{"id":156586,"date":"2022-08-01T08:43:24","date_gmt":"2022-08-01T08:43:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=156586"},"modified":"2023-03-27T06:40:34","modified_gmt":"2023-03-27T06:40:34","slug":"porque-e-que-os-encontros-sao-tao-dificeis-para-os-homens","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/porque-e-que-os-encontros-sao-tao-dificeis-para-os-homens\/","title":{"rendered":"Por que \u00e9 t\u00e3o dif\u00edcil para os homens namorar? 15 raz\u00f5es que abrem os olhos"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Guys need to make the first move. Guys need to compete with other guys for a woman\u2019s attention. Guys need to be gentlemen and good at texting.<\/em> <strong>Ent\u00e3o, porque \u00e9 que os encontros s\u00e3o t\u00e3o dif\u00edceis para os homens? A s\u00e9rio? ?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>A minha opini\u00e3o pessoal \u00e9 que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/e-por-isto-que-odeio-tanto-os-encontros-modernos\/\">encontros modernos<\/a> n\u00e3o \u00e9 apenas dif\u00edcil para os homens, mas tamb\u00e9m para as mulheres. <strong>Well, today we\u2019ll specifically focus on men, expectations from society as well as females expectations, plenty of unwritten rules, and stereotypes.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re a man or a female trying to understand men, this article will help you see the bigger picture of dating as a man. Are you ready? I bet you are!<\/p>\n<h2>Porque \u00e9 que os encontros s\u00e3o t\u00e3o dif\u00edceis para os homens?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-156595 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend.jpg\" alt=\"homem sorridente a mostrar algo no telem\u00f3vel \u00e0 namorada\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-1200x795.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-1536x1018.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-735x487.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-335x222.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-347x230.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-520x345.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-640x424.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-150x99.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Aplica\u00e7\u00f5es de encontros, a press\u00e3o para iniciar tudo, lidar com o facto de se fazer de dif\u00edcil, \u00e9 tudo. Aqui est\u00e1 a lista de raz\u00f5es que abrem os olhos porque \u00e9 que os encontros s\u00e3o t\u00e3o dif\u00edceis para os homens:<\/p>\n<h3>1. A press\u00e3o de ser o iniciador<\/h3>\n<p>Dating is hard but it\u2019s even harder if you feel like you need to be the initiator of (almost) everything. <strong>There\u2019s this unwritten rule that guys are supposed to make the first move or initiate sex.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Seriously? Are we stuck in the 19th century? I bet there are some exceptions to this (well, I hope there are) but this doesn\u2019t make it less serious.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Tanto a cultura do engate como as rela\u00e7\u00f5es de longa dura\u00e7\u00e3o giram em torno da ideia de que os rapazes devem ser os iniciadores dos encontros, das actividades e de muitas outras coisas<\/strong> in a relationship. It\u2019s not easy to deal with such pressure (especially on the first date).<\/p>\n<p>So, here\u2019s one <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/conselhos-de-namoro-para-homens\/\">os melhores conselhos de namoro para homens<\/a>: You\u2019re not supposed to be initiators of everything. It\u2019s okay to sometimes wait for the girl to make the first move.<\/p>\n<h3>2. As mulheres n\u00e3o est\u00e3o a facilitar as coisas, fazendo-se de dif\u00edceis<\/h3>\n<p>Pessoalmente, conhe\u00e7o muitas mulheres que v\u00eaem o facto de se fazerem de dif\u00edceis como a principal ferramenta de namoro para fazer com que um homem se interesse mais por elas.<strong> I agree that we shouldn\u2019t make it too easy allowing a man to deserve our attention, but <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/fazer-se-de-dificil-faz-com-que-ele-perca-o-interesse\/\">jogar duro para conseguir \u00e9 superestimado<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Por vezes, os homens ficam confusos com este jogo chamado \"fazer-se de dif\u00edcil\" (especialmente se continuar durante muito tempo)<strong>. They\u2019re not really sure whether the girl is interested or if she\u2019s only pretending not to be interested so that he will become more interested.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>LOL! ?<\/p>\n<p><strong>I think I\u2019ve been hit by a mini-stroke just by writing this.<\/strong> Agora pense no que os homens t\u00eam de passar diariamente com mulheres que se fazem de dif\u00edceis.<\/p>\n<h3>3. Levar a rejei\u00e7\u00e3o a peito<\/h3>\n<p>H\u00e1 muitas pessoas que levam a rejei\u00e7\u00e3o para o lado pessoal e, no que diz respeito ao mundo dos encontros, \u00e9 mais prov\u00e1vel que os homens sintam isso do que as mulheres. Porqu\u00ea?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Because men are \u201csupposed to be the initiators\u201d, right?