{"id":158648,"date":"2022-10-23T14:28:14","date_gmt":"2022-10-23T14:28:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=158648"},"modified":"2022-11-29T13:49:22","modified_gmt":"2022-11-29T13:49:22","slug":"nao-tenho-desejo-sexual-e-o-meu-marido-esta-zangado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nao-tenho-desejo-sexual-e-o-meu-marido-esta-zangado\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00e3o tenho desejo sexual e o meu marido est\u00e1 zangado: 11 solu\u00e7\u00f5es"},"content":{"rendered":"

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 muito tempo, I told my therapist: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad.\u201d<\/strong> Just like that, I spoke the sentence that\u2019s been bugging me for some time. And I felt relieved because I spilled it out.<\/p>\n

Nessa altura, o meu marido e eu j\u00e1 est\u00e1vamos juntos h\u00e1 alguns anos. Eu tinha a certeza de que tudo era perfeito na nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, tudo para al\u00e9m do facto de estarmos presos num casamento sem sexo.<\/p>\n

Felizmente, my therapist told me that there was a way out of this situation. A way that didn\u2019t include adultery or divorce.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, aqui estou eu: partilhar esta sabedoria e mostrar-vos como salvei a minha libido e o meu casamento.<\/strong><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o tenho desejo sexual e o meu marido est\u00e1 zangado: 11 Coisas Para Fazer<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Siga este programa de 11 passos e recupere a sua libido num piscar de olhos.<\/p>\n

1. Encontre a causa do seu baixo desejo sexual<\/h3>\n

A primeira coisa a fazer \u00e9 encontrar a causa subjacente a este problema.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re only human, and it\u2019s natural to have sexual desire, especially when you\u2019re married. After all, you\u2019re constantly with the man you love and who attracts you physically. If this is not the case and if your sex life is suffering, there must be a reason for it.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, o que \u00e9 que se passa? Dig deep inside of yourself and be completely honest. Don\u2019t worry \u2013 you can do it on your own, without your husband, at least in the beginning.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The worst possible scenario is for you to ignore the fact that you have a low libido. There is an issue here that should be worked on. And the first step is to dissect your feelings to try and find out what\u2019s wrong.<\/p>\n

Sente-se atra\u00edda por outros homens mas n\u00e3o pelo seu marido? Tem um casamento sem sexo<\/a> mas consegue sentir-se excitado por outros homens? E quanto a masturbar-se?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ainda tem sentimentos rom\u00e2nticos pelo seu marido? V\u00ea-o como seu companheiro ou apenas como um colega de quarto?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Finalmente, gostaria de ter um desejo sexual mais elevado ou est\u00e1 perfeitamente bem com o seu baixo desejo sexual?<\/p>\n

Once you answer these questions, you\u2019re good to go!<\/p>\n

2. Trabalhar na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n

When you tell someone: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad,\u201d the first piece of advice you\u2019ll get is to spice things up in the bedroom. Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 there is nothing wrong with that.<\/p>\n

No entanto, \u00e9 preciso compreender que a lack of sex in your marriage is a sign of something else. Therefore, if you put your bedroom activities in first place, you\u2019ll only deal with the surface problem, which is wrong.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That is why you have to work on your relationship before anything else. It\u2019s time to reconstruir o seu casamento<\/a> because it\u2019s obviously broken.
\nDon\u2019t obsess over sexual satisfaction. Instead, just introduce some romance into our marriage.<\/p>\n

Sair \u00e0 noite, start saying \u201cI love you\u201d<\/a> mais, e surpreendam-se um ao outro. Tudo isto refor\u00e7ar\u00e1 os vossos la\u00e7os e far\u00e1 com que voltem a apaixonar-se um pelo outro.<\/p>\n

Quando isto acontece, a libido aumenta.<\/p>\n

3. Trabalhe a sua libido sozinho<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Sabia que pode trabalhar a sua libido sozinha? Start with masturbating and see if you\u2019re capable of reaching climax by yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If that\u2019s the case, there is nothing physically wrong with you. This is not about sexual dysfunction \u2013 your marriage needs to be worked on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Explore diferentes t\u00f3picos sexuais. O que \u00e9 que o excita mais? Onde e como gosta de ser tocado?<\/p>\n

Esque\u00e7a as normas sociais e v\u00e1 ao fundo de si pr\u00f3prio. Discover your deepest sexual desires and wildest sexual fantasies. Don\u2019t be ashamed \u2013 there is no one listening; you can be honest with yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 alguma coisa que o seu marido fa\u00e7a que provoque a diminui\u00e7\u00e3o da sua libido? O que \u00e9 que n\u00e3o gosta e o que a excita no quarto?<\/p>\n

