{"id":156423,"date":"2022-07-27T10:10:07","date_gmt":"2022-07-27T10:10:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=156423"},"modified":"2023-04-03T06:01:37","modified_gmt":"2023-04-03T06:01:37","slug":"como-lidar-com-um-amor-nao-correspondido","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-lidar-com-um-amor-nao-correspondido\/","title":{"rendered":"Como lidar com um amor n\u00e3o correspondido? Experimente estas 7 dicas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Unrequited love hurts. It’s easy to talk about \u2018plenty more fish in the sea\u2019 or some similar clich\u00e9 when you’re not the one who’s in pain. Taking this advice and moving on is far more difficult when it’s you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Como lidar com um amor n\u00e3o correspondido e curar o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido? When the person you love doesn\u2019t return your feelings, you go through feelings of loss and grief<\/strong>. Pode ser t\u00e3o doloroso como uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o e ultrapass\u00e1-la pode ser igualmente dif\u00edcil.<\/p>\n

Apaixonar-se por algu\u00e9m que n\u00e3o demonstra qualquer interesse em si ou que o rejeita abertamente pode faz\u00ea-lo questionar o seu valor e deixar uma cicatriz permanente na sua autoestima.<\/strong> O amor n\u00e3o rec\u00edproco pode resultar em stress ou mesmo em traumas e fazer com que se sinta pouco am\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

Eis algumas dicas \u00fateis para lidar com estes sentimentos.<\/p>\n

Como lidar com o amor n\u00e3o correspondido e acabar com a dor<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Muitas pessoas passam por um amor n\u00e3o correspondido pelo menos uma vez na vida. \u00c9 prov\u00e1vel que se lembre de mais do que uma can\u00e7\u00e3o ou filme que fale de sentimentos rom\u00e2nticos rejeitados e the pain of unrequited love \u2013 it\u2019s a common part of the human experience.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even though figuring out how to deal with unrequited love, the love that simply wasn\u2019t meant to be, is so often the subject of art, when you\u2019re actually going through it, it doesn\u2019t feel romantic or poetic. The pain you feel when you give your heart to someone and they don\u2019t want it can be so intense that you feel actual physical pain.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Eis algumas sugest\u00f5es para o ajudar a lidar com a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

1. Escolher seguir em frente<\/h3>\n

Hope is what keeps us going. When the world seems dark, if a human being has hope, it\u2019s possible to move forward. Mas a esperan\u00e7a \u00e9, por vezes, o oposto do que precisamos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A significant part of being in love is wishing for the other person to love you back. It happens to everyone \u2013 you get a crush, then you give yourself permission to hope they\u2019ll like you back, so you let your feelings grow. If they don\u2019t seem that interested, you have two choices: pode continuar a ter esperan\u00e7a ou pode seguir em frente<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you keep dwelling and hoping that they will come around, you\u2019re only prolonging your heartache. Por muito que queiramos acreditar que eles possam sentir o mesmo, sabemos sempre quando essa esperan\u00e7a \u00e9 v\u00e3.<\/strong> Os sinais est\u00e3o todos l\u00e1, s\u00f3 tem de escolher aceit\u00e1-los.<\/p>\n

When the object of your affection doesn\u2019t return your feelings, you have to be the one to love yourself.<\/strong> Unfortunately, the kind of love you need to give yourself at first is tough love. You must be honest with yourself and choose to leave behind the feelings that are just hurting you and do what\u2019s best for yourself.<\/p>\n

2. Respeitar a sua decis\u00e3o<\/h3>\n

Quando uma pessoa gosta de algu\u00e9m, ela diz-lhe isso. If your love was reciprocated, you wouldn\u2019t have to dissect their every move for hints of feelings and crumbs of hope.<\/strong> A parte mais dif\u00edcil de lidar com um amor n\u00e3o correspondido<\/a> is accepting that the other person doesn\u2019t love you back.<\/p>\n