<\/strong> Dado que sentem a press\u00e3o de serem os primeiros a abordar uma mulher, enfrentam mais rejei\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n<p><strong>E, muitas vezes, levam estas rejei\u00e7\u00f5es a peito (sobretudo se come\u00e7am a multiplicar-se).<\/strong> Come\u00e7am a pensar que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o suficientemente bons ou que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o suficientemente masculinos. A sua autoestima come\u00e7a a diminuir e as inseguran\u00e7as a aumentar.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s how <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/lifetime-connections\/201805\/rejection-when-it-hurts-men-more-it-should\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Psicologia Hoje<\/a> apoia este argumento:<em><strong> \u201cMales tend to take rejection as a challenge to their masculinity or an insult to their perceived place in the social hierarchy.<\/strong> Women are likely to feel emotionally hurt by a rejection and to assume that there is something lacking in them that warranted the rejection or blame the person who did the rejecting but use self-soothing to get over the insult rather than lashing out as males might do.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>To summarize, here\u2019s one of <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/regras-de-namoro\/\">as regras fundamentais do namoro<\/a>: Don\u2019t take rejection too personally.<\/p>\n<h3>4. Competi\u00e7\u00e3o constante com outros homens<\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-156593 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar.jpg\" alt=\"homem encontra mulher pela primeira vez num bar\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar-1200x795.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar-1536x1018.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar-735x487.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar-335x222.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar-347x230.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar-520x345.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar-640x424.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-meeting-woman-for-first-time-in-bar-150x99.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Um carro mais caro, um emprego melhor, melhores capacidades, mais m\u00fasculos? Estas s\u00e3o apenas algumas das coisas pelas quais os homens est\u00e3o constantemente a competir com outros homens. <strong>I\u2019m even convinced that they aren\u2019t even aware of it because it happens on a subconscious level.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Assim, quando um homem gosta de uma mulher e ela tem muitos outros homens que a cortejam, ele sentir-se-\u00e1 ainda mais pressionado a competir com a concorr\u00eancia. Quem \u00e9 que podemos culpar por isto? O universo? ?<\/p>\n<p><strong>It\u2019s true that competitive nature is mostly innate in men and it\u2019s only making their dating harder.<\/strong> Men have this urge to prove to their chosen female and the rest of the world that they are stronger, better, and more successful than other men. It\u2019s just how it is.<\/p>\n<h3>5. Os homens n\u00e3o s\u00e3o t\u00e3o bons comunicadores como as mulheres<\/h3>\n<p>No shit, Sherlock, right? ? If you\u2019re a woman reading this, how many times have you talked to a guy who is really bad at communicating? <strong>Eu tive uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com um homem que era um p\u00e9ssimo comunicador.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s the truth. Men are not as good communicators as women and because of that, they struggle more in dating.<\/p>\n<p>Na maioria das vezes, os homens sentem-se assim: <em>What am I supposed to say now? What would she want me to say or do? What if I\u2019m doing something wrong? <\/em>Oh no, I have no idea what she\u2019s talking about.<\/p>\n<p><strong>A \u00fanica coisa que poderia resolver esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o seria as mulheres tornarem-se leitoras de mentes ou os homens melhorarem as suas capacidades sociais na vida amorosa.<\/strong> Duvido, de alguma forma, que esta \u00faltima situa\u00e7\u00e3o se venha a verificar em breve.<\/p>\n<h3>6. Utiliza\u00e7\u00e3o excessiva de humor, piadas e frases de engate<\/h3>\n<p>Dado que os homens n\u00e3o s\u00e3o t\u00e3o bons comunicadores, muitas vezes exageram com humor, piadas ou frases de engate terr\u00edveis.<strong> I\u2019ve realized that men speak mostly through humor (especially those who are emotionally unavailable).<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Por vezes, na tentativa de fazer uma mulher rir, fazem-na sentir-se confusa e chocada por usar demasiado humor.<\/p>\n<p>Lembro-me de um dos meus amigos homens que passou um dia inteiro \u00e0 procura das melhores frases de engate para abordar uma rapariga de quem gostava.<strong> I told him that he shouldn\u2019t make such a big of a deal about making the first move but he insisted on making a fool out of himself. ?