Just be careful: if you decide to watch porn or read erotic stories, don\u2019t exaggerate. It\u2019s okay to dive into this world to help yourself out, but don\u2019t lose touch with reality.<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t look for a cure outside of your marriage<\/h3>\n

When a woman says: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad,\u201d in most cases, her first impulse is to go to social media or someplace else and look for another man to skyrocket her libido.<\/p>\n

De facto, tanto os homens como as mulheres agem assim quando a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o a longo prazo deixa de ter sexo.<\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019m advising you not to. As long as you\u2019re here, it means that you think your marriage is worth saving. Infidelity will only make things worse.<\/p>\n

First of all, it would be unfair to your husband to cheat on him. Besides, the first time you do, you\u2019ll realize that it\u2019s not the solution to your problems. No, you won\u2019t get a high libido like that.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You should try and fix this issue inside of your marriage instead of looking for a cure outside of it. If you don\u2019t listen to this advice, your relationship will be broken beyond repair. Just like that, you\u2019ll have another problem you have to deal with.<\/p>\n

5. Comunica\u00e7\u00e3o aberta<\/h3>\n

Look, your husband knows very well what\u2019s going on. Trust me, he doesn\u2019t believe that you have a headache all the time. And nobody is that tired.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I mean, he married a high-libido woman, and now all of a sudden, he\u2019s got one with zero sexual needs.<\/p>\n

So, don\u2019t try ignoring the problem because it won\u2019t magically go away. Instead, remember the importance of comunica\u00e7\u00e3o aberta<\/a> em todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

Say it out loud: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad.\u201d There is nothing shameful here.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Fale com o seu marido e diga-lhe exatamente como se sente. D\u00ea-lhe todas as respostas que voc\u00ea pr\u00f3pria deu no in\u00edcio.<\/p>\n

Tente analisar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o para descobrir onde e quando \u00e9 que as coisas come\u00e7aram a descambar. Aconteceu alguma coisa fora do normal? Como era a vossa vida sexual antes de enfrentarem o baixo desejo sexual?<\/p>\n

6. Tenta compreender o teu marido<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Most importantly, ask your husband how he feels about this situation. Ask him to be honest because that\u2019s the whole point of healthy communication.<\/p>\n

Yes, you know he\u2019s mad. But I mean, let\u2019s be real: who wouldn\u2019t be? Instead of fighting with him, do your best to understand his position.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I mean, this man has sexual needs. He is attracted to you, and he wants you two to be intimate as much as possible. But it\u2019s more than obvious that you don\u2019t share the same desires.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tudo isto deixa-o frustrado.<\/strong> The worst part is that he has no idea what\u2019s going on. What\u2019s the cause of your low libido?<\/p>\n

Ele tornou-se pouco atrativo de um dia para o outro? N\u00e3o est\u00e1 satisfeita com o seu desempenho sexual? Deixou de o amar? Est\u00e1 apaixonada por outra pessoa? Est\u00e1 a tra\u00ed-lo?<\/p>\n

Acredita em mim: n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada pior para um ego masculino do que esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

But even though he\u2019s allowed to be mad, this isn\u2019t an excuse to be abusive or unfaithful. Everything can be resolved, and if it can\u2019t, nobody can stop him from leaving you.<\/p>\n

7. Don\u2019t play the blame game<\/h3>\n

Here\u2019s another big fat no for all the women saying: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad\u201d: jogar o jogo da culpa<\/a>. I have to warn you: you\u2019ll both feel tempted to do this, but this practice can be fatal for your marriage.<\/p>\n

Your low sexual desire is nobody\u2019s fault.<\/strong> I\u2019m sure your husband is doing his best to turn you on. He is trying his hardest to improve your sex life. Besides, he\u2019s feeling bad already. His self-esteem is at its lowest, and you definitely shouldn\u2019t do anything to destroy it even more.<\/p>\n

At the same time, he must avoid accusing you. It\u2019s not like you enjoy your casamento sem sexo<\/a>. I mean, you\u2019d be much happier if you didn\u2019t have to struggle with your low libido.<\/p>\n

Lembra-te: it\u2019s you two against the problem, not one against the other.<\/strong> If you start with the blame game, you\u2019ll just end up arguing pointlessly, and you\u2019ll never come to a solution. Instead, focus all this energy on resolving this issue in the healthiest way possible.<\/p>\n

8. Intimidade f\u00edsica para al\u00e9m do sexo<\/h3>\n

\u00c9 que h\u00e1 muitos outros coisas \u00edntimas que poderia estar a fazer para al\u00e9m do sexo<\/a>. Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not claiming that sex isn\u2019t a crucial part of every romantic relationship. However, it\u2019s not the only thing that can improve a couple\u2019s intimacy and strengthen their connection.<\/p>\n