Love can\u2019t be forced, and trying to do it hurts both of you. If you try to convince your love interest to accept your feelings, the most likely result is that you\u2019ll push them away completely<\/strong>. Being persistent when someone rejects you isn\u2019t romantic, despite what the media tells you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s extremely important to remember that whether they love you back or not has nothing to do with you.<\/strong> Don\u2019t think that you have to change something about yourself to make them love you. You\u2019ll only lose yourself in the process if you try to do it and you won\u2019t gain their love.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s nothing you can do to change their feelings, so accepting their decision is the kindest thing you can do for yourself. Quanto mais cedo seguires em frente, mais cedo poder\u00e1s encontrar algu\u00e9m que te ame tal como \u00e9s.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. Sente a tua dor<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s undeniable that rejection hurts. O desgosto de ver os seus sentimentos negados<\/a> causa uma verdadeira ang\u00fastia<\/strong>. Accepting that your feelings aren\u2019t reciprocated can cause the same pain like ending a romantic relationship.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o s\u00f3 estava emocionalmente envolvido, como o seu sentido de autoestima pode ser abalado pela rejei\u00e7\u00e3o. Let yourself feel the pain you\u2019re experiencing<\/strong>. Don\u2019t try to save face or keep your cool by pretending that you\u2019re okay.<\/p>\n

Loneliness, disappointment, anger, shame \u2013 all of these feelings are normal when you\u2019re heartbroken<\/strong>. Allow yourself to feel them, but don\u2019t let them overwhelm you. Be kind and understanding with yourself while you\u2019re going through the pain.<\/p>\n

Feelings have no shortcuts, and they won\u2019t go away just because you want them to. Dependendo da intensidade do vosso amor, pode demorar algum tempo<\/strong>. Give yourself as much time as you need to feel better, but make sure you don\u2019t allow these emotions to take you down.<\/p>\n

If you let yourself fully experience your feelings while focusing on getting better, soon enough you\u2019ll be able to move on.<\/p>\n

4. Distanciar-se da outra pessoa<\/h3>\n

Esta \u00e9 a \u00fanica maneira de o deixar ir. A chave \u00e9 n\u00e3o ficar por perto e manter a esperan\u00e7a. If they\u2019re always around, you won\u2019t have a chance to get over them.<\/strong> If you\u2019re close, stop hanging out and talking to them, at least until you\u2019re feeling better. In a situation like this, things might be a little more complicated than in the case of a breakup.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re friends, it might be awkward to block them and unfollow them on social media, especially if you haven\u2019t told them about your feelings and you intend to keep them in your life. A rejei\u00e7\u00e3o pode doer ainda mais do que uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o, mas mesmo assim pode querer continuar a ser amigo dessa pessoa.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your solutions are to either talk to them and tell them you need some distance for a while, choosing whether or not to tell them why, or do it without them being aware of what’s going on. A forma como decide distanciar-se<\/a> depende do grau de proximidade entre voc\u00eas e se querem ou n\u00e3o continuar a t\u00ea-los na vossa vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. Encontrar distrac\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Feeling your feelings is necessary, but don\u2019t let them take over your life. D\u00ea a si pr\u00f3prio algum tempo para processar tudo sem ficar a pensar ou chafurdar na autocomisera\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a><\/strong>. Instead, do things that are interesting enough to make you forget all about what\u2019s happening.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re hurting, it can seem that nothing can help, and this is when mindless scrolling through whatever is trending on TikTok or Twitter might be helpful, but it\u2019s much better to find something more productive to distract you. O objetivo \u00e9 fazer algo que o fa\u00e7a sentir-se melhor consigo pr\u00f3prio.<\/strong><\/p>\n

For example, after a couple of hours on Instagram, you\u2019ll feel like you\u2019ve wasted that time, but after a couple of hours at the gym, you\u2019ll feel energized, accomplished and relaxed. Even if you\u2019re not normally into working out, doing any kind of physical activity will help distract you from your feelings.<\/p>\n

