O verdadeiro objetivo da privacidade \u00e9 proteger os seus limites e valores.<\/strong> It\u2019s about keeping the things that are nobody\u2019s business but yours to yourself. Keeping your private life private is how you avoid falling into the trap of having to explain and justify things that matter to you to other people.<\/p>\n Aside from personal things to keep private, there\u2019s another topic that you shouldn\u2019t discuss with other people, and that\u2019s coisas que n\u00e3o t\u00eam nada a ver consigo.<\/strong> It\u2019s the other side of being private \u2013 showing others the same courtesy.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s see what you should view as classified information, what it is that leads to oversharing and how to stop yourself when the temptation strikes.<\/p>\n Keeping your personal life private isn\u2019t the same as keeping it a secret. If something comes up in a meaningful context, partilh\u00e1-lo com os seus amigos mais pr\u00f3ximos ou com algu\u00e9m em quem confie este tipo de informa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 perfeitamente aceit\u00e1vel.<\/strong><\/p>\n Mas quando sentimos que algumas coisas na nossa vida precisam de ser explicadas para que os outros nos compreendam, pode sentir-se tentado a justificar-se.<\/strong> If you regret it after telling someone a detail that you added without being asked about, you\u2019re oversharing.<\/p>\n You\u2019re aware that some fact or simply the amount you shared was excessive, even though at the moment it seemed like it was a way to connect to the other person.<\/p>\n If you share too much online, using social media as your personal diary, it\u2019s even worse. Too many people have access to what you post and not all of them have good intentions. The small amount of pleasure you gain from likes, comments and engagement with your post isn\u2019t worth the consequences you might face.<\/strong><\/p>\n Estas s\u00e3o as 3 coisas que devem ser mantidas em segredo: the things you don’t have to justify to anyone<\/a> and that aren\u2019t anyone\u2019s business but yours.<\/p>\n Ser aut\u00eantico e aberto \u00e9 o caminho para se relacionar com os outros. Isto \u00e9 bem sabido, mas algumas pessoas confundem ser aut\u00eantico com divulgar todos os pormenores pessoais a quem quiser ouvir. To be authentic, your beliefs and actions should match \u2013 you should live in line with your values instead of trying to please anyone.<\/strong><\/p>\n This is why oversharing about all aspects of life is the opposite from being authentic. Using vulnerability to gain acceptance, sympathy, connection or anything else isn\u2019t the same as actually being vulnerable.<\/p>\n Before you share with others, you must consider why you\u2019re doing it.<\/strong> If you\u2019re trying to gain something, you\u2019re not being authentic. If you\u2019re trying to build intimacy without laying a foundation first, you\u2019re oversharing.<\/p>\n Religion is considered a private topic by most people. Respect for other people\u2019s views, their faith or lack thereof is the only thing that should concern you when it comes to religious beliefs that aren\u2019t your own, and you should expect the same.<\/p>\n Your life choices might be objectively awful and still no one is entitled to criticize you about them. As an adult, your choices are your prerogative and your responsibility and you don\u2019t need to discuss them with anyone.<\/p>\n Some people enjoy debating politics, but no discussion will change anyone\u2019s mind. People have intense feelings about politics, so in certain situations your political views can cost you. It doesn\u2019t mean that your political beliefs must be a secret, but make sure you choose who you share them with.<\/p>\n Be kind to make other people\u2019s lives easier<\/a> instead of using it as a tool to get ahead or get brownie points. Good deeds enrich the person who does them as much as they help the person who\u2019s on the receiving end. No one needs to know about your charitable and noble actions, and bragging about them will make people dislike you.<\/p>\n Your personal life is nobody\u2019s business, no matter how convincing those who want to know it might be. If you feel the need to defend your choices, it\u2019s either because you\u2019re unsure of them yourself or someone else is judging you.<\/strong><\/p>\n People who disapprove of everything that\u2019s different from the way they live usually do it out of envy and unhappiness. Requests to share are usually invitations to explain and justify because they\u2019re different.