{"id":156396,"date":"2022-07-26T13:10:46","date_gmt":"2022-07-26T13:10:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=156396"},"modified":"2023-04-04T09:11:04","modified_gmt":"2023-04-04T09:11:04","slug":"querer-algo-que-nao-se-pode-ter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/querer-algo-que-nao-se-pode-ter\/","title":{"rendered":"13 raz\u00f5es psicol\u00f3gicas para querer algo que n\u00e3o se pode ter"},"content":{"rendered":"

Roupas ou sapatos demasiado caros.<\/em> Uma mulher ou um homem que n\u00e3o est\u00e1 dispon\u00edvel ou est\u00e1 comprometido. Sonhos demasiado complexos para se tornarem realidade.<\/em> Wanting something you can\u2019t have at the moment can be really frustrating.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Temos tend\u00eancia a passar dias, semanas e meses a pensar numa coisa ou numa pessoa que queremos na nossa vida. Por vezes, ficamos t\u00e3o obcecados que negligenciamos todas as outras coisas que est\u00e3o a acontecer neste momento.<\/p>\n

Why do we do that? Why do we want what we can\u2019t have?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Existem explica\u00e7\u00f5es psicol\u00f3gicas para este fen\u00f3meno que s\u00e3o verdadeiramente alucinantes. Once you understand the background of your intense desire for things you can\u2019t have, your life will instantly change.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Below you\u2019ll find all the psychological reasons behind wanting something you can\u2019t have and what you can do about it.<\/p>\n

13 Psychological Explanations Of Wanting Something You Can\u2019t Have<\/h2>\n

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Do you think that having that one thing or being with that one person would change your life for the better and make you ultimately happy? Here\u2019s exactly what\u2019s going on in our minds when we want something we can\u2019t have:<\/p>\n

1. A emo\u00e7\u00e3o da persegui\u00e7\u00e3o e a inje\u00e7\u00e3o de dopamina<\/h3>\n

Every time someone you like pays attention to you or texts you, the levels of the hormone dopamine (\u201cthe happy hormone\u201d) immediately increase. You feel excited and on cloud nine.<\/p>\n

Agora, sabias que podes ficar viciado nesta inje\u00e7\u00e3o de dopamina?<\/strong> It\u2019s like being on drugs.<\/p>\n

Every time you come in contact with the object of your desire (read: your drug), you get a shot of dopamine \u2013 a shot of happiness. Assim, acabamos basicamente por perseguir a oportunidade que adv\u00e9m de perseguir algu\u00e9m de quem gostamos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A emo\u00e7\u00e3o da persegui\u00e7\u00e3o tem o poder de o tornar suscet\u00edvel a p\u00e3o ralado<\/a> (quando algu\u00e9m nos d\u00e1 aten\u00e7\u00e3o suficiente, o que nos faz querer mais).<\/p>\n

2. Refor\u00e7o do ego<\/h3>\n

Sometimes, you want what you can\u2019t have because your ego is at play. Now imagine seeing a luxury perfume, car, attractive woman or man.<\/p>\n

Nessa situa\u00e7\u00e3o, o seu ego pode for\u00e7\u00e1-lo a comprar aquela coisa ou a perseguir aquela mulher ou homem, porque precisa de alcan\u00e7ar esse sentimento de satisfa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Poder usar aquele perfume, conduzir aquele carro ou estar com aquela mulher ou homem dar-lhe-ia um impulso ao ego.<\/p>\n

Por outras palavras, sentir-se-ia poderoso, feliz e realizado. That\u2019s exactly what forces you to want and chase something you can\u2019t have.<\/strong><\/p>\n

DICA PRO:<\/strong>\u00a0Se tem este desejo incontrol\u00e1vel de se sentir sempre um vencedor, ent\u00e3o sabe que tens um problema de ego.<\/a><\/p>\n

3. O efeito de escassez<\/h3>\n

The scarcity effect is also one of the culprits for wanting something you can\u2019t have. It works on the following principle: Estamos mais interessados em procurar coisas raras (escassas) porque, na nossa mente, elas t\u00eam um valor mais elevado.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s one brilliant explanation of the efeito de escassez por Psychology Today<\/a>: \u201cScarcity functions like an obstacle to goal pursuit, which intensifies the value of the goal.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Lembro-me de quando t\u00ednhamos um pomar com centenas de macieiras. Quando colh\u00edamos toda a fruta, t\u00ednhamos uma sala inteira cheia de ma\u00e7\u00e3s. Adivinha?<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t eat a single one as long as there were so many of them. Depois de as termos vendido e comido quase todas, fiquei subitamente interessado em consumir as ma\u00e7\u00e3s.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Falando do efeito de escassez no seu melhor.<\/p>\n

