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<\/p>\nQuer receie que a falta de capacidade de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o esteja a prejudicar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou queira simplesmente melhor\u00e1-la, aprender a comunicar melhor numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o vai aproxim\u00e1-lo do seu parceiro.<\/p>\n
A comunica\u00e7\u00e3o pode fazer ou desfazer uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/b>No matter how strongly you feel about your partner, unless you\u2019re able to communicate these feelings or anything else you want them to know, it can lead to misunderstandings, stress and resentment.<\/p>\n
Expectativas diferentes, assumir que as coisas s\u00e3o desnecess\u00e1rias, n\u00e3o expressar apre\u00e7o e comportamentos semelhantes podem causar problemas numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel, mas podem ser contrariados com <\/b>comunica\u00e7\u00e3o efectiva<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n
Aqui est\u00e3o as estrat\u00e9gias, dicas e t\u00e9cnicas que o ajudar\u00e3o a aprender a comunicar melhor numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n
Antes de aprender a comunicar melhor numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, \u00e9 preciso perceber que boa comunica\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b> tem de come\u00e7ar por si<\/b>. Waiting for the other person to change their behavior first doesn\u2019t work. You\u2019re in control of the way tu <\/i>comunicar.<\/p>\n
Decidir falar apenas se eles falarem primeiro, ou esperar que eles fa\u00e7am algo diferente antes de n\u00f3s o fazermos, \u00e9 in\u00fatil. You can\u2019t change anyone\u2019s behavior but your own, so you must decide to work on <\/b>comunica\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/b> voc\u00ea mesmo<\/b> sem quaisquer expectativas da outra pessoa.<\/p>\n
Do your part and you\u2019ll notice that the other person\u2019s communication habits are changing. <\/b>They\u2019ll learn from you even if they’re not actively trying and your relationship will improve. If they follow your example and actively work on effective communication, it will improve even faster.<\/p>\n
Here\u2019s what to do and what to avoid.<\/p>\n
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Ouvir \u00e9, sem d\u00favida, a compet\u00eancia mais importante no que diz respeito \u00e0 comunica\u00e7\u00e3o. Keeping your ears and mind open when the other person is speaking is the only way to actually hear what they\u2019re saying.<\/b> Esta \u00e9 a base do desenvolvimento de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n
When you hear what it is they\u2019re trying to communicate, you understand their feelings, concerns or reasons. Ouvir o seu parceiro<\/a> might come to you naturally, but if you\u2019re not confident in your listening skills, they can be developed as long as you\u2019re willing to put in the work.<\/p>\n Escuta ativa<\/b> \u00e9 a pr\u00e1tica de mostrar aten\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 mensagem que o seu interlocutor pretende que retire das suas palavras.<\/b><\/p>\n Inclui livrar-se de distrac\u00e7\u00f5es e dar-lhes toda a sua aten\u00e7\u00e3o, observar a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o n\u00e3o-verbal, como a linguagem corporal e as express\u00f5es faciais, e depois dar-lhes feedback para confirmar que recebeu a mensagem pretendida.<\/p>\n Eis alguns conselhos:<\/p>\n \u2022 Look at the person who\u2019s speaking. Maintain eye contact, but don\u2019t stare or you can make them feel uneasy.<\/p>\n \u2022 Don\u2019t let yourself get distracted from the conversation.<\/p>\n \u2022 Just listen as they talk, and don\u2019t formulate answers in your head.<\/b><\/p>\n \u2022 Show that you\u2019re listening by nodding, facial expressions, small encouraging comments etc., but don\u2019t interrupt them.<\/p>\n \u2022 Let them finish. Don\u2019t offer counter arguments as they speak.<\/p>\n \u2022 Focus on understanding what the other person is saying.<\/b><\/p>\n \u2022 Reflect on what you hear and ask questions if you don\u2019t understand.<\/p>\n \u2022 Paraphrase what has been said to ensure that you understood correctly.<\/p>\n \u2022 Don\u2019t let your judgment and assumptions influence what you\u2019re hearing.<\/b><\/p>\n \u2022 Be honest with your response.