{"id":160028,"date":"2022-11-14T11:57:20","date_gmt":"2022-11-14T11:57:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=160028"},"modified":"2022-11-14T11:58:39","modified_gmt":"2022-11-14T11:58:39","slug":"duracao-media-da-relacao-bpd","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/duracao-media-da-relacao-bpd\/","title":{"rendered":"Dura\u00e7\u00e3o m\u00e9dia de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com TPB: O rompimento inevit\u00e1vel"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o com algu\u00e9m com problemas de sa\u00fade mental nunca \u00e9 f\u00e1cil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No matter how much you love each other and how compatible you are, some moments trigger certain behaviors you can\u2019t handle. An example would be <strong>transtorno de personalidade lim\u00edtrofe<\/strong><strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The average length of a BPD relationship varies from person to person. If you\u2019re in a relationship with someone with this disorder, you\u2019ll inevitably think about how long your relationship will last.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ent\u00e3o, quanto tempo dura uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com uma pessoa com TPB? \u00c9 poss\u00edvel fazer funcionar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com um parceiro com TPB? Este artigo esclarecer\u00e1 tudo isso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-s-the-average-length-of-a-bpd-relationship\">What\u2019s The Average Length Of A BPD Relationship?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>As estat\u00edsticas dizem que a dura\u00e7\u00e3o m\u00e9dia de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com TPB \u00e9 de cerca de <strong>dois anos e meio.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As pessoas com TPB normalmente <strong>don\u2019t have <\/strong><strong>rela\u00e7\u00f5es duradouras<\/strong> devido \u00e0s suas constantes mudan\u00e7as de humor e comportamento impulsivo, que \u00e9 o problema fundamental subjacente a todos os outros.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At first, it might seem as if you\u2019ll develop a<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/15-caracteristicas-de-uma-relacao-saudavel\/\"> rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel,<\/a> but most often, that isn\u2019t the case.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Muito drama, emo\u00e7\u00f5es intensas e medo do abandono contribuem para que as rela\u00e7\u00f5es com TPB n\u00e3o durem muito tempo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-7-stages-of-the-bpd-relationship-cycle\">7 fases do ciclo da rela\u00e7\u00e3o com o TPB<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Embora existam 4 tipos diferentes de TPB, e cada um seja espec\u00edfico \u00e0 sua maneira, existe um padr\u00e3o universal de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica com um parceiro com TPB.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At first, you\u2019ll spot that they\u2019re madly in love with you, and they\u2019ll do anything to satisfy your needs. You\u2019ll start to think you have a stable relationship, but that <strong>won\u2019t last long.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ent\u00e3o, o que acontece exatamente?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-attraction\">1. Atra\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/beautiful-loving-couple-sitting-outdoors.jpg\" alt=\"belo casal amoroso sentado ao ar livre\" class=\"wp-image-160030\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/beautiful-loving-couple-sitting-outdoors.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/beautiful-loving-couple-sitting-outdoors-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/beautiful-loving-couple-sitting-outdoors-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/beautiful-loving-couple-sitting-outdoors-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/beautiful-loving-couple-sitting-outdoors-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/beautiful-loving-couple-sitting-outdoors-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/beautiful-loving-couple-sitting-outdoors-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/beautiful-loving-couple-sitting-outdoors-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>O in\u00edcio de uma nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 emocionante, e uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com perturba\u00e7\u00e3o da personalidade lim\u00edtrofe n\u00e3o \u00e9 exce\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nesta fase, o seu parceiro com TPB ir\u00e1 <strong>espelhar o seu comportamento<\/strong>: os seus interesses, experi\u00eancias e objectivos de vida. Esta fase \u00e9 muito semelhante \u00e0 fase de<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/fase-de-lua-de-mel\/\"> fase de lua de mel<\/a>e a idealiza\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 a sua carater\u00edstica mais proeminente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As they mirror your behavior, you\u2019ll start to think that you have finally found the right person. You\u2019ll have fun together and never fight, but that won\u2019t last long&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-neediness\">2. Necessidade<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>In this phase, you\u2019ll slowly realize that the honeymoon phase was just a mask. The BPD sufferer will start to think <strong>you don\u2019t love them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They\u2019ll start to fight over stupid things and become clingy and possessive. This is when you\u2019ll realize <strong>seus <\/strong><strong>impulsividade<\/strong><strong> n\u00e3o \u00e9 brincadeira.