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ent\u00e3o, quando chegou a altura de dizer a sua famosa frase de engate, ele come\u00e7ou a murmurar e a rapariga desatou logo a rir. Pobre rapaz. Ainda hoje tenho pena dele.<\/p>\n<h3>7. Lidar com manipula\u00e7\u00f5es e jogos<\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-156592 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train.jpg\" alt=\"homem a olhar para mulher no comboio\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-735x491.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-335x224.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-347x232.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-520x347.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-640x427.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-1280x854.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-looking-at-woman-in-train-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ghosting, crossing boundaries, emotional blackmailing&#8230; These are some of the manipulative methods men (and women) have to deal with when dating or in serious relationships.<\/p>\n<p>Ent\u00e3o porque \u00e9 que os encontros s\u00e3o t\u00e3o dif\u00edceis para os rapazes (ou raparigas)?<strong> As manipula\u00e7\u00f5es e os jogos s\u00e3o o n\u00famero um <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/10-sinais-de-alerta-de-encontros-que-o-devem-fazer-fugir\/\">bandeira vermelha do namoro<\/a> many men notice when it\u2019s too late.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>And let\u2019s be honest. Modern dating abounds with tons of manipulative methods that were simply unknown before, during vintage dating times. For example, back then social media didn\u2019t exist so no one could choose not to text back for days or leave someone on \u201cSeen\u201d.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Estes m\u00e9todos e outros semelhantes s\u00e3o muito utilizados hoje em dia como um m\u00e9todo de jogo duro para fazer com que os homens (e as mulheres) persigam o objeto do seu afeto.<\/strong> Does it work? In most cases, it does, but it\u2019s making dating so hard, toxic, and unnecessarily complicated.<\/p>\n<h3>8. Ter expectativas irrealistas na cama devido \u00e0 pornografia<\/h3>\n<p>Porque \u00e9 que os encontros s\u00e3o t\u00e3o dif\u00edceis para os homens? Bem, uma das coisas que tamb\u00e9m podemos culpar por isso \u00e9 o conte\u00fado pornogr\u00e1fico. Sim, leu bem.<strong> As a matter of fact, let\u2019s not make this only about guys because women watch porn as well.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But given that we\u2019re talking about dating as a man today, we\u2019ll solely focus on explaining things from their perspective. So, having unrealistic expectations in bed due to watching too much pornography has become trending.<\/p>\n<p><strong>That\u2019s when men start to think that regular females should behave in bed the same way as they have seen females behave in porn.<\/strong> Isto parece um pouco irrealista? Aposto que sim. E adivinha? \u00c9 isto que torna os encontros t\u00e3o dif\u00edceis para os homens.<\/p>\n<h3>9. Dealing with stereotypes such as \u201cAll men are the same\u201d<\/h3>\n<p>Raise your hand if you have ever (at least once in your life) heard a female say something like: \u201cNah, all men are the same\u201d. Seriously?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Como \u00e9 que todos os homens podem ser iguais?<\/strong> Was there ever research that suggests every single man on earth has the same mindset and behavior? I don\u2019t think so.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Este estere\u00f3tipo faz com que seja dif\u00edcil para muitos homens e mulheres confiarem uns nos outros.<\/strong> Haver\u00e1 sempre homens e mulheres que s\u00e3o t\u00f3xicos e aqueles que s\u00e3o o material perfeito para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Acontece apenas que estes \u00faltimos s\u00e3o uma minoria.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Por esse motivo, muitas mulheres pensam que os homens s\u00e3o todos iguais<\/strong>. Not all hope is lost! Here\u2019s one of the <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/11-habitos-de-namoro-da-velha-guarda-que-deviamos-trazer-de-volta-a-vida\/\">h\u00e1bitos de namoro da velha guarda<\/a> que podem ajudar os homens quando se trata de encontros: Deixar claras as suas inten\u00e7\u00f5es desde o primeiro dia.<\/p>\n<h3>10. O desafio de ser um cavalheiro<\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-156591 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman.jpg\" alt=\"homem a beijar a m\u00e3o de uma mulher\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-735x491.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-335x224.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-347x232.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-520x347.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-640x427.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-1280x854.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-kissing-hand-of-a-woman-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s not fool ourselves. Every woman wants a man to make her feel like she\u2019s the only woman in the world (in a literal sense, of course).