{"id":160641,"date":"2022-11-28T09:39:32","date_gmt":"2022-11-28T09:39:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=160641"},"modified":"2023-02-03T09:31:42","modified_gmt":"2023-02-03T09:31:42","slug":"ele-mandou-uma-mensagem-depois-do-primeiro-encontro-mas-nao-desde-entao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ele-mandou-uma-mensagem-depois-do-primeiro-encontro-mas-nao-desde-entao\/","title":{"rendered":"Ele mandou uma mensagem depois do primeiro encontro, mas n\u00e3o mandou mais? Eis o que se passa"},"content":{"rendered":"

You both swiped right, talked for a while, then finally went out. The date was fun, there was a mention of the second date, he texted after dropping you off, then \u2013 nothing. Not a peep from this dude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But tell me something: have you texted him? If you haven\u2019t and you like the guy, what are you waiting for? If you have and he hasn\u2019t replied, well, then keep reading.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why would a guy give you the impression that he\u2019s interested and then ghost you?<\/strong> The reasons might be more unremarkable than you\u2019re hoping for. Here are all the possibilities why he texted after first date but not since.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13 raz\u00f5es pelas quais ele mandou uma mensagem depois do primeiro encontro, mas n\u00e3o desde ent\u00e3o<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You had a great date with a guy, and now he\u2019s nowhere to be found \u2013 a tale as old as time; or Tinder, if you met online, which you probably did.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He sent a text after you parted ways and you thought it was a good sign that your next date was around the corner, but now you\u2019re wondering why this guy is ghosting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he texted after first date but not since, here\u2019s what\u2019s going on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Ele tinha expectativas diferentes<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"um<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Losing interest after a date is more common than you\u2019d think. Before the date, we build a picture of the other person in our minds. Then we face the real deal, realizing reality doesn\u2019t match our expectations \u2013 and we\u2019re done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Provavelmente falaste com esse tipo algumas vezes antes de sa\u00edres, e ambos criaram uma imagem de como a outra pessoa seria com base nessas poucas interac\u00e7\u00f5es<\/strong>. Thinking about this imaginary person \u2013 who fit your desires and was just your type \u2013 got you excited about the date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois conhecem-se pessoalmente, mas o ser humano real nunca pode ser t\u00e3o bom como a fantasia. No dia seguinte, a realidade instala-se e apercebemo-nos que a pessoa com quem sa\u00edmos <\/strong>\u00faltima noite<\/strong> n\u00e3o \u00e9 nada como a figura idealizada que esperavas<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So here you have the most likely answer to your dilemma. He gave up because he realized after your date that you\u2019re nothing like he imagined, especially if he\u2019s talking to other girls, all of whom he\u2019s building up in his head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

E tu? Gostas dele ou a ideia<\/em> dele<\/a>? Do you really like this guy you\u2019ve met once so much that you\u2019re letting his silence eat you up inside?<\/strong> You might only be wondering why he hasn\u2019t texted again because of your bruised ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Ele decidiu n\u00e3o namorar consigo por outra raz\u00e3o<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Once he\u2019s had time to sleep on it and think about your date, he might have realized that you said or did something that he considers a red flag or you mentioned something that, to him, is a deal breaker in relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t take this personally. Everyone has their preferences and you can\u2019t influence what someone considers important when it comes to dating. He might have just realized that you\u2019re too incompatible to pursue a relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por outro lado, esta pode ser uma boa oportunidade para pensar se realmente fez algo que ele poderia razoavelmente ter interpretado como um sinal de alerta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, it\u2019s as likely that it has nothing at all to do with you, but it doesn\u2019t hurt to refletir sobre as suas palavras e ac\u00e7\u00f5es<\/strong> from the date. Don\u2019t overanalyze and obsess, but take a moment to think it through.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seja honesta consigo pr\u00f3pria porque, se houver alguma coisa, pode estar a faz\u00ea-lo tamb\u00e9m com outros homens e isso pode impedi-la de passar do primeiro encontro com outros homens no futuro. Se conseguir identificar o que poderia ter sido, pode trabalhar nisso e tornar a sua vida amorosa mais bem sucedida.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. He realized he’s not as attracted as he thought<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"homem<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