<\/p>\n Se a compreens\u00e3o m\u00fatua \u00e9 o seu principal objetivo, mostre ao seu parceiro que se preocupa com o que ele tem para dizer, fazendo-lhe perguntas ponderadas.<\/b> This shows that you\u2019re paying attention, that you\u2019re looking for a a liga\u00e7\u00e3o e o esfor\u00e7o<\/a> you\u2019re willing to put into your relationship.<\/p>\n When your partner understands that you want to hear what they\u2019re saying, they\u2019ll communicate more readily and openly<\/b>.<\/p>\n Ask questions that show you\u2019re listening, questions that clarify what you\u2019ve heard, questions that probe deeper, questions that show you\u2019re paying attention to the message they\u2019re trying to convey and questions that show that you want to help.<\/p>\n Existem quatro estilos de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o diferentes: assertivo, passivo, agressivo e passivo-agressivo. De entre estes, o estilo de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o assertivo \u00e9 considerado o mais eficaz e aquele que todos devemos tentar adotar.<\/p>\n Assertive communication is the ability to express yourself \u2013 your feelings, your needs, your thoughts \u2013 and to allow others to do the same. <\/b>Este equil\u00edbrio \u00e9 uma das chaves de uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o eficaz.<\/p>\n Torne-se mais assertivo exprimir claramente a sua <\/b>pensamentos pr\u00f3prios<\/b> sem pensar que algo \u00e9 desnecess\u00e1rio dizer.<\/b> Fa\u00e7a pedidos diretamente e sem esperar que a outra pessoa adivinhe o que quer dizer.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re afraid that this is too demanding, there\u2019s no need to worry as long as you\u2019re respecting what the other person is saying as much as you want them to respect you.<\/b><\/p>\n Respecting each other\u2019s perspective is crucial for uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o equilibrada<\/a>. Discordar uns dos outros \u00e9 normal e saud\u00e1vel, mas it\u2019s necessary that you don\u2019t assume that you are always indisputably correct.<\/b><\/p>\n Em vez de tentar mudar o que o seu parceiro sente ou pensa sobre algo, aceite-o como o seu ponto de vista e perceba que you don\u2019t have to agree on everything<\/b>. Tentar compreender em vez de tentar julgar ou convencer.<\/p>\n Tell the other person if you weren\u2019t aware that they saw things that way and that your viewpoint is different, but that you\u2019re willing to understand theirs.<\/p>\n When your partner is convinced that you\u2019re accepting and prepared to see things from their perspective, they\u2019ll be open to doing the same.<\/b><\/p>\n White lies, lies of omission, misleading, not being straightforward, putting off the truth \u2013 tudo, exceto a honestidade total, pode prejudicar a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/b>A desonestidade, sob qualquer forma, constr\u00f3i muros entre as pessoas, cria d\u00favidas e quebra a confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\n Even if you\u2019re convinced that you\u2019re not hurting the other person, there are always consequences. Even if you think that they won\u2019t be able to tell, linguagem corporal sinais de mentira<\/a> can give you away. Even if you\u2019re sure it\u2019s not a big deal, it will create a habit of dishonesty.<\/p>\n When the reason you\u2019re not being honest is that you\u2019re afraid of their reaction, it\u2019s still better to be truthful and trust your partner and your relationship.<\/b><\/p>\n A intimidade emocional \u00e9 uma das mais importantes tipos de intimidade<\/a> numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Openly sharing your feelings with another person is scary for some, but to truly connect to someone, it\u2019s necessary.<\/b><\/p>\n At the start of a relationship, small talk and superficial conversation is enough \u2013 opening up too fast can result in oversharing \u2013 but as you build your relationship and trust, you can start being more and more vulnerable with someone.<\/p>\n A <\/b>rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura<\/b> can\u2019t develop unless you open up to the other person<\/b>, or if it does, it won\u2019t be successful. Holding back instead of talking about how you feel prevents your relationship from growing.<\/p>\n Even during difficult conversations, don\u2019t forget why you\u2019re in this relationship. Love, care and partnership are what matters. Em <\/b>rela\u00e7\u00f5es \u00edntimas<\/b>Se o seu parceiro se lembrar regularmente dos seus sentimentos, a rela\u00e7\u00e3o ser\u00e1 mais feliz e mais confiante.