{"id":161570,"date":"2022-12-12T21:20:45","date_gmt":"2022-12-12T21:20:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=161570"},"modified":"2023-01-16T06:40:32","modified_gmt":"2023-01-16T06:40:32","slug":"como-as-sogras-arruinam-os-casamentos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-as-sogras-arruinam-os-casamentos\/","title":{"rendered":"Como as sogras arru\u00ednam os casamentos: A Sabotagem Silenciosa"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando olhamos para os casamentos, podemos facilmente concluir que se trata de rela\u00e7\u00f5es constitu\u00eddas por duas pessoas. Mas todos n\u00f3s sabemos como as sogras arru\u00ednam os casamentos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, we can say that partners sometimes aren\u2019t the only participants in a marriage. For generations, mothers-in-law have been known to cause tension and conflict in marriages.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most of the time, mothers-in-law won\u2019t directly go to you and talk about the problem \u2013 they will go and talk behind your back. That\u2019s why we often refer to this as silent sabotage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What does this silent sabotage look like? Let\u2019s find out!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12 maneiras de as sogras arruinarem os casamentos<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Esta sabotagem silenciosa pode ter um impacto significativo na rela\u00e7\u00e3o entre o casal. Pode levar a ressentimento, desconfian\u00e7a e sentimentos feridos.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

One partner may begin to feel like they\u2019re stuck in the middle, while the other may feel like they are being undermined.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is usually the case with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships, but the wife\u2019s family can also cause problems. So let\u2019s find out how mothers-in-law ruin marriages!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Trying to control their child\u2019s life<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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Many couples face a common issue when the mother-in-law tries to control her son\u2019s life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When a mother-in-law wants a voice in every part of her son or daughter’s life, it can be pretty annoying and exhausting for their relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ela pode acreditar que o seu a crian\u00e7a n\u00e3o est\u00e1 a fazer as melhores escolhas<\/strong>. Isto pode ser feito por amor e carinho pelo filho ou filha, mas pode rapidamente se tornam esmagadoras<\/strong> para o casal se a sogra for demasiado controladora.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another reason a mother-in-law can try to exert control over her child’s life is if she thinks her child isn’t living up to her expectations. Usually, this is because of how she was raised.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Cr\u00edticas e julgamentos constantes<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s no secret that many people struggle with their toxic mother-in-law\u2019s constant criticism and judgment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O seu estilo parental, escolha de vestu\u00e1rio ou a forma como faz as tarefas dom\u00e9sticas<\/strong>…The constant criticism of how you should do your job can be really damaging, especially if your mother-in-law is always somewhere around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Embora estes coment\u00e1rios possam vir de um lugar de amor e de concerto, tamb\u00e9m prejudicam a sua sa\u00fade mental se forem constantes ou irracionais.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Mostrar favoritismo em rela\u00e7\u00e3o aos seus pr\u00f3prios filhos<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

O favoritismo \u00e9 uma tend\u00eancia natural dos pais, mas pode causar sentimentos de ressentimento e m\u00e1goa nos outros membros da fam\u00edlia. Pode tamb\u00e9m levar a uma quebra de confian\u00e7a e de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o na fam\u00edlia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Este favoritismo \u00e9 muitas vezes uma fonte de conflito e tens\u00e3o<\/strong> because the son or daughter-in-law may feel like they\u2019re not important or a valued family member.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Normalmente, isso acontece porque, como qualquer boa m\u00e3e, a sua sogra v\u00ea o filho como uma prioridade e pode n\u00e3o estar consciente do impacto que isso tem em si.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Manipula\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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Em alguns casos, a sogra pode utilizar manipula\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/strong> para controlar n\u00e3o s\u00f3 o filho, mas tamb\u00e9m o genro ou a nora.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uma dessas t\u00e1cticas \u00e9 fazer com que a nora se sinta culpada e envergonhada. Isto pode ser conseguido de v\u00e1rias formas, como por exemplo Fazendo-a sentir-se mal com as suas escolhas, comparando-a frequentemente com outras <\/strong>membros da fam\u00edlia<\/strong>ou a sublinhar persistentemente os seus pontos fracos.