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even though you\u2019ve never given them any reason to think that you don\u2019t love them or that you\u2019ve been unfaithful, they still won\u2019t believe you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-withdraw\">3. Retirada<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Na terceira fase da rela\u00e7\u00e3o com o transtorno de personalidade lim\u00edtrofe, eles <strong>esconder todas as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es<\/strong> e tentam esconder as suas intensas mudan\u00e7as de humor. Isto \u00e9<strong> uma forma de o testar.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They don\u2019t want the relationship to end; they want you to fight for them. By withholding their emotions and giving you the silent treatment, they want to see to what extent you will fight for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You will focus more on their emotional needs, and that\u2019s exactly what a BPD partner wants.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-devaluation\">4. Desvaloriza\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-sad-woman-sits-by-the-window.jpg\" alt=\"uma mulher triste senta-se \u00e0 janela\" class=\"wp-image-160031\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-sad-woman-sits-by-the-window.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-sad-woman-sits-by-the-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-sad-woman-sits-by-the-window-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-sad-woman-sits-by-the-window-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-sad-woman-sits-by-the-window-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-sad-woman-sits-by-the-window-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-sad-woman-sits-by-the-window-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-sad-woman-sits-by-the-window-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>If you don\u2019t provide them with the necessary attention and if the level of your \u2018\u2018\u2018fight\u2019\u2019 for them doesn\u2019t meet their expectations, you\u2019ll develop an unstable relationship. Why?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Porque<strong> they didn\u2019t get the <\/strong><strong>valida\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong><strong> <\/strong>they wanted, they\u2019ll start to <strong>desvalorizar-vos<\/strong>. Os seus problemas de abandono v\u00e3o-se manifestar e o seu comportamento vai oscilar. Podem tamb\u00e9m envolver-se em comportamentos sexuais de risco.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They are sure that you\u2019ll break up with them, so they\u2019ll start<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/iluminacao-artificial-numa-relacao\/\"> a enganar-vos<\/a> into thinking it\u2019s your fault, and you\u2019ll have a hard time maintaining a stable relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-the-breakup\">5. A rutura<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Now when they can\u2019t mask the borderline personality disorder with attraction, you\u2019ll see their true face. They will leave you with or without notice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A maior parte do tempo, <strong>isto acontece do nada<\/strong>. If they find someone else who satisfies their emotional needs, they simply won\u2019t need you anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You have served your purpose, and it\u2019s time for someone new to do the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-6-they-return-to-you\">6. Eles voltam para si<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Agora, eles est\u00e3o desesperados sem ti e<strong> <\/strong><strong>arrepender-se de ter acabado<\/strong>e assumem a culpa de tudo o que levou ao fim da rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Podem come\u00e7ar a amea\u00e7\u00e1-lo com automutila\u00e7\u00e3o ou suic\u00eddio se os rejeitar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pelo contr\u00e1rio, se voltar a namorar com eles, pode sentir <strong>a <\/strong><strong>fase de lua de mel<\/strong><strong> tudo de novo<\/strong>, but that won\u2019t last.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-7-all-over-again\">7. Tudo de novo<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>If you play their game, you\u2019ll be trapped in <strong>um sem fim <\/strong><strong>Ciclo da rela\u00e7\u00e3o com o TPB<\/strong>. Depois de regressarem a si, o ciclo repete-se.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Em cada novo ciclo, pode ocorrer um comportamento mais agressivo, explos\u00f5es emocionais, gaslighting e tentativas de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, it\u2019s possible to have <strong>um \u00eaxito <\/strong><strong>Rela\u00e7\u00e3o com TPB<\/strong> when your partner knows how to control their impulsive behavior. These cases are rare, but they can happen \u2013 if your BPD partner really loves you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-10-ways-to-maintain-a-bpd-relationship\">10 maneiras de manter um relacionamento com TPB<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>A dura\u00e7\u00e3o m\u00e9dia das rela\u00e7\u00f5es com TPB pode ser prolongada. N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a que o TPB \u00e9 uma doen\u00e7a mental caracterizada por altera\u00e7\u00f5es de humor, explos\u00f5es de raiva, medo de abandono e comportamento impulsivo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can tell from the symptoms that it might be pretty challenging being in a relationship with a BPD partner. So let\u2019s see how you can maintain as stable a BPD relationship as possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-know-the-right-time-to-talk-about-problems\">1. Saber a altura certa para falar sobre os problemas<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-the-table-and-talking.jpg\" alt=\"um homem e uma mulher est\u00e3o sentados \u00e0 mesa a conversar\" class=\"wp-image-160032\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-the-table-and-talking.