{"id":15981,"date":"2018-03-08T07:57:53","date_gmt":"2018-03-08T07:57:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=15981"},"modified":"2022-02-06T17:07:01","modified_gmt":"2022-02-06T17:07:01","slug":"o-rapaz-foi-apanhado-a-mexer-no-frasco-dos-biscoitos-nao-culpem-o-biscoito","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-rapaz-foi-apanhado-a-mexer-no-frasco-dos-biscoitos-nao-culpem-o-biscoito\/","title":{"rendered":"Para o rapaz que foi apanhado com a m\u00e3o no frasco das bolachas: N\u00e3o culpes a bolacha"},"content":{"rendered":"

Oh, you\u2019re mad at me I hear. I made things difficult for you, did I? Am I supposed to apologize? Sabes o que fizeste, certo? Fizeste batota e depois foste apanhado.<\/strong> I didn\u2019t try to cheat on my wife. I didn\u2019t track down my high school sweetheart nearly a decade after I broke her heart to apologize. I was minding my own fucking business. Living my life. You, a distant memory accompanied by a bad taste in my mouth. The taste of pain, betrayal and desperation.<\/p>\n

Eras um sonho de liceu tornado realidade que se transformou num pesadelo.<\/strong> Entraste na minha vida como uma fantasia. Capit\u00e3o da equipa de futebol e da equipa de basquetebol. Inteligente, carism\u00e1tico, bonito, charmoso e engra\u00e7ado. Tudo isso! O tipo de atra\u00e7\u00e3o que \u00e9 ineg\u00e1vel. Deixaste-me apaixonar por ti e depois escolheste-a. Depois, em vez de me deixares ir, agarraste-te a mim at\u00e9 eu me tornar inconveniente para ti. Depois, finalmente, livraste-te de mim da pior maneira. Tu sabes o que fizeste. E depois isso assombrou-te. Durante oito anos, perseguiu-te. Perguntaste aos nossos amigos sobre mim, ficaste a saber como eu estava e esperaste. You waited until I was perfectly fine. When the ghost of who you were to me had long since settled in my mind, and then you decided to assuage your own guilt. At the expense of my heart\u2014and had I let you in\u2014possibly my future.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quando ouvi a tua voz, voltei a ter quinze anos. Quando me disseste que me amavas, a jovem rapariga que havia em mim ficou radiante. Foi como se o tempo tivesse desaparecido e tiv\u00e9ssemos voltado a ser n\u00f3s. Todas as coisas que eram \u00f3ptimas em sermos n\u00f3s. Mas as mulheres adultas chamaram-me de merda. Tretas de merda. N\u00f3s \u00e9ramos uma mentira. \u00c9ramos uma ilus\u00e3o<\/a> that disappeared when you returned to your girlfriend and pretended that we were just friends, and I pretended that it didn’t kill me.<\/strong> We were nothing more than me idolizing you to the point that I couldn\u2019t see you were using me. I gave you all the things you were missing from your relationship, and then you got to go back to it while I was left twisting in the wind until the next time you needed what you needed from me. Eu era o teu lugar seguro. A tua pessoa. Mas ELA era a tua mulher. E ali passei 10 anos, \u00e0 espera que acordasses e visses que eu podia ser tudo para ti.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can pretend that you didn\u2019t know that I LOVED you, that we were something that we weren\u2019t. Podes reescrever a hist\u00f3ria na tua pr\u00f3pria cabe\u00e7a para que a tua personagem pare\u00e7a mais compreens\u00edvel. Mas a verdade \u00e9 que foste ego\u00edsta. Foi ego\u00edsta na altura e \u00e9 ego\u00edsta agora.<\/strong> After everything you put me through, and you put me through some shit that could fill up a novel\u2026 you don\u2019t even deserve to be forgiven. But I did forgive you. A long time ago. When I stopped loving you. When I looked long and hard at the situation and determined that you did what you thought you needed to for yourself and your family, I let it go. Mudei-me para t\u00e3o longe<\/a> past it that I didn\u2019t even hate you anymore.<\/p>\n

Durante todo esse tempo, deixei-te sozinho. Para viveres a tua vida com a mulher que escolheste. Para constru\u00edres uma fam\u00edlia com a crian\u00e7a que criaste enquanto dormias comigo e n\u00e3o usavas, conscientemente, m\u00e9todos contraceptivos. Mesmo quando me deixaste descobrir por outra pessoa que o teu filho tinha nascido, duas semanas depois da \u00faltima vez que estive contigo e eu n\u00e3o fazia ideia que estavas a semanas de te tornares pai. Deixei-te em paz. Despite how much you hurt me, I didn\u2019t try to hurt you back, or shatter your world like you did mine. I left you alone\u2014to marry her, have another child with her, raise those children with her. I left you alone.<\/strong> That\u2019s what you do when you actually love somebody. Deixa-os ir<\/a>. You let them live their life, even if it\u2019s not with you because you sincerely want the best for them\u2026 even when they have given you no reason to show such loyalty.<\/p>\n

Portanto, agora, Senhor Deputado, N\u00c3O pode ficar zangado comigo.<\/strong> I did NOTHING to you, aside from express what effect your appearance in my life (8 years after you extinguished yourself from it in the cruelest possible way) was having on my psyche. And just to be clear about what that effect was, for starters, I cried for three full days. I called in sick to work for two. My mom came to visit me, got off the plane, took one look at me and thought I was vomiting all day. Nope, just crying. Non-stop. Because mom, you remember that time you told me, \u201cThat guy doesn\u2019t love you. He is not your friend, and you need to leave him alone.\u201d Remember that? Yeah, well, apparently he really DID love me. So there. See. More tears. Some mom rage. Reminders of alllllllll the things he did that were terrible. Like I forgot. That was the start of it.<\/p>\n

Depois a incerteza quando tentaste dizer-me que era a mim que amavas e com quem querias estar. O desejo profundo em mim de acreditar em ti. A necessidade de que fosse verdade. Para validar que tudo o que aconteceu era apenas parte de uma hist\u00f3ria de amor muito retorcida que iria terminar felizmente contigo e comigo a saltar para o p\u00f4r do sol.<\/strong> The months of anguish as I heard from you sporadically at best, but you kept swearing you loved me, and wanted to be with me, and you just want to see me\u2026 and me saying no. Wanting to say yes. Missing you, wanting you, aching for something that I had resigned to myself would never be. Until finally I was like, fuck you in a flurry of texts\u2026 seemingly out of nowhere. Just expressing how selfish you\u2019ve been, and how much you\u2019ve really hurt me over the years. I was entitled to that. At the very least. So you don\u2019t get to be mad at me because your wife saw that. That\u2019s not my fault, nor was it my intention. I\u2019ll be honest though, I feel bad for her\u2026 but you? Podes ir-te lixar.<\/strong> You\u2019re mad at me? Go on.<\/p>\n

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Oh, you\u2019re mad at me I hear. I made things difficult for you, did I? Am I supposed to apologize? You do know what you did, right? You cheated, and then you got caught. I didn\u2019t try to cheat on my wife. I didn\u2019t track down my high school sweetheart nearly a decade after I…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":15984,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29626],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15981","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-affair"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29626,"label":"affair"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/toa-heftiba-295056-unsplash.jpg",800,574,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29626,"name":"affair","slug":"affair","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29626,"taxonomy":"category","description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","parent":29620,"count":132,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29626,"category_count":132,"category_description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","cat_name":"affair","category_nicename":"affair","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15981","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15981"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15981\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15984"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15981"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15981"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15981"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}