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The daughter-in-law\u2019s self-esteem and mental health may be severely damaged as a result of this emotional manipulation through guilt and shame, even eventually leading to a breakup.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Rivalry for their child\u2019s affection<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Muitas sogras e noras vivem uma rivalidade pelo afeto do filho, que pode ser dif\u00edcil de gerir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The conflict between your husband\u2019s mother and you is often rooted in the mother-in-law feeling a sense of loss as her child transitions into a different family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She needs to protect and control her son but doesn\u2019t realize that he has his own home now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Incapacidade de se libertar<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Parental relationships need to evolve as children grow up and they build new families: it\u2019s the normal cycle of life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, sometimes it\u2019s really hard to let go, and this is when mothers-in-law cause problems. For many of them, it can be \u00e9 dif\u00edcil deixar o seu filho ou filha<\/strong> depois de terem sido uma parte importante da sua vida durante tanto tempo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They can\u2019t accept the fact that their child is now starting their own family, has responsibilities for other people, and isn\u2019t around all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por conseguinte, colocam uma grande press\u00e3o sobre ambos os parceiros, o que provoca conflitos e pode mesmo arruinar os casamentos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Refusal to respect the couple’s boundaries<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Many couples struggle with the issue of their mother-in-law not respecting their boundaries. It can be difficult for couples to cope with their mother-in-law\u2019s refusal to respect the boundaries they have set.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uma coisa comum que a sogra faz \u00e9 ela espera ser inclu\u00edda no <\/strong>eventos familiares<\/strong> that the couple would like to keep private, which can be especially difficult if she doesn\u2019t live close to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Desta forma, ela tenta constantemente intrometer-se no seu espa\u00e7o pessoal, e ningu\u00e9m gosta disso, certo? Como resultado de querer controlar a sua vida, h\u00e1 muitas vezes chamadas telef\u00f3nicas demasiado frequentes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This can be especially difficult if you have young children and the mother-in-law is calling to check in on them, which may seem as if she\u2019s intruding on your family time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Comportamento passivo-agressivo<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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Se a sua sogra apresentar comportamento passivo-agressivo<\/a>Se o seu filho n\u00e3o tem um bom relacionamento, pode ser dif\u00edcil manter uma boa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This toxic behavior is usually what keeps newly married couples from building strong relationships with each other\u2019s parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uma sogra passivo-agressiva pode fazer rude comments about her son’s wife, criticize her decisions and viewpoints, or simply avoid eye contact.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Este comportamento \u00e9 muitas vezes subtil, pelo que pode ser dif\u00edcil de detetar e gerir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Falta de empatia<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

You must have empathy and understanding if you want any relationship to be successful, but we all know this isn\u2019t always the case with mothers-in-law.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Often, mothers-in-law are seen as intrusive, demanding, and lacking in understanding of the couple\u2019s needs and wants. Some of them are difficult to get along with when it comes to a couple\u2019s relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ela pode ter expectativas irrealistas ou nenhuma considera\u00e7\u00e3o pelos seus sentimentos,<\/strong> which often may seem as if she doesn\u2019t truly care about you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Colocar o c\u00f4njuge contra o filho<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Um dos efeitos mais nocivos que uma sogra pode ter \u00e9 colocar o filho contra o c\u00f4njuge quando fala mal de si sem qualquer raz\u00e3o v\u00e1lida.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Isto \u00e9 especialmente vis\u00edvel quando ela tenta convencer o filho a tomar partido numa discuss\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your partner may feel like they are trying to put out two fires, and even though they love you and want to have a good relationship with both of you, under constant pressure, they\u2019ll need to pick a side.