<\/p>\n A partilha de dados pessoais deve ser vista como um privil\u00e9gio<\/strong> \u2013 you don\u2019t owe it to anyone to know anything about you, let alone to try to make them understand why.<\/p>\n You might be broke or loaded, it doesn\u2019t matter. Volunteering your financial status, especially to your extended family, will get you unwanted attention. If you have a lot in the bank, you might be expected to step up whenever someone needs it, and if you don\u2019t, people you thought cared for you might magically disappear.<\/p>\n Your mistakes, resentments, conflicts, annoyances, everyday issues and long-term problems \u2013 unless you know for certain that the other person has your best interest in mind and is eager to help you, keep your worries to yourself.<\/p>\n As excep\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o o seu parceiro, os seus pais ou outros familiares ou amigos pr\u00f3ximos que o amam e o querem ver feliz.<\/p>\n Some people believe that they\u2019re entitled to comment on someone’s appearance, but the way you look outside is as private as what\u2019s on the inside. No one has the right to an opinion on how you choose to present yourself or to decide what your appearance implies.<\/p>\n Muitas vezes, as pessoas pensam que a sua opini\u00e3o sobre quaisquer caracter\u00edsticas invulgares, coisas que consideram pouco atraentes, tatuagens ou o seu peso \u00e9 bem-vinda, por isso n\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de impor os seus limites quando eles o incomodam.<\/strong><\/p>\n How you spend your day or your future plans doesn\u2019t matter \u2013 you don\u2019t need to explain how you use your time to other people. This doesn\u2019t mean refusing to answer when someone asks you what you did over the weekend, it means not having to justify it.<\/p>\n RELACIONADO: Viver um dia de cada vez: o valor do dia de hoje<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n Os pormenores das suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o apenas entre si e a outra pessoa envolvida. Contar pormenores \u00e0s pessoas s\u00f3 aumenta o n\u00edvel de drama e convida as pessoas a intrometerem-se<\/strong>. Por exemplo, a sua fam\u00edlia e os seus entes queridos podem ter os seus melhores interesses em mente, mas o seu envolvimento pode causar problemas com a sua cara-metade.<\/p>\n As rela\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o tamb\u00e9m um material privilegiado para a coscuvilhice, pelo que dar aos outros acesso \u00e0s suas \u00e9 dar-lhes algo para espalharem.<\/strong> Even if you\u2019re sharing to get help solving problems, no one who isn’t part of the relationship can ever have the full picture.<\/p>\n Your sexual orientation, practices, choice of partner and your sex life in general is something you should always keep private. When you talk about it to people who aren\u2019t involved in it, you\u2019re either opening yourself to gossip or making the conversation awkward because it\u2019s too much information.<\/p>\n Mantenha os amigos e familiares intrometidos afastados e trabalhe na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o apenas com a sua cara-metade, porque mais ningu\u00e9m pode compreender. Mantenham a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o privada.<\/a><\/p>\n A \u00fanica exce\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 se tiver problemas de relacionamento que precisem de ser resolvidos atrav\u00e9s de terapia. Nesse caso, \u00e9 claro que o seu conselheiro de casais deve ser envolvido.<\/p>\n How you raise your children is nobody\u2019s business but yours and your children\u2019s other parent\u2019s. If you two agree, no one else\u2019s opinions matter. Extended families protesting because of your kids\u2019 bedtime or nutrition and telling you it\u2019s okay if they watch another cartoon this once is meddling you should stop before it escalates.<\/p>\n Families argue, families love each other, sometimes families aren\u2019t real families, and sometimes families break apart. The details of how you and family members function are known only to you, and people who aren\u2019t a part of it shouldn\u2019t get involved.<\/p>\n RELACIONADO: O que s\u00e3o rela\u00e7\u00f5es discretas? 11 raz\u00f5es para ter um<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n In addition to personal matters to keep private, there\u2019s another category of topics you shouldn\u2019t discuss with anyone: coisas que dizem respeito a outras pessoas.<\/strong> It includes both gossip about someone not involved in the conversation and comments about your conversation partner they didn\u2019t ask for.