You have a low sex drive \u2013 I get it. But that doesn\u2019t include kissing, hugging, holding hands, cuddling, and things like that, does it?<\/p>\n

Yes, all of this can lead to sex, but this time, sex is not first place. Don\u2019t see these things as foreplay \u2013 just dar um beijo apaixonado ao seu marido<\/a> e ver como se sente depois.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Also, don\u2019t forget about demonstra\u00e7\u00f5es p\u00fablicas de afeto<\/a>. Don\u2019t jump all over each other in public, but don\u2019t forget to hold hands or walk around while hugging. Show the world that you\u2019re proud to have a husband like him!<\/p>\n

Since you\u2019re the one with low libido, it would also be fair for you to initiate these forms of intimacy. This will be more powerful than saying, \u201cI love you.\u201d<\/p>\n

9. Voltar a namorar com o seu marido<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve already advised you to go on noites de namoro<\/a> with your husband. But for some couples, going on a couple of dates doesn\u2019t help much. If that\u2019s the case with you, I suggest you start dating your husband again.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry, you can still live together. But why wouldn\u2019t you pretend like you\u2019ve just met and you\u2019re about to fall in love with each other for the first time again?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Flirt with this man and do your best to get to know him on another level. Ask him to court you, and you start doing the same. Text each other good morning and good night even though you\u2019re sleeping next to each other.<\/p>\n

Fazer tudo o que um casal novo faria. Isto inclui adiar as rela\u00e7\u00f5es sexuais<\/a> as well. After all, if you\u2019ve just met this man, you\u2019ll need some time to relax before sleeping with him, am I right?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Take things slowly. Remember: baby steps are key. When you feel the need to take this \u201crelationship\u201d to the next level, do so.<\/p>\n

Your husband might even propose to you all over again! This way, you can wait for your \u201cwedding night\u201d to sleep with him. How romantic is that?<\/p>\n

10. Experimentar coisas novas no quarto<\/h3>\n

Now that you\u2019ve worked on all the layers of your partnership, it\u2019s time to focus on the real deal. That\u2019s right, you\u2019ve reached the stage where you can hit the bedroom.<\/p>\n

But please, don\u2019t do whatever you were doing before. It\u2019s clear that you\u2019ve gotten tired of the same old routine. Or maybe deep down, it never pleased you.<\/p>\n

De qualquer forma, agora \u00e9 a altura certa para apimente a sua vida sexual<\/a>. A senhora e o seu marido dominaram a arte da comunica\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel e nada vos pode impedir agora.<\/p>\n

Remember when you worked on your libido by yourself? Well, what\u2019s stopping you from implementing all those things in real intercourse now?<\/p>\n

Tell your husband what you\u2019re into. Tell him that you\u2019ve been exploring your body, and talk to him about everything you\u2019ve discovered.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Acima de tudo, explorem-se um ao outro. Descubram juntos as vossas prefer\u00eancias.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tentar sexting<\/a>, jogo de pap\u00e9is, conversa fiada<\/a>, BSDM… whatever comes to mind. Look, I\u2019m not saying that you\u2019ll enjoy all of these things.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s always important to only do things you\u2019re comfortable with. However, make sure to push your limits and try something new.<\/p>\n

11. Visitar um terapeuta sexual<\/h3>\n

Finally, I suggest going to a sex therapist. Don\u2019t worry, this is perfectly normal, and it only means that you\u2019re mature enough to recognize the problem.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll be able to talk to a mental health expert who will help you get to the bottom of your problem and help you resolve it in the healthiest way possible.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c9 claro que o melhor seria visitar um terapeuta sexual com o seu marido. Podem experimentar diferentes tipos de terapia sexual e recuperar a vossa vida sexual.<\/p>\n

However, you can also go on your own, even before discussing it with him, or even if he\u2019s not interested.<\/p>\n

O que causa o baixo desejo sexual de uma mulher?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve already talked about how important it is to find the cause of your problem. I mean, you didn\u2019t just wake up one morning and say, \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad,\u201d did you? This has been going on for a while now, and it\u2019s about time you see what\u2019s hidden behind this sentence.<\/p>\n

1. Problemas de relacionamento<\/h3>\n

The most common cause of low sex drive in women is different relationship problems. As hard as you try, you can\u2019t separate your body, mind, and heart.<\/p>\n

What does this mean? Well, if your heart is broken, it\u2019s impossible for the person who hurt you to turn you on.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t feel any physical attraction or sexual desire towards the man who caused you emotional pain \u2013 it\u2019s simply how women work.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tem um casamento infeliz<\/a>, and you\u2019re perfectly aware that jumping into bed with your husband won\u2019t magically make things okay.<\/p>\n