O comportamento dele, a linguagem corporal e as coisas que ele dizia davam-lhe a impress\u00e3o de que as coisas podiam ir mais longe do que um encontro, mas depois nada?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes it takes a while to realize you\u2019re not attracted enough to someone to make an effort.<\/strong> Se ele estava em cima do muro durante o vosso encontro e pouco depois, bastava-lhe dormir sobre o assunto para tomar uma decis\u00e3o final sobre se gosta ou n\u00e3o de si o suficiente para avan\u00e7ar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone you\u2019re interested in doesn\u2019t like you back, it can feel like a blow to the pride, but when you accept that it\u2019s perfectly fine if not everyone likes you, it\u2019s easy to get over it. Dating is all about discovering the people you\u2019re most compatible with.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So don\u2019t beat yourself up if the reason why he didn\u2019t follow up is that he realized he was less attracted to you than he thought. Another person\u2019s opinion has nothing to do with you. You don\u2019t depend on anyone else to assure you of your worth because you know how valuable you are. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Besides, isn\u2019t it better to know before you\u2019ve developed serious feelings?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. He’s dating someone else or he met someone new<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re both just dating and meeting new people, it\u2019s safe to assume that you\u2019re not the only girl he\u2019s dating<\/strong>. (He\u2019s probably not the only guy in your recents, either.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Voc\u00eas s\u00f3 tomaram uns copos juntos, mas talvez os outros interesses rom\u00e2nticos dele sejam mais s\u00e9rios. Ou ent\u00e3o ele gostou do vosso encontro, mas depois encontrou outra pessoa em quem estava mais interessado e concentrou-se nela.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Este foi o vosso primeiro encontro, mas talvez ele j\u00e1 tenha ido ao terceiro encontro com outra rapariga de quem gosta e ela tenha-lhe dito que tamb\u00e9m gosta dele. Talvez ele gosta de si mas come\u00e7ou a sair com outra pessoa<\/a> because they\u2019re more compatible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se havia uma mudan\u00e7a que ele esperava na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com outra pessoa, pode ter decidido n\u00e3o sair consigo por raz\u00f5es que nada t\u00eam a ver consigo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your best choice in most of these situations is to forget about him and get in touch with another guy you\u2019ve been texting<\/strong>. Quem sabe, talvez o teu pr\u00f3ximo encontro seja com algu\u00e9m de quem gostes muito mais.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Ele estava apenas a ser educado quando lhe enviou a mensagem<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Se ele nunca planeou voltar a convid\u00e1-la para sair, porque \u00e9 que lhe enviou uma mensagem depois do encontro? Ele pode ter sido apenas educado.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mandou-te uma mensagem para saber como estavas, para ver se tinhas chegado bem a casa ou porque achava que era uma atitude cort\u00eas.<\/strong> It might have been a wrong move that got your hopes up for no reason, but maybe he didn\u2019t look at it that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ideally, we\u2019d all always say what we mean and how we feel but of course, life doesn\u2019t work that way. If he had been upfront with you and immediately told you that he wasn\u2019t interested in anything, that would have hurt too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A \u00fanica coisa a fazer nesta situa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 esquecer o assunto e seguir em frente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. A sua vida \u00e9 demasiado ocupada<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"um<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Muitas vezes, quando um gajo ignora-o mas gosta de si<\/a>, it\u2019s because he\u2019s too busy<\/strong>. Look at your life and all the things you have going on \u2013 work, family, close friends, hobbies, obligations, stress, emergencies. No doubt it\u2019s the same for him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You might have placed more value on your date than he has or you\u2019re dwelling on it because he didn\u2019t follow up, but either way, look at your date in a larger context. An evening out with someone you’ve only met once can hardly become a priority if your life is hectic and there\u2019s always something going on.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s annoying, I know, but instead of racking your brain about why he doesn\u2019t text, focus on the more important things in your own life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Ele tem problemas pessoais<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