<\/p>\n Talking about things that aren\u2019t related to you is another form of oversharing and done out of the same motives, usually trying to connect to the person you\u2019re talking to. The connection might happen \u2013 but it won\u2019t last a very long time.<\/p>\n Em vez disso, you\u2019ll regret it<\/strong> because it will make your relationship with the person you gossip about unpleasant, even if they never find out. When it comes to the person you give an opinion they didn\u2019t ask for, they\u2019ll always view you as someone who looks down on them even if your opinion changes.<\/p>\n Your conversation partner isn\u2019t entitled to know any personal details about yourself and even less about other people. Fofocar e partilhar coisas sobre os outros \u00e9 uma tentativa de estabelecer algum tipo de liga\u00e7\u00e3o ou de se sentir superior ao objeto da fofoca<\/strong>mas nada de bom sair\u00e1 da\u00ed.<\/p>\n Sharing juicy details you know about others won\u2019t help you make friends. Mentioning something about another person because you don\u2019t know what to talk about doesn\u2019t lead to connection.<\/strong> You\u2019ll be known as a gossip and become a magnet for busybodies who don\u2019t really care about you and you\u2019ll hurt whoever you\u2019re talking about.<\/p>\n Sharing your judgment and opinions about other people will make others dislike you, unless they\u2019re judgmental themselves. Even then, essas pessoas s\u00f3 estar\u00e3o perto de si por causa do que recebem de si.<\/strong><\/p>\n Keep your opinions about the person across the room private. Don\u2019t talk about how wrong your friend is about their decision to another one of your friends. If you have negative personal feelings about someone, keep them to yourself.<\/p>\n Rude opinions and mean-spirited remarks about someone you don\u2019t like doesn\u2019t show them in a bad light, but you.<\/strong> Jokes at others\u2019 expense and mocking them will only attract people who enjoy such things and want to share their toxic habits with you.<\/p>\n As suas reflex\u00f5es privadas sobre a forma como algu\u00e9m deve agir, parecer, vestir, falar, etc., devem ficar na sua cabe\u00e7a. Feeling entitled to tell people what to do if they haven\u2019t asked you for advice makes it seem like you believe that you\u2019re better than them:<\/strong> j\u00e1 sabem tudo e podem agora transmitir-lhes os vossos conhecimentos.<\/p>\n Tenha cuidado mesmo quando a outra pessoa lhe pede a sua opini\u00e3o. Por vezes, as pessoas s\u00f3 querem mesmo que algu\u00e9m as ou\u00e7a porque j\u00e1 sabem o que t\u00eam de fazer.<\/strong> If you\u2019re dispensing advice, look at the other person\u2019s body language to check if they\u2019re eagerly listening or if they\u2019re done after they told you about their problem.<\/p>\n Show respect to others you want to receive yourself and don\u2019t underestimate their judgment by implying you know what\u2019s good for them better than they do themselves.<\/p>\n As raz\u00f5es pelas quais as pessoas partilham demasiado est\u00e3o normalmente relacionadas com os limites. The importance of healthy boundaries to living a happy life can\u2019t be overstated.<\/strong> Oversharing is also related to insecurity and competing with other people. This is futile and it will never give you the satisfaction you\u2019re aiming for.<\/p>\n Try to understand why you overshare because once you know what you\u2019re trying to achieve, it will be easier to stop.<\/strong><\/p>\n Conhecer e afirmar os seus limites pessoais protege-o a si e \u00e0s outras pessoas. Oversharing violates both your own and the other person\u2019s boundaries.<\/strong> The importance of having boundaries between you and other people is that they help you decide what you should or shouldn\u2019t say.<\/p>\n A partilha excessiva afasta as pessoas. You\u2019ll be seen as a narcissist, inappropriate, awkward or fake instead of authentic and genuine.<\/strong> Trabalhar na compreens\u00e3o dos limites \u00e9 uma parte importante do auto-desenvolvimento que pode mudar completamente as suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es pessoais.<\/p>\n Estabelecer limites<\/a> in communication will make you a better listener and more attentive. Your first instinct shouldn\u2019t be to respond to whatever other people say with details about yourself. Ter autocontrolo, ser mais ponderado e impedir-se de reagir imediatamente<\/strong> melhorar\u00e1 a sua comunica\u00e7\u00e3o e as suas liga\u00e7\u00f5es com os outros.