<\/p>\n<p><strong>Because of that, many women forget that real life doesn\u2019t work like that. As they are <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/homem-unicornio-2\/\">\u00e0 procura de um homem unic\u00f3rnio<\/a>, os seus padr\u00f5es tornam-se irrealistas.<\/strong> E, por outro lado, h\u00e1 homens que se esfor\u00e7am por ser verdadeiros cavalheiros.<\/p>\n<p>Espera, porque \u00e9 que os encontros s\u00e3o t\u00e3o dif\u00edceis para os homens? Talvez porque os meios de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o social, juntamente com outros promotores de um homem perfeito, estejam a criar uma imagem distorcida de um homem real.<\/p>\n<p>Os homens est\u00e3o literalmente presos entre dois desafios:<strong> O desafio de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ser-um-cavalheiro-nunca-passa-de-moda-eis-os-homens-que-sabem-disso\/\">ser um cavalheiro<\/a> e o desafio de ser perfeito.<\/strong> Muitas vezes, os cavalheiros deixam de ser apreciados devido a esta busca imagin\u00e1ria da perfei\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<h3>11. Os homens n\u00e3o s\u00e3o t\u00e3o bons a enviar mensagens de texto como as mulheres<\/h3>\n<p>Atualmente, namorar com um jovem requer um certo conjunto de compet\u00eancias, das quais uma das mais importantes \u00e9 a capacidade de enviar mensagens de texto. Mas e se eu lhe disser que os homens n\u00e3o s\u00e3o t\u00e3o bons a enviar mensagens de texto como as mulheres?<\/p>\n<p><strong>As mulheres n\u00e3o s\u00f3 s\u00e3o melhores comunicadoras do que os homens na vida real, como tamb\u00e9m no mundo virtual.<\/strong> Na maior parte das vezes, os homens n\u00e3o fazem ideia de como utilizar esses emojis, qual o comprimento de texto adequado para o momento, e coisas do g\u00e9nero.<\/p>\n<p>Todas estas coisas aparentemente pequenas afectam muito a sua vida amorosa.<strong> I know a lot of men who think it\u2019s totally okay to leave someone on \u201cRead\u201d because they didn\u2019t have time to respond at the moment.<\/strong> Por outras palavras, os homens tamb\u00e9m s\u00e3o conhecidos por serem p\u00e9ssimos executores de tarefas m\u00faltiplas, o que tamb\u00e9m se reflecte no seu namoro.<\/p>\n<h3>12. The curse of being a \u201cnice guy\u201d<\/h3>\n<p>It\u2019s universally acknowledged that nice guys care more about others than themselves. This has nothing to do with being a gentleman but letting others take advantage of you.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s one of the most valuable dating advice tips men can use:<strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-deixar-de-ser-um-rapaz-simpatico\/\">Deixar de ser um bom rapaz<\/a> em encontros e relacionamentos. Todos sabemos o que acontece aos rapazes simp\u00e1ticos<\/strong>. There\u2019s a certain pattern in almost every girls\u2019 life and it goes like this:<\/p>\n<p>Depois de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/7-tipos-de-personalidade-toxica-para-evitar-encontros\/\">namorar pessoas com tipos de personalidade t\u00f3xicos<\/a> (leia-se: jogadores), uma mulher decide finalmente sair com um rapaz simp\u00e1tico. No in\u00edcio, ela pensa como \u00e9 aben\u00e7oada por conhecer algu\u00e9m assim. Passado algum tempo, fica aborrecida porque esse tipo simp\u00e1tico \u00e9 simp\u00e1tico para toda a gente, exceto para ele pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<p>O meu conselho para os homens: <strong>Don\u2019t be toxic but also don\u2019t be overly nice. Try to find a balance here because this might be a game changer when it comes to dating.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>13. The pressure of meeting up society\u2019s expectations<\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-156594 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast.jpg\" alt=\"casal sorridente a tomar o pequeno-almo\u00e7o\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast-1200x795.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast-1536x1018.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast-735x487.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast-335x222.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast-347x230.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast-520x345.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast-640x424.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/smiling-couple-having-breakfast-150x99.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A lot of men (and other human beings) fall under the pressure to meet up society\u2019s expectations. The pattern goes something like this: <strong>Finish school &#8211; find a job &#8211; find a girlfriend &#8211; get married &#8211; have kids.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Espera, o qu\u00ea? \u00c9 realmente poss\u00edvel que todos os homens correspondam a estas expectativas pela mesma ordem? Claro que n\u00e3o. <strong>A sociedade pensou no facto de que talvez alguns deles estejam felizes por serem solteiros nessa altura?