<\/b><\/p>\n Encontrar formas de saying “I appreciate you\u201d<\/a> que sejam significativas para o seu parceiro. Fa\u00e7a um esfor\u00e7o para que eles se sintam amados, validados e respeitados.<\/b> Passar algum tempo juntos e reconhecer o que significam um para o outro far\u00e1 com que se sintam mais ligados.<\/p>\n Assuma a responsabilidade pelos seus actos e sentimentos. Your reactions are your own \u2013 don\u2019t accuse the other person for causing them. <\/b>Instead, explain how you feel. Say \u201cI was worried when you didn\u2019t answer the phone\u201d instead of \u201cWhy do you have to be so insensitive?\u201d<\/p>\n Uma boa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 o efeito de um esfor\u00e7o, tal como ter o cuidado de respeitar o seu parceiro, a sua sa\u00fade mental e bem-estar e fazer com que se sinta seguro. N\u00e3o assumir a responsabilidade por si pr\u00f3prio e pelo seu comportamento \u00e9 o oposto disso.<\/p>\n Se cometer um erro, reconhe\u00e7a-o e fale sobre ele sem atribuir a responsabilidade \u00e0 outra pessoa. <\/b>Esta \u00e9 a forma de lidar com o problema e de seguir em frente.<\/p>\n In romantic relationships, it\u2019s important to regularly make time to have a conversation with your partner. It\u2019s best to <\/b>efetuar o check-in<\/b> com o seu parceiro todos os dias<\/b>, but if that\u2019s impossible, still try to do it as often as possible.<\/p>\n Criar um ritual, como jantar juntos todas as noites ou dar um passeio em que se concentrem um no outro e conversem, \u00e9 \u00fatil para estabelecer h\u00e1bitos de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o regulares na rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Utilize este momento para partilhar not\u00edcias, preocupa\u00e7\u00f5es e outras coisas que queira que a outra pessoa saiba.<\/p>\n Tudo se resume a tomar o seu tempo para comunicar. \u00c9 assim que se stay in touch with each other\u2019s thoughts and feelings without letting things pile up<\/b> until it\u2019s easier to give up than deal with them.<\/p>\n Apoiar-se mutuamente numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> \u00e9 o que cria uma verdadeira parceria. Ser a pessoa com quem o seu parceiro pode sempre contar para estar do seu lado, algu\u00e9m com quem pode contar para conforto e aceita\u00e7\u00e3o, cria confian\u00e7a e uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o profunda.<\/p>\n Relationships shouldn\u2019t be more struggle than joy. <\/b>No fim de contas, entramos neles devido a um desejo de companheirismo com uma determinada pessoa. Fa\u00e7a com que o seu parceiro se sinta sempre aceite e amado, abordando-o com gentileza.<\/p>\n Crie uma atmosfera acolhedora e calorosa na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o e fa\u00e7a com que o seu parceiro saiba o quanto ele \u00e9 importante para si.<\/b> Se tiver sempre o bem-estar deles como prioridade, at\u00e9 as suas discuss\u00f5es ser\u00e3o produtivas. Fa\u00e7a-os rir e procure coisas que os fa\u00e7am felizes.<\/p>\n RELACIONADO:<\/b> Como se comunicar com os homens: 16 maneiras de ter <\/b>Melhor comunica\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n Nada \u00e9 um dado adquirido. Para evitar problemas de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o, pe\u00e7a esclarecimentos e ofere\u00e7a esclarecimentos. Don\u2019t assume that your partner will read between the lines or that their point of reference is the same as yours.<\/b><\/p>\n Even if you\u2019ve been in a relationship a long time and know each other well, misunderstandings can happen. Take great care to prevent this. Couples become close, but when faced with problems, even the closest can be challenged by assumptions.<\/p>\n As suposi\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o coisas que n\u00e3o foram ditas, por isso, lide com elas afirmando-as.<\/b> Pode ser dif\u00edcil, mas n\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que s\u00f3 pioram as coisas.<\/p>\n Por exemplo, pode pensar que o seu parceiro n\u00e3o gosta de um dos seus familiares pr\u00f3ximos por causa de algo que ele disse uma vez e que o fez assumir que \u00e9 isso que ele sente.<\/p>\n In reality, this was a casual remark and your partner is completely okay with your relative, so you\u2019ve been avoiding having them near each other for no reason and you possibly created problems between them by distancing them.