Os efeitos do exerc\u00edcio na sa\u00fade mental s\u00e3o bem conhecidos e, se encontrar algo que realmente goste de fazer, pode ser uma distra\u00e7\u00e3o fant\u00e1stica. If you prefer other ways of relaxing your mind, make sure it\u2019s not something that will make you feel worse.<\/strong> Em vez disso, mantenha-se ocupado com uma atividade que aumente o seu bem-estar emocional.<\/p>\n

6. Pedir ajuda<\/h3>\n

While you\u2019re dealing with your heartbreak, you must focus on your own well-being.<\/p>\n

Instead of dwelling on the fact that your feelings weren\u2019t returned, do everything you can to move on.<\/strong> At first, when your feelings are at their most painful, it might seem impossible, but if you let yourself feel them, gradually they\u2019ll become bearable enough that you can focus on yourself.<\/p>\n

A dist\u00e2ncia e as distrac\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o necess\u00e1rias para seguir em frente, e os seus entes queridos podem proporcionar ambas e muito mais. O simples facto de saber que pode falar com algu\u00e9m pode trazer-lhe paz de esp\u00edrito<\/strong>. Quando se partilham os problemas, o seu peso diminui.<\/p>\n

Ter um ombro para chorar ou algu\u00e9m que simplesmente esteja presente quando se precisa dele pode ser um grande apoio.<\/p>\n

If there\u2019s no one you can openly talk to about your feelings and you feel like you need it, don\u2019t run away from asking for professional help. Um conselheiro pode ajud\u00e1-lo a lidar com os seus sentimentos e a recuperar mais rapidamente.<\/strong> Podem ser especialmente \u00fateis se sentir que a sua autoestima foi afetada.<\/p>\n

7. Trabalhar a sua autoestima<\/h3>\n

A rejei\u00e7\u00e3o pode realmente abalar o nosso sentido de identidade e fazer-nos questionar o nosso valor. Pode ser muito dif\u00edcil n\u00e3o levar as coisas para o lado pessoal.<\/strong> When someone you love doesn\u2019t love you back, you can get lost in believing that there\u2019s something wrong with you.<\/p>\n

You must pay close attention to any feelings of inadequacy and low self-worth that might come from this experience and stop them before they take root. Don\u2019t get stuck on thinking about the reasons you were rejected. We can\u2019t control other people\u2019s feelings, only our reactions to them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The fact that the person you have feelings for doesn\u2019t have anything to do about your value as a person. Heartbreak can make you doubt that you are valuable and lovable, so at this point it\u2019s very important not to lose sight of your own worth.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Desafie todos os pensamentos negativos que possa estar a ter. Seja gentil e encorajador consigo pr\u00f3prio.<\/strong> Accepting that the other person doesn\u2019t feel the same as you can be painful, but once you realize that you\u2019re perfectly lovable, and they\u2019re simply not right for you, things will look up.<\/p>\n

RELACIONADO: 50 cita\u00e7\u00f5es inspiradoras sobre autoestima que v\u00e3o aumentar a sua confian\u00e7a (e fazer o seu dia)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 realmente um amor n\u00e3o correspondido<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

What\u2019s love in the first place? O amor \u00e9 uma escolha.<\/strong> It can be a complicated and unconscious choice, but it\u2019s a choice nonetheless.<\/p>\n

Antes de entrar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o com algu\u00e9m, tudo o que existe \u00e9 uma possibilidade. When you\u2019re looking for love, anyone can seem like a potential partner.<\/strong> Achamos certas coisas atraentes, por isso, quando conhecemos algu\u00e9m que preenche todos (ou suficientes) os requisitos, tomamos consci\u00eancia da possibilidade e escolhemos essa pessoa como interesse amoroso.<\/p>\n

This is what you\u2019d call a crush, attraction or infatuation.<\/strong> At this point, you want the other person to notice you, pay more attention to you or show interest \u2013 basically, you want them to like you back.<\/p>\n