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Maybe they still aren\u2019t ready to get married even though all their friends are married? The pressure of meeting up society\u2019s expectations can make any man feel confused when it comes to dating.<\/p>\n<h3>14. Sobreviver a estar preso numa friend zone<\/h3>\n<p>Porque \u00e9 que os encontros s\u00e3o t\u00e3o dif\u00edceis para os homens? Oh, talvez isto tenha algo a ver com a friend zone. Todos n\u00f3s sabemos o que \u00e9 isso.<strong> It\u2019s when a woman decides that she doesn\u2019t really like you as a potential partner but as a good friend.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ent\u00e3o, o que \u00e9 que fazes? Mant\u00e9m a amizade com ela ou segue em frente? Muitos homens optam por manter a amizade com as mulheres que lhes fizeram amizade porque ainda t\u00eam ESPERAN\u00c7A de que algo possa mudar num futuro pr\u00f3ximo.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Isso alguma vez acontece?<\/strong> Raramente.<\/p>\n<p>Trust me, you don\u2019t need a dating coach to tell you how to avoid getting stuck in a friend zone. Just don\u2019t be overly friendly to the girl you like. <strong>Don\u2019t let her treat you like one of her friends. Be flirty and tease her.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>PRO TIP: If you\u2019ve been stuck in a friend zone lately, then <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/esta-a-precisar-de-uma-desintoxicacao-de-encontros\/\">it\u2019s time for a dating detox.<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>15. Desafios das redes sociais<\/h3>\n<p>Modern dating involves both dating in real life and on social media. Most women seek attention and validation on social media as proof of a man\u2019s undying love.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ent\u00e3o, o que \u00e9 que acontece quando um homem n\u00e3o tem consci\u00eancia disso ou n\u00e3o \u00e9 capaz de o cumprir?<\/strong> Uma mulher come\u00e7a a pensar:<em> \u201cMaybe he\u2019s not that really into me.\u201d \u201cHe doesn\u2019t love me.\u201d \u201cHe doesn\u2019t want other people to know that we\u2019re together.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Social media challenges have never been so challenging. ? And that\u2019s why dating is so hard for guys sometimes.<\/p>\n<h2>Porque \u00e9 que os encontros online s\u00e3o t\u00e3o dif\u00edceis para os homens?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-156590 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar.jpg\" alt=\"homem e mulher encontram-se num bar\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-735x491.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-335x224.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-347x232.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-520x347.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-640x427.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-1280x854.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-meeting-in-bar-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>H\u00e1 muitas formas de conhecer pessoas e, de alguma forma, os s\u00edtios de encontros em linha como o Tinder, o Bumble, o OkCupid e os servi\u00e7os de encontros em linha prevaleceram. <strong>You create a dating profile on the desired online dating app or service, you swipe left or right, or slide into someone\u2019s DMs.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But wait, how can they know that you\u2019re real?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Os encontros online s\u00e3o muito dif\u00edceis para os homens por v\u00e1rias raz\u00f5es.<\/strong> Em primeiro lugar, a Internet <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/10-novas-tendencias-de-encontros-para-partir-o-seu-coracao\/\">tend\u00eancias de encontros<\/a> such as catfishing (pretending that you\u2019re someone else) are becoming more and more popular, which makes it hard for women (and men) to simply believe anyone.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Second of all, there\u2019s also an unwritten rule that a man dating online is bound to make the first move (text first).<\/strong> Antes de o fazer, muitos homens recorrem a uma vasta reflex\u00e3o e \u00e0 pesquisa no Google sobre <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/perguntas-sobre-encontros-online\/\">perguntas sobre encontros online<\/a>, frases de engate e outras <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/iniciadores-de-conversa-de-aplicacoes-de-encontros\/\">iniciadores de conversa<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ficam ansiosos por enviarem demasiadas ou poucas mensagens de texto.<\/strong> Est\u00e3o constantemente atentos a potenciais erros de mensagens de texto que podem significar uma coisa: perder uma mulher de quem gostam.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe beauty\u201d of <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/trocar-as-aplicacoes-de-encontros-por-encontros-a-moda-antiga\/\">encontros \u00e0 moda antiga vs aplica\u00e7\u00f5es de encontros<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2>Porque \u00e9 que os homens t\u00eam dificuldade em abrir-se?