<\/p>\n If you listen just so you can reply, you\u2019re not really listening. Estar \u00e0 beira do assento \u00e0 espera da sua vez \u00e9 indicativo de <\/b>comunica\u00e7\u00e3o deficiente<\/b> e anula o objetivo de falarmos uns com os outros.<\/b><\/p>\n Instead of trying to make the other person see your point, try to understand them. No matter how attentive you seem to be, they\u2019ll still be able to tell that you\u2019re not really listening if all you\u2019re looking for is a chance to say, \u201cNo, but look…\u201d.<\/p>\n Make every effort to overcome this urge. Don\u2019t compete with your partner \u2013 procuram compreender as suas <\/b>ponto de vista<\/b>O que \u00e9 que eles querem que voc\u00ea saiba?<\/b><\/p>\n Esta mudan\u00e7a transformar\u00e1 a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o para melhor.<\/p>\n Continuing to argue when you become angry rarely ends well. You say things you don\u2019t mean trying to prove a point, and before you know it you\u2019ve done irreparable damage to your relationship.<\/p>\n Quando se aperceber que as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es est\u00e3o a tomar conta de si, diga \u00e0 outra pessoa que precisa de uma pausa. <\/b>Take your time to calm down, take a few deep breaths and think about things. Your feelings, your partner\u2019s actions, the argument \u2013 whatever seems to be the most upsetting is what you should focus on the most.<\/p>\n When something the other person says and does really upsets you or triggers you, take a moment to examine why if you\u2019re not sure. <\/b>Poder\u00e1 descobrir uma quest\u00e3o subjacente e lidar com ela pode resolver mais problemas do que pensa \u00e0 partida.<\/p>\n Um dos princ\u00edpios b\u00e1sicos regras para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a> e uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o para muitos problemas de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 lembrarem-se sempre que s\u00e3o parceiros. Isto significa que you\u2019re united and that the relationship you share is something you create and nurture together.<\/b><\/p>\n \u00c9 por isso que, quando h\u00e1 problemas na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, o seu objetivo \u00e9 resolver esse problema. O objetivo das discuss\u00f5es \u00e9 chegar ao fundo desses problemas e encontrar um compromisso que vos satisfa\u00e7a a ambos.<\/b><\/p>\n O conflito nunca deve transformar-vos em inimigos que lutam para ganhar. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 vencedores numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o como esta, porque se um dos dois prevalecer, a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o sofre.<\/b> Quando as discuss\u00f5es se transformam em tentativas de se magoarem e derrotarem um ao outro, os vossos problemas podem ser mais graves do que parecem.<\/p>\n Todos n\u00f3s temos origens diferentes e reagimos de forma diferente das outras pessoas a determinadas ac\u00e7\u00f5es. Don\u2019t expect your partner to accept something just because you do.<\/b><\/p>\n Se a outra pessoa estiver perturbada, com ci\u00fames ou preocupada, reconhe\u00e7a e compreenda os seus sentimentos e demonstre empatia.<\/p>\n For example, if you have no problem with your partner liking other people\u2019s pictures on social media and they do, don\u2019t dismiss how they feel and tell them that it\u2019s not a big deal. Instead, tentar<\/b> understand your partner\u2019s triggers<\/b><\/a> e ajud\u00e1-los a lidar com os seus sentimentos.<\/b><\/p>\n Mostrar cuidado e preocupa\u00e7\u00e3o com a outra pessoa e comunicar tendo em conta o seu bem-estar. Em vez de utilizar uma linguagem cr\u00edtica, dura <\/b>tom de voz<\/b> ou a chatear o seu parceiro, aborde as conversas a partir de um lugar de amor.<\/b><\/p>\n If you want your partner to change something in their behavior, criticism won\u2019t get you what you\u2019re after. Instead of shaming them and being demanding, talk to them openly and directly say what\u2019s on your mind.<\/b><\/p>\n A compaix\u00e3o \u00e9 uma das expectativas saud\u00e1veis numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> to have and if you offer it to your partner, they\u2019ll be much more eager to respond positively than if you try to bully them into agreeing with what you want.<\/p>\n If you don\u2019t like it when your partner does something, tell them and be as specific as possible when you do. This is the best way of preventing miscommunication. Use a specific example instead of talking about your partner\u2019s habits of doing something.