u2019m talking about other formas de viol\u00eancia<\/a>A viol\u00eancia verbal e emocional tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 qualquer compromisso em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a este aspeto, e deve ser um dos mais importantes a evitar!<\/p>\n

11. Cren\u00e7as pol\u00edticas<\/h3>\n

Lembra-se de termos falado sobre a religi\u00e3o como um dos elementos n\u00e3o negoci\u00e1veis numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o? Pois bem, as cren\u00e7as pol\u00edticas andam muitas vezes de m\u00e3os dadas com as religiosas.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re both political, this non-negotiable shouldn\u2019t concern you much.<\/p>\n

Mas vamos l\u00e1, let\u2019s say that you\u2019re a socially-progressive liberal. Can you really picture yourself spending the rest of your life with someone who doesn\u2019t support civil rights and individual freedoms?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sim, podem concordar em discordar sobre este assunto, mas, mais cedo ou mais tarde, o vosso diferen\u00e7as pol\u00edticas<\/a> provavelmente vir\u00e1 \u00e0 tona.<\/p>\n

12. Valores morais<\/h3>\n

O mesmo se aplica \u00e0 moral valores fundamentais<\/a>. Basically, you and your partner must have the same or similar definition of what\u2019s right and what\u2019s wrong.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s what moral values are all about \u2013 a certain set of rules and guidelines you live your life by. They\u2019re the compass that you follow every day.<\/strong><\/p>\n

E se se encontrar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o com algu\u00e9m que tem um conjunto de valores fundamentais completamente diferente? No fundo, considera-a uma pessoa m\u00e1 e julga as suas op\u00e7\u00f5es de vida.<\/p>\n

13. Objectivos para o futuro<\/h3>\n

There is no doubt about one thing: you and your partner should have compatible goals for the future. Yes, it\u2019s true that nobody can predict what will happen with complete certainty. You most certainly can\u2019t know for sure whether something will get in the way of these plans.<\/p>\n

However, you can at least have similar five or ten-year plans \u2013 if you want to make your relationship work.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Isto deve incluir o local onde quer viver, o tipo de fam\u00edlia que deseja ter, os seus planos matrimoniais e, de um modo geral, o tipo de vida que aspira a construir.<\/p>\n

14. Honestidade<\/h3>\n

I\u2019m warning you: don\u2019t compromise with honesty unless you want to jeopardize your happiness, peace, and mental health. You have to be on the same page about this with your partner; otherwise, you\u2019ll find yourself facing a big problem.<\/p>\n

Make sure you both know that harsh truth is always better than a comforting lie \u2013 if you want to avoid some serious trust issues in the future.<\/strong><\/p>\n

15. Crescimento pessoal<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t be happy in a relationship, as much as you love your partner, if you\u2019re not happy with your own life. That\u2019s why you must be with someone who encourages your crescimento pessoal<\/a> e bem-estar.<\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 a pessoa que ir\u00e1 inspirar a sua amor-pr\u00f3prio<\/a> e ajudar o seu autoestima<\/a> crescer.<\/strong> Algu\u00e9m que te empurra para a frente quando mais precisas e que acredita em ti, mesmo quando perdes a f\u00e9 em ti pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Escusado ser\u00e1 dizer que isto \u00e9 v\u00e1lido para os dois lados.<\/p>\n

16. Inveja<\/h3>\n

Some people are allergic to the smallest signs of jealousy. On the other hand, some see it as a sign of love \u2013 as long as it\u2019s not unhealthy.<\/p>\n

Where do you and your partner stand on this one? Sometimes, it\u2019s about small things, such as following your exes on social media or having a best friend of the opposite sex.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even though these things might not seem like a big deal in the beginning, they can eventually cause a big fuss in your romantic relationship if you don\u2019t resolve them right away.<\/p>\n

17. Compromisso<\/h3>\n

Apesar de o compromisso ser provavelmente uma das palavras mais assustadoras da l\u00edngua inglesa no que diz respeito aos encontros modernos, continua a ser um dos elementos n\u00e3o negoci\u00e1veis mais importantes numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Actually, wait \u2013 firstly, you have to establish whether you\u2019ll call your situationship a relationship. Pode rotul\u00e1-lo,<\/a> e quando \u00e9 que isso vai acontecer?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Est\u00e3o ambos totalmente empenhados no vosso romance? O que \u00e9 que isso significa para o seu parceiro? Ambos v\u00eaem um futuro juntos?<\/p>\n

A \u00faltima coisa que queres \u00e9 sonhar com a tua felizes para sempre<\/a>, just to find out that you\u2019ve been namorar uma pessoa que tem medo de compromissos<\/a> o tempo todo.<\/p>\n