A ton of personal issues affect romantic relationships and the decisions we make about the people we date. For example, maybe he just got out of a relationship and realized he\u2019s not ready to date yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He might have mental health issues or poor self-esteem and became discouraged from dating because he\u2019s not feeling good about himself. It\u2019s also possible that he has medical problems that pushed dating into a low spot on his list of priorities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he has personal issues, it\u2019s really impossible to know unless he shares them with you. <\/strong>Trying to figure out what\u2019s happening won\u2019t bring you closure but only occupy your time and sap your energy, so it\u2019s best to just let it go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. He thinks you’re not interested<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Maybe something about your date made him think that you\u2019re not interested and this discouraged him from pursuing anything. If he\u2019s assuming that you won\u2019t accept a <\/strong>segundo encontro<\/strong>, he\u2019s not even going to ask you.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A sua aparente falta de interesse est\u00e1 a fazer com que ele medo da rejei\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>, with good reason, so he\u2019s avoiding contact to spare his feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he got the wrong impression, you could easily solve this problem by contacting him and giving him a clear sign that you\u2019re interested. <\/strong>It depends on how much time has passed since you\u2019ve last heard from him, but if you don’t think it’s too late, shoot him a text and assess the situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he replies quickly and enthusiastically, then it\u2019s likely that he didn\u2019t text you because he believed you weren\u2019t interested, so now\u2019s your chance to prove him wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Ele estava \u00e0 espera que tomasse a iniciativa<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"uma<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Uma das raz\u00f5es mais comuns pelas quais um homem mostra-se interessado e depois recua<\/a> \u00e9 porque ele espera que tu d\u00eas o primeiro passo. Ele quer que voc\u00ea mostre um interesse ativo por ele, em vez de ficar \u00e0 espera que ele fa\u00e7a tudo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re interested in this guy, then you won\u2019t make things worse if you contact him. Texting him can change things for the better or leave them as they are, so you really have nothing to lose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It depends on how much time has passed since you\u2019ve last heard from him, but if you don’t think it’s too late, text him. If he replies, talk to him a bit and let him know that you want to spend time with him. Se ele parecer recetivo, <\/strong>tu<\/em><\/strong> perguntar <\/strong>ele<\/em><\/strong> fora.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He might say no and you\u2019re right where you started, so no biggie. If he says yes, you have another chance to let him know that you\u2019re interested in him, this time with added eye contact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. He doesn’t like talking to you<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The dynamic of your text conversations with someone you\u2019re interested in matters more than you\u2019d think. Ask yourself, who initiated most of your conversations? Who was keeping the conversation going?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lots of girls expect guys to convince them to go out with them, so they don\u2019t even try.<\/strong> If you\u2019re the type who waits for the guy to do everything, then he might be tired of talking to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he\u2019s initiating texting and you expect him to keep them alive, then you make him feel like it\u2019s all up to him. This makes your conversations difficult and exhausting for him, so he doesn\u2019t want to do it anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Como \u00e9 que foi o vosso encontro? Ele ainda estava a conduzir a conversa? Fazia perguntas, mostrava interesse, iniciava temas? Like everyone else, he wants someone who\u2019ll show him they like his company and want to get to know him.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por isso, se este for o seu caso, aprenda com ele para o pr\u00f3ximo encontro com o pr\u00f3ximo rapaz e mostre mais interesse e iniciativa para fazer com que um rapaz se sinta bem em passar tempo consigo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. Ele nunca esteve realmente interessado<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Isto pode ser dif\u00edcil de engolir, mas se pensarmos bem, sabemos que coisas como esta acontecem. You\u2019re talking to someone, and you don\u2019t dislike them, but you also don\u2019t like them enough to date them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Envia-lhes mensagens de texto s\u00f3 porque sim e conversa mesmo que n\u00e3o tenha qualquer inten\u00e7\u00e3o de prosseguir. Pode ser que falem de algo interessante ou que esteja aborrecido, por isso continua a falar com eles<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depois, vai-se a um encontro na esperan\u00e7a de que haja uma fa\u00edsca, ou por nenhuma raz\u00e3o em particular, e, claro, n\u00e3o acontece nada. The date goes okay, but there\u2019s no sudden magic or love at first sight.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You text again out of habit or because you\u2019re not thinking, then immediately regret it because you decide that you don\u2019t have any interest in this person at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This might seem cruel when it happens to you, but it\u2019s very common and rarely done with bad intentions.<\/strong> It\u2019s one of those things people do and can\u2019t explain why.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I bet you didn\u2019t have any deep feelings for him, either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. Ele estava \u00e0 procura de valida\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n\n\n\n\n\n