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-the-table-and-talking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-the-table-and-talking-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-the-table-and-talking-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-the-table-and-talking-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-the-table-and-talking-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-the-table-and-talking-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-the-table-and-talking-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>As people with BPD have very impulsive reactions, the last thing you want to do is upset them even more. That\u2019s why it\u2019s important to know <strong>quando discutir os problemas e afastar-se.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Their actions and words may seem manipulative and destructive to both of you, but they don\u2019t have those intentions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Por vezes, t\u00eam dificuldade em gerir as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es e reac\u00e7\u00f5es. Por isso, se os apanhar nestas situa\u00e7\u00f5es, <strong>tentar ser paciente<\/strong> and wait until they\u2019ve calmed down to have a normal conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-don-t-interrupt-them-when-they-talk\">2. Don\u2019t interrupt them when they talk<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Even when they have calmed down, you shouldn\u2019t do things that might trigger their impulsive behavior. One such thing is interrupting them while they\u2019re talking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They struggle to maintain concentration, and if you interrupt them, they\u2019ll think<strong> you\u2019re going against them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This might cause an angry outburst, and you won\u2019t solve the problem but only make a bigger one. So, don\u2019t interrupt them; wait until they\u2019re done talking and then say what\u2019s on your mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-emotions-before-words\">3. As emo\u00e7\u00f5es antes das palavras<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Lembre-se que o seu parceiro com TPB <strong>fala com emo\u00e7\u00f5es e n\u00e3o com palavras<\/strong>. Their disorder doesn\u2019t allow them to communicate rationally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019ve been in a relationship for a long time, you probably know your BPD partner says much more with emotions than words. They <strong>necessidade <\/strong><strong>valida\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong><strong> e reconhecimento<\/strong> do sofrimento que est\u00e3o a viver.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Preste aten\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 emo\u00e7\u00e3o que a pessoa de quem cuida est\u00e1 a tentar exprimir, sem se deixar levar pela tentativa de dar sentido \u00e0s palavras que est\u00e3o a ser usadas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-remain-calm-during-conversation\">4. Manter a calma durante a conversa<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-stands-next-to-a-man-as-they-talk.jpg\" alt=\"uma mulher com cabelo castanho comprido est\u00e1 ao lado de um homem enquanto conversam\" class=\"wp-image-160033\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-stands-next-to-a-man-as-they-talk.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-stands-next-to-a-man-as-they-talk-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-stands-next-to-a-man-as-they-talk-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-stands-next-to-a-man-as-they-talk-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-stands-next-to-a-man-as-they-talk-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-stands-next-to-a-man-as-they-talk-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-stands-next-to-a-man-as-they-talk-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-woman-with-long-brown-hair-stands-next-to-a-man-as-they-talk-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Sei que a aten\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 sempre centrada no seu parceiro com TPB, mas nunca em si. Por vezes, isso pode ser frustrante.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mas lembre-se que <strong>you\u2019re the healthy one,<\/strong> and they\u2019re struggling with a mental illness. Count to ten or take a break before responding to a heated discussion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Se come\u00e7ar a ficar zangado e impulsivo, isso s\u00f3 ter\u00e1 <strong>um efeito contr\u00e1rio<\/strong> e agravar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-talk-about-other-things\">5. Falar de outras coisas<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Embora a TPB influencie enormemente a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, ela<strong> doesn\u2019t define it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Se quiser estabilizar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, tente distrair-se da perturba\u00e7\u00e3o de personalidade lim\u00edtrofe. Falem de outras coisas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Uma boa distra\u00e7\u00e3o seriam t\u00f3picos sobre os seus interesses, passatempos e quest\u00f5es de conhecimento. Tente fazer <strong>uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o forte<\/strong> de outras coisas para al\u00e9m da DBP. Para al\u00e9m de falar, pode sempre participar em actividades diferentes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Fa\u00e7am um curso de culin\u00e1ria, viajem para um s\u00edtio novo ou v\u00e3o juntos ao gin\u00e1sio. Isto n\u00e3o s\u00f3 o distrair\u00e1 da DBP, como tamb\u00e9m tornar\u00e1 a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o mais forte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-6-set-boundaries\">6. Estabelecer limites<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>A maior parte de n\u00f3s parte do princ\u00edpio de que as pessoas com perturba\u00e7\u00e3o da personalidade lim\u00edtrofe s\u00e3o criaturas fr\u00e1geis e precisam de algu\u00e9m que cuide delas constantemente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Estas pessoas s\u00e3o <strong>capazes de funcionar por si pr\u00f3prios <\/strong>e s\u00e3o de facto muito inteligentes e intelectuais. Por isso, se achas que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/limites-nas-relacoes\/\">defini\u00e7\u00e3o de limites<\/a> can\u2019t help you because they won\u2019t realize their importance, you\u2019re wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Seja honesto sobre <strong>o que pode tolerar e o que precisa deles.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tente investir mais em expressar as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es do que em ter argumentos racionais, porque isso \u00e9 <strong>a sua comunica\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-7-try-psychotherapy\">7. Experimentar a psicoterapia<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>A psicoterapia \u00e9 uma \u00f3ptima op\u00e7\u00e3o para manter a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o o mais saud\u00e1vel poss\u00edvel. A terapia da conversa, conhecida como<a href=\"https:\/\/www.mind.org.uk\/information-support\/drugs-and-treatments\/talking-therapy-and-counselling\/dialectical-behaviour-therapy-dbt\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> <strong>terapia comportamental dial\u00e9tica<\/strong><\/a><strong> <\/strong>(DBT), \u00e9 uma \u00f3ptima maneira de come\u00e7ar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Baseia-se na terapia cognitivo-comportamental (TCC), mas foi modificada especificamente para as pessoas que sentem emo\u00e7\u00f5es fortes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Esta terapia ajud\u00e1-los-\u00e1 a criar <strong>eficaz <\/strong><strong>estrat\u00e9gias de sobreviv\u00eancia<\/strong><strong> <\/strong>para reduzir a frequ\u00eancia e a gravidade do seu comportamento impulsivo e das suas explos\u00f5es de raiva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-8-learn-about-bpd\">8. Aprender sobre a DBP<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-is-talking-to-a-woman.jpg\" alt=\"um homem est\u00e1 a falar com uma mulher\" class=\"wp-image-160034\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-is-talking-to-a-woman.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-is-talking-to-a-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-is-talking-to-a-woman-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-is-talking-to-a-woman-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-is-talking-to-a-woman-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-is-talking-to-a-woman-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-is-talking-to-a-woman-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/a-man-is-talking-to-a-woman-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>You can\u2019t fully understand your BPD partner if you don\u2019t know what BPD is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>O TPB \u00e9 uma parte integrante do seu parceiro, e ao aprender mais sobre o TPB, <strong>tamb\u00e9m se aprende mais sobre eles.<\/strong> You don\u2019t know about BPD if you can only recognize the symptoms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>BPD is more than that. BPD sufferers are not just being difficult, and they aren&#8217;t intentionally trying to hurt you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Os sintomas da perturba\u00e7\u00e3o da personalidade lim\u00edtrofe s\u00e3o provocados por um stress psicol\u00f3gico grave e por uma falta de capacidade emocional para lidar com emo\u00e7\u00f5es intensas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-9-learn-to-cope-with-stress\">9. Aprender a lidar com o stress<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>When someone with BPD loves you, you\u2019ll probably be exposed to a lot of stress, so you should find the right way to cope with that amount of stress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tente cuidar de si, ler um livro e ter um bom jantar com a sua fam\u00edlia ou amigos. Cuide do seu corpo: durma o suficiente, fa\u00e7a exerc\u00edcio diariamente e evite o consumo de \u00e1lcool e de subst\u00e2ncias.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tente descobrir qual destas coisas funciona melhor para si e para o seu bem-estar e adote-a sempre que se sentir stressado com a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-10-remember-the-3-cs\">10. Lembrar os 3 Cs<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Many friends or family members regularly face guilt and self-blame for the borderline person&#8217;s damaging behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Poder\u00e1 perguntar-se o que fez para provocar a sua raiva, acreditar que de alguma forma mereceu os maus-tratos ou sentir-se culpado por eventuais falhas no tratamento ou reca\u00eddas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, it&#8217;s crucial to keep in mind that you are not responsible for their reactions and behavior. The BPD sufferer is in charge of their own decisions and actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Os 3 Cs s\u00e3o:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1. I didn&#8217;t <strong>causa<\/strong> ele.