18. Intimidade<\/h3>\n

Yes, I\u2019m talking about intimidade f\u00edsica<\/a>. Let\u2019s be honest \u2013 you can\u2019t have a good relationship if things aren\u2019t working out between the sheets.<\/p>\n

Sim, isto \u00e9 algo que pode ser trabalhou em<\/a>. No entanto, \u00e9 fundamental que voc\u00ea e o seu parceiro estejam em sintonia quando se trata de intimidade.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That is, unless you want to end up spending the rest of your life with someone who has a completely different level of libido than yours. Or with someone who doesn\u2019t enjoy the same things you do.<\/p>\n

19. Abuso de subst\u00e2ncias<\/h3>\n

How do you feel about heavy drinking every once and a while? Don\u2019t get me started on anything more serious.<\/p>\n

Quer dizer, at\u00e9 os cigarros podem ser um grande problema quando se partilha a vida com algu\u00e9m, quanto mais o abuso de subst\u00e2ncias.<\/strong><\/p>\n

20. Fiabilidade<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Dependability is basically the ability to trust someone. But I\u2019m not talking about the fact that you trust your partner not to lie to you.<\/p>\n

Dependability is about being able to rely on your person, no matter the circumstances. It\u2019s about knowing they won\u2019t leave your side, whatever happens.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s knowing that you can count on them to take care of your well-being and trust them to always put you first.<\/p>\n

Among other things, it\u2019s about believing in their promises and knowing that their words will always match their actions.<\/p>\n

21. Carreira<\/h3>\n

Qual \u00e9 a import\u00e2ncia de uma carreira para ambos? Sacrificaria a sua vida amorosa por causa disso?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s say that you have to move across state for a better job. Would you leave everything behind and do it? What if you\u2019re dating someone who sees their job as a way to make ends meet and nothing else?<\/p>\n

E que tal ter filhos e come\u00e7ar uma fam\u00edlia? Algum de v\u00f3s aceitaria ser pai ou m\u00e3e que ficasse em casa? Escolheriam a vossa carreira em vez de ter filhos?<\/p>\n

Existem alguns dos quest\u00f5es profundas<\/a> \u00e9 preciso perguntar ao parceiro rom\u00e2ntico antes de iniciar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e9ria!<\/p>\n

22. Energia<\/h3>\n

I\u2019ll be honest with you: this one is the hardest to explain. But simply put, it\u2019s your intui\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> que a pessoa que est\u00e1 sentada ao seu lado \u00e9 a pessoa certa para si.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes, everything seems great from the outside, but they don\u2019t match your vibe. They don\u2019t bring positivity into your life, or you don\u2019t appreciate their sense of humor.<\/p>\n

Despite everything, you don\u2019t see yourself with this person. And that is not something you should compromise on!<\/p>\n

Como definir o que n\u00e3o \u00e9 negoci\u00e1vel numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

It\u2019s actually pretty simple to set non-negotiables in a relationship: se comunicar todos os seus problemas desde o in\u00edcio.<\/strong> Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not saying that you should ask your potential partner about their religious beliefs on the first date.<\/p>\n

However, the moment you see that you\u2019re no longer dating and that it\u2019s becoming a long-term relationship, you have to open Pandora\u2019s box.<\/p>\n

O maior problema da maioria dos casais \u00e9 o facto de se recusarem a abordar estas quest\u00f5es a tempo e de n\u00e3o serem honestos a esse respeito.<\/p>\n

I get it, you\u2019re madly in love with your boyfriend or girlfriend, and the last thing you want is to reveal that your core values are opposed to theirs. So you pretend to be someone you\u2019re not.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Or even worse, you expect that they\u2019ll change along the way.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You know that you\u2019re dating a heavy smoker. At the same time, you know you can\u2019t stand being in a room where someone smokes.<\/p>\n

But instead of talking to your significant other about this, you hope that, miraculously, they\u2019ll stop smoking one day.<\/p>\n

Of course, this is just an example of what can happen \u2013 you\u2019ve got yourself an even bigger problem when there are more important things in question, like children and finances.<\/p>\n

Em suma, a chave para resolver estes aspectos n\u00e3o negoci\u00e1veis est\u00e1 na comunica\u00e7\u00e3o!<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

The main question is: Can a couple make things work if they don\u2019t agree on non-negotiables in a relationship? I\u2019ll be honest with you and tell you that it\u2019s not likely to happen.<\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 uma daquelas situa\u00e7\u00f5es terr\u00edveis em que o amor simplesmente n\u00e3o \u00e9 suficiente<\/a>, as much as you want it to be. When there is no compatibility between two people (and that\u2019s exactly what these non-negotiable things are all about), in most cases, everything else is in vain.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n

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