4. Luta contra a baixa autoestima<\/h3>\n

Se sofre de baixa autoestima, esta pode influenciar todos os aspectos da sua vida (especialmente a sua vida amorosa). Pode prejudicar a sua sa\u00fade mental e torn\u00e1-lo frustrado, ansioso e at\u00e9 deprimido.<\/p>\n

Mulheres ou homens com baixa auto-confian\u00e7a<\/a> muitas vezes pensam que possuir algo valioso e raro os far\u00e1 sentir melhor consigo pr\u00f3prios.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Est\u00e3o convencidos de que possuir aquela coisa ou estar com aquela pessoa \u00e9 a pe\u00e7a que falta no puzzle para encontrarem o seu valor.<\/p>\n

As long as they\u2019re pursuing the object of their affection, they feel like there is hope, and their well-being is at stake.<\/p>\n

5. A atra\u00e7\u00e3o do desconhecido<\/h3>\n

Unpredictability, forbidden fruit, unknown scenarios… All these things can influence you to chase something you can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

Passamos muito tempo a pensar como nos sentiremos quando comprarmos a coisa ou conquistarmos a pessoa de quem gostamos.<\/strong> Wanting what you can\u2019t have has never been more frustrating and yet, at the same time, alluring.<\/p>\n

A atra\u00e7\u00e3o do desconhecido faz-nos pensar que a relva \u00e9 mais verde<\/a> do outro lado.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019re convinced that all the other people who own what you want are happier and more content in life than you. That\u2019s why you become so focused on pursuing that feeling.<\/p>\n

6. Procurar a autoestima<\/h3>\n

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Feeling like you\u2019re not good enough<\/a> can put you in a state of constant pursuit of self-worth. You want something you can\u2019t have because you want to feel worthy of it.<\/p>\n

O seguinte cen\u00e1rio passa-se na tua cabe\u00e7a: \u201cIf I manage to earn enough money to buy that one luxury thing or if I manage to win that attractive man or woman, my self-worth will increase.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pensa que o valor deles se tornar\u00e1 o seu valor. Ter o objeto do seu desejo f\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 sentir-se digno, poderoso e confiante.<\/p>\n

7. Idealizar o objeto de desejo<\/h3>\n

Quando idealizamos o objeto do nosso desejo, basicamente pensamos que ele \u00e9 perfeito e muito melhor do que \u00e9 na realidade. Na sua cabe\u00e7a, eles s\u00e3o EXACTAMENTE aquilo de que precisa na vida para se sentir completo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mente Muito Bem<\/a> explains idealization in the following way: \u201cA idealiza\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 um processo psicol\u00f3gico ou mental de atribuir qualidades excessivamente positivas a outra pessoa ou coisa<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n

Basically, you want something you can\u2019t have because you\u2019ve idealized that thing or person<\/strong>. You\u2019ve convinced yourself that their value is higher than it really is. That\u2019s exactly what makes you chase after it or them.<\/p>\n

8. A alegria de realizar uma fantasia<\/h3>\n

This is also known as projection. It\u2019s when you spend a considerable amount of time fantasizing about owning that thing or spending time with a certain person.<\/p>\n

A sua mente foi t\u00e3o longe quando se trata de criar essas pequenas imagens na sua cabe\u00e7a de si a beij\u00e1-los, a dar-lhes a m\u00e3o, a abra\u00e7\u00e1-los, a viajar com eles<\/strong> (if we\u2019re talking about a person).<\/p>\n

\u201cI want what I can\u2019t have because I want my fantasy to be fulfilled.\u201d<\/p>\n

9. Quanto mais inalcan\u00e7\u00e1veis forem, mais investido se torna<\/h3>\n

Sadly, we often categorize those who are unreachable as highly valuable. Here\u2019s my real-life personal example of this:<\/p>\n

Eu andava atr\u00e1s de um tipo que era emocionalmente indispon\u00edvel e, portanto, inalcan\u00e7\u00e1vel.<\/strong> The less he texted me, the more invested I became and determined to “make him reachable.\u201d<\/p>\n

Ao faz\u00ea-lo, ignorei todos os tipos simp\u00e1ticos que, na verdade, eram mais valiosos do que ele. Li\u00e7\u00e3o aprendida, segui em frente.<\/p>\n