I can tell you with certainty that what you\u2019re feeling at this moment isn\u2019t love, although it sure feels like it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O verdadeiro amor tem a ver com ac\u00e7\u00f5es, n\u00e3o com sentimentos. Tem de crescer e desenvolver-se. It\u2019s when you learn to care about each other\u2019s well-being and develop emotional intimacy.<\/strong> O amor \u00e9 decidir todos os dias fazer um esfor\u00e7o, construir a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e deixar que ela vos enrique\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

So why does it hurt so bad if it isn\u2019t really love?<\/h3>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter what it\u2019s called when the feelings are strong, but being aware that it\u2019s infatuation rather than love can make it a little easier to deal with the aftermath of rejection.<\/p>\n

When you long for love, if you recognize or imagine potential in someone to be the one you love, they can feel like they\u2019re everything you ever wanted.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t know someone on an intimate level, the combination of attraction and fantasies about the relationship you could have with them can make you want it badly. Enough that if they fail to accept you, your feelings of expectation, hope and desire can be deeply injured.<\/p>\n

O amor n\u00e3o correspondido \u00e9 uma desilus\u00e3o por ter feito a escolha errada, e n\u00e3o ser escolhido em troca<\/a>.<\/strong> Pensou que essa pessoa por quem se sentia atra\u00eddo seria boa para si e, por isso, gastou muita energia a pensar e a planear o seu futuro.<\/p>\n

Isto pode aplicar-se \u00e0 sua liga\u00e7\u00e3o a qualquer pessoa na sua vida, n\u00e3o apenas \u00e0s rela\u00e7\u00f5es rom\u00e2nticas, mas manifesta-se de formas diferentes. Da mesma forma que conhecemos algu\u00e9m que achamos que seria um bom parceiro, podemos conhecer algu\u00e9m que consideramos um bom candidato a amigo.<\/p>\n

No entanto, your emotional investment in the relationship isn\u2019t the same<\/strong>, so the consequences of someone you\u2019d like to be friends with not returning the sentiment aren\u2019t the same as unreciprocated romantic feelings. The bottom line is that you\u2019ve invested a lot into your expectations and fantasies coming true.<\/p>\n

RELACIONADO: Status de amor unilateral: 140+ Cita\u00e7\u00f5es comoventes para cora\u00e7\u00f5es solit\u00e1rios<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que o amor n\u00e3o correspondido acontece?<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Frankly, unrequited love can happen to anyone, and to a lot of people it does. So if you\u2019re so lovable, why doesn\u2019t the other person love you back?<\/p>\n

The reason why your love isn\u2019t returned depends on who it is you\u2019ve fallen for, and it diz mais sobre a forma como escolhe os parceiros do que sobre quem \u00e9 a outra pessoa.<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. If it\u2019s a friend<\/h3>\n

Os amigos s\u00e3o preciosos e a maioria das pessoas diria que adora os seus amigos mais pr\u00f3ximos. So why doesn\u2019t your friend you\u2019ve fallen in love with love you back?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Apaixonar-se por um amigo<\/a> \u00e9 muito comum. De facto, o amor n\u00e3o correspondido acontece mais frequentemente entre amigos.<\/strong> As pessoas apaixonam-se pelos seus amigos porque j\u00e1 existem sentimentos calorosos quando se apercebem que o seu amigo tem potencial para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica.<\/p>\n

Qualquer atra\u00e7\u00e3o que possa ter estado a reprimir surge quando se apercebe que pensa que outra coisa \u00e9 poss\u00edvel<\/strong>. Falling for your best friend and having them love you back would be like a fairy tale, and sure, it happens. The problem is when the other person doesn\u2019t feel the same way.<\/p>\n

What to do when you\u2019re in love with a friend?<\/h4>\n

When you\u2019re in this situation, deciding what to do can be very difficult. Dependendo do quanto se preocupa com a sua amizade, decidir se deve ou n\u00e3o contar-lhe pode ser arriscado<\/strong>. If they don\u2019t see you the same way, what will happen to your friendship?<\/p>\n