<\/b><\/p>\n When you use phrases like, \u201cYou always…\u201d, the other person might feel attacked and become defensive. Instead, ser espec\u00edfico<\/b> and say something like, \u201cI became upset when you said that.\u201c<\/p>\n Tratar cada quest\u00e3o ou conflito como o pr\u00f3ximo passo numa s\u00e9rie de problemas pode criar ressentimentos.<\/b> If your partner asks you to do something and your reaction is something like, \u201cWhy do you always want something from me?\u201d you might be having deeper issues.<\/p>\n Se parecer demasiado dif\u00edcil de ultrapassar, a terapia de casal pode ser \u00fatil para reconhecer os padr\u00f5es de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o problem\u00e1ticos e transform\u00e1-los em algo \u00fatil.<\/p>\n When you start lecturing the other person or making accusations, they\u2019ll stop listening or shut down. Don\u2019t assume that someone\u2019s actions were on purpose or that they were trying to hurt you.<\/b><\/p>\n When you blame your partner for your feelings or reactions, or even if you\u2019re just looking to blame them for starting the argument, you\u2019re creating a tense and defensive atmosphere.<\/p>\n Unless it really matters who did something, let it go and focus on what\u2019s more important. <\/b>Desde que existam limites saud\u00e1veis na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> and they\u2019re respected, avoid unnecessary conflict.<\/p>\n \u00c9 realmente importante quem perdeu o controlo remoto? Mesmo que o seu parceiro o fa\u00e7a a toda a hora, antes de deixar que isso se torne um problema, pense bem no quanto isso \u00e9 importante para si.<\/p>\n As reac\u00e7\u00f5es emocionais podem facilmente transformar um coment\u00e1rio numa discuss\u00e3o. They\u2019re rarely based on what has been said, but on past experiences. <\/b>Quando a outra pessoa diz ou faz algo que desencadeia uma rea\u00e7\u00e3o emocional, deve fazer uma escolha consciente para n\u00e3o reagir e deixar que as coisas se agravem.<\/p>\n If you feel yourself lashing out at the other person when they ask you to do something or they do something that annoys you, you\u2019re probably letting your reactions take over.<\/p>\n Em vez de deixar que as suas reac\u00e7\u00f5es emocionais provoquem uma discuss\u00e3o, d\u00ea um passo atr\u00e1s e decida responder apenas \u00e0 situa\u00e7\u00e3o atual. <\/b>Saber como o fazer ajudar\u00e1 muito na resolu\u00e7\u00e3o de conflitos.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re struggling with this, aconselhamento de casais<\/a> pode ajudar.<\/p>\n2. \u201cWhat do you need?\u201d<\/i> \u2013 Ask questions<\/h3>\n
3. \u201cThis is what I need.\u201d<\/i> \u2013 Be clear and don’t expect them to read your mind<\/h3>\n
4. \u201cI see where you\u2019re coming from.\u201d<\/i> \u2013 Respect their point of view<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n5. \u201cHere\u2019s what happened.\u201c<\/i> \u2013 Be honest<\/h3>\n
6. \u201cThis is how I feel.\u201d <\/i>\u2013 Be open about your feelings<\/h3>\n
7. \u201cI appreciate you.\u201d<\/i> \u2013 Express appreciation and affection<\/h3>\n
8. \u201cI did it.\u201d<\/i> \u2013 Take responsibility<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n9. \u201cLet\u2019s talk.\u201c <\/i>\u2013 Set aside time to talk<\/h3>\n
10. \u201cI accept you.\u201c<\/i> \u2013 Always be kind<\/h3>\n
11. \u201cDo you understand what I mean?\u201c<\/i> \u2013 Don’t assume anything<\/h3>\n
12. \u201cI want to understand.\u201d <\/i>\u2013 Don’t just wait for your turn to speak<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n13. \u201cI need a moment.\u201d <\/i>\u2013 Don’t argue when you\u2019re angry<\/h3>\n
14. \u201cLet\u2019s work on this problem.\u201d<\/i> \u2013 Don’t fight to win<\/h3>\n
15. \u201cIt\u2019s okay that you feel that way.\u201c<\/i> \u2013 Don’t ignore the other person’s feelings<\/h3>\n
16. \u201cLet\u2019s try to deal with this.\u201c<\/i> \u2013 Don’t criticize the other person<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n17. \u201cWhen you did it, I was hurt.\u201c<\/i> \u2013 Don’t generalize<\/h3>\n
18. \u201cIt\u2019s okay.\u201c<\/i> \u2013 Don’t assign blame<\/h3>\n
19. \u201cI see what you mean.\u201c<\/i> \u2013 Don’t let your reactions rule the conversation<\/h3>\n
20. \u201cLet\u2019s talk about this.\u201d<\/i> \u2013 Don’t refuse to discuss your problems<\/h3>\n
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