<\/p>\n If you don\u2019t have anyone to talk<\/a> ou pessoas que o compreendam e com as quais possa criar la\u00e7os verdadeiros, tentar tomar um atalho e for\u00e7ar uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o pode acontecer. Cada indiv\u00edduo precisa de ser ouvido e visto.<\/strong> When you don\u2019t have anyone who can give you that, it\u2019s not unexpected to sometimes feel a little desperate.<\/p>\n Oversharing can come from the need to say \u201cThis is who I am and this is my story,\u201d but it\u2019s a misguided attempt to have anyone listen to you and give you attention.<\/strong> Doing it with the wrong people or at the wrong point in your relationship will make sure that you\u2019re not really heard. When you share too soon, people get the wrong picture of you.<\/p>\n Knowing your life details, hopes and fears without having context about what you\u2019re like as a person is more likely to lead to judgment than connection. You might feel connected for a moment, but it can\u2019t last. Construa rela\u00e7\u00f5es lentamente: seja honesto e aberto sem ser carente.<\/strong><\/p>\n A ansiedade e a baixa autoestima s\u00e3o raz\u00f5es comuns para a partilha excessiva. Toda a gente quer que a sua vida seja boa, por isso olhamos \u00e0 nossa volta para ver como s\u00e3o as vidas felizes. If you\u2019re comparing yourself with others instead of thinking what it is that makes you pessoalmente<\/em> happy, you\u2019ll be tempted to try to be like them.<\/strong><\/p>\n As coisas que fazes revelam as tuas inseguran\u00e7as.<\/a> They create a desire to make your own life seem full and exciting, so you share details that you believe will make you seem interesting. What you\u2019re forgetting is that a lot of people want to achieve the same thing, so they paint a picture by choosing what to share.<\/p>\n Isto \u00e9 especialmente comum na Internet. As pessoas que parecem partilhar toda a sua vida nas redes sociais est\u00e3o a engan\u00e1-lo. They\u2019re not sharing their personal details, they\u2019re manufacturing an illusion of a perfect life<\/strong>. Um bloguista que fala das suas experi\u00eancias pode estar a faz\u00ea-lo pelos \u00eaxitos e um influenciador est\u00e1 a vender-lhe uma imagem.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t succumb to the need to prove yourself by sharing personal information, because other people are only making you think they\u2019re doing the same thing<\/strong>. Em vez disso, procure coisas que o satisfa\u00e7am verdadeiramente e o fa\u00e7am feliz.<\/p>\n Se tem tend\u00eancia para partilhar demasiado, pode ser dif\u00edcil parar, porque normalmente isso acontece de repente.<\/p>\n You\u2019re talking to a co-worker about something work-related and it slips in that you\u2019re on a diet. It doesn\u2019t seem like it\u2019s a big deal, but it opens you up to follow-up questions, judgment and opinions from someone who has nothing to do with you.<\/p>\n Aprender a escolher o que dizer a quem requer alguma pr\u00e1tica, mas torna-se mais f\u00e1cil \u00e0 medida que o faz.<\/strong> Experimente estas dicas para evitar a partilha excessiva de informa\u00e7\u00e3o:<\/p>\n3 coisas para manter em segredo<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. As suas cren\u00e7as<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Your religious views<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your choices<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your political views<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your acts of kindness<\/h4>\n
2. O seu estilo de vida<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Your finances<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your problems<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your appearance<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your time<\/h4>\n
3. As suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Your sexual preferences<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your romantic relationships<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your parenting choices<\/h4>\n
\u2022 Your family relationships<\/h4>\n
3 coisas para guardar para si mesmo<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Other people’s business<\/h3>\n
2. O seu julgamento<\/h3>\n
3. Conselhos n\u00e3o solicitados<\/h3>\n
3 raz\u00f5es pelas quais partilhamos em excesso<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Falta de limites<\/h3>\n
2. A solid\u00e3o<\/h3>\n
3. Inseguran\u00e7a<\/h3>\n
3 dicas para parar de partilhar em excesso<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Praticar a aten\u00e7\u00e3o plena<\/h3>\n
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