O que eu quero que se lembre \u00e9 que o valor percebido do objeto do seu desejo est\u00e1 todo na sua cabe\u00e7a.<\/strong> Isto tamb\u00e9m pode ser conselhos valiosos sobre relacionamentos<\/a> tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

10. Procurar valida\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n

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Why do you want what you can\u2019t have? Because procura de valida\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> obriga-nos a perseguir coisas e pessoas que nos fazem sentir validados.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a simple example of this: A smart, beautiful, attractive woman or man is playing hard to get with you. V\u00ea isso como um sinal de grande valor e fica totalmente determinado a persegui-los.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Passado algum tempo, vai a um primeiro encontro, a um segundo encontro, e assim por diante. Lenta mas seguramente, come\u00e7a a conquist\u00e1-los e sente-se melhor do que nunca. Porqu\u00ea?<\/p>\n

Porque ao aceitar sair consigo, fez com que se sentisse validado.<\/strong> Faziam-nos sentir melhor porque nos aceitavam.<\/p>\n

Now let\u2019s go back to the beginning of this story. You want something you can\u2019t have because having it or being with them will make you feel validated.<\/p>\n

11. Maior concentra\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n

When someone tells you that you can\u2019t have something, do you instantly want it even more? Of course, you do. O ser humano est\u00e1 programado para desejar coisas que s\u00e3o escassas ou, de certa forma, proibidas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s where heightened focus comes into the story. This basically means that you\u2019ll spend more time thinking of something or someone you can\u2019t have than about anything else.<\/p>\n

The more you think about it, the more you\u2019ll become \u201cobsessed\u201d with it<\/strong>. Perhaps you have no idea why you even want that thing or person. You just want it because you can\u2019t have it.<\/p>\n

I know it sounds ridiculous, but it\u2019s totally true.<\/strong> The same thing applies to reverse psychology. If you want to make someone do something, just tell them they can\u2019t or shouldn\u2019t do it.<\/p>\n

12. Sentir-se amea\u00e7ado<\/h3>\n

Due to all the fantasizing about the object of your desire, you enter a state of feeling threatened about losing it. Wait, but how can you lose something or someone you don\u2019t even have?<\/p>\n

Bem, na tua mente, eles existem. Est\u00e3o consigo 24 horas por dia, 7 dias por semana, porque passa muito tempo a pensar nisso ou neles.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lembra-se muitas vezes que outra pessoa poderia comprar aquela coisa antes de si, ou que outra pessoa poderia seduzir aquele rapaz ou rapariga antes de si.<\/p>\n

The more threatened you feel, the more you want what you can\u2019t have.<\/strong> It\u2019s really impressive how our brain can play tricks on us.<\/p>\n

13. A busca da felicidade<\/h3>\n

One of the reasons you always want what you can\u2019t have is that you\u2019re pursuing happiness. You\u2019ve convinced yourself that the source of your happiness is connected with the thing or person you\u2019re interested in.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esquece-se que a felicidade \u00e9 uma escolha<\/a>. Once you stop pursuing things or people you can\u2019t have, you\u2019ll find happiness. Pursuing something you can\u2019t have can\u2019t guarantee that you\u2019ll be happy once you achieve it.<\/p>\n

After that, you\u2019ll find another thing or another person that you would want to pursue again.<\/strong> The only person who can make you happy is YOU. So, stop looking for happiness in things or people you can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

What Do You Do When You Want Something You Can’t Have?<\/h2>\n

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Do you go out of your way to own that thing or attract that person? Do you lose yourself only to pursue something you can\u2019t have? Here\u2019s what you should do when you find yourself wanting something you can\u2019t have:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Question the emotions that drive you<\/h3>\n

Why do you want something or someone you can\u2019t have? Do you think they would boost your self-esteem and make you feel more content in life? Do you wish to fulfill a fantasy?<\/em><\/p>\n

Question the emotions that drive you. Don\u2019t just fall into the trap of wanting and desiring something you can\u2019t have.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Desiring things you don\u2019t need in life means wasting your time. Unrequited love leads to inevitable heartbreak.<\/p>\n

Aqui tens uma escolha!<\/p>\n

Pode decidir n\u00e3o perseguir os seus desejos se estes o afectarem negativamente.<\/strong> Claro que sim, o que se sente \u00e9 real<\/a>, but don\u2019t let it become an everyday obsession. You deserve better than that.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Remove society\u2019s pressure and unrealistic expectations<\/h3>\n