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2. I can&#8217;t <strong>cura<\/strong> ele.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>3. I can&#8217;t <strong>controlo<\/strong> ele.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-why-do-bpd-relationships-fail\">Porque \u00e9 que as rela\u00e7\u00f5es com TPB falham?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/the-woman-leaves-the-man.jpg\" alt=\"a mulher deixa o homem\" class=\"wp-image-160035\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/the-woman-leaves-the-man.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/the-woman-leaves-the-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/the-woman-leaves-the-man-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/the-woman-leaves-the-man-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/the-woman-leaves-the-man-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/the-woman-leaves-the-man-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/the-woman-leaves-the-man-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/the-woman-leaves-the-man-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>There are several reasons why BPD relationships don\u2019t work. The first one is if the BPD disorder isn\u2019t diagnosed. As in everyday life, we<strong> cannot fix a problem if we don\u2019t know what it is.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s why you won\u2019t be able to find an excuse for such behavior. Dealing with a BPD partner, even one who has been diagnosed, is challenging.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Existe <strong>n\u00e3o <\/strong><strong>meio termo<\/strong>: they either love you unconditionally, and it seems like they\u2019re your true soulmate, or they do terrible things to you, like manipulation, gaslighting, or insulting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>During your relationship, you constantly feel like you\u2019re walking on eggshells.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tal como um narcisista, uma pessoa com TPB <strong>cria factos a partir de sentimentos<\/strong> e vive em realidades alternativas, o que \u00e9 algo que ningu\u00e9m suporta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-can-people-with-bpd-have-long-term-relationships\">As pessoas com TPB podem ter relacionamentos de longo prazo?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Sim, uma pessoa com TPB pode ter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura, embora normalmente tenha rela\u00e7\u00f5es de curta dura\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, as people diagnosed with BPD have a different mindset than regular people, it\u2019s obvious that you\u2019ll come across several difficulties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Be prepared that you won\u2019t have a constantly stable relationship. Instead, there will be a lot of mood swings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>O mais importante nestas rela\u00e7\u00f5es \u00e9<strong> compreens\u00e3o m\u00fatua e paci\u00eancia<\/strong>. Always remember that your BPD partner is capable of love; you don\u2019t know how to express it correctly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Al\u00e9m disso, os profissionais de sa\u00fade mental desempenham um papel importante na qualidade da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com a TPB.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-when-should-you-leave-a-bpd-relationship\">Quando \u00e9 que se deve sair de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com TPB?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes you can\u2019t be with someone no matter how much you love them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you realize there is no respect for your boundaries, that you feel unsafe around them, and that even psychotherapy hasn\u2019t helped to maintain a stable relationship \u2013 it\u2019s time to leave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No fim de contas, a sua sa\u00fade mental e f\u00edsica \u00e9 o mais importante. Se <strong>seu <\/strong><strong>sa\u00fade mental<\/strong> isn\u2019t good, you aren\u2019t able to help someone with <strong>seus <\/strong><strong>sa\u00fade mental<\/strong><strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yes, you are their partner and should help them control their behavior, but you aren\u2019t their therapist. How you feel about the role of a therapist is up to you, and if you think this role isn\u2019t for you, it probably isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-let-s-recap\">Let\u2019s Recap<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>As estat\u00edsticas dizem que a dura\u00e7\u00e3o m\u00e9dia das rela\u00e7\u00f5es com TPB \u00e9 de cerca de dois anos e meio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But don\u2019t trust the statistics \u2013 you should only trust <strong>as vossas emo\u00e7\u00f5es e o desejo de ficarem juntos.<\/strong> If you understand each other, you\u2019ll always make things work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A chave para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o bem sucedida com uma pessoa com TPB \u00e9 ser paciente com o seu parceiro, compreender o seu comportamento e arranjar tempo para cuidar de si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Being in a relationship with someone with mental health issues is never easy. 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