\"um<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Alguns homens necessitam de aten\u00e7\u00e3o feminina constante<\/a> to feel good about themselves, so they surround themselves with women who\u2019ll give it to them. They\u2019re never serious about those women and they rarely go beyond dating or casual sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Guys like this don\u2019t feel good about themselves and are always looking for external validation<\/strong>, so the only thing he wanted from you was to show him that you\u2019re interested in him. You were just another one in the line of girls he needed to feed his fragile ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se ele n\u00e3o tem auto-confian\u00e7a, a aten\u00e7\u00e3o constante \u00e9 o que lhe d\u00e1 a certeza do seu valor. A sua necessidade de valida\u00e7\u00e3o pode ser uma <\/strong>bandeira vermelha<\/strong> e pode ter estado a lidar com um <\/strong>narcisista<\/strong>, <\/strong>por isso, se ele a deixou ir antes de ser arrastada para os seus esquemas, considere-se sortuda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. Ele estava a brincar consigo<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t rule out the possibility that he was brincar consigo<\/a>. Maybe he was hoping for something physical after your date, and when it didn\u2019t come, he lost interest. If you did have sex with him, then he got what he wanted, said goodbye and that\u2019s it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Os jogadores s\u00e3o todos <\/strong>festa<\/strong> com o maior n\u00famero poss\u00edvel de mulheres e ter um fornecimento constante de novas raparigas para os entreter. <\/strong>They move on quickly, no matter what you\u2019re like and how you act. A player will drop you as soon as he realizes that you\u2019re not on the same page or that you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Guys like this are best avoided. But even if you don\u2019t spot what he\u2019s like in time, you can still get out of it fairly unscathed if you let it go and don\u2019t dwell. Don\u2019t chase him or try to change him because it has no chance of working.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O que fazer se ele mandou uma mensagem depois do primeiro encontro, mas n\u00e3o mandou mais?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Siga em frente. Fique contente por isto ter acontecido antes de ter investido e por os danos terem sido m\u00ednimos. You didn\u2019t miss out on your <\/strong>amor verdadeiro<\/strong>confia em mim. <\/strong>De facto, a \u00fanica coisa que foi ferida foi o seu ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you still need some comfort, think back to a time when you didn\u2019t even notice that you ghosted a guy because he was just so meh, and meanwhile, he was probably waiting for you to contact him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m not saying that this is what happened here, only that it\u2019s possible to look at things from more than one point of view. Just accept that he wasn\u2019t interested enough and <\/strong>seguir em frente<\/strong> sem arrependimentos.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Em vez disso, pense no seu encontro com ele como uma noite divertida que n\u00e3o tem qualquer significado especial, mas que foi uma forma agrad\u00e1vel de passar o tempo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Raparigas e guys flirt when they\u2019re not interested<\/a>Os homens prometem encontros e nunca os cumprem. \u00c9 o que acontece no mundo dos encontros modernos. N\u00e3o tem nada a ver consigo, por isso deixe de se preocupar.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It doesn\u2019t matter why he isn\u2019t texting. Take care of yourself and live your own life. Deixe-o ir e deixe de desperdi\u00e7ar a sua energia a perguntar-se porqu\u00ea. <\/strong>Worrying about it is a burden you don\u2019t need because it\u2019s so insignificant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No encerramento<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI had a great time last night,\u201d he said, and you believed him. You went out, he texted after first date but not since, so what gives? There are several possible reasons why he\u2019s ghosting you, but three are the most likely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Primeiro, ele pode ter percebido depois do encontro que he wasn\u2019t as interested as he thought<\/strong> because you didn\u2019t click. Next, he decided against dating you because he realized that you\u2019re incompatible<\/strong>. Finalmente, ele pode ser demasiado ocupado<\/strong> Seja qual for a raz\u00e3o, tens de esquecer isso. Don\u2019t torture yourself over a guy you went on one date with. <\/strong>Go live your life instead of wondering why some guy\u2019s text is nowhere to be found.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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