Letting your friend know you\u2019re in love with them might cause a lot of embarrassment and awkwardness<\/strong>. Choosing what to do next is another problem \u2013 do you keep hanging out, or do you keep your distance? What if you want to stay friends despite everything?<\/p>\n

A melhor maneira de agir \u00e9 falar abertamente com o seu amigo. I recommend keeping away for a while, at least until you\u2019re not hurting because of the rejection any more<\/strong>. Diga-lhes como se sente e que precisa de algum tempo, mas que quer mant\u00ea-los na sua vida.<\/p>\n

Depois de o pior ter passado, podem continuar a vossa amizade, mas tenham muito cuidado com as vossas expectativas. Don\u2019t cling to the hope that they will change their mind<\/strong>. Isto s\u00f3 te est\u00e1 a preparar para mais desgostos.<\/p>\n

2. If it\u2019s someone you don\u2019t know well<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019re in love with someone you\u2019ve met recently, in person or on a dating app, your feelings of love might be premature. You\u2019re very likely projecting your fantasies of a perfect partner on this person.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Some people believe in love at first sight, some don\u2019t. Whatever your beliefs, it\u2019s only true love if it\u2019s mutual.<\/strong> So if you\u2019re experiencing feelings for someone you don\u2019t know well enough to be able to appreciate who they really are as a person, it\u2019s more likely that you\u2019re not really in love with them.<\/p>\n

In this case, you\u2019re probably seeing in them what you want to see.<\/strong> We all have a picture of an ideal partner we would love to have, and when someone comes along who might have some basic qualities that remind you of that fantasy partner, it\u2019s easy to assign them all other characteristics in our imagination.<\/p>\n

A maneira mais f\u00e1cil de ultrapassar uma pessoa assim \u00e9 v\u00ea-la como ela realmente \u00e9. They might be a great person, but not the person you\u2019ve imagined.<\/strong> Once you realize that the person you love doesn\u2019t actually exist inside the object of your affection, dealing with your feelings might be easier.<\/p>\n

3. If it\u2019s someone unavailable<\/h3>\n

Apaixonar-se por algu\u00e9m que se sabe que n\u00e3o est\u00e1 dispon\u00edvel pode ser um sinal de uma doen\u00e7a estilo de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>. Tem de perceber porque \u00e9 que deixa os seus sentimentos crescerem sabendo que \u00e9 imposs\u00edvel ter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel com a outra pessoa.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If the other person is in a committed relationship they don\u2019t want to leave, if it\u2019s someone in a position of power, someone who has different priorities, someone unreachable \u2013 pergunte a si pr\u00f3prio porque \u00e9 que se apaixonou por eles se j\u00e1 sabia qual era a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Think about whether you fall for unavailable people often and if there\u2019s a reason why it happens. Sometimes people don\u2019t believe they deserve love so they only look for partners who are toxic or unavailable.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se acha que pode ter problemas como este, a melhor op\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 falar com um profissional. They can help you identify the reasons why you fall in love with those people and help you solve the issues you\u2019re fighting<\/strong>para que comeces a escolher parceiros que te amem de volta.<\/p>\n

No encerramento<\/h2>\n

It\u2019s heartbreaking when you love someone and they don\u2019t return your feelings. O efeito que pode ter no seu bem-estar emocional e mental \u00e9 significativo<\/strong>. You spend time wondering why they can\u2019t just love you back and it\u2019s easy to come to a conclusion that you\u2019re the problem.<\/p>\n

Before this causes permanent damage, it\u2019s helpful to learn how to deal with unrequited love in a healthy way.<\/strong> Pining from afar or trying to get the other person to change your mind are both damaging. Unless you move forward, you won\u2019t be able to find someone who appreciates you for who you are.<\/p>\n

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