Os nossos familiares, amigos ou a sociedade pressionam-nos frequentemente a acreditar que temos de nos comportar de determinadas formas. When we add unrealistic expectations to this, we\u2019ve got a recipe for ultimate unhappiness.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sem expectativas = sem desilus\u00f5es.<\/a> Retirar a press\u00e3o da sociedade e concentrar-se no que TU<\/strong> realmente precisam e querem na vida.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t buy things just because others are advertising them. Don\u2019t feel pressured to date others because society and those closest to you are frightening you into thinking that you\u2019ll be single forever.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pense no que quer da vida e siga o seu instinto. Desligue-se de todas as press\u00f5es e expectativas dos outros.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Practice gratitude<\/h3>\n

The reason we want things and people we can\u2019t have is that we often think we lack something in our lives.<\/p>\n

Praticar a gratid\u00e3o ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 a perceber que j\u00e1 tem muitas coisas pelas quais estar grato.<\/p>\n

Once you realize how blessed you truly are, you\u2019ll be less inclined to want something you can\u2019t have.<\/strong> You\u2019ll focus on cherishing the people and things you already have in your life.<\/p>\n

Quando comecei praticar a gratid\u00e3o<\/a>, for the first time in my life, I was surrounded by this veil of positive energy. The more I practiced it, the more complete I felt. I bet you\u2019ll feel the same way!<\/p>\n

\u2022 Keep a diary<\/h3>\n

Writing down your thoughts daily is a brilliant way to keep track of your mindset. Write down how you feel, what you\u2019re grateful for, and whatever comes to mind.<\/p>\n

By doing this, you\u2019ll be more in control of your actions. You will not let your mind wander and<\/strong> fantasize about things you can\u2019t have.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll be more \u201cin the moment,\u201d which is essential if you want to get rid of that burden of wanting something you can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Limit your time spent on social media<\/h3>\n

I\u2019m convinced that every single person on earth needs a desintoxica\u00e7\u00e3o das redes sociais<\/a> once in a while. Limiting the time spent on social media will limit the time you\u2019re exposed to things you might want but can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s one of my most recent examples:<\/strong> When I started following one online clothing store, I felt bombarded with all those beautiful summer dresses, skirts, cool T-shirts… Every time they posted something new, I immediately thought, \u201cI need that thing!\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Deep down in my heart, I knew that I couldn\u2019t buy all those things, and that\u2019s why I wanted them even more. Sabes o que \u00e9 que eu fiz?<\/strong> I unfollowed the store, and now I\u2019m living happily and peacefully.<\/p>\n

I hope my story inspired you to limit your time spent on social media or at least to unfollow the sites that make you want something you can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Cultivate self-love<\/h3>\n

When you want something you can\u2019t have, this is often connected with a lack of self-love. In a nutshell, you\u2019re looking for things and people who will make you feel better and happier.<\/p>\n

Isto nunca acontece. A \u00fanica forma segura de alcan\u00e7ar a felicidade \u00e9 atrav\u00e9s de aumentar o seu amor-pr\u00f3prio<\/a>Passar tempo com os seus entes queridos e trabalhar em si pr\u00f3prio.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Em vez de procurar coisas ou pessoas que o completem, complete-se a si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Instead Of Wanting Something You Can\u2019t Have, Focus On What\u2019s Good For You.<\/h2>\n

Wanting something you can\u2019t have can be overcome if you\u2019re really determined and willing. The easiest way to fight these tiring feelings of desiring things and people you can\u2019t have is by focusing on what\u2019s good for you.<\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o as coisas e quem s\u00e3o as pessoas que acrescentam valor real \u00e0 sua vida?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t just want something because you can\u2019t have it. Want something because it\u2019s good for you.<\/em><\/p>\n

That\u2019s the secret to true happiness and ser livre<\/a> dos vossos pr\u00f3prios desejos.<\/p>\n

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Clothes or shoes that are too expensive. A woman or a man who is unavailable or taken. Dreams that are too complex to become a reality. Wanting something you can\u2019t have at the moment can be really frustrating. We tend to spend days, weeks, and months thinking about a thing or a person we want…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":156400,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29636],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-156396","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-help"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29636,"label":"self help"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/13-Psychological-Reasons-Behind-Wanting-Something-You-Cant-Have-1024x683.jpg",1024,683,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29636,"name":"self help","slug":"self-help","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29636,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","parent":22911,"count":314,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29636,"category_count":314,"category_description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","cat_name":"self help","category_nicename":"self-help","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/156396","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=156396"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/156396\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/156400"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=156396"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=156396"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=156396"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}