{"id":16117,"date":"2020-06-12T08:54:21","date_gmt":"2020-06-12T08:54:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=16117"},"modified":"2022-01-24T16:25:46","modified_gmt":"2022-01-24T16:25:46","slug":"nao-vai-ser-a-primeira-escolha-nao-se-preocupe-em-escolher","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nao-vai-ser-a-primeira-escolha-nao-se-preocupe-em-escolher\/","title":{"rendered":"Se eu n\u00e3o for a tua primeira escolha, n\u00e3o te incomodes em \"escolher-me\" de todo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Haver\u00e1 algo pior neste mundo do que ser apenas uma op\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/p>\n

Does it get any worse than knowing you\u2019re not someone\u2019s first choice, that you come second or third or who knows which one on the list to the person you keep putting as your priority?<\/p>\n

Let me enlighten you\u2014 it\u2019s the worst feeling in the world.<\/p>\n

Diz-me, aceitaria ser o segundo<\/a>? Would you be happy or satisfied in life knowing that you\u2019re just someone\u2019s option?<\/p>\n

No, of course you wouldn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Because not being a priority of the person you love and keep on a pedestal is simply gut-wrecking. It hurts. And it makes you wonder why you aren\u2019t good enough, what it is that you\u2019re missing to not come first on the list.<\/p>\n

Honestly, I don\u2019t want to feel like this ever again in my life.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Uma vez na minha vida, contentei-me com menos do que merecia<\/a>. Once in my life, I\u2019ve allowed the man I love to treat me like a backup plan. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Once, I\u2019ve allowed myself to go above and beyond for a man who refused to make me a priority. Once and never again, I promise.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Homens de verdade<\/a> don\u2019t play games, you know.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t make promises they don\u2019t intend to keep. They don\u2019t engage in relationships with women they\u2019re not serious about and they most definitely don\u2019t lead women to believe that they are loved and important and then refuse to make them their first choice.<\/p>\n

Demorei algum tempo a perceber que chegar primeiro \u00e0 pessoa que nos ama \u00e9 o sinal mais puro de amor que existe.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not flowers and roses, hugs and kisses, breakfast in bed or anything else except constantly being chosen over everything else that makes you know you\u2019re loved.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Choosing to commit to a single woman and brushing off all the rest is worth the risk. To be honest, it\u2019s not a risk, it\u2019s an obligation you have toward the idea of love.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re going to love then have the decency to do it right. If you\u2019re going to respect your feelings and the feelings of the person you love then you make sure they come first, you make sure they come before and above everyone else.<\/p>\n

De facto, \u00e9 t\u00e3o simples quanto isto.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve had my fair share of li\u00e7\u00f5es que aprendi<\/a> e sei que n\u00e3o me posso contentar com menos no amor e na vida.<\/p>\n

No matter what you think or anyone else thinks, I know I\u2019m worthy. I know I\u2019m good enough.<\/p>\n

I know I deserve to be a priority, to come first, to be someone\u2019s first choice.<\/p>\n

Posso amar-te at\u00e9 \u00e0 lua e voltar. Posso querer-te tanto que preciso de ti mais do que o ar que respiro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I might care for you more than I care for myself and I can look forward to you more than I\u2019ve looked forward to anyone else in my life and I still won\u2019t be just an option to you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If I am not going to be your first choice, don\u2019t bother choosing me at all. Walk away from me.<\/p>\n

Save us both the constant fight and me asking you for something you aren\u2019t ready to give.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m the type of woman who goes all in. I expect a lot only because I\u2019m ready to give a lot as well.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m ready to love you with all my heart. I\u2019m ready to commit and I\u2019m ready to go above and beyond for us.<\/p>\n

But I\u2019m ready to do this only if I see that you\u2019re willing to do the same.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to be bending over backward for someone who isn\u2019t ready to make me his first choice.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t bother giving me just crumbs of your affections because I won\u2019t have it. <\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m either your first choice or nothing. The decision is yours.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Se<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Is there anything else worse in this world than being just an option? Does it get any worse than knowing you\u2019re not someone\u2019s first choice, that you come second or third or who knows which one on the list to the person you keep putting as your priority? Let me enlighten you\u2014 it\u2019s the worst…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":107028,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16117","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/If-I-Am-Not-Going-To-Be-Your-First-Choice-Dont-Bother-\u2018Choosing-Me-At-All.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16117","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16117"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16117\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/107028"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16117"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16117"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16117"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}