Talvez tenha quest\u00f5es de confian\u00e7a<\/a> no vosso casamento. Ou sente-se tra\u00edda por causa de algo que ele fez?<\/p>\n

Talvez sinta que tem um marido desrespeitoso<\/a>, or you two are arguing so much that you can\u2019t get yourself to even kiss him, let alone something else. The list could be endless, but you get the picture.<\/p>\n

Nesse caso, sabe o que tem de ser feito em primeiro lugar. No momento em que resolver os seus problemas de relacionamento, a sua libido elevada voltar\u00e1.<\/p>\n

2. Desequil\u00edbrio hormonal<\/h3>\n

O desequil\u00edbrio hormonal \u00e9 uma causa frequente de baixo desejo sexual nas mulheres. Isto \u00e9 especialmente comum nas mulheres que est\u00e3o a entrar na menopausa.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Another diagnosis is hypogonadism. To put things simply, having this condition means that your body is unable to produce enough sex hormones. If you\u2019re a woman, we\u2019re talking about estrogen.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 exatamente isso que acontece durante a menopausa: os seus n\u00edveis de estrog\u00e9nio come\u00e7am a diminuir. Esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 normalmente seguida de secura vaginal.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Either way, the biggest problem is that you\u2019re probably not even aware that you have a hormone imbalance. That\u2019s why I suggest you pay your MD a visit and do a check-up before anything else.<\/p>\n

3. Baixa autoestima<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Have you involuntarily gained or lost a lot of weight lately? Or maybe you\u2019re just not feeling like your best self? In this case, your low self-esteem might be what\u2019s causing your low sexual desire.<\/p>\n

Isto \u00e9 ainda mais poss\u00edvel se o seu o marido \u00e9 mau<\/a> e tem feito coment\u00e1rios desagrad\u00e1veis sobre a sua apar\u00eancia. He\u2019s killed your confidence, and now you\u2019d rather die than allow him to see you naked. You no longer feel loved and wanted, and consequently, nothing can turn you on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mais uma vez, \u00e9 preciso trabalhar sobre a causa, o que significa aumentar a sua autoestima.<\/a><\/p>\n

4. M\u00e1 comunica\u00e7\u00e3o no quarto de dormir<\/h3>\n

A comunica\u00e7\u00e3o aberta \u00e9 a chave para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a>E isso inclui tamb\u00e9m o quarto de dormir. Por conseguinte, if you can\u2019t tell your husband what your likes and dislikes are, and if he\u2019s not putting any effort into pleasing you, it\u2019s natural that your libido is at its lowest.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You wouldn\u2019t admit this to him, but you\u2019d rather spend time masturbating than sleeping with him. At least, like this, you climax.<\/p>\n

Se isto \u00e9 algo com que se identifica, por favor falar com o seu homem sobre sexo.<\/a> Mostra-lhe como te agradar!<\/p>\n

5. Problemas de sa\u00fade mental<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019ve been struggling with mental health problems, como a depress\u00e3o,<\/a> it\u2019s perfectly natural that your libido has almost disappeared. Tenha em aten\u00e7\u00e3o que um baixo desejo sexual \u00e9 um efeito secund\u00e1rio de certos antidepressivos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I suggest talking to your mental health expert and telling them about the issues you\u2019re facing<\/strong>. Maybe they\u2019ll prescribe you a different type of antidepressant. But please, don\u2019t do anything on your own without consulting a professional!<\/p>\n

\u00c9 normal n\u00e3o ter desejo sexual numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Having no sex drive in a long-term relationship or marriage is actually more common than you might think. In fact, both men and women face this problem, so nobody can tell you it\u2019s not normal.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No entanto, \u00e9 definitivamente um sinal de problemas. A pior coisa que pode fazer \u00e9 aceitar as coisas como elas s\u00e3o e seguir o fluxo. Lembre-se: esta \u00e9 uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica, n\u00e3o uma amizade, e o seu parceiro n\u00e3o \u00e9 o seu colega de quarto.<\/p>\n

Luckily, there are numerous ways to help you build a higher libido. No, sexual desire is not a death sentence for your relationship, and it most definitely doesn\u2019t have to be permanent.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re a woman who says, \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad,\u201d it means only one thing: you\u2019ve taken the first step \u2013 you\u2019ve admitted that you have a problem. You\u2019ve reached the point of self-awareness where you see what this is doing to your marriage, and you\u2019re mature enough to recognize how this entire situation makes your husband feel.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Isto significa que tem uma grande hip\u00f3tese de melhorar as coisas. Se o seu marido tamb\u00e9m estiver disposto a trabalhar na sua baixa libido, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada que vos impe\u00e7a a ambos de serem bem sucedidos.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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