If you’ve ever been a victim of an abusive relationship, then you know that the fight has just started. It’s time to heal and it’s the hardest thing of them all.<\/p>\n
As pessoas que sobrevivem ao abuso tamb\u00e9m negam algumas coisas que precisam de ser aceites para que possam sarar adequadamente.<\/p>\n
1. It wasn’t love<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\nYou’ve been stuck in it for months, maybe even years, and what you saw wasn’t love.<\/p>\n
It might be the idea of love for you now because that’s what you’ve been taught to believe. You might even be thinking about going back to your abuser the moment it all gets a bit quieter. But, no.<\/p>\n
He hurt you. He made you feel lonely and abandoned. He made you blind. It wasn’t love.<\/p>\n
Love should be caring and kind. What you’ve experienced wasn’t love. For some time now, all of you (or some part of you) might be in love with that person, but be aware that he’s unsafe and unlovable.<\/p>\n
2. It wasn’t your fault<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\nAs v\u00edtimas de abuso tendem a pensar que mereciam a dor que lhes foi infligida.<\/p>\n
Como se fossem eles os culpados por serem desobedientes ou demasiado pegajosos ou necessitados. Deves saber que esses diz-se que as mentiras o manipulam<\/a>. It’s not your fault.<\/p>\n![\"A](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/hans-ripa-523439a.jpg\")
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3. You couldn’t fix him<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\nI know that you might be thinking that if you had stayed long enough, you could’ve fixed him.<\/p>\n
He might have been telling you that if you stayed long enough, you would’ve changed him for the better. I bet he even told you that love could heal him, right? You shouldn’t be believing those things.<\/p>\n
I know that he made it quite convincing, but as much as you tried, you simply can’t fix him, as much as you tried. So accept it and stop dwelling on it. He doesn’t deserve it.<\/p>\n
4. Foi um abuso<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\nStop living in denial! It WAS abuse! To try and find ways to justify his behavior won’t help anyone.<\/p>\n
Que raz\u00e3o poderia ele ter para te fazer tudo isso? P\u00e1ra de o negar.<\/p>\n
He hit you because he wanted to. He told you you’re worthless because he wanted to. He didn’t just do it to teach you something valuable but to make you obedient and to turn you into his little punching bag.<\/p>\n
So, one more time, stop justifying his behavior and finally realize that you’ve been a victim this whole time!<\/p>\n
5. A recupera\u00e7\u00e3o demorar\u00e1 algum tempo<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\nIt can’t happen overnight. You need to know that you don’t need to recover from it right away and you can’t even if you wanted to.<\/p>\n
Vai com calma.<\/p>\n
Take your time to properly find love and respect for yourself because you won’t be able to truly love ever again if you don’t give yourself the right treatment \u2013 which is time.<\/p>\n
6. Nunca mais ser\u00e1s o mesmo<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\nYou are changed, forever. No one can fully heal and that’s what’s the worst thing about abuse!<\/p>\n
As feridas podem sarar, mas as cicatrizes permanecem. Nunca mais voltar\u00e1s a ser a mesma pessoa que eras. Recuar\u00e1s sempre que algu\u00e9m te gritar.<\/p>\n
You will start every sentence with ‘I’m sorry’ and you will fear that it’ll happen again. You won’t be able to fully trust anyone<\/a>.<\/p>\n7. It’s not the end<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
As v\u00edtimas de abuso tendem a pensar que mereciam a dor que lhes foi infligida.<\/p>\n
Como se fossem eles os culpados por serem desobedientes ou demasiado pegajosos ou necessitados. Deves saber que esses diz-se que as mentiras o manipulam<\/a>. It’s not your fault.<\/p>\n I know that you might be thinking that if you had stayed long enough, you could’ve fixed him.<\/p>\n He might have been telling you that if you stayed long enough, you would’ve changed him for the better. I bet he even told you that love could heal him, right? You shouldn’t be believing those things.<\/p>\n I know that he made it quite convincing, but as much as you tried, you simply can’t fix him, as much as you tried. So accept it and stop dwelling on it. He doesn’t deserve it.<\/p>\n Stop living in denial! It WAS abuse! To try and find ways to justify his behavior won’t help anyone.<\/p>\n Que raz\u00e3o poderia ele ter para te fazer tudo isso? P\u00e1ra de o negar.<\/p>\n He hit you because he wanted to. He told you you’re worthless because he wanted to. He didn’t just do it to teach you something valuable but to make you obedient and to turn you into his little punching bag.<\/p>\n So, one more time, stop justifying his behavior and finally realize that you’ve been a victim this whole time!<\/p>\n It can’t happen overnight. You need to know that you don’t need to recover from it right away and you can’t even if you wanted to.<\/p>\n Vai com calma.<\/p>\n Take your time to properly find love and respect for yourself because you won’t be able to truly love ever again if you don’t give yourself the right treatment \u2013 which is time.<\/p>\n You are changed, forever. No one can fully heal and that’s what’s the worst thing about abuse!<\/p>\n As feridas podem sarar, mas as cicatrizes permanecem. Nunca mais voltar\u00e1s a ser a mesma pessoa que eras. Recuar\u00e1s sempre que algu\u00e9m te gritar.<\/p>\n You will start every sentence with ‘I’m sorry’ and you will fear that it’ll happen again. You won’t be able to fully trust anyone<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n3. You couldn’t fix him<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
4. Foi um abuso<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n
5. A recupera\u00e7\u00e3o demorar\u00e1 algum tempo<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
6. Nunca mais ser\u00e1s o mesmo<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
7. It’s not the end<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n
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