<\/h2>\n<p>Muitos homens t\u00eam dificuldade em abrir-se com algu\u00e9m de quem gostam, o que tamb\u00e9m dificulta o seu namoro. <strong>It\u2019s mostly because they are scared of being taken advantage of and getting hurt by a woman they like.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Nunca est\u00e3o 100% certos de que uma mulher \u00e9 genu\u00edna com eles, mesmo que ela lho diga. Por isso, podemos culpar todas aquelas que se fazem de dif\u00edceis e deixam os homens \u00e0 espera de uma eternidade para receber uma mensagem de volta.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Men are anxious about making a move first or saying \u2018I love you\u2019 for the first time.<\/strong> Normalmente, demoram muito tempo at\u00e9 decidirem abrir-se completamente com algu\u00e9m de quem gostam. Para o fazer, precisam de saber que a rapariga \u00e9 de confian\u00e7a, genu\u00edna e que se preocupa verdadeiramente com eles.<\/p>\n<h2>Porque \u00e9 que os encontros se tornaram t\u00e3o dif\u00edceis?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-156589 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street.jpg\" alt=\"homem e mulher olham um para o outro na rua\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street-1200x795.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street-1536x1018.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street-735x487.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street-335x222.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street-347x230.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street-520x345.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street-640x424.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/man-and-woman-looking-at-each-other-on-street-150x99.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Porque \u00e9 que os encontros s\u00e3o t\u00e3o dif\u00edceis para os homens? Porque \u00e9 que os encontros s\u00e3o t\u00e3o dif\u00edceis para as mulheres? Porqu\u00ea simplificar quando pode ser complicado, certo? ?<\/p>\n<p>Honestamente, n\u00e3o fa\u00e7o ideia do que aconteceu exatamente com este namoro moderno e vejo cada vez mais pessoas a perguntarem-se: <strong>Ser\u00e1 que isto vale mesmo a pena? Devo continuar a namorar e a sofrer desilus\u00f5es ou simplesmente desistir?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>My answer to you is: Don\u2019t give up BUT be wise about who you date. Also, don\u2019t lower your standards and don\u2019t let society impose some brainwashing values and standards on you.<\/p>\n<p>Mais uma coisa antes de me ir embora:<strong> Aprender a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/comece-por-namorar-consigo-proprio\/\">namore primeiro consigo pr\u00f3prio<\/a> e tudo o resto se encaixar\u00e1 no seu devido lugar.<\/strong> Boa sorte!<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Why-Is-Dating-So-Hard-For-Guys-15-Eye-Opening-Reasons-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Porque \u00e9 que namorar \u00e9 t\u00e3o dif\u00edcil para os homens 15 raz\u00f5es que abrem os olhos Pinterest\" class=\"wp-image-162671\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Why-Is-Dating-So-Hard-For-Guys-15-Eye-Opening-Reasons-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Why-Is-Dating-So-Hard-For-Guys-15-Eye-Opening-Reasons-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Why-Is-Dating-So-Hard-For-Guys-15-Eye-Opening-Reasons-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Why-Is-Dating-So-Hard-For-Guys-15-Eye-Opening-Reasons-Pinterest-640x960.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Why-Is-Dating-So-Hard-For-Guys-15-Eye-Opening-Reasons-Pinterest-720x1080.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Why-Is-Dating-So-Hard-For-Guys-15-Eye-Opening-Reasons-Pinterest-800x1200.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Why-Is-Dating-So-Hard-For-Guys-15-Eye-Opening-Reasons-Pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Why-Is-Dating-So-Hard-For-Guys-15-Eye-Opening-Reasons-Pinterest.jpg 1000w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Guys need to make the first move. Guys need to compete with other guys for a woman\u2019s attention. Guys need to be gentlemen and good at texting. So, why is dating so hard for guys? Really? ? My personal opinion is that modern dating is not only hard for men but also for women. Well,&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":34,"featured_media":156596,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29648],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-156586","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-tips"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29648,"label":"dating tips"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/Why-Is-Dating-So-Hard-For-Guys-15-Eye-Opening-Reasons-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Inna Williams","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/inna\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29648,"name":"dating tips","slug":"dating-tips","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29648,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. 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