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se o seu parceiro ficar do seu lado, a sua sogra pode usar o tratamento silencioso<\/a> como vingan\u00e7a e causar ainda mais tens\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. Ela vem sempre c\u00e1 sem avisar<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Quando se trata de casamento, a maioria dos casais esfor\u00e7a-se por fazer dele uma uni\u00e3o feliz e pac\u00edfica.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unfortunately, this can be difficult to achieve when a mother-in-law constantly comes over unannounced. You may think this is a silly way mothers in law ruin marriages, but trust me, it\u2019s more common than you think.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When she comes over unannounced, it\u2019s like a breach of privacy and trust, and in fact, it\u2019s extremely disrespectful to the couple\u2019s privacy. You aren\u2019t respected and valued even in your own home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. She doesn’t value your opinion<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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Many mothers-in-law may have a hard time recognizing their son or daughter\u2019s spouse as a valid individual in the family and, most of the time, won\u2019t even value their opinion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A \u00fanica coisa em que acreditam \u00e9 na rela\u00e7\u00e3o m\u00e3e-filho e nada mais. Isto deve-se ao facto de ela querer desesperadamente assumir o controlo da sua fam\u00edlia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mesmo que ela n\u00e3o expresse diretamente o seu desejo de controlo, as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es podem sugerir que sim. Por exemplo, se a sua sogra se sobrep\u00f5e constantemente \u00e0 sua opini\u00e3o ou trata-o como um estranho<\/a>pode ser um sinal de que ela est\u00e1 a tentar manter o controlo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5 maneiras de lidar com a sua sogra<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Pode ser dif\u00edcil encontrar um equil\u00edbrio entre respeitar e honrar a sua sogra, assegurando simultaneamente a satisfa\u00e7\u00e3o das suas necessidades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Felizmente, algumas estrat\u00e9gias podem ajudar. Aqui est\u00e3o cinco maneiras de lidar com a sua sogra:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Comunicar abertamente<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

A comunica\u00e7\u00e3o aberta \u00e9 essencial em qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o, especialmente quando se trata de problemas com a sogra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can be difficult to approach a tough conversation with someone who holds a special place in your spouse\u2019s heart. Still, open communication and honest dialogue can help you resolve any issues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prepare-se para ser t\u00e3o respeitoso e diplom\u00e1tico<\/strong> as possible and avoid personal attacks or criticism. Because remember how you\u2019ve been hurt when she says mean things about you. Do you really want to be just like her?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Estabelecer limites<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Uma parte crucial de lidar com a sua sogra \u00e9 estabelecer limites saud\u00e1veis<\/a>. Try to be clear about your expectations, what you want and don\u2019t want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Respect each other\u2019s space and privacy and try to convince her that she shouldn\u2019t take certain things personally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talk about how you\u2019re two completely different people and have different perspectives on raising children. Let her know that she needs to respect that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. A tua felicidade tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 importante<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o dif\u00edcil com a sogra pode ser uma grande fonte de stress, especialmente se viverem juntos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O primeiro passo para preservar a sua felicidade \u00e9 ter a <\/strong>frente unida<\/strong> com o seu parceiro<\/strong>. Isto significa que voc\u00ea e o seu parceiro devem chegar a acordo sobre a forma de lidar com a sua sogra e nunca devem discordar \u00e0 frente dela.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second step is to maintain healthy boundaries with your mother-in-law, as we\u2019ve already discussed. Set clear boundaries and warn her that you\u2019ll distance yourself from her if she doesn\u2019t respect them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Manter a sua pr\u00f3pria identidade<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Antes de mais, lembre-se que o seu casamento \u00e9 apenas entre si e o seu c\u00f4njuge, mais ningu\u00e9m. Nunca se deve sentir pressionado a mudar a sua identidade ou a deixar de ser quem \u00e9 s\u00f3 para agradar \u00e0 sua sogra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por isso, tente comunicar abertamente com o seu parceiro sobre os seus problemas com a m\u00e3e dele e seja claro sobre o comportamento aceit\u00e1vel e inaceit\u00e1vel da sua sogra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If your spouse takes their mother\u2019s side during every argument, it\u2019s a warning sign that you\u2019re married to a mommy\u2019s boy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Procurar o apoio de amigos ou familiares<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Procurar o apoio de amigos e membros da fam\u00edlia \u00e9 importante quando se lida com problemas com a sogra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Os amigos e a fam\u00edlia podem proporcionar um ambiente seguro e sem ju\u00edzos de valor para discutir as quest\u00f5es em causa. Podem ajud\u00e1-lo a compreender melhor a situa\u00e7\u00e3o e fornecer perspectivas diferentes, o que o pode ajudar a encontrar uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o ou a tomar melhores decis\u00f5es.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Os amigos e a fam\u00edlia tamb\u00e9m podem oferecer apoio emocional e ajuda a aliviar eventuais sentimentos de solid\u00e3o<\/strong>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O papel dos sogros no div\u00f3rcio<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Os sogros podem muitas vezes ser uma fonte importante de conflito nos casamentos e podem mesmo levar ao div\u00f3rcio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Embora os sogros possam n\u00e3o ter qualquer inten\u00e7\u00e3o de causar danos, a sua presen\u00e7a e opini\u00f5es podem criar tens\u00e3o entre os casais e tornar-se uma grande fonte de stress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nalguns casos, os sogros podem oferecer conselhos ou cr\u00edticas n\u00e3o solicitados<\/strong> sobre o casamento ou sobre a forma como um dos parceiros se comporta. Isto pode levar a sentimentos de ressentimento e fazer com que os casais duvidem da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In other cases, in-laws may be overly involved in a couple\u2019s life, causing them to feel like they have no privacy. This can cause serious marital issues, where the only solution is to get a divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O impacto dos sogros nos casamentos: Quantos acabam em div\u00f3rcio?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

N\u00e3o existem provas emp\u00edricas que sugiram que os casamentos com sogros tenham uma taxa de div\u00f3rcio mais elevada do que os casamentos sem sogros.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No entanto, estudos revelaram que os casais com n\u00edveis mais elevados de conflitos entre sogros t\u00eam um maior risco de div\u00f3rcio<\/strong> do que os casais com n\u00edveis mais baixos de conflitos entre sogros.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Al\u00e9m disso, os casais que t\u00eam interac\u00e7\u00f5es mais negativas com os sogros t\u00eam mais probabilidades de se divorciarem do que os que t\u00eam interac\u00e7\u00f5es mais positivas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Overall, it\u2019s difficult to say that in-laws alone cause divorce, as this is a complex issue. However, research does suggest that couples with in-law conflict and negative interactions with their in-laws are more likely to divorce than those without such issues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pode um casamento sobreviver a sogros t\u00f3xicos?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Para muitos casais, a realidade \u00e9 ter de lidar com sogros t\u00f3xicos, o que pode p\u00f4r em causa os seus casamentos. Mas, ser\u00e1 que um casamento pode realmente sobreviver a uma <\/em>sogra t\u00f3xica<\/em> ou <\/em>wife\u2019s father<\/em>?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having to deal with toxic in-laws can be very stressful for a marriage. After all, it can be difficult for a couple to be happy and feel secure in their relationship when they\u2019re constantly dealing with negative and controlling behavior from their in-laws.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o pode levar a tens\u00f5es e ressentimentos entre o casal, o que \u00e9 tamb\u00e9m uma das raz\u00f5es pelas quais muitos casamentos acabam em div\u00f3rcio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No entanto, se estabelecer limites saud\u00e1veis ou distanciar-se dos sogros t\u00f3xicos,<\/a> e se se amam verdadeiramente, nada pode impedir-vos de serem felizes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por \u00faltimo, mas n\u00e3o menos importante<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Em suma, a rela\u00e7\u00e3o entre as m\u00e3es e os seus genros pode ser dif\u00edcil e o facto de n\u00e3o a gerir corretamente pode ter resultados desastrosos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now you know how mothers-in-law ruin marriages: lacking empathy, trying to control their child\u2019s life, and not respecting their spouse are the most common ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quando a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 honesta e se demonstra empatia e compreens\u00e3o, a rela\u00e7\u00e3o com a sua sogra e consigo pode